What would you like to do?
How can a narcissist heal himself?
Know and accept thyself. This is what you are. You are highly intelligent. You are very inquisitive. You are a narcissist. These are facts.
Make a list: what does it mean to be a narcissist in your specific case? What are your typical behaviour patterns? Which types of behaviour are counterproductive, irritating, self-defeating or self-destructive? Which are productive, constructive and should be enhanced DESPITE their pathological origin?
Decide to suppress the first and to promote the latter.
Become your own parent. This is what parents do and the process is called "education" or "socialisation". If your path to the adoption of this course is a particular therapy - go ahead. As a metaphor, a narrative, no therapeutic approach is better or worse than any other.
The heart of the beast is the inability of the narcissist to distinguish true from false, posing from being, Narcissistic Supply from genuine relationships and compulsive drives from true interests and avocations in his life. Narcissism is about deceit. It blurs the distinction between authentic actions, true motives, real desires, original emotions - and the malignant forms that are the attributes of narcissism.
Narcissists are no longer capable of knowing themselves. Terrified by their internal apparitions, paralysed by their inauthenticity, suppressed by the weight of their repressed emotions - they occupy a hall of mirrors. Munch-like, their elongated figures stare at them, on the verge of THE scream, yet somehow, without sound. Their curious, vibrant, optimistic True Self is dead. How can a False Self be anything but false? How can anyone on a permanent diet of reflections ever see true objects? How can the narcissist - whose essence is the devouring of meaningful others and their transformation into meaningless and other - ever love?
The answer is: discipline, decisiveness, clear targets, conditioning, justice. The narcissist is the product of unjust, capricious and cruel treatment. He is the finished product of a production line of self-recrimination, guilt and fear. He needs to take the antidote to counter the narcissistic poison. Unfortunately, there is no drug I know of which can ameliorate pathological narcissism. Confronting one's parents and childhood is a good idea if the narcissist feels that he is ready for it. Can he take it? Can he cope with new truths, however painful? The narcissist must be careful. This is playing with fire. But if he feels confident that there is nothing that can be revealed to him in such a confrontation that he cannot withstand or does not already know - it is a good and wise move in the right direction.
My advice to the narcissist would then be: just dedicate a lot of time to rehearsing it and define well what is it exactly that you want to ask. Do not turn this into a monodrama, group dynamics or trial. Ask so that you shall be answered. Don't try to prove anything, to vindicate, to take revenge, to win, to exculpate. Talk as you would with yourself. Do not try to sound professional, mature, intelligent, knowledgeable and distanced. There is no "problem to solve" - just a condition to adjust yourself to. Think about it as diabetes.
At the risk of sounding heartless, I will make three concluding comments:
The narcissist should take life in general and himself, in particular, much less seriously. Being immersed in one's self and in one's condition is never the right recipe to functionality, let alone happiness. The world is a comic, absurd place. It is indeed a theatre to be enjoyed. It is full of colours and smells and sounds to be treasured and cherished. It is varied and it accommodates and tolerates everyone and everything, even narcissists.
The narcissist should regard his condition as an asset. I am a narcissist, so I write about it. My advice to the narcissist would be: ask yourself what can you do with it? In Chinese the ideogram for "crisis" and "opportunity" is one and the same. Why don't you transform the curse in your life - into a blessing in other people's lives? Why don't you tell them your story, warn them, teach them how to avoid the same pitfalls, how to cope with the damage? Why don't you do all this in a more institutionalised manner? For instance, you can start a discussion group on the internet. You can establish "narcissists anonymous" in some community shelter. You can open a correspondence network, a help centre for men in your condition, for women abused by narcissists ... the possibilities are endless. And it will instil in you a regained sense of self-worth, a purpose, self-confidence and reassurance. It is only by helping others that we help ourselves. This is, of course, a suggestion - not a prescription. But it demonstrates the ways in which you can derive power from adversity.
Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
(c) 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications
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Answer You start to get your self esteem back, you're not depressed and your life has other and new people in it. You get out and do things with the only life you were …given to live. If you need to go to a self help group on healthy relationships. The people there can give you lots of suggestions on how to move on with your life in a healthy manner. Answer The above answer is SO VERY TRUE! I addition to this, you gain a sense of peace, experience less anxiety and begin to think of him less and less, and when you do it is more about his inability to love than the good things you recall from the beginning of the relationship. You rebuild your friendships/other relationships and gain a sense of freedom and self respect. Best wishes and an end to troubles... -AlwaysLearning Answer I agree, as well, with both answers. When you can reflect upon the N and feel pity for someone who is sick, then you know that you are healing. Normal, healthy people don't seek out to create toxic relationships with others, so it's only a reflection of your wellness to come to a place where you can honor yourself for being a human being with real feelings.
NO!!! Narcissists don't heal. They are teflon emotionally. Just get away from them.
Absolutely not, and it is unlikely that they work for anything else, either. Most improvement due to such "alternative therapies" are due to placebo effect, and NPD is not su…bject to placebos. The only (sometimes) effective treatment for NPD is intensive psychotherapy, and anyone who tells you otherwise is out to get your money.
somebody who has the following symptoms Reacting to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation Taking advantage of others to reach own goals Exaggerating own import…ance, achievements, and talents Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others Becoming jealous easily Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others Being obsessed with self Pursuing mainly selfish goals Trouble keeping healthy relationships Becoming easily hurt and rejected Setting goals that are unrealistic Wanting "the best" of everything Appearing unemotional
Opinion Narcissism is a personality disorder not a mental illness; a narcissist is perfectly capable to make the distinction between right and wrong. If you wanted to ask if …a narcissist will ever admit to others that he is one- NO-he will not alert the future victims and face the consequences of his actions. Opinion Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder are usually unwilling to acknowledge their disorder. Although some may recognize the difficulty they have in their relationships with other people, they blame others for those problems. They are unable to modify their behavior. They have a conviction that they can do no wrong. They often have a defective ability to interprete other people's speech and actions which leads them to think they are liked and respected. One of the striking hallmarks of NPD is the utter lack of self awareness. Many do not recognize that they have a problem at all. If they do suspect they have a problem they are more likely to step up their self defense, reject outside intervention and avoid introspection at any cost and so they are doomed to repeat their failures and mistakes.
Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which the person has a larger than necessary sense of self importance and put very little importance on the feeli…ngs of others. The recommended treatment for this disorder is therapy, and sometimes medication if there are symptoms such as anxiety or depression present. Hypnosis has not been shown to heal this disorder.
If you completely ignore a narcissist will he act as if you are superior to him and subsequently behave himself?
Answer Again, narcissism is a rare and serious diagnosed personality disorder, not a label. By nature of the disorder a true narcissist wouldn't think anyone is… superior to him.
