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Are narcissistic people aware of their wrong doing?
The narcissist knows to tell right from wrong. He is perfectly capable of anticipating the results of his actions and their influence on his human environment. The narcissist is very perceptive and sensitive to the subtlest nuances. He has to be: the very integrity of his personality depends upon input from others.
But the narcissist does not care. Unable to empathise, he does not fully experience the outcomes of his deeds and decision. For him, humans are dispensable, rechargeable, reusable. They are there to fulfil a function: to supply him with Narcissistic Supply (adoration, admiration, approval, affirmation, etc.) They do not have an existence apart from the carrying out of their duty.
True: it is the disposition of the narcissist to treat humans in the inhuman way that he does. However, this propensity is absolutely controllable. The narcissist has a choice � he just doesn't think anyone is worth making it.
It is a fact that the narcissist can behave completely differently (under identical circumstances) � depending who is involved. He not likely to be enraged by the behaviour of an important person (=with a potential to supply him narcissistically). But, he might become absolutely violent with his nearest and dearest under the same circumstances. This is because they are captives, they do not have to be won over, the Narcissistic Supply coming from them is taken for granted.
Being a narcissist does not exempt the patient from being a human being. A person suffering from NPD must be subjected to the same moral treatment and judgment as the rest of us, less privileged ones. The courts do not recognise NPD as a mitigating circumstance � why should we? Treating the narcissist specially will only exacerbate the condition by supporting the grandiose, fantastic image the narcissist has of himself.
By all means: be angry, be upset (for good and just reasons) � and don't hesitate to communicate your displeasure. The narcissist needs guidance (he is disoriented) and this is one of the best ways of providing him with one.
Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
When they are your friends, notice how they let you in on their rationalizations. "That person got my birthday wrong by a day. That was rude. For their birthday, we should all pretend like we forgot it and ignore them and let them see how it feels."
The person was a day late, because they had a family emergency. But, narcissist DON'T KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON IN OTHER PEOPLE'S LIVES.
Everything is all about them them them, and them getting their revenge.
But the narcissist does not care. Unable to empathise, he does not fully experience the outcomes of his deeds and decision. For him, humans are dispensable, rechargeable, reusable. They are there to fulfil a function: to supply him with Narcissistic Supply (adoration, admiration, approval, affirmation, etc.) They do not have an existence apart from the carrying out of their duty.
True: it is the disposition of the narcissist to treat humans in the inhuman way that he does. However, this propensity is absolutely controllable. The narcissist has a choice � he just doesn't think anyone is worth making it.
It is a fact that the narcissist can behave completely differently (under identical circumstances) � depending who is involved. He not likely to be enraged by the behaviour of an important person (=with a potential to supply him narcissistically). But, he might become absolutely violent with his nearest and dearest under the same circumstances. This is because they are captives, they do not have to be won over, the Narcissistic Supply coming from them is taken for granted.
Being a narcissist does not exempt the patient from being a human being. A person suffering from NPD must be subjected to the same moral treatment and judgment as the rest of us, less privileged ones. The courts do not recognise NPD as a mitigating circumstance � why should we? Treating the narcissist specially will only exacerbate the condition by supporting the grandiose, fantastic image the narcissist has of himself.
By all means: be angry, be upset (for good and just reasons) � and don't hesitate to communicate your displeasure. The narcissist needs guidance (he is disoriented) and this is one of the best ways of providing him with one.
Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
When they are your friends, notice how they let you in on their rationalizations. "That person got my birthday wrong by a day. That was rude. For their birthday, we should all pretend like we forgot it and ignore them and let them see how it feels."
The person was a day late, because they had a family emergency. But, narcissist DON'T KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON IN OTHER PEOPLE'S LIVES.
Everything is all about them them them, and them getting their revenge.
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How far will a Narcissist go to prove you wrong?
They will take you to hell and back, call you a liar to your face and to everyone around you destroying your good name, credibility and character, cry boo hoo, cry wolf,… play victim then laugh in your face and dance on your grave.
Can a narcissist be aware of his condition?
Yes -- and he won't care.
