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Narcissism

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Narcissism refers to a mental disorder which involves excessive admiration and love with one's self. It is also characterized by a need for admiration and attention from others as well as an exaggerated sense of self-importance.
My Narcissistic partner did the following; forced me in to an abortion, hit me once, pinned me down on the bed, gave me that look, proposed constantly then forgot about it the following day, kept everything shrouded in secrecy, told his friends lies about my current occupation or work status to make…
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Withdrawal, withholding, and the "silent treatment" are classic abuse techniques. Absolutely, this is narcissism at its finest. I have been told that if that type of manipulation occurs then "run away, run far away ... never look back." I know you don't ask this question for relationship advice …
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Disciplinary intervention, for the illegal activities of a person suffering from NPD, including but not limited to the domestic abuse symptoms of this disorder, handled by a trained domestic violence officer, limiting the sufferers illegal behaviour, with co operation from the narcissists intimate f…
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The full fledged manifestation of pathological narcissism - the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) - can be diagnosed in early adolescence at the earliest.It is reversible if treated early on but becomes entrenched in adulthood. A child who has narcissistic traits, a narcissistic personality, o…
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ANSWER: I lived with my N for 6 months in HIS home. He told me I needed to move because someone else was moving in. I found a place of my own. The morning of my move, he didnt believe me that i was REALLY moving. The next day, he showed up at my new place and hasnt left MY residence in 6 months. I l…
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yes! They will if they decide they want something from you The narcissistic personality is subject to instabilities in each and every one of its dimensions. It is the ultimate hybrid: rigidly amorphous, devoutly flexible, reliant for its sustenance on the opinion of people, whom the narcissist …
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My experience was similar, except that the periods of time between overvaluing and devaluing were shorter. He could be lovely and 'caring' for approximately three weeks then suddenly say that we would never be a good couple and break up with me with no further explanation other than that it was his …
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Yes, of course he would, why not? Such words are cheap and can have dramatic effect. I am cynically inclined to wonder if the only thing that would discourage them from using such potent "words of power" would be believing them to be true. THAT would probably scare most of them into deep denial! Af…
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"In love" is such an subjective abstract concept, who is to say that my interpretation of the phrase and yours are the same as each other or anyone else's? One could say that, truly, if you think you are "in love," then you are.   They love the concept that they have a girlfriend/spouse etc.…
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Answer That you should recreate with other people your relationship with an abusive or narcissistic (or both) father (or mother)- is not an iron-clad and inescapable rule! Some people do, though.Inverted Narcissism is not a recognized mental health category (though it was proposed, under differe…
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You no longer exist. {new} lol. i think you give up the right to be mad when you have an affair. take what you can while you can get it and stfu.
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It depends if someone has traits or fully blown NPD. Generally speaking, no I don't think they can. Friendship is based on trust, how can you trust someone who is only friends with you because of what they can gain from you?I always find it difficult to tell a narcissist with someone that is just pu…
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A lot of people tend to project their faults on to others. I doubt if it's common for people to project the actual term "narcissism" outside of areas where it has become a common term of reference such as support communities.However, within those areas, I have observed a significant number of what w…
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Can a narcissist truly feel love for his children? Indeed, it is not possible. Not in the way "normal" humans interpret the word "love"... Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" (c) 2007 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications Would anyone like to elaborate on what love …
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Narcissists "love" their spouses or other significant othersas long as they continue to reliably provide them with Narcissistic Supply (in one word, with attention). Inevitably, they regard others as mere "sources", objects, or functions. Lacking empathy and emotional maturity, the narcissist's love…
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%REPLIES% Answer IT HAS BEEN WITH MY VERBAL ABUSER YES THEY DO ANYTHING THAT MAKES THEM FEEL SOMETHING THEY ARE NOT. Answer my experience with my ex narcissist is an overwhelming YES!! he would even get crushes on television personalities, office co-workers, anyone. Answer It is as com…
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If the relationship is over....leave it and learn from it and grow and fullfil you life without them. If you are still in the relationship....I would find it hard to conceive that this narcissist would even be remotely empathic of their behavior...they could readily move on to someone else. As s…
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Narcissism is a very complex and multi-faceted phenomenon. It cannot be reduced to one trait or behavior.   Yes, it is a daily common lingering frustrating symptom of narcissistic behavior. Trust me.....been there for 16 years....there will NEVER admit that they are wrong in anything, but eve…
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Narcissists are addicted to narcissistic supply (attention, admiration, adulation, being feared, etc.). They don't take well to criticism and disagreement. They are easily slighted and develop narcissistic injuries.  "Is a narcissist likely to return to someone who figured them out and is not …
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Firstborn seem to be more more vulnerable to certain mental health disorders. No one is sure whether this has to do with genetics.
