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When your ex stopped seeing the children is when you should have gotten full custody of the children. It depends on the judge. Some judges believe it's important to have both mother and father involved with their children. Here are a couple of things you could do: 1. Go to a lawyer and file for full custody 2. If you wife is a good woman, then consider joint custody. She could have the children on certain holidays, on their summer vacations from school. Since you have had the children for 2 years it will be difficult for the children to adjust as far as traveling to see their mother. If they are old enough to understand ask them how they feel about it. Too often parents are so embittered in their own relationships they forget that kids have feeling too. Good luck Marcy Obviously the mother is not a good mother if she hasn't seen the children. I have full custody of my 2 children and live in Ohio also. so I can tell you a little bit about the Ohio court system. My lawyer told me that usually if you are the first to fill for full custody....95% of the time you will get it. ....especially since she left 2 years ago.....that makes it very hard for her even if she has filed already.( My ex has not seen her children for over two years also ....I have had them for 7 yrs. and in that time she has seen them less than a total of a week.). The courts will move in your favor....but you need to act fast before she does....Also pursue child support....but don't expect them to do too much....my ex owes me over $10,000 in back support....she has been to court twice before about it...both times she just gets a slap on the wrist....I have given them her address and phone number and....yet it is as if they won't do anything because she is a woman....so move quickly.....
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Check with the County who has juristiction, but I did it.... It might depend on the ability to transfer the child/children to and from each of their homes.. I divorced in the …Las Vegas, Nevada in 2001. Since I got divorced in Clark County, NV, and we lived there for 6 weeks prior to divorce, Clark County, NV had juristiction. I decided to move back to my home state of Utah. He stayed in Las Vegas. We agreed to share custody of our daughter in two week blocks until she reached school age, then I would gain primary physical custody and juristiction would be moved to she County where the child lived. In the papers, I had to have permission to take my daughter out of state. We agreed to meet in the middle at a certain time and at our own costs. This ment driving 250 miles there and 250 back in the same day for each of us and each had to pay for their own gasoline. !!! Good Luck
Answer I would be very careful with this one. Young teenagers figure because they have household chores to do, homework, and a need to answer where they ar…e going, what they are doing and when to come home is some type of mental abuse. This is no reason to kick up a fuss and want to live with dear old dad. Many teenagers have a misconception of what love and caring is and when they can't have their own way they want to move in with the other parent in hopes they will have every little thing their heart desires. If the woman is a good person and is a good mother it would tear her heart out if you took her son completely away from her. Teenagers can be very craft, and you don't have the full story on this. Your son could be failing school or (hopefully not) be dabbling in drugs and your wife may be coming down on him hot and heavy and suddenly your son wants to come and live with you. Tread carefully and be sure you are getting the correct story on this one. If she does drugs (including alcohol), stays out all night or brings strange men home then these are good causes to take full custody of your child. I suggest you meet with your ex and without accussing her get to the bottom of this story your son is telling you. Sons really need their fathers in their lives, so you have to ask yourself some pretty hard questions. How much quality time do you spend with your son? Have you made a lot of promises to your son only to break them? Example: You're going to take him to a football game and then at the last minute cancel because you are busy at work or have a date. When was the last time you took him for a long weekend, summer break, or a trip? Adults don't realize this is the most crushing blow they can have on their children. I am not accusing you of any of the above, but if you think it's tough seeing you son now, you have a big surprise coming if you get full custody of him. Adults should just be that and start acting like it. Even though they are no longer married the two should put their differences aside and try to get along for the sake of that child(ren.) Kids only see mom and dad and nothing else and any problems that occur between their parents means nothing to them. They don't realize at their young years how complicated relationships can be. Even though you are not living with your ex, get to the bottom of things and try to lend a hand instead of listening to a 15 year old who may not be getting his way. If there is any abuse by his mother then you need to step in. If there is a major concern as to how your ex is treating your son, then you can see a lawyer, go to court and a judge will decide if the custody should be reversed. Good luck Marcy Answer File a custody petition in the appropriate state court. It would be advisable for you to retain an attorney who is qualified in domestic relations issues. If that is not an option you can contact the court clerk in your county for information on the proper procedures.