Answer . It depends on the individual. Counseling is so, so important. The narcissist is controlling and bossy to boot. Often a victim of a narcissist who has left the rela…tionship will show signs of some of the same actions as the very narcissist she/he detests. They can either become docile in their future relationships with little feelings or can become extremely controlling because they refuse to let anyone tell them ever again what to do, think or how to act and they simply lose balance. One should become more independent, more secure, but never lose the good part of themselves. It's because the victim has had to live in that situation for so long.. Also, narcissists are destructive and egocentric. They are incapable of experiencing love and bonding. They use, abuse, and throw people away. I think they have a chemical imbalance. I think the rational/empathetic parts of their brain chemistry become smothered, either, in adolescence or childhood or late teens. I know it is hard to believe that a chemical could prevent somebody from loving others, but what other explanation is there? I was raised in an abusive family, and I can love, so I don't think it is always environment. They used to believe that bipolar and autism were environmental too, but now that has changed. For that matter, they used to think that anyone with a mental impairment was a witch, so we've come a long way. LoL. I think getting out from under the abusive relationship is the best idea. Reinvent your life. Get on with your life, without them, and show you don't need them. Love your life. Get a hobby. Something you love to do. Give yourself things that you can look forward to. Realize what a wonderful person you are, and that their opinions are a result of a flawed mentality. You'll bounce back. That helped me. It took me about two years to get over a person who displayed those traits. It won't take long, if that is what you are worried about. I would like to help them, but don't want them around me, unless they do something that really improves their mentality. If it is a loved one, that is different. But, still, only take as much as you can stand. Don't take the abuse. Have the option to walk away, any time. If they are violent, love them from a distance. Try to get them to look into current medications, or whatever is available. I read that therapy only makes them more astute at bad behavior, and I tend to agree, so adjunctive therapy for them might not be helpful. There is research in this area, so don't feel too hopeless. Maybe someday soon, they can be helped to lead a more normal and enjoyable life, cause it can't be fun for them to have this pathologically abusive, egomaniacal, totally self centered, accusatory, destructive life, that is devoid of real joy, love, sense of well being, empathy, calmness, bonding, attachment, and so on.
Celebrate! Go out with your friends and family because I'm sure your ex kept you from them as much as possible. Reconnect relationships with people you care about and don't …ever look back. If you need help in how to heal do what I did and read everything you can get your hands on regarding NDP that way you will be sure to never go back. Consider yourself lucky you are divorcing from this person. These people are horrible self-centered emotional vampires that don't consider their partners as human beings. Talk to a therapist if you have to but whatever you do stay away and in time you will feel like a human being again. Trust me, I know, I've been there. The day I finally dumped my ex N was truly the day I began to heal.
Not sure about "spontaneous" healing, but this seems to be one of the very few articles on NPD out there with valuable information. http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qa408…7/is_200301/ai_n9197353/pg_1 There are gradations and shades of narcissism. The difference between two narcissists can be great. The existence of grandiosity and empathy or lack thereof are not minor variations. They are serious predictors of future dynamics. The prognosis is much better if they do exist. There are cases of spontaneous healing and of "short-term NPD" [see Gunderson's and Ronningstam's work, 1996]. The prognosis for a classical NPD case (grandiosity, lack of empathy and all) is decidedly not good as far as long-term, lasting, and complete healing. The narcissist is chronically depressed and anhedonic (finds no pleasure in life). Unable to love and in the long run (as a result) unloved - the narcissist is ever in the pursuit of excitement and drama intended to alleviate his all-pervasive boredom and melancholy. The grandiose fantasies of the narcissist inevitably and invariably clash with his drab, routine, and mundane reality. We call this constant dissonance the "grandiosity gap". Sometimes the gap is so yawning that even the narcissist - however dimly - recognizes its existence. Still, this insight into his real situation fails to alter his behaviour. The narcissist knows that his grandiose fantasies are incommensurate with his accomplishments, knowledge, status, actual wealth (or lack thereof), physical constitution, or sex appeal - yet, he keeps behaving as though this were untrue. His permanent existence in fantasyland - intended to shield him from his self-destructive urges - paradoxically only enhances them. This state of things makes him feel sad, enraged at his helplessness in the face of his disorder, and at the discrepancy between his delusions of grandeur and reality. It is the engine of his growing disappointment and disillusionment, his anhedonia and impotence, his degeneration and ultimate ugly decadence. The narcissist ages disgracefully, ungraciously. He is not a becoming sight as his defenses crumble and harsh reality intrudes: the reality of his self-imposed mediocrity and waste of life. His psyche is permeated by these flickers of sanity, these reminders of his downhill path. The more fiercely he combats these invaders of realistic appraisal - the more ubiquitous they become. Infiltrated by the Trojan Horses of his intelligence and consciousness - the narcissistic defenses are bound to be overwhelmed. When they are - either spontaneous healing or a breakdown follow. A lie. In other words, people with NPD don't experience actual "spontaneous healing", but they very often claim to have been healed spontaneously. This claim, of course, is just another narcissistic ploy.