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Answer I am not sure what you mean by "create" a partner. The minute you stop providing a narcissist with Narcissistic Supply - the minute you start criticizing him and disagreeing with him - he leaves and looks for alternative and more pliable sources of supply. Answer I think it's possible …
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A narcissist is pretty close to an arrogant person. Yes, they do actually care what other people think of them or if they hurt others, but they would like you to believe otherwise. Usually narcissistic people have been hurt in some way, so they put a wall up. Often people that have had a very rough …
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Narcissists love their sources of narcissistic supply the way you may love your computer or some other useful gadget. They care for their sources of narcissistic supply the way you take care of your car and maintain it. If you look up the meaning of a narcissist this is what it says: excessive …
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There is a lot of false information about narcissism on the interenet. After talking to different therapists, they have all told me the same thing. No, a narcissist would never consider the possibility of being narcissist. No matter what he has read. And if he was diagnosed, he really would not care…
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You just warn her, as simple as that. Refer her to literature to support your "diagnosis". See these:   Just warn her briefly...I once warned a woman about a man, she made some snide remark to me and about a year later , she came to see me and said "I'm sorry, you were right". You can only wa…
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Pathological narcissism is a defense mechanism against the hurt and threat of ealy childhood abuse. The narcissist is, therefore, in a constant state of inner turmoil, conflict, insecurity, and rage.
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The consensus is that they do not feel guilt. Read on for the reasons: The narcissist has a diminished capacity to empathize so he rarely feels sorry for what he does. He almost never puts himself in the shoes of his "victims". Actually, he doesn't regards them as victims at all! It is very comm…
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Answer Having been betrayed by your "friend", you avoid her hencefort at all costs. Answer Well, the only thing you can do is make peace with it. It's done but also remember what happened and try not to make the same mistake twice. It might seem really bad right now but it will die down.... D…
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My advice is Dont believe a word she says. She is a probably a game player, controller, manipulator ,liar and cheat. If you are involved with her, my advice is get out now. I have been in a similar situation for nearly 4 years. Thanks to Sams informative web site, my sanity was saved.  Taking …
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Abusers of all stripes are incapable of real love. They identify intimacy and love with violence and abuse.   I have zero tolerance for mental abusers. They take up air space! They are demeaning, miserable and plain bullies.Abusers are unhappy people and there is simply no excuse in this worl…
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If the father is truly a narcissist (and, therefore, an abuser) - you should have no conflict of loyalty. Sorry to see you are going through this.I've hear narcissistic in many posts, but sometimes I wonder if the shoe fits the person. A person can be a perfectionist, then there is the type of pe…
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In my view, somatic narcisism IS the Histrionic Personality Disorder. And, yes, it is "forever".  It may not stay with them forever, it may for example become a more cerebral form of narcissism.
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Not really. It is the conquest that matters - it buttresses and regulates the somatic narcissist's labile emotions and volatile sense of self-worth.
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Because people with personality disorders deny that they have a mental health problem or that their behavior is inappropriate or abusive.   Because, they have falsely accused you of doing the exact same thing so many times that if they were to acknowledge what they do themselves it would make…
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Yes, they often do. And sometimes they are not. Not everyone is unaware of thier problematic behaviour. I am a sex and love addict who is now abstinent from mad compulsive relationships via working the first few steps of the program of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) ,based on the model pion…
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I wasn't even married to mine~ he would tell me I wasn't good enough to marry but when we were in public at an important social gathering, he would introduce me as his wife...twisted! Answer The narcissist does not view marriage as a bond among equals - but as an arrangement of convenience. By g…
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It probably depends on who you tell and the repercussions. Otherwise, my sense is it won't matter much. Depending on the level of skill you narcissist ex has, they've already maneuvered to his/her own version of the story. The real point is, though, that they have no conscience, no ability to empath…
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All narcissists constantly switch between somatic and cerebral, inverted ad classic.
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Narcissistic people are about control, so they will choose people who are shy, kindhearted (to a fault at times). Sometimes they just take that chance and pick anyone.
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I am not sure what "meaningful" means - but many narcissists have long term relationships with their sources of supply (not necessarily with other narcissists).
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They don't think of you actively - but they add you to a "database" of old and discarded sources that can be "recycled" for future use.
