Can a narcissist get to close to someone?

Answer 1

I am assuming you are referring to 1. a malignant narcissist and 2. close as meaning intimate. My initial response is simply no. Narcissist do not see others as "people" but view others more like "things". This is evident in how they respond to others. Narcissists lack empathy and altruism within their personality. Empathy and altruism would be vital ingredients to a healthy and close relationship. In general N's treat other people like things. Things are used, manipulated, and discarded. We dont consider "Things" to have feelings. They are just objects. Therefore we dont consider our relationship to "things" as intimate. When people do attempt to replace intimate relationships with humans to attempting to have an "intimate" relationship with a thing or action we often refer to this as addictive behavior i.e. Alcoholism etc... Generally N's are incapable of intimate, close personal relationships.