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Are narcissists violent?
Pathological narcissism is a spectrum of disorders. People suffering from the full blown, all-pervasive, personality distorting mental health disorder known as the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) - are, indeed, more prone to violence than others.
Actually, the differential diagnosis (=the difference) between NPD and AsPD (Antisocial PD, psychopaths) is very blurred. Most psychopaths have narcissistic traits and many a narcissist are also sadists. Both types are devoid of empathy, remorseless, ruthless, and relentless in their pursuit of their goals (the narcissist's goal is narcissistic supply or the avoidance of narcissistic injury). Narcissists often use verbal and psychological abuse and violence against those closest to them. Some of them move from abstract aggression (the emotion leading to violence and permeating it) to the physically concrete sphere of violence. More about narcissistic rage here - The Iron Mask:
Many narcissists are also paranoid and vindictive. They aim to punish (by tormenting) and destroy the source of their frustration and pain.
Basically, there are only two ways of coping with vindictive narcissists:
1. To Frighten Them
Narcissists live in a state of constant rage, repressed aggression, envy and hatred. They firmly believe that everyone is like them. As a result, they are paranoid, suspicious, scared and erratic. Frightening the narcissist is a powerful behaviour modification tool. If sufficiently deterred � the narcissist promptly disengages, gives up everything he was fighting for and sometimes make amends.
To act effectively, one has to identify the vulnerabilities and susceptibilities of the narcissist and strike repeated, escalating blows at them � until the narcissist lets go and vanishes.
If a narcissist is hiding a personal fact � one should use this to threaten him. One should drop cryptic hints that there are mysterious witnesses to the events and recently revealed evidence. The narcissist has a very vivid imagination. Let his imagination do the rest.
The narcissist may have been involved in tax evasion, in malpractice, in child abuse, in infidelity � there are so many possibilities, which offer a rich vein of attack. If done cleverly, non-committally, gradually, in an escalating manner � the narcissist crumbles, disengages and disappears. He lowers his profile thoroughly in the hope of avoiding hurt and pain. Most narcissists have been known to disown and abandon a whole PNS (pathological narcissistic space) in response to a well-focused campaign by their victims. Thus, a narcissist may leave town, change a job, desert a field of professional interest, avoid friends and acquaintances � only to secure a cessation of the unrelenting pressure exerted on him by his victims.
I repeat: most of the drama takes place in the paranoid mind of the narcissist. His imagination runs amok. He finds himself snarled by horrifying scenarios, pursued by the vilest "certainties". The narcissist is his own worst persecutor and prosecutor.
You don't have to do much except utter a vague reference, make an ominous allusion, delineate a possible turn of events. The narcissist will do the rest for you. He is like a little child in the dark, generating the very monsters that paralyse him with fear.
Needless to add that all these activities have to be pursued legally, preferably through the good services of law offices and in broad daylight. If done in the wrong way � they might constitute extortion or blackmail, harassment and a host of other criminal offences.
2. To Lure Them
The other way to neutralize a vindictive narcissist is to offer him continued narcissistic supply until the war is over and won by you. Dazzled by the drug of narcissistic supply � the narcissist immediately becomes tamed, forgets his vindictiveness and triumphantly takes over his "property" and "territory". Under the influence of narcissistic supply, the narcissist is unable to tell when he is being manipulated. He is blind, dumb and deaf to all but the song of the NS sirens. You can make a narcissist do ANYTHING by offering, withholding, or threatening to withhold narcissistic supply (adulation, admiration, attention, sex, awe, subservience, etc.).
"Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications
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somebody who has the following symptoms Reacting to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation Taking advantage of others to reach own goals Exaggerating own import…ance, achievements, and talents Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others Becoming jealous easily Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others Being obsessed with self Pursuing mainly selfish goals Trouble keeping healthy relationships Becoming easily hurt and rejected Setting goals that are unrealistic Wanting "the best" of everything Appearing unemotional
Powerful and causing damage.
Generally, that won't work due to the very nature of the personality disorder. Narcissists are not open to criticism, even constructive criticism. Individuals with narcissis…tic personality disorder are typically unwilling or unable to acknowledge their disorder. Although some may recognize the difficulty they have in their relationships with other people, they blame others for those problems. They are typically unable to modify their behavior. They have a conviction that they can do no wrong. One of the striking hallmarks of NPD is the utter lack of self awareness. They often have a defective ability to interprete other people's speech and actions which leads them to think they are liked and respected and the world agrees with their inflated sense of self. Many do not recognize that they have a problem at all. If they do suspect they have a problem they are more likely to step up their self defenses, reject outside intervention and avoid introspection at any cost and so they are doomed to repeat their failures and mistakes.