Would a Narcissist recognize himself as one if he saw a description of traits on a relevant website?
There is a lot of false information about narcissism on the interenet. After talking to different therapists, they have all told me the same thing. No, a narcissist would neve…r consider the possibility of being narcissist. No matter what he has read. And if he was diagnosed, he really would not care at all. They don't want to change their behavior or 'get help' because they don't believe there's anything wrong with them. If you sincerely are worried or think that you might be a narcissist, you definitely are not one. I honestly don't think so because, my ex narcissist and I would sit down and watch lifetime movies and he would swear up and down that he wasn't like the male characterers that abused their wives on a movie. He denied it being that way left and right. I think they will deny it just to keep you. My narcissist and I lived like roomates until I moved out. I figured I could do bad by myself. Here is the interesting thing for me. I have not been professionally diagnosed as a N, but I started doing some research recently about it since I have a lot of trouble maintaining my relationships (specifically, romantic relationships). I'm 37 years old. I am single. I have probably had 4 truly special relationships in my life since the time I was 22. They would last 2-3 years each and then I would PUSH the person away. They were all truly special women. But the most recent one, was the most special to me. She was EVERYTHING I ever wanted. And I fought so hard to make her mine. I did everyting in my power. After 3 years, it's all over. What happened? I pushed her away. Simple as that. Over the past few months, I have been trying deperately to figure out WHY I would do that. And why it seems to be the SAME thing I always do. Always! I started seeing a psychiatrist last week. Social Anxiety seems to be the first "issue" we've identified. While I completely agree with that assessment, there seems to be something more going on with me. A couple days ago I googled "men who control women." I stumbled upon this thing called "narcissism." Had I heard of it? Sure. Did I know what it was? Nope. I read on. I continued to do research. This morning I landed here. And specifically on this question. I need to tell you - I am almost 99.9% sure I am a N. And the way I know that is by what I am reading here and on other sites. Trust me, I do not want that "title," especially after reading the feedback about helping a person facing this issue. I'm certain my ex-girlfriend is lucky to be rid of me. I miss her terribly - and, yes, I bug her with an email every now and then trying to "get her back" (manipulation). But this goes beyond her, in a way. I may NEVER have a real relationship. That makes me feel a bit sick and hopeless. I truly truly don't want to be that way in a relationship and it seems there may be no help for this. Scary, to say the very least. But to answer the question - I do believe a N would recognize himself as one, because I did! Unlikely. Sometimes the narcissist does gain self-awareness and knowledge of his predicament - typically in the wake of a life crisis (divorce, bankruptcy, incarceration, accident, serious illness, or the death of a loved one). But, in the absence of an emotional correlate, of feelings, such merely cognitive awakening is useless. It does not gel into an insight. The dry facts alone cannot bring about any transformation, let alone healing. The thought of any imperfection regarding the mind, or behavior of a narcissist would never enter their mind-even if they were reading their own description on a webite. I asked my now-ex to read some of the material on a relevant website, and after he read it, he told me that it didn't really "resonate." Btw, my therapist told me that while he couldn't diagnose someone in absentia, based on what I had told him, he thought my ex had narcissistic traits. In the slim chance that an N would recognize himself in any description, the knowledge would serve only to anger him and put his defenses into action. Disinterest and dismissal would be the typical response, like the reader whose husband said the material "did not resonate." The reason I have not sent my ex any info is that he uses projection so much that he would find a way to accuse me of being an N based upon what he'd read. The hardest thing I've had to accept in all of this is that he will never get it, he will always say the relationship's demise was due to my emotional problems (in fact he claims that the only responsibility he bears was that he "tried too hard to help" me), and he will never be sorry for his brutality. The only healthy satisfaction I will ever get is in my own recovery from my addiction to narcissists, and on the outside chance that one of his future mates may come to me because she doesn't know who else to talk to, and I can assure her that she's not crazy. It is horrifying how few people know that narcissism isn't just an insult, but an actual personalilty disorder that costs people their lives. I immediately recognized the traits of pathological narcissism in myself after reading about it on the site mentioned. It articulated so much of what I have been aware of for decades. Unfortunately, since the prognosis for pathological narcissists is so grim, I feel nothing but despair right now. I feel like a monster that needs to be isolated from the world so it doesn't emotionally hurt anyone. I fathered two wonderful daughters, and now I am freaked out... should I just leave them? What hope is there for me? Answer to aboveIf you come back to read this please don't leave oyur daughters. The fact that