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Abusers and their victims form dyad's of codependency. It takes two to tango and an equal number to sustain a long term abusive relationship. The abuser and the abused form a bond, a dynamic, and a dependence. Expressions such as "follies a deux", "shared psychosis", and the "Stockholm Syndrome" capture facets two of a myriad of this danse macabre. It often ends fatally. It is always an excruciatingly painful affair.
Being a great believer in common sense and having been in the same situation for many years, I think the answer here is very obvious. Would you allow your self to be abused by someone who didn't matter to you?
YES, THE ABUSED CAN AND OFTEN DOES LOVE THE ABUSER. THEY KNOW THAT HE CAN BE A GOOD PERSON.
See "Stockholm Syndrome".
It's not genuine love - it's a psychological yearning based on fear and control. There is no sound reason to really love an abuser - you can have compassion for them - but not the kind of love that motivates you to stay in a relationship with someone who treats you like crap.
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∙ 8y ago
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∙ 8y agoWhat you define as "love" and the abuser's notion of "love' are two entirely different things. The abuser is in "love" with his sources of gratification and with people he controls.
There is no love in abuse--they do not co-exist. Love never abuses another or tries to control another through abuse.
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∙ 12y agoNo the abuser does not love that person they love controlling and abusing that person and that's it.
It is difficult for there to be love in an abusive relationship. The abuser can not truly give love or receive it because he or she is mentally disabled. The abusive personality is a mental disorder and the abuser needs to seek psychiatric help.
An abusive relationship is not a healthy one and no matter what the abuser says, he or she can not love you, it is obsession and control that drives an abusive partner.
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∙ 12y agoThey can, but it's not smart to stay with them either way. If you feel that you love them and must stay with them, sign him/her up for anger management.
Even if the abuser loves you it is time for you to leave. It may be one of the hardest things you have to do. It will probably hurt badly for a long time. But it is the safe and self loving thing to do.
If there are kids involved get out now.
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What does it mean when an emotionally abusive man says he does not love you anymore?
An emotionally abusive man (or woman) is not capable of true, pure love. The person does this to you because he or she lacks self esteem, as hard as that may seem to understand. Saying he doesn't "love" you anymore is another way for him to emotionally and mentally abuse you.
Do emotionally abusive men love the women they abuse?
Being emotionally abusive has a lot of factors and reasons and history. Maybe when they were young, they were also abused by their parents or someone they love. So sometimes it's just a result of a bad past or childhood or experience. Loving isn't really a question here. Love will always be there. It's just a matter of misconception.
What is aspect of love?
To be in love with a relationship that will always last, and be connected to your partner emotionally, mentally, physically
What do you do when your boyfriend is emotionally abusive yet shows love for you like caring for your welfare?
Don't be an idiot. Leave. Now.
Why is your cousin staying in a abusive relationship?
There is probably psychological abuse going on there which is based on her fear of her partner. She may also have become dependent on her partner (for example, financially or emotionally) for love in the early stages of her relationship. There is also the issue of power which her partner has over her which is why she does not leave. You dont say if they have children in which case there may be all sorts of reasons she justifies herself for staying 'because of the children'.
How can love addiction be best described?
Love addiction is an addiction to the state of being in love in any partner; this contrasts with a more genuine sense of love, which tends to be focused on a specific partner. Love addicts often form relationships with partners that are emotionally withdrawn or unavailable. When the relationship inevitably ends, the love addict moves on to another partner, as their specific partner is not as important as the notion of being "in love."
Will an emotionally and verbally abusive man treat his future gfs better than his current one Is he more abusive to the ones he perceives to be more submissive or does not like as much?
i would love to know that for myself ive always wondered my ex use to verbally and emotionally and sometimes even physically abuse me
When will you say that you really love your partner?
when i feel like i am!!
How do you know whether your partner's love is true or not?
You'll never really know until you are in a position to test it for example if you are ill does he look after you, what happens when you lose your looks is he still there, does he support you emotionally, spiritually, financially. These are some of the hurdles which might convince you that his love is true.
Does an abusive ex change for another woman?
if he really love her he will but it never leaves hym
If you love your partner why do you cheat?
Because you love yourself more than you live your partner.... cheating is an unrivalled display of selfishness.
How do i know my partner is virgin or not?
To know if your partner is a virgin or not ask them. If your really in love then it won't be an awkward question.
