Can narcissists function well in society but just be cruel to their loved ones?

Answer 1

Narcissists most often perform high energy out in the workforce although they may not be well liked. They consider themselves smarter than everyone else, can work at a high rate of capacity and are brutal in high positions or even supervisors. Companies really don't care as long as they have a "hot to trot" employee who gets things done. A narcissist is just that, and they don't seem to break the pattern at home or at the workplace. Take pity on the other employees!

Marcy

AnswerI was actually the one who wrote this question and I guess I am trying to figure out if my exhusband is a narcissist or if he is just an abuser? If he is a narcissist, should I be worried about what effect he will have on our 3 year old daughter? He already uses her as a "bargaining" tool to gain leverage on me. I have placement of her but he has placement of her two weekends a month and then during summer we share placement because we are both teachers and have summers off. My ex is loved by almost everyone at his school where he teaches and he has convinced everyone that I was the one who was abusing him! I am 5'5'' and weigh only 105 pounds. He is 6'2" and weighs around 270 lbs!!!!! He has this way of convincing me and people that everything in our relationship was my fault!! At one point, I was really starting to doubt myself until my family and friends reassured me that there really is "something" wrong with him. Should I be concerned about what affect he will have on our daughter.

From Elaine

I can relate to what you are talking about. My ex was the same way. My recommendation is to try to restrict his access to your daughter while you can. My ex weighed 280, was 5'8" and has convinced everyone that will listen to him that I abused him. I weighed 110 at the time and I am only 5'2." He has poisoned my children to the point that I cannot be near them anymore (they are teenagers now). He has also got his new wife convinced so much of my "evil" ways that she has started blogging and writing about what a terrible person I am. He is able to keep up his facade whenever he is in public or in front of someone that he wants on his side, and this is how he got custody of our children. To everyone but those that I am closest to (and I'm a shy person, so that is very few people), I seem crazy in comparison, because I feel railroaded everytime he is even in the room.