Does a narcissist know what they are doing to their spouse?
No.. because they are always right. Absolutely- they know when to turn up the heat and when to pull back- its all about control and they will do whatever they have to do to g…et it and then hold on to it ................. New answer. A narcissist does not care. They have no sense of remorse, for every thing bad they do, it is only a reason to blame you for it. And no matter how good , loyal, hard working you are. They will cheat , leave you in a blink of an eye. Unless you are constantly , doing what they want. My wife is a narcissist, I worked same job for 12 years , 6 days a week , 60 hours. We would always fight, and I would always say , I'm sorry. Even when I thought I was right, just to end the argument. If you are with a narcissist , get out now!. I am sucked in , I feel I have to take care of my wife. As soon as I start to let go of her, she tells me how bad I made her life, how she wants to kill herself. When I am doing for her , she will act as if she is happy. A narcissist has the shortest memory in the world. They will remember every mistake you ever made, but will not remember what ever it was you did good for them. Every doubt you have in your mind , believe me is probably true. I have busted my wife in lie after lie. Still I chase this woman. Don't become pathetic ... Run
Is a narcissist aware of their behavior?
A true narcissist is the center of their own universe. If what you are asking, does a narcissist see that they are being self centered and selfish, the answer is NO. To …a narcissist, they are right and the rest of the world is wrong. If they say the sky is red, it is red. A narcissist will even view their needs as the needs of other people. Narcissism is a personality disorder, and therefore is not cureable. So, if you meet a narcissist I would recommend turning and running. Lastly, if you are married to a narcissist and working for a narcissist, my sincere condolences. That is what happened to me. I lost my family, and my career all in one fell swoop when the big midlife crisis hit since we worked all together.
Is the narcissist always aware of their desire for attention and adulation?
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Sometimes the narcissist does gain awareness and knowledge of his predicament - typically in the wake of a life crisis (divorce, bankruptcy, incarceration, near deat…h experience, death in the family). But, in the absence of an emotional correlate, of feelings, such merely cognitive awakening is useless. It does not yield insight. The dry facts do not bring about a transformation, let alone healing. .
The introspection of the narcissist is emotionless, akin to the listing of an inventory of his "good" and "bad" sides and without any commitment to change. It does not enhance his ability to empathize, nor does it inhibit his propensity to exploit others and discard them when their usefulness is over. It does not tamper his overpowering and raging sense of entitlement, nor does it deflate his grandiose fantasies. .
The narcissist's introspection is a futile and arid exercise at bookkeeping, a soulless bureaucracy of the psyche and, in its own way, even more chilling that the alternative: a narcissist blissfully unaware of his own disorder. .
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If the narcissist becomes self-aware, if he accepts that he is a narcissist, isn't this the first, important step, towards healing? .
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His narcissism defines the narcissist's waking moments and his nocturnal dreams. It is all-pervasive. Everything the narcissist does is motivated by it. Everything he avoids is its result. Every utterance, decision, his very body language - are all manifestations of narcissism. It is rather like being abducted by an alien and ruthlessly indoctrinated ever since. The alien is the narcissist's False Self - a defence mechanism constructed in order to shield his True Self from hurt and inevitable abandonment. .
Cognitive understanding of the disorder does not constitute a transforming INSIGHT. In other words, it has no emotional correlate. The narcissist does not INTERNALIZE what he understands and learns about his disorder. This new gained knowledge does not become a motivating part of the narcissist. It remains an inert and indifferent piece of knowledge, with minor influence on the narcissist's psyche. .
Sometimes, when the narcissist first learns about the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), he really believes he could change (usually, following a period of violent rejection of the "charges" against him). He fervently wants to. This is especially true when his whole world is in shambles. Time in prison, a divorce, a bankruptcy, a death of a major source of narcissistic supply - are all transforming life crises. The narcissist admits to a problem only when abandoned, destitute, and devastated. He feels that he doesn't want any more of this. He wants to change. And there often are signs that he IS changing. And then it fades. He reverts to old form. The "progress" he made evaporates virtually overnight. Many narcissists report the same process of progression followed by recidivist remission and many therapists refuse to treat narcissists because of the Sisyphean frustration involved. .