Answer Oh yes mines went off on a rampage whenever I don't do what he wants me to do
Someone who worships him or her self. everything revols around you, everythign you do is for your own good and use Narcissism is the practice of displaying (among others);- gr…andiosity (superiority,) entitlement, competitiveness and envy, lack of empathy (understanding and considering others,) shallow affect (vague or superficial feelings and emotions,) Lack of insight or self-awareness (never considers that attitudes/behaviour may be unhealthy to self or others,) Poor impulse control (cannot resist urges especially destructive ones and especially when angry,) manipulative behaviour. When these behaviours go to extremes (and are displayed over a significat period of time) a medical diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) may be made. Many people may display some (or all) of these traits without having the disorder, on fact most of us display these from time to time. It is logical to say that the more of these traits displayed and the more frequently they are displayed then the more narcissitic that person may be.
They are born that way. A narcissist is just a milder form of a psychopath, they can feel shame and guilt but that is all. You will know when you have been around a narcissi…st because you will feel used abused and robbed. Read all you can on this horrific disorder.
Answer . \nNot all narcissists are violent. It's the personality trait behind each narcissist that is either going to just make them a pain in the butt as far as always be…ing right, superior to others or drama queens, while others could get violent because they have been brought up in an environment with verbally abusive parents either against this person, or just simply constant family arguing. Children never have a say in anything during these tough times when parents don't get along, so when they get older their anger comes out in different ways.\n. \nMost narcissistic people are like spoiled children (they actually are just that) and have had their own way for far too long. They may scream, rant, rave, stamp their feet or even throw things, but I know people who aren't narcissistic and do the same thing.\n. \nIf you are with such a person run!
People who have been bought up by a narcissist are usually isolated (on purpose) This stops them from being able to find support. Or even clarity to see they are in an unhealt…hy relationship. Quite often the victims have been demonised by the narcissist behind their backs so it can be hard to find someone to believe them. They have also been conditioned by the narc to accept the violence as normal. Once you can achieve some distance from the narc abuser, you are able to see the blatant manipulations, lies and lack of emotional content, you will see their own interests and greed come first. They are unfixable. Do not waste your life on these people. They are inferior to people who have genuine compassion and empathy.
You can't make a narcissist acknowledge their personality defect. They wouldn't believe you. They wouldn't care. The very aspects of their personality would make your efforts …futile. It is extremely unlikely that you could make them change. The best thing you can do is to learn more about narcissism. First, you should read up on the disorder. There are dozens of good websites sponsored by well known hospitals and other respected institutions that sponsor web pages devoted to narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. If you have a good understanding of narcissism you will have the knowledge to deal with it more constructively. Here are a few pointers: keep your distance- don't get too close and do not let them into your personal lifebe practical about the disorder- you won't change them so step back whenever their narcissistic behavior rises to the surface define some limits- by not responding to inappropriate behavior you reinforce itavoid conflictdo not try to argue or reason with them- your winning or convincing is counter to their world view- they will not allow itgain more understanding to enable you to work as constructively as possiblegive practical support when and if they ask for it
Generally, no. Narcissistic behavior is draw to others that will listen - not talk about themselves as well. There are always exceptions if there is attraction that over…whelms a mental disorder.
Of course. It is not the denying of one's being narcissistic that makes one narcissistic. Narcissism is the pattern of traits and behaviors which involve infatuation and… obsession with one's self to the exclusion of others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one's gratification, dominance and ambition. In everyday use outside the field of psychology, the word generally refers to people who just are inordinately fond of themselves, without the pathological connotations. You can go to wikipedia for more information. Yes, but when they do admit it, they won't see it as a "bad" thing. In fact, they might feel glorified in their admitted narcissism.
A narcissist (from character in the Greek mythology, Narcissus) is someone who seeks pleasure only for themselves.
This happens a lot as narcissists choose narsissitic mates much of the time. They deal with each other the same way they deal with everyone else and they form a sick and t…wisted relationship that's bound to have its share of pain and suffering. The kids are at risk especially since they are cut off from any potential of having a good parent, unless the kids are taken from them. Watching 2 narcissists fight could be very interesting, even ammusing if you realized what was going on. You could bet money on which one would outsmart or outmanipulate the other. A narc cannot play another narc. It's like a user can't use a user. They know who they can suck dry and who they can't.
Could a narcissist get violent and physically harm me if he is pushed to the limit in court and he is proven a liar and gets supervised visitation of his child?
Your questions are too personal, leading and unanswerable. We don't have all the facts. The world doesn't know what you mean by narcissistic. By definition it means merely tha…t he is self-centered, self-preoccupied and admires himself. That is not a crime.