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Secrecy is the abuser's weapon. Sharing with others exposes the abuser for what he is and, sometimes, puts a stop to his offenses. It really depends on the relationship these people have with the narcissist. When I have told other people, they have eventually told him. He has then turned it aro…
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It's hard to answer this question without using "In my experience." But, that is exactly what happened. Never heard from her again. Although there wasn't rage, at least I didn't see any, as soon as I mentioned the 'lie,' she mumbled something, hung up the phone. Never heard from her again. 4 incredi…
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Don't fall into the trap of trying to label yourself or someone else and treating mental health issues like physical disease. If you lie and that behavior is pathological (causes problems in your life or in the lives of those you care for) you need to address that issue. If someone has been taught b…
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Either use duct tape or cut contact. The narcissist will not change his/her ways.
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Do Pathological Liars Admit They Lie? Chronic liars are most commonly found among those who have Antisocial Personality Disorder, although some liars also suffer from factitious conditions like Munchhausen's Disorder or Munchhausen's by Proxy and of course, there are disorders that by their nature p…
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There is no way you can do this. A pathological liar is a difficult person to deal with. Once the trust is broken; even if they are telling the truth you will never trust them again. Pathological liars are just that, and little can be done for them. Psychologists/Psychiatrists seldom have luck with…
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One in the same? According to the Princeton dictionary, they are synonyms of each other.  Debate on the issue:There is some debate about whether there is a meaningful difference between sociopaths and psychopaths. The DSM IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual used by psychologists) lists bot…
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Answer I feel badly for you! Narcissists are difficult to work with and they feel their way is the best way and seldom take the advice from others as I'm sure you have found out by now. They (in their own mind) stand on a white tower above all others and in their own minds think they are much mor…
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It's when someone is obsessed/in love with themselves. It comes from a mythological character named Narcissus who fell in love with his own reflection.   According to American Dictionary it is "abnormal admiration of one's self."   it is vanity. or according to dictionary.comExcessive l…
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Answer A person who has been sexually abused as a child doesn't even realize the damage has already occured mentally. Either the child will keep this abuse a secret or if the family should find out it is kept secret. Either way the child usually never wins and is never sent for psychological trea…
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Yes,In all probability he would. But then it also depends as to what kind of a person he was. But then, why do you want to tell him that you have someone else? You are no more answerable to your ex, whether he is a narcisist or not. Just forget his existence and live your life. But yes, you do need …
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Answer There are three possibilities: She isn't getting the right compliments. Narcissists can be picky at what they want to be complimented on. If they think fashion is cool and intelligence is useless, then they won't like being complimented on saying something smart. She is …
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Narcissists most often perform high energy out in the workforce although they may not be well liked. They consider themselves smarter than everyone else, can work at a high rate of capacity and are brutal in high positions or even supervisors. Companies really don't care as long as they have a "hot …
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Absolutely, what better way to get your focus back on him. Anything, anything to be the center of attention.   I am afraid so. My ex N used to call me crying piteously from sinus headaches, or needing me for emotional support because he had some issue in his life where he had done something t…
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Answer Are they really liars or are they the type that dramatizes a truth? I pick the latter. It's like one person will tell you a joke and by the time it gets to the 10th person the joke isn't even the same anymore. Narcissists will dramatize events in their lives to boost their own egos and get…
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Not always. Some people have just been so hurt in their past that they seek approval of their peers and just want some TLC. It's best to get to know the person a little before making a judgment call. It's a good policy not to label people immediately or even after a few weeks because you too could b…
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Narcissistic is used too freely. If your mother always had Narcissistic characteristics that is one thing and you may have to choose to stay away from her altogether to keep your sanity. However, as some people age they can have disease called Dementia (Alzheimer's) and can make them appear …
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New Answer I am trying to disconnect from a n as well. My poor body was riddle with emotional pain all the time. Thanks to all people who have experience this type of relationship has helped to open my awareness. Also to let go of my helplessness frame of mind, I need to work on me not him. The cons…
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Community Answer 1 To even be considered anorexic, one must have a BMI of less than 18. Once your BMI is that low, it it hard to drop weight as quickly as someone at a normal or overweight BMI. There are many other types of EDs, though, which can make you both loose or gain weight very quickly. …
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Answer Narcissists act as if they want people to envy them, but in reality they envy others which makes them crazy, and they "act out." They easily get into conflicts with coworkers, friends and family just to make a point of being right about a certain subject. It is extremely important to them …