your recognized these traits in yourself means there is hope and a chance you can work on it and change things. If you had denied it all and thought it didnt describe you then yes there might not be hope. But please don't feel despondant when you can get better. As with every disease and addiction realizing it is the first step and often the hardest. Look for proffessional help, i have been reading about this alot tonight b/c i have a friend i believe is a N, and i also read that it can be changed, especially if the person is aware and openminded about it. Please look for help, don't give up, you sound like a good person stuck in a bad situation. Good luck, keep your head up, you actually give me hope my friend could also realize her problem one day. I like Sam Vaknin. He nailed it. But he does get lost in words and goes off the deep end. Wordy. good but Wordy. Seriously, you can start by not dumping your major life decisions onto strangers to make. Only you can decide and take responsibility for your actions. The reason somebody said yes, shouldn't alarm you. YOU asked a yes/no question so if a person answers "yes" and it bothers you then maybe you weren't serious. Narcissist do use language less literally than others. They are vague, hint, and use innuendos, extremist exaggerations (in order to shift the frame of reference). Do you literally mean what you are asking? or are you just trying to get someone to respond a certain way. I'm a Narc and I actually take pride in that knowledge. I don't believe that it actually is a "disorder", more like an evolutionary variation. If I'm successful in life and pass on my genes then being a Narc might actually be a good thing. There is no "normal" state of being people... there is no right way too think, feel, or behave... everything is relative in the long run. I'll be successful in life because I seek power, and that hunger for more than mediocre and average is what drives me on. Most people can't understand this desire because they choose the path of least resistance... they never leave their sphere of comfort. Sad really. The Best Answer I know you people hate technical jargon, over analyzing and deep concepts in answers but bare with me...ok? By the way, before I get started--addressing the person above--do you have meaningful relationships with family and friends? "Would a Narcissist recognize himself as one if he saw a description of traits on a relevant website?" Normally no, because for one, if the Narcissist's needs include positive recognition from a society that views mental illness negatively, they will naturally have a tendency to lean toward the denial end of the acceptance spectrum when confronted with oppositional information, no matter how creditable or "relevant" the source. To illustrate, for those of you who are not Narcissists, how would you react to your physician abruptly telling you that you have cancer? To a Narcissist a threat to their perfect self-image is equally a death sentence. In short, it is a common occurrence for humans in general, but more so for the Narcissist--their very self depends on it--to either downplay or reject outright the severity of painful, contradictory, or personally challenging information. A site modeling a "disordered" image is clearly inconsistent with the perfect image of, and thus unrecognizable to, the Narcissist. HOWEVER, this is where it gets interesting. What if the Narcissist, though still pathologically dependent on positive regard, strips "mental illness" of its negative connotation via intellectualization--a defense mechanism that reduces anxiety or emotional distress through excessive reasoning: "mental illness is a construct of society for the purpose of instilling guilt, fear, and self-hate into those who deviate in their behaviour and thinking to preserve optimal productivity and exploit common thinking via collective consumerism", the Narcissist might say. The Narcissist is still a slave to his addiction, and continues to project a compensatory and elitist image, but is no longer a slave to the labels of society. He has ascended--and is self-aware. Although it should be noted that this perceptual and cognitive leap doesn't change how the Narcissist presents himself to the world, for should his suppliers find out, extraction would become unfathomably difficult. The world must never know that the Narcissist is a Narcissist. --Anonymous
I dont mean to be unkind but is a Narcissist dear to you or do you THINK they are? Narcissist cloud and confuse the minds of everyone they manage to consume. As a female… I am often asking myself what it is about my N partner I hold so dear. The answer is NOTHING. The N is not a real person, only a walking, talking construct of who he thinks he is. In their minds, people are not bodies to be loved, adored and cherished; their only purpose is to satisfy the N ego. I am in the process of leaving mine...I want human flesh and blood not a amoebic parasite. Answer True personality disorders cannot be healed from the outside-in. In fact, anyone with a problem has to want to heal him/herself. Answer Oh be careful. Yes the person has to want to heal themselves. You need to be and remain at a safe distance to point out the problem to the Narcissist and step well well well back. They may be very angry at first unless they already know they have this. They may well not believe you. They will have to search for the answer themselves. You will have to pray that the bit inside of them that's good will understand and that the person will try to work it out for themselves. Anyone too close will probably not be the one to help because so much of their energy will be drawn into helping the narcissist.
