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Do narcissists have emotions and do they feel?
Of course they do. All humans have emotions. It is how we choose to relate to our emotions that matters. The narcissist tends to repress them so deeply that, for all practical purposes, they play no conscious role in his life and conduct, though they play an extraordinarily large unconscious role in determining them.
The narcissist's positive emotions come bundled with very negative ones. This is the outcome of frustration and the consequent transformations of aggression. This frustration is connected to the Primary Objects of the narcissist's childhood (parents and caregivers).
Instead of being provided with the love that he craved, the narcissist was subjected to totally unpredictable and inexplicable bouts of temper, rage, searing sentimentality, envy, prodding, infusion of guilt and other unhealthy emotions and behaviour patterns. He reacted by retreating to his private world, where he was omnipotent and omniscient and, therefore, immune to such vicious vicissitudes. He stashed his vulnerable True Self in a deep mental cellar - and outwardly he presented to the world his False Self.
But bundling is far easier than unbundling. The narcissist is unable to evoke his positive feelings without provoking his negative ones. Gradually, he becomes phobic: afraid to feel anything, lest it be accompanied by the fearsome, guilt inducing, anxiety provoking, out of control emotional complements. He is thus reduced to experiencing dull stirrings, dim movements in his soul, that he identifies to himself and to others as emotions. Even these are felt only in the presence of a subject capable of providing the narcissist with his badly needed Narcissistic Supply.
Only when the narcissist is in the overvaluation phase of his relationships, does he go through these convulsions and convolutions that he calls "feelings". These are so transient and fake in nature that they are easily replaced by rage, envy and devaluation. The narcissist really recreates the behaviour patterns of his less than ideal Primary Objects.
The narcissist knows that something is amiss. He does not empathise with other people's feelings. Actually, he holds them in contempt and ridicule. He cannot understand how people are so sentimental, so "irrational" (he identifies being rational with being cool headed and cold blooded). Many times he finds himself believing that other people's behaviour is fake, intended to achieve a goal, grounded in ulterior, non-emotional, motives. He becomes paranoidally suspicious, embarrassed, feels compelled to run away, or, worse, experiences surges of almost uncontrollable aggression in the presence of genuinely expressed emotions. They remind him how imperfect and poorly equipped he is. They threaten him. Constant nagging by a spouse, colleagues, professors, by employers - only exacerbates the situation.
The weaker variety tries to emulate and simulate "emotions" - or, at least their expression, the external facet. They mimic and replicate the intricate pantomime that they learn to associate with the existence of feelings. But there are no real emotions there, no emotional correlate. This is empty affect, devoid of emotion. Being so, the narcissist fast tires of it, he becomes impassive and begins to produce inappropriate affect (remain indifferent when grief is the normal reaction, for instance). The narcissist subjects his feigned emotions to his cognition. He "decides" that it is appropriate to feel so and so. "Emotions" are invariably the result of analysis, goal setting and planning. He substitutes "remembering" for "sensing". He relegates his bodily sensations, feelings and emotions to a kind of a memory vault. The short and medium-term memory is exclusively used to store his reactions to his (actual and potential) Narcissistic Supply Sources. He reacts only to such sources. The narcissist finds it hard to remember what he felt (even a short while ago) towards a Narcissistic Supply Source once it has ceased to be one. It is difficult for him to recreate the emotions, which were ostensibly involved. In his efforts to emotionally recall - he encounters a void, draws a mental blank.
It is not that narcissists are incapable of expressing what we would tend to classify as "extreme emotional reactions". They mourn and grieve, rage and smile, excessively "love" and "care". But this is precisely what sets them apart: this rapid movement from one emotional extreme to another and the fact that they never occupy the emotional middle ground. The narcissist is especially "emotional" when weaned off the Narcissistic Supply drug. Breaking a habit is always difficult - especially one that defines (and generates) one's being. Getting rid of an addiction is doubly taxing. The narcissist identifies these crises with emotional depth and his self-conviction is so immense, that he mostly succeeds to elude his environment, as well. But a narcissistic crisis (losing a Source of Narcissistic Supply, obtaining an alternative one, moving from one Narcissistic Pathological Space to another) - must never be confused with the real thing, which the narcissist never experiences: emotions.
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Based on "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
(c) 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications
The narcissist finds it hard to remember what he felt (even a short while ago) towards a Narcissistic Supply Source once it has ceased to be one. It is difficult for him to recreate the emotions, which were ostensibly involved. In his efforts to emotionally recall � he encounters a void, draws a mental blank.
THIS IS EXACTLY RIGHT! With the woman in my life, we went from being bosom buddies to, when I exposed her to people on the internet, her saying "You don't understand. Things will never be the same. They can never be like they used to be between us again...not that I don't want them to...it is what it is."
It's as though, now, when we talk, there is no familiar warmth that used to be there. It's cold, calculated, like she is examining me and figuring out how to fix me, but the old feelings of friendship that I thought I used to feel...it's like she forgot them LITERALLY!