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I've been divorced from my "n" for over a year. I have a four year old girl and a two year old boy. The only thing you can do is to control the damage. don't give him any more time than what your custody agreement allows. Don't talk to him .That's the most important thing. keep your mouth shut!! I c…
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You are for the most part. However when the new supply begins to find fault with the narcissist they will attempt to use you as a reflecting tool. It will be as if they should have listened /learned from the experience with you, they just need a hit of supply-like a whif of oxygen. It will be disqui…
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Answer When you love attention Answer Does it seem like sooner or later everyone in your life will part ways with you in an atrociously angry way? Was it EVER your fault? Do people often beg you to see their side or understand how they are feeling? Is there a whole lot of drama in your life a…
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Is this elderly person really narcissistic or are they suffering from Dementia or Alzheimers. My bet is on the last two. These are the symptoms:ParanoiaAccusing others of stealing or doing things they are notArguementativeCryingRagesMemory loss Regaining memory for short periods of timeStriking out …
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To me, the word "cure" implies an illness that can be treated, and so we could call it "cured." I don't know what the shrinks would say, but in my experience, this is primarily a character issue. People who lie even when there's no reason to, when there is nothing to protect or gain, are just flat d…
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Opinions from contributors: I was discarded after a 4 month relationship that, in her diluted mind, was NOT a dating relationship, when it was the most intense thing I had ever experienced. Anyway, it's been 6 months and I haven't seen hide nor hair of her. She's done. She won't likely be coming b…
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I don't know if this qualifies as revenge, but after I was completely duped and used, I was angry for months and months. Of course, I had tried to think of anything to get back 'at hear' for how she treated me. However, since I'm not 'like her' and my mind doesn't work that way, I surrendered. But, …
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My ex N does not try to contact me but I know he somehow tries to "spy" on me online. He has a website and I'm sure he thinks I look at it....he wrote on there how he is moving and how he was in a serious motorcycle accident. I know it's all just a ploy to get my attention. Of course I do look but I…
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If the "patient" is genuinely a narcissist, you can bet your life that he made others gravely ill, or worse, in his lifetime. I know a narcissist who brags about the women in whom he created permanent psychological, emotional and/or physical disabilities. If the narcissist/patient is terminal - rejo…
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Answer It isn't just narcissists who can do this, but some of us do it as well. For example: You leave your ex husband and later tell a girlfriend or your new boyfriend what a creep he was, etc. That's considered devaluating as well. Narcissists are perfectionists in their own mind (most aren't)…
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If you mean help the victim of a sociopath - one way might be to have them read some books on the subject. One that is very effective: Snakes in Suits about Sociopaths in the workplace by Paul Babiak and Robert Hare. If however you are asking how to help a sociopath- that is a much harder question -…
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When I was with my narcissist he had very shallow, untrustworthy friends. He led his life as if he was this almighty powerful person, but when it came right down to it the only people in his life he could trust were the ones who had no idea how he really was, and no one else. His friends were very u…
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Answer I can't know for sure but my narcissist would say how he regretted the things he'd done in the past to people that loved him and he loved and would go on and on about that never again, would he do this to someone, and when we split up, it was actually him that ended it because "he could do…
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You need to learn all you can about narcissistic personalities. Where they are concerned- knowledge is power. Most narcissists are really insecure children under that shell of superiority and self absorption. They need your attention and adoration. The more you understand the better you will be able…
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First, you should read up on the disorder. There are dozens of good websites sponsored by well known hospitals and other respected institutions that sponsor web pages devoted to narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. If you have a good understanding of narcissism you will have the knowled…
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Answer YES! Absolutely. If they truly are narcissistic then they are the ones that live a long and miserable life without many friends, much of a past or a future. When we get older sometimes memories are all we have. Narcissistic people have no less chance of living or dying at any given time l…
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All types of people can kill and being narcissistic has little to do with it. The person is a plain killer! I've studied the mind of some serial killers and it's very interesting. These people have absolutely no guilt or morality and if you look at their eyes they are ice cold and I call them "shark…
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Your question to yourself should be ... Why do I put up with it? Narcissistic people are often grouped into selfishness, arrogance, perfectionism, but it doesn't make them a narcissist. Some people are just mean clear to the bone and don't care about other people's feelings.If it were me, I'd kick t…
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Someone whose articles on narcissism one should usually skip over and read ones from real doctors instead. He is not Dr. of psychology (but he is Dr. of philosophy and physics). He is narcissist and on the border of psychopath. He helps others because this is his way of getting attention (narcissi…
