Do drugs affect abusive relationships

Answer 1

Many abusers also abuse substances and are alcoholics or do drugs.

Drugs have an adverse effect on ANY relationship, even to the extent of creating abuse within a relationship that was once quite healthy.

Drugs do affecr abusers, however they were abusive before the drugs. The drugs provide an excuse for all sorts of abusive behaviour. For example, they spend all the money, leaving you with no food. They don't pay bills, rent or support a child. They lose their jobs, vechiles and marriage. The drugs are number one to them and they will do anything to get them. That includes conning, lying and manipulating their families. I will never even consider a date with a man who has any past history with drugs after a marriage that was from hell. Wihtout sounding rude, junkies are the lowest form of life and they will treat anyone like crap to get what they want. Please move on as there are alot of nice straight people out there. :)

I don't believe that people who take drugs and become abusive where necessarily abusive prior to the drugs. Many forms of drugs are mind altering and can cause such poor memory recall that the abusive person truly believes that he or she did not cause the confrontation. It's a difficult call because I know that I tend to fall into the trap of wanting to help the person - as I have, but I am at the stage where I realise one cannot really help because the addict must want to help themselves. You can suggest ATODS (rehab)but you might find empty promises of "yes I'll go next week" or the like. There's always the danger of falling into the pattern that your partner has - eg. excessive alcohol. If this happens then it is possible that if you are normally a placid person of good nature who ignores the lies, financial strain, controlling ways, put downs and lack of consideration that after a few drinks the resentment that is being held in will come pouring out - every one has their limits, and under the influence it can be exaggerated and one can say things that are just to hurt the other person who has been hurting you. What form of abuse are you referring to? You must remember that emotional abuse can last a life time whilst a bruise will heal (I am NOT saying it is ok to be physically abused). Dr. Susan Forward has a great book - Emotional Blackmail - I'd recommend a read for anyone out there that is subjected to put downs, manipulation etc. I know in the light of day (when straight!) the abusive person can make you feel so special and good that it's easy to cling to those memories when getting abused......"he doesn't mean it. He's really a loving person" etc etc. Only you can decide what is best but being in a similar situation my decision is an ultimatum - clean up or clear out!

Answer 2

Drugs takes away concentration you would have given by your spouse. The time you would also used to develop your self is also wasted by drugs.