I never said that narcissists cannot CHANGE - only that they cannot HEAL. There is a huge difference between behaviour modification and permanent alteration of the psychodynamic landscape. Narcissistic behaviour CAN be modified using a cocktail of talk therapy, conditioning, and medication. I have yet to encounter a healed narcissist. The emphasis in therapy is thus more on accommodating the needs of those nearest and dearest to the narcissist - spouse, children, colleagues, friends - than on "treating" the narcissist. If the narcissist's abrasiveness, rage, mood swings, reckless and impulsive behaviours are modified - those around him benefit most. This, as far as I am concerned, is a form of social engineering. .
One last hope: .
Narcissism (though rarely) does tend to ameliorate with age and many forms of pathological narcissism are reactive and transient (Roningstam, 1996). .
Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" .
� 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications Answer .
Not according to my observations. My NPD mother definitely expected attention and special treatment, but rarely thought she was given enough. I don't think she had a real clue about how deeply she infected the entire family with her preposterous demands. In her mind, it was we who were selfish and unappreciative. My Mother had entire albums filled with nothing but pictures of herself, posing as a model would pose and she was totally complacent about it, as if everybody did it. Answer .
In my situation, Jo insists that she DOES NOT want attention nor adulation. So, I'd say no, in this case she is not aware of her desire for it. She claims that she wants all the glory to go to GOD ONLY. On the surface, she appears to be directing people to Him, but in her mistreatment of me, I don't see the heart to please God at all. Answer .
My child is quiet, reserved, and stays so much in the background. My brother's kids are loud, fighting, screaming, in the middle of the room. I saw my kid being isolated and alone, and thought, I should do something to make him feel part of the bigger family. My son is uncomfortable with attention so most of the time, I let him be. I said, "son, come in here and show everyone your scar you got this summer." My son held out his arm and even before anyone could lean over to look, my brother says very loudly, "YOU SHOULD SEE MY SON'S SCAR, IT'S REALLY BIG, COME HERE TOM." He grabbed Tom and pulled him over to where my son was standing. I kid you know, he grabbed my son by the shoulders, moved him out of the way and inserted his own kid. I forgot how much narcissist love to hang on to the spotlight and prevent anyone else from being in it.
Would a narcissist admit to being wrong?
Opinion I think they would give you many reasons why they could not be wrong, but if they were obviously wrong, they would not be very happy about admitting it and they would… find some way of getting back at the person who'd proved them wrong. Opinion A true narcissist will simply ignore the fact of their being wrong, end the discussion and disappear for a while. One of the hallmarks of narcissistic personality disorder is the inability to admit wrongdoing- even when presented with objective evidence of their errors or behavior. Even if a narcissist really screws up and you were there to witness the event, they will erase it from their memory and within a short period of time, it never happened. It is easier for a narcissist to write off a friend forever, a friend that witnessed their error, than it is to admit they were wrong.
What dos a narcissist do when he ends the relationship?
They leave without feeling anything. most likely they already have an auxiliary supply ready to tap in to (the next sucker). People are objects to a narcissist, so to them it …is like buying a new cell phone and throwing the old one in a junk drawer and forgetting about it.
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Is a narcissist aware of there behaviour or is it natural for them to behave the way they do?
