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I don't believe so and I really hope not. Men aren't the enemy.
No, when women, like me, come to these sites, they are already in an abusive relationship and need to have confirmation that they are still an intelligent, vibrant, human that can contribute, rather than buying into all of the accusations, blaming & put downs. In other words, we need some support and to be able to find the confidence that we once had to continue our lives without that particular man. I know that there are men who don't think or act like my husband.
Not at all! It is thanks to websites like this that I have been able to find my sanity again. To find my self confidence again. ANd to know that I am normal. I am more able to recognize signs of abuse, and will not put up with it anymore. And I am happy to say I have many wonderful male friends. And I am starting a new relationship that has nothing to do with what I have lived. I don't even think about it anymore!
No, it's pages like these that encourage women to be strong, know their self-worth and that they are not alone or at fault.
It would not encourage me to view men as the enemy, as not all men are abusive by any means, just a select few that have a screw or two that's lose.
I also tend to view them as informative and educational. Some women before they come to these sites, have no idea what abuse is or that what they are experiencing, is. This site enlightens them and holds the OTHER person accountable for their own actions. As it should be.
No, I don't think so. This page encouraged me that I was still worthy of my own approval, as well as approval of men who aren't abusive. Plus, this isn't just for women. Men come here to seek help about their relationships with abusive females too.
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Answer Generally passionate women are submisive women, therefore after they are through using them as a punching bag they become sympathetic. Of course the woman …falls into that submisive trap and say okay, I forgive. Then the wild passionate love making comes in effect. You know the rest of the story.
* First off not all men are abusive. Those that are have had the problem for a very long while. They are chameleons and when you meet them you would never guess that t…hey have an abusive nature until you fall in love and start seeing more of them and then the signs gradually creep up in a sneaky way. Even chameleons have to change their colors every so often and can't constantly fake it. Women are considered the weaker sex, but really aren't. Yes, men are stronger, but women can stand up to most men if she is independent in herself and not afraid to walk out that door or refuse to take any sort of abuse. There are more self defence classes for women out there than gyms. However, this does not make the abused women in our society weak or frail. In fact, they are heroes in their own right simply because they survive the best they can. Women are romantics, while some men can take full advantage of this and use the woman, or abusive men can catch these types of women in their web of insecurities and violence. None of us know when we first meet someone and if they are abusive until we are totally involved. Many women will leave their abusive mate, but some stay out of fear, sometimes because of the brain-washing the abuser has accomplished with her, or the fear of losing any children she may have with her abuser (they will often use the children against the woman to gain more control.) The bottom line is, men and women have total control of their own lives and we can all form the words "no" and move on. * The cycle of violence. An abuser in the beginning of the courtship appears nice, fun and like he really "gets you". You feel good around him. He makes you feel "chosen" and "special". Little does the victim know is that the abuser has to work pretty hard at this stage to hide his true colors. If he was too show the woman his true colors this early on, most women would dump him as there is little emotional connection. Then the abuser feels comfortable. He feels you are hooked in enough to begin his destruction. It will start off small. Such as comments meant to confuse, destabilize or insult. He may do this in a way that keeps her guessing such as "did he really mean what he said to be rude?". As time goes on, you will notice one day he gets very mad and/or very withdrawn. When you ask him about it, you are blamed. He may take some blame but he may also slip into the conversation that you are also at fault. He may become jealous and paranoid you are going to leave. He may follow you without you knowing it. He may argue with you on the phone and begin the silent treatment. He may start to make you feel like yo are nothing. Insulting your friends, clothes, religion, employment, recreational activities. He then will go from lashing out to being very nice. He is afraid you may finally say to hell with this and leave. Therefore hes gotta provide that hook. He turns nice again. Often like the man you first met. You get hope back. You think maybe he realises what he has and will change. He doesn't. Before long he returns to his former behaviour. He cannot change as his thought processes are still the same THROUGHOUT the entire cycle. Eventually the victim may start to pull away. She may consider leaving him. he can sense this. The abuser can detect a victim in this stage. He may become needy like a lost puppy. He knows deep down she has the strength to leave him and it terrifies him. He will be very nice then mean. He doesn't know how to handle her threatening departure and independence. He feels he better act quickly to put her in her place. He may cheat and rub her face in it to let her know other women want him. He may aim to tear her down emotionally. He may beat her. The victim often goes through rage, sorrow, and fear until she finally reaches the lost hope stage. Once she has reached lost hope, she realises that no matter what she does she cannot change him. Often this is a light bulb moment. The pain of staying is worse than leaving although the longing and sorrow may still be there. Finally comes the day when the victim leaves. They may better themselves and work on their inner and outer self after being systematically worn down. Often they have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Victims are strong and can heal quicker than they see possible. It is when they are no longer in grief and their self esteem begins to rise that the abuser loses his control. In fact the abuser rapidly loses control once the victim leaves.
Because they want to have sex and then they leave them pregnant and then go to their next victim. Men do this because they want sex to leave women pregnant and leave them all …happy. This happens to 95% to these women and 5% get hit by their husband.
It is not that men abuse woman, not all men abuse woman, and there are woman who abuse men. It is a person who abuses another person. And that means that the abuser has …a problem whether it be that he was abused as a child, or abused in another relationship, or that he is just a very angry person. You should not be with a person who abuses you under any circumstances. It could lead to something alot worse. He has a problem and should get help and you should not be with him until you are sure that he is cured. Being abused will make you miserable and you will never be able to forgive your abuser. Get out of the situation before it gets worse and leads to something that will completely change you as a person or cause you a harm that you can not come back from.
I think a man putting there hands on a women is sickening. No man should touch a women in any harmful way. They are cowards if they do. Men today that abuse women a…re the ones that are dealing with issues with themselves. They hit a women to feel more powerful and incontol. They could have anger issues, jealousy issues or have past family abuse. A man that hits or even comes close to touching a women needs help. They need professional help. If you are a women with an abusive man, please get out as soon as possible. It will only get worse if you stay and allow it. Talk to someone about it. No-one deserves abuse in there life, its not and should not be allowed ever! Please seek help if your a victim of any domestic situation.
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men I think women are more likely to forget to feed their pets than beat them where men usually are more..aggressive I guess
Not all do, but if they did, it could be because of mental problems (uncontrollable), aggression issues, or because of an incident that happened.
Because most males think that children and especially women are weaker than them. Some men do tend to abuse females and children, just because they like hurting people and t…hink that women are weaker Women and men should be observed as equal and not lower than eachother. They probably got beaten by bullies or a family member when they were kids or something so now they're trying to prove a point.
Men, because they are stronger than a women when they are a adult. It would depend on what you mean by abusive, as women can be more abusive verbally, which could result in …a man getting physical. Cases where women are physically abusive, don't tend to be reported, as it is embarrassing for a man, also many believe they wouldn't be taken seriously.
call 911 if you are being abused or are abusive and can't stop either call 911 or a counsellor to help you.
Power over them! the men believe that they need to be the most powerful in the relationship. Even if it means hurting the one that he loves! Some were in abusive homes as chil…dren (maybe father beat mother) and the man grew up believing that that was what happened in a normal family!
In most cases, no. - They are embarassed by it. - They fear for their lives so want to make sure they don't say a word about it. - It's not a comfortable conversation to have… with someone. However, some women do to get it off their chests'; all depends on their personality..
Women Women are very likely to get away with it.
Presumably for the same reason that many men enjoy abusing women... they like to feel powerful or strong, or better than someone else. Some people with low self esteem fee…l better when they make other people feel bad, because it makes them feel powerful or better in comparison, because they feel more in control of their lives. But it isn't a good coping strategy, either way.