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Narcissists are by nature - emotional manipulators - to get what THEY WANT. The Narcissistic Vampire Checklist ---- THE SMARTEST, MOST TALENTED, ALL-AROUND BEST… PERSON IN THE WORLD TEST: True or false? Score one point for each true answer. 1. THIS PERSON HAS ACHIEVED MORE THAN MOST PEOPLE HIS OR HER AGE. 2. THIS PERSON IS FIRMLY CONVINCED THAT HE OR SHE IS BETTER, SMARTER, OR MORE TALENTED THAN OTHER PEOPLE. 3. THIS PERSON LOVES COMPETITION, BUT IS A POOR LOSER. 4. THIS PERSON HAS FANTASIES OF DOING SOMETHING GREAT OR BEING FAMOUS, AND OFTEN EXPECTS TO BE TREATED AS IF THESE FANTASIES HAD ALREADY COME TRUE. 5. THIS PERSON HAS VERY LITTLE INTEREST IN WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE THINKING OR FEELING, UNLESS HE OR SHE WANTS SOMETHING FROM THEM. 6. THIS PERSON IS A NAME DROPPER. 7. TO THIS PERSON IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO LIVE IN THE RIGHT PLACE AND ASSOCIATE WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE. 8. THIS PERSON TAKES ADVANTAGE OF OTHER PEOPLE TO ACHIEVE HIS OR HER OWN GOALS. 9. THIS PERSON USUALLY MANAGES TO BE IN A CATEGORY BY HIM OR HERSELF. 10. THIS PERSON OFTEN FEELS PUT UPON WHEN ASKED TO TAKE CARE OF HIS OR HER RESPONSIBILITIES TO FAMILY, FRIENDS, OR WORK GROUP. 11. THIS PERSON REGULARLY DISREGARDS RULES OR EXPECTS THEM TO BE CHANGED BECAUSE HE OR SHE IS IN SOME WAY SPECIAL. 12. THIS PERSON BECOMES IRRITATED WHEN OTHER PEOPLE DON'T AUTOMATICALLY DO WHAT HE OR SHE WANTS THEM TO DO, EVEN WHEN THEY HAVE A GOOD REASON FOR NOT COMPLYING. 13. THIS PERSON REVIEWS SPORTS, ART, AND LITERATURE BY TELLING YOU WHAT HE OR SHE WOULD HAVE DONE INSTEAD. 14. THIS PERSON THINKS MOST CRITICISMS OF HIM OR HER ARE MOTIVATED BY JEALOUSY. 15. THIS PERSON REGARDS ANYTHING SHORT OF WORSHIP TO BE REJECTION. 16. THIS PERSON SUFFERS FROM A CONGENITAL INABILITY TO RECOGNIZE HIS OR HER OWN MISTAKES. ON THE RARE OCCASIONS THAT THIS PERSON DOES RECOGNIZE A MISTAKE, EVEN THE SLIGHTEST ERROR CAN PRECIPITATE A MAJOR DEPRESSION. 17. THIS PERSON OFTEN EXPLAINS WHY PEOPLE WHO ARE BETTER KNOWN THAN HE OR SHE IS NOT REALLY ALL THAT GREAT. 18. THIS PERSON OFTEN COMPLAINS OF BEING MISTREATED OR MISUNDERSTOOD. 19. PEOPLE EITHER LOVE OR HATE THIS PERSON. 20. DESPITE THIS PERSON'S OVERLY HIGH OPINION OF HIM OR HERSELF, HE OR SHE IS REALLY QUITE INTELLIGENT AND TALENTED. Scoring: Five or more true answers qualifies the person as a Narcissistic Emotional Vampire, though not necessarily for a diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality. If the person scores higher than ten, and is not a member of the royal family, be careful that you aren't mistaken for one of the servants. By ALBERT J. BERNSTEIN, Ph.D. ---- The DSM-IV Diagnostic Criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder are: (don't try this at home, folks): A pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, lack of empathy, as indicated by at least five of the following: 1. a grandiose sense of self-importance 2. is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love 3. believes that he or she is "special" and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions) 4. requires excessive admiration 5. has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favourable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations 6. is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends 7. lacks empathy and is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others 8. is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her 9. shows arrogant, haughty behaviours or attitudes
No. He only feels bad that he lost his source of supply. i.e. what you could do for him. He found you useful - and now he has devalued and discarded you.. You will soon be… replaced with another unwilling victim who is taken in by that charming act to lure all those victims in. It's a honed skill. He only feels bad that the money - favors - sex - conversation - company - etc. that you offered is no longer there. As soon as possible.. he will replace you. Won't even bat an eyelash - that's how fast it is......... and repeat the cycle. They are shallow people who make no emotional connections with anyone. You are property. A possession. Nothing more. Nothing less. You're a thing. An extension of the narcissist. They are hollow inside.. Their only quest in life is to win the "game" - get what they want and never consider YOU for a second. No empathy. Nothing. They're a lot of fun..... but they are not reliable - trustworthy -and moods change with the wind. Like trying to catch sand in your hand. Consider yourself lucky that it is OVER.