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Not sure how long ago this message was left and hope you are around to receive this answer... Empathy is about putting yourself in the other persons shoes... If someone is telling me something and its painful, but I have never been through it, I remember something that made me feel a similar way... …
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They only give to get.  My N loves to give gifts but they're always something he likes, without any thought to how the person receiving it might like it. He likes gifts, as long as it's not something he's really been wanting.  I think they give gifts to keep the source of supply going. M…
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I would not say you're outta the woods yet, my dear. Try and avoid him and if he calls, politely hang up on him. Just say, "sorry, don't want to talk to you.  Narcissist are vindictive and rage. I never knew one to ostracize.Temporary ignoring is what they do, but they are in the same room so …
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Yes and no. A teenager may exhibit traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, BUT a teenager's personality is still DEVELOPING. But just as there are teenage psychopaths who murder, there are teenage narcissists. Many teenagers exhibit narcissistic traits, but this can actually be a normal and hea…
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If possible, cut this person out of your life completely. These people can only cause heartache in you life. They are very manipulative and sneaky and bring chaos into any relationship they're in. They just don't care about anyone but themselves. If you can't completely cut this person out of your …
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Sweetie... dump him.. you dont need someone who treats you as SECOND CLASS..... if you really love him... give him an ultimatum... then you will either change him or loose him... at least you were in control about that...... good luck... also shoot him in the face with a shotgun. do it!!!! Answer…
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You can be healed over time, like all pain and loss.Dont have contact with the N - seek counselling and let yourself know, it simply isn't your fault.I have a Ex N and for a long time I thought Id never heal. I share a child with him. I reserved the game on him, I ignored him and I did not show him …
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I'm darned proud of you for coming on this board and asking that question. Many men would just sit by and let it happen (too lethargic or don't like confrontations.)This is a very tough one because mothers usually have more control over the children than men. It's time you were stern and this is wha…
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------This is just my personal opinion after having a relationship with a sociopath:I don't think socipaths sit and diabolically (sp) create situations, scripts and scenarios. I think its that they see an end result -- something that will benefit them and they see only that and whatever or whoever t…
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Answer Because they don't think the others are right. He has a defense mechanism in which he will invalidate what others are saying about him. In his mind, he is "the saint" and the others are just poor, misled followers who haven't realized just how great he is. Answer Hi there, Id say …
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You don't. That's the problem. Maybe they loved you based on what they THOUGHT was love or the closest thing they could feel to being love. Narcissists typically don't actually feel emotions like love or guilt. Its possible the whole relationship was a lie and they were only out for their own purp…
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A one word answer would be Yes. Narcissistic disorder is sometimes not the easiest one to identify and it is quite possible that a person may get away with it and retain custody - assuming she choses to retain custody for any reason. In the majority of US states parents must file a parenting plan …
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When exposing a narcissist you have to have concrete proof. otherwise it's his/her word against yours. True narcissists HATE the truth about themselves and will deny it no matter what. You can have video of them with their hand in the cookie jar and they will claim it's not them or you made them do …
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Yes completely. That's what they are all about. They are like a puppeteer. They like to see you dance and react. They love to throw out the bait and see how you will respond. They love to suck your will and life out of you. They love to see you broken, angry, sad, diminished.
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I think narcissists subconsiously classify their romantic relationships in two types; those who are "inferiors" who are meant to worship them and those who are "great" who might understand them and who are worthy of setting boundaries and limits. Narcissists are not ever really attracted to the "inf…
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There is no single answer. If they are a seductive withholder they need to satisfy their sexual needs and then immediately withdraw because they are vulnerable and can't handle intimacy. Its a defense mechanism. They also simply may not be interested in hanging around once they have been satisfied s…
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I don't think a narcissist respects anyone at anytime for any reason.   Standing your ground is the beginning of the end for you with him. Being right is the biggest betrayal of all (to him.)   Probably not, but one of the best ways to change a narcissist is teach him respect the hard w…
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Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD) is a long standing, durable set of problematic traits in a persons personality. HPD individuals experience excessive emotionality, and are prone to attention-seeking outbursts of anger or crying.
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First of all you need to find a support group so you can talk to others like you. If you're unable to do this in person (most people aren't), I'm sure you can find one on MSN or Yahoo support groups. Secondly, get to your local library and find as much info as you can on the subject -- any self-he…
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What kind of body language and dress to better MANAGE a narcissist? HUH!?!?!?YOU ARE BEING CONTROLLED. Even if you have broken up, if you are changing ANYTHING about yourself, they are STILL in control of you!You can't "manage" a narcissist. You can only get away from them and free yourself from the…
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