I'd be more inclinded to find out all I could and be positive before making any judgments and if she was I would find a way of leaving her. Read the online pages"what makes narcissists tick and buy Sam Vaknins book on Malignant Narcissism.
She would probably project it back on you anyhow and might accuse you of being one instead or ignore it and and then where would you be? Emotionally drained and angrier than ever, I'm sure.
This is dangerous territory. "May be NPD" and "diagnosed as NPD" are separate ballparks. I would highly recommend that for your own sanity, find a therapist. If she truly is NPD, at some point you wll have to ask why you stay in the relationship. It is horrendously abusive. Know that it is not about you. Only them. IF she is truly NPD.
IF she is NPD, forget about marriage counseling or her seeking therapy. Wont happen.
Think of yourself as a mirror. When an NPD personality is hurling all those egregious accusations and words at you and you have no idea what inspired them, it is not you they are speaking of. They are speaking to the mirror (you) about themselves. This is projection. They are unable to see themselves as having any flaws, therefore, any flaws, negative attributes, whatever about them that may be "less than perfect", NPD'rs blame on everyone else. Primarily and mostly those they are closest to. ie spouse, family. The rest of the world seerms to believe they are charmed as they can and do this easily. In sum, they are users of people. People are expendable unless they serve a purpose which is to glorify and suck up to the NPD'r.
So do you tell her? Not a chance. And do NOT expect her to ever seek help. There is "nothing wrong with her". You're the problem (she believes). It's all about her. Nothing and noone else matters.
Vaknin is a good starting source. I have read his book. He himself is an NPD personality, so he says. There is a ton of information out there. Seek and ye shall find.
Patients with NPD-A commonly die during infancy. NPD-B patients may live for a few decades, but many require supplemental oxygen because of lung impairment.
Keep searching the web because this answer is out there. Dated someone who inherited it from his dad, no doubt about it.
The NPD Group is based in Port Washington, New York
If you feel that you would be happier with your wife knowing that you are a transvestite, and you feel it is worth the risk that it may harm your wife and your marriage, then you should tell her. As for telling her you are a "sissy". If she is your wife, she will know if you are effeminate or lacking in courage. There is no need to tell her that.
The answer is No, there is no medication specifically used to treat NPD. == == The question was "Is there a pill to ease NPD?" Not "How has NPD affected your life stranger? please give us a detailed personal account of your experiences." Did you ever think that perhaps the person asking might be asking for themselves? How appropriate is your response then?
Npd and fear of losing is caused by the lack of feeling the need or attention from someone or family members
First of all I will think of a frnd of mine who is not my wife does not know have to be atracctive to my wife then i will tell my frnd to flirt with my wife and ask questions it may work
You can't !
mysogynist is another word used to oppress men; NPD is the regular entitled bimbo
Patients with Type A NPD usually die within the first year and a half of life.
Always Tell Your Wife was created in 1923.
Such a hard thing to do ! He may already know that something is different but can't put his finger on it. If you definitly want to approach him first and not the wife, then you just have to be honest and truthful. Tell him that you care about him as a friend and be upfront about all the details including where you got the information etc. He may try and tell you that you are lying, but all you can do is tell the truth.