Like they dont exist especially if you was a valuable source of NS no attention admiration ect means no one to feed there crippled ego this is what they ultimatley rely …on to establish there feelings of omnipotence superiority ect. Best way to get rid of them is to IGNORE them once they have got what they wanted from you they will leave uncerimonously without warning and your left to pick up the pieaces of a broken heart it is a harrowing experience but they will be back just at the time you are getting your life back on track just to use and abuse you all over again! they just want the best of you stay away for your own good...
How do they feel? They feel nothing. They just walk out the door and pretend you never existed. It is the victim of a N that has to move on otherwise they just destroy you. My… husband lied to me and said he needed to think about our marraige and came back 2 weeks later and said he was not coming back. In those 2 weeks he was dating another woman, and had been for 6 months. He blamed me for everything. he lied about everything in our marriage and in his eyes it was all my fault. Now i have PTSD and seeing a clinical psychologist to help me over it. They dont care, they move on without guilt. So be in no doubt, just get help from friends and family, dont take the blame for anything and get on with your life. Its not easy, but you will get there.
They hate birthdays,theirs or anybody else ,even from their kids... Yes they do hate them. Birthdays remind them they are getting older. They are peter pans, always young, in…fantile, their inner selves stuck at age six. They morn the lost of youth, the lost of looks as they gaze into their beloved mirror. They don't enjoy their kids b/ds much either. For a start its a day that's not all about them (and they hate that. They are notoriously bad gift givers, usually giving cheap tat or something of theirs they don't want or that's broken.
How dare you dump a narcissist! They will panic at first. Let you have a day or two to miss their royal presence, maybe leave you a message saying I love you. Then if you refu…se to talk to them they will get angry and find a way to tell you all the reasons why they can't stay in this relationship- go figure?? It's all very confusing, but I think they can't stand the fact that you're not falling for their crap anymore. They are losing control. So to compensate for that they turn the tables, and in their mind they dump you, even if you did the dumping! Crazy stuff.
NO. Narcissists brains have been shown to lack the capacity for genuine empathy & emotion. Lonely is an emotion they can't feel. I don't think they get lonely in the normal s…ense as they simply couldn't care less about others. They do NOT love anyone ( but themselves) However, most do desperately NEED others. They need the attention, admiration. They like to be looked after, pandered to, babied. After all their emotional intelligence is of clever a six year old. They need others to drain dry, they need N supply.
That depends om how severe the disorder is. If you look at clinical signs that are present, most people with personality disorders, unless severe, will not fit all of them. S…o a narcissist could feel a degree of empathy for others. However, when it comes down to a choice between someone else's feelings and their own, they will choose their own every time. Empathy without action is pretty useless. They are also capable of feeling guilt - and this can be confused with empathy because they can present themselves however they want to fit a particular situation. New Answer_I really don't think so...I think they fake empathy to lure you in when they need you for something and to make you believe they are good and trustworthy.My ex N kept that mask for a year and some them the cracks started to show,he got impatient ,could't keep it anymore i thought was because we were at different continents,he begged me to hurry up and be with him,idi,but when i got there,2 days later he dumped me,withdraw affection but didn't want me to leave...was sheer hell,i nnever saw somebody change in such short period of time,is just horror movies stuff...Dr Jekill and Mr Hide is not fiction,i did live it! I don't think they feel guilty either,they just don't like getting caught ....Then they act out but normally they will try to blame somebody else saying that the person they hurt or molested caused them to do whwt they did,it is disgusting i saw this many times and i am glad i left this person.
Yes. A narcissist is someone who is obsessed with themself, this doesn't mean that their void of all emotions and feelings.
Ignore them again and again until they ask u what's wrong keep your answer short then run.
First you need to understand the mind of a narcissist. Psychological Narcissism is defined by overt behaviors that boost ones ego at the disparaging effects of another. If y…ou wish to aide their psychological problem, you would compliment them and degrade yourself to their satisfaction. However, it's never wise to attempt to feed into the ego of a narcissist as you only further the progression of the illness.
No wonder this question hasn't been answered - it's a paradox. First off, a narcissist is unlikely to be looking at a site dedicated to narcissistic abuse. Secondly, narcissis…ts only 'love' themselves!! So look up the meaning of narcissistic abuse and you'll see the meaning of love to a narcissist.
Narcissists don't feel anything. Get away from them.
Because they are narcissists and that type of behavior is in their nature. You need to educate yourself about narcissism. The Mayo Clinic website is a good place to begin. Dra…gging someone else down makes them feel like they have power.
In terms of biology, our Limbic System is in control of our emotions and the emotions we experience.
ANSWER . yes very much so but only to himself and they are feelings about himself and no one else. He doesnt share anything with anyone especially his true feelings. His fa…ntasies and dreams are also about himself and an image he has of another person which is really an extension of himself.