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Find out what she gives him that you don't, give that (or something like it). The only way to end the affair (if the two people involved in it won't) is to fully and brutally expose it---to family, friends, co-workers (if these two work together) and any spouse/partner that the other woman has. An affair dragged out into the open loses the excitement of its illicitness and secrecy. I'd advise privately going to a lawyer and discussing your financial situation first, though. Be fully prepared for whatever occurs. If you've confronted your husband with the affair and he refuses to end it, it's only a matter of time before you decide that you deserve better and divorce him.
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∙ 16y ago
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∙ 14y ago* You break it up by confronting your husband. Communication is always the key to every problem and both of you can find out where things went wrong in your marriage. Let him know you are aware of the affair and that you are not going to put up with it. He has two choices; stay with her or walk away from her and stay in your marriage and get some counseling and work together to make your marriage better. If he chooses not to comply have his bags packed waiting at the front door and find a lawyer to see what you rights are. I agree. i went through this with my Ex-wife. You need to be strong enough to walk away if need be. You need to be emotionally healthy, and ignoring this problem will not help you at all.
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∙ 13y agoDon't be a home wrecker!
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Wow you really got addicted to this married lover's of yours. Why in God's name you wanted your married lover leave his wife? This will sound harsh or mean to you, but what did your married lover's wife did to you, that made you wonder if you can ask him to leave his wife? You don't even know the woman since she was a child. You don't even know her likes and dislikes except the complaint of her husband told you. You don't even know if this married lovers of your is telling you the truth.
Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself if your own mother will be proud of you because your having affairs with a married man. If I offend you with my answer, accept my apology, just being honest here, nothing else..
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When a man is married and he has a lovers will he finally leave the wife for the lover if he loves her?
If a married man leaves his wife for the lover, the lover will have to always worry about whether he will leave her too. WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND.
What are some promises of a man to their mistress?
he wants to be with you and he gives himself to you, ...how about i will leave my wife to be with you.
Is the affair over after mistress tells spouse?
ANSWER: Are you joking, did you think because you had told his wife what he was doing, that will be the end of it. Mistress hardly go and see the wife, of the man she was having the affair, her intent is if the wife learn about her husband, it will automatically going to kick him out of their house. And this is mistress dream. When a woman becomes the mistress it will be for her benefit as well as the married man, why? the only way a mistress can let go her married lover is when she have a soul.
Would a guy not talk to his mistress as much if he was getting feelings for her or could it be something else?
Normally he will love his mistress or he wouldn't leave his wife.
When a women leaves her husband for his best friend does it ever last?
This can work out, but there are no guarantees. ANSWER: From the survey I have read, when a husband or wife had affairs and one of them leaves, married woman who left the husband to be with her lover do works, and last longer. Because married woman knows what to do in relationship so the lover will be happy and satisfy. But with a married man that leaves the wife to be with his mistress, it will work for a bit but things will change because his finding that his mistress has " pros and cons" he never knew before, even if she is a good church going person or not. And with his finding, he will realize about his wife towards him, that he ignored and taken for granted. And there are also married men that will leave their mistress because they found another new mistress that can excite them..
What is a safe way to leave wife?
Listen to Paul Simon: there must be fifty ways to leave your lover!
How to choose between husband or lover?
ANSWER: You do have a big problem right now, why? you were comparing your wife with your mistress. Do you think your being fair towards your wife? How will you feel if your wife compares you with another man. If you want to know the answer, one thing you can do, let go your wife so that way she will not feel humiliated and not worthy of you. From your question, your already know who you wanted, so I think the best solution of your problem is give your wife her freedom so that way she will not have to deal with the pain. ANSWER: Your wife. After all, if you can't grow up and work it out with her, how would you be able to do so with the mistress? And if you feel that you could be able to work things out with your mistress - no matter what - then congratulations! Now use that new found resolve to prove it - by working things out with your wife, no matter what! ANSWER: You are wondering which one you want to keep,am I right? Your wife from your mistress. I don't know the facts of your situation or why your making a decision. Right now it sound like your love for your wife is not whole anymore or even strong enough for you to pick her. As a wife I will tell you the difference between a wife from a mistress. A wife is that person who will stand by you, be there for you, and do everything for you. A wife is a person that will cook, clean, wash clothes, and at the same time take care of the children ( if you have children). A wife is a person that will wait for you if you come home very late at night. A wife is a person that will take care of you when you get sick. A wife is a person that will carry your children in a good sense of act. And there are more if you want to know, but why should you if you didn't have a problem comparing this two women who never knew each others or even being friends. Now let me draw you a picture of a mistress, she is the one that will give you and satisfy you in bed because she knew a few style. A mistress is the lucky one because she didn't have no children ( if she never did ) and can give you all the attention that you deserve because your wife is to busy taking care of things. A mistress is the person that will listen to you when you feel like talking. A mistress is the person that will always available when you call her and wanted to see her. A mistress is the person that will not hear you snore at night sleeping. A mistress is the person that will not wash your dirty clothes, pick things up because you left it in the couch or wherever you hang your stuff. A mistress is the person who's lucky enough to be the one you run to when you feel bored, or even just because. Now I will tell you what's right, pick your mistress because the two of you need to realize that hurting someone will be wrong. Pick your mistress because your wife do not deserve you in her life. Pick your mistress because she is not your maid, and she will always be there for you specially in bed. The finale of your problem is, please divorce your wife so that way, the issue, baggage, and betrayal will not go on her part. If I offend you, I don't mean to but you wanted to know which one you can pick. The mistress.
Should the mistress try to leave the man she is deeply in love with to look for someone single or wait?
Is she in love or lust? If he is cheating on his wife for the mistress. Chances are he'll get another mistress if she becomes his 2nd wife. Drop him and find someone who will be faithful to the women he makes commitments to.
Why some husband get turned off when the wife gives blessing to go back to his mistress?
When a wife gives her husband her blessings so he can return to his mistress he is not expecting this and his wife is as much as saying 'I don't care.' Her husband is wary of her giving up so easily and most likely feels she is having an affair as well and oddly enough while the husband feels it is fine to have a mistress he does not like the idea of his wife having a lover. Therefore, this could be bad for the mistress because the husband is more likely to stay with his wife.
What does it mean if a man cheated on his wife with mistress then cheats with you?
A man who has cheated on his wife with a mistress and then does it again with you, is a man who is motivated by lust, and who will never be sexually faithful to anyone. If he should ever tell you that he intends to leave his wife and marry you instead, don't believe him.
If you are the mistress would you apologize to your lovers family for the affair he started with you?
Hell NO! The wife should be thanking you! You did her a favour... if it wasn't u it would have been someone else! ANSWER: If I am the mistress would I apologize to his family especially the wife, heck no. I don't know the wife, all I know is what my married lover told me about her. And why do I, if it wasn't me who started it all. My only mistakes is by not saying no to my married lover. Now why is it when marriage is been broken, the first person who got blame is the other woman, especially the wife. It doesn't matter what the mistress did, the husband is the one that needs to explain period. There are some mistress who is pain in the butt, but do remember she also got hurt by your husband.
What do you do if you are married and love your mistress?
Sit down and think, if it wasn't for the mistress, would you want to leave your wife? If you are doing it for yourself (and as a bonus get to be with the other woman that you love) then go for it!