A narcissist (from character in the Greek mythology, Narcissus) is someone who seeks pleasure only for themselves.
How do you control your frustration at a neighbor who is conceited narcissistic and is always praising himself for his physical attractiveness?
Anyone who would actually go on like that probably believes that there isn't much about him that is worth recommending. He probably doesn't feel smart, successful, loved or ca…pable of being loved. If he points out what he considers to be a good quality, and does it often enough, it may give him a small amount of comfort in a world that is otherwise quite painful for him. Violence will just reinforce his feelings of worthlessness and make him turn more to self praise. There is probably nothing that you could possibly do that will help him, so perhaps the best thing would be to avoid him. I have no idea why you are even talking to this neighbor if he bothers you too much. I'd simply ignore him. There is more to this guy than meets the eye and I don't think it has anything to do with Narcissism. Stay clear of him! AnswerThis person is obviously conceited and stuck on himself. Although all narcissists posess this quality not everyone who behaves this way is a narcissist. You must have some kind of feeling for him or attraction if he is getting to you. The best way to handle him, narcissist or not is to just ignore him. He is like a six year old blowing up a big ballon, (his ego) and wants everyone to notice him. People are not going to change their behavior to keep from Frustrating you. In fact if they knew it was getting to you they would enjoy dong it all the more. Some other things that would cause someone to behave this way are: drug addiction (cocaine), mania phase of Bipolar disorder, Paranoid schizoprenia, or even something called "situational narcissitic syndrome" which is narcissistic behavior that is acute and transient as oposed to classical disorder. Also fellows into show business or do body building etc., they are appearance/body concious so believe others notice only that about them. A person with histrionic disorder is very body concious and actually in love with their physical body person, dressing provacatively and using their body image to manipulate others. A naricissist is very similar outwardly to histrionics. However, it is their false self image that they are fascinated with and they use others as a mirror to reflect back on themselve who they are. Vanity is a sin, and a big part of narcissist life. It isn't even themselves they love, just their false image. Whatever the case is, it is best to avoid people that are conceited and cultivate other kinds of relationships with the "other" NPD (normal personality disorder) By the time you get to know Mr. Ego enough to figure out if he is a classical narcissist he will have burned you already. Just keep your distance and observe how he treats others and how others behave towards him.
Therapy. Lots of it. ME I THINK THA…T HEAL IS A GREAT WORD YOU SHOULD START BY FIRST KNOW THAT YOU COULD HAVE NEVER PLEASED THIS PERSON NO MATTER WHAT YOU DID SECOND YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME THIRD IS NORMAL TO FEEL CONFUSED BETRAYED AND HAVE MIX FEELINGS AND NOT TRY TO UNDERSTAND THEIR ACTIONS OR THE SILENT TREATMENT .