Can a divorced mother with minor children have her partner live in her house without the consent of the children's father who has joint custody of the children in VA?

Answer 1

Yes, unless it's addressed in the order. Life goes on and parents need to adapt--no one parents the same, but there's the silver lining of having another person in your child's life to help nurture them as they grow. That said, if you personally observe poor behavior, you need to take it up with the other parent. Children will test this and their view of events may not match the true events. For young children, behavior when they return to you--not in the first few hours returning home--will be a tell tale. Still, the more positive you are, the better it is for all.