Dissecting the motivations of a pathological partner is an exercise in futility and one of the reasons you were involved in a toxic union to begin with. Basically, we try to p…roject rational thought and sift through crumbs of our experience with them for signs of their humanity. We want to matter, feel valued, feel affirmation or love from a disordered individual incapable of it. They just can't. It's like trying to ask someone without a functioning spine to run a marathon with you without a wheelchair. It's natural and understandable to ask. Asking is what makes you a loving, compassionate person to yourself and others. You want to learn and heal because you are motivated by altruism and fulfilling human connection. Commendable qualities that will serve you well moving on. A narcissist has unchangable, abusive ideas of reference and justifications for their behaviors that kick in as soon as their worldview is required to empathize with others. Therefore, they are transitorily aware of their behavior, but able to dismiss it quickly as an alloplastic defense to protect their false self. To be discounted and discarded by a narcissist is a blessing. Self abuse that lingers in asking why is one of the reasons healing from the pathological union is so difficult. You've assumed their worlview, seen and felt yourself a recepticle for their shame and self-hatred almost frozen from the ability to move on, feel joy, self-esteem or a sense of goodness and trust in community. So, yes their predation of your essence is natural for them; but more importantly is profoundly unnatural for you. It can't be changed. No amount of love or perfection in you will ever compensate for it. The relational harm to your psyche, your heart, your spirit, friends and family, your job and finances will only accmulate in tme. That's what pathology does to a non-disordered person. Folie-a-deux or the alligator death roll - it is what it is. I'm sorry for your pain. I know some people who lose themselves in every recognizable way staying in it and trying to manage the severity of the harmful behavior impact, but they live a quarter life in fantasy, develop stress disorders, suffer miscarriages, addictions, depression... On and on. Every partner he has suffers. He feels something like fleeting attachment without loyalty, but he cannot love. He can parrot expressions and mannerisms of it, but he does not feel the way you and I may understand feeling. Think of it as an "urge" with a lack of impulse control where you and I may be motivated by care for another or a spirit of mutualtity. It's difficult to grasp and explain, but just know the less exposure you have the better you will live and the less you will suffer. Focus on you and your life and motivations. Find your joy. Remember, with a narcissist it not what it appears to be. The actions are reality, the words are superficial instruments to trap you. Your confusion and your pain is real and trying to lead you to a better life. Fly with your inner angels and trust yourself.
How can you make a narcissist aware of the issue without angering him?
Answer explain to him what a narcissist is, explain that narcissism usually develops at the age of 1 and 2 when a parent becomes weak, like getting him out of th…e crib when he cries for 3 seconds, when he learns to get away with things early on, he then becomes narcissitic, then say "you may have some of these qualities, if it gets real bad, then tell him, you have some qualities too, as does milions of american's Not sure If that explanation to a narcissist would get any response but anger, exactly what the original questioner is wanting to avoid. I don't believe pointing out what our personal opinions of the cause of narcissism would help. I believe what helps is helping ourselves, victims of the narcissist. Refuse to allow their antics to have any emotional effect on us at all. Ignore their manipulative tendencies because it is a war we cannot win so why get into the battle. The one consistency I have read is to stay away from them. Once you determine you are truly dealing with a narcissist then get far away, if possible. If you allow them to have an affect on you and they see that they are then you are simply be feeding their narcissistic needs and they will continue to use and abuse you.
Do narcissistic people cry and have emotions?
Yes. A narcissist is someone who is obsessed with themself, this doesn't mean that their void of all emotions and feelings.
Does a narcissist know there is something wrong with them?
Yes, and no. They know that there is something not quite right with them, but they can't help it because of their disorder. Their false self, ego, doesn't let them see that th…ey have flaws because that makes them vulnerable. They realize that they hurt people and that eventually people won't want to be around them, but they don't care because they will just find someone else to meet their many needs if that person won't comply. They feel that people should not be graced with his/her almighty presence and they are not worth their time.
Are narcissistic people born narcissistic?
No. It develops in children who's parents give them too much attention unnecessarily, and treat them like they are God's gift to the world. Commonly the parents are narcissist…ic too. It is not genetic and can be prevented if one of the child's parents are not narcissistic and give them a somewhat normal childhood. Contrary to the above answer, scientists have conducted research that shows the narcissists brains are different. Shown images that would cause shock,horror and distaste to most humans, Narcissists have no reaction to these horrific images, in fact the frontal lobe is where we process emotional content and moral conscious decisions. This part of the brain is non operational in a narcissist,and can be genetic. Which can account for the narcissist coming from a well balanced,honest, and kind upbringing. Also a genetic narcissist can be born into a deviate family which creates the possibilities for a true monster.
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Do narcissists know they are unhappy people?
