Ex N is NoContact is this also meant to control you?

Answer 1

Of course it is meant to control you. They live to control you. It gives them power. Putting you down builds up their fragile self esteem. No contact is your punishment for displeasing the narcissist, crossing them, standing up to them or interrupting their vision of the "perfect self" that they present to the public. Look on it as a gift. There is no cure for this disorder. The narcissist will destroy your self esteem and your life if you let him. He has done you a favor by withdrawing his life sucking fangs from you through which he drained your happiness and sense of self. Run and don't look back. It will be hard and you will obsess as to what you have done to deserve such bad treatment. You will go through the stages of grief from losing the relationship but eventually you will heal and see this person for what they really are... Evil to the core, Satan incarnate. Hang in there and you will heal. I promise. Just don't ever go back no matter how tempting it may seem or how charming they may be. It is all a lie. They will never care about you. They are incapable of love except for themselves.