My 14 year old wants to live with dad the mother has custody can she go without my permission in Nevada?
If a 14 year old wants to live with the dad and the mother has custody, she can live in Nevada with the parents' permission. Both parents much agree on the situation.
Is it a want or a need?? There may be extenuating circumstances and you need to talk to your dad about it. However, you should note that you have just a couple of years until …you are out of high school and the stability of staying where you are may be beneficial. It appears that you are in a situation where your father will not permit you to live with your mother for whatever reason he has, but that you wish to live with your mother despite this. In other words, you want to know if, legally, you can change the custodial arrangement by applying to the court in the face of opposition from your father. Since he is the custodial parent by court order, you will have to convince the court that the present custody order should be amended. There is a presumption that the order should stand unless you can show that the circumstances that resulted in your father being given sole custody have changed to the extent that the custodial arrangement should also change. The court having jurisdiction over custody will consider several factors. Chief among them is what is in the "best interests of the minor." This means that neither you, your mother or your father have final say. At your age, the court will give you an opportunity to explain your reasons. The court will give them due consideration, but will not be bound by them. Since your father has full custody, there may have been good reason why your mother was denied even joint custody as so often is the case these days. If your mother had been adjudged unfit for your custody then you probably will not be able to live with her unless her circumstances have changed to the extent that she is no longer deemed an unfit mother. For example, if she had been addicted to drugs, she will still be deemed unfit unless she proves to the court that she no longer is and is not likely to become addicted again. If she had been unable to properly support and maintain you, she would have to prove that she now is capable of doing so. It is also possible that your father's circumstances have also changed to the point where he is no longer an unfit parent even though he had been at the time of the original order. Every circumstance that affects the living conditions of the minor may be brought before the court; however not every change for the better will be enough to warrant a change in custody. An order for custody is always changeable whenever the circumstances that supported the original order have changed and if a change in the custodial arrangement is in the best interests of the minor.
Can the mother of a seventeen year old child living in Minnesota allow the child to live with an Aunt without informing the father when having joint legal custody?
by law it is allowd. so yes. this question was answerd by a 49 year old lawer. thank you.
Yes they can decide at age 13 however it may need to get re-established in court.
The parents have joint custody with mother having physical custody then can the seventeen year old child decide to live with her father?
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What do you do if your children want to live with you and there father has been in default of the custody order for years now will you be able to get custody?
If your parents have joint custody of you can you move states to live with your Father without the permission of your mother?
No , not usually.Don't do it without permission or you may get your Dad in trouble.
How do you get custody of your children if the mother is in prison they have lived with you from day 1?
File a motion while in possession, real easy. see links
If a mother has custody over a 15 year old child and he wants to live with father what would child need to do?
Only Indiana and Texas has laws setting out a specific age at which a child can make a choice the court is required to abide by, and even than there are some limitations. With… those states, it is age 14. In all other states, the general rule of thumb is that a 12 year old can express and opinion, however the judge is under not legal obligation to consider, or even hear it. In either case, a motion to the court must be filed for a determination to be made. However, the child should be informed that there are alternatives to choosing to live with just one parent. The child should also be advised they can express a choice that they remain in one home and each parent can live with them for a designated period of time, than switch. This is called Bird Nest Custody. Check link below for more info.
Depends on your reasons and the issues necessitating such a move. see links below
An eighteen year old is an adult and can live wherever he or she chooses. A custody order has no bearing on this.
How do you give custody to father without paying a lot when child wants to live there and we have joint custody?
You should consult with an attorney who specializes in custody issues who can review your situation and explain both your options and the consequences of the change. Child sup…port orders are based on state guidelines. If you and the child's father have an amicable relationship perhaps the attorney could draft an agreement that would be accepted by the court.
How do you get full custody of your child who is 14 and living with her dad you have joint custody and she wants to live with her mom?
You must return to court to petition for a modification of the custody order. You should seek the advice of an attorney who specializes in custody issues.