Sometimes they get depressed,but no they do not know they are unhappy because they are delusional and even if everything is gone and destroyed they believe something will happ…en that will change all that....They are true parasites, they are always in survive mode.....And they get their supply not only from people but also from thoughts,memories,etc.....
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Is the self-aware narcissist potentially more dangerous and destructive?
%DETAILS% What a curious and thought provoking question. My first reaction to the headline question was "why on earth should it make any difference at all to his p…otential to be destructive?", but then I thought, more and read your full argument. I do not personally subscribe to the hypothesis of "Narcissism as substance addiction", but if I did, I would first ask myself how your argument works if we substitute "Heroin Addict". There certainly seems to be a point at which every addict consciously submits his personal standards to his addiction, but that does not seem to make him particularly more destructive and dangerous, just less conflicted, more overtly ruthless ... more OBVIOUSLY destructive and dangerous. However, the above would seem a good argument against considering NPD in terms of substance addiction, or even gambling addiction, because those who tell us it is an addiction ALSO tell us that it cannot possibly follow the pattern above, which is pivotal to the personality changes wrought by addiction. I am uncomfortable with the suggestion that an illness "cannot be reformed" ... moral deficiency can be reformed ... illness can only be treated and controlled or cured, or not. Which leads me to my final thought. "Awareness" may well be the point at which illness and moral deficiency meet in the individual. Thus, I suggest, if one suffering NPD becomes aware and then DECIDES to consciously abandon all morality he most certainly does have the potential to be more destructive and dangerous than the average, unaware sufferer. This is not to say that everyone who suffers NPD decides to do this. Many, becoming aware, decide to try and fight the worst effects of the disorder within themselves, at least to the best of their knowledge. However ineffectually. But when the sufferer makes a conscious individual decision to embrace his disorder, he makes that decision from some other aspect of his personality, and it is surely that other aspect, COMBINED with NPD that makes him more potentially dangerous and destructive, rather than the NPD alone? The narcissist forms an attachment to his disorder - his fervent protestations to the contrary safely ignored. This process is described in great detail in my diary (journal) online. Anything and everything the narcissist learns about himself (and about others) is immediately put to use to enhance his efficiency and to extract additional narcissistic supply. The narcissist carries with him his metal constitution, his robot countenance, his superhuman knowledge, his inner timekeeper, his theory of morality and my very own divinity � himself. Sometimes the narcissist does gain awareness and knowledge of his predicament - typically in the wake of a life crisis (divorce, bankruptcy, incarceration, near death experience, death in the family). But, in the absence of an emotional correlate, of feelings, such merely cognitive awakening is useless. It does not yield insight. The dry facts do not bring about a transformation, let alone healing. The introspection of the narcissist is emotionless, akin to the listing of an inventory of his "good" and "bad" sides and without any commitment to change. It does not enhance his ability to empathize, nor does it inhibit his propensity to exploit others and discard them when their usefulness is over. It does not tamper his overpowering and raging sense of entitlement, nor does it deflate his grandiose fantasies. The narcissist's introspection is a futile and arid exercise at bookkeeping, a soulless bureaucracy of the psyche and, in its own way, even more chilling that the alternative: a narcissist blissfully unaware of his own disorder. Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" � 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications I think the statement "self-aware narcissist" may be an oxymoron. narcissist are not self aware, they just think they are. Probably not much. Go to to the official website and read the 10K and annual report for starters. Also, look at the P/E multiple and other financial metrics. Basic ones can be found at most financial websites.
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Why do people accuse others of wrong doings in order to save themselves?
they dont want to get in trouble for what they did and its a way to get rid of there actions
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What consequences does the Bible say about doing wrong to people?
Everyone in their natural state does wrong to people, (Romans 3.12-20), and the consequences of this is to perish eternally, or eternal death in the lake of fire; but God love…s us: For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish , but have everlasting life. (John 3.16)
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Why do people hate doing the right thing but love doing the wrong thing?
Because people are so used to it. They force themselves to. Because Bible says "the whole world is lying in the [power of the] wicked one. " (1 john 5: 19) this wicked one is… called as SATAN in bible, who always tries people to do wrong things... for more info contact any of the Jehovah's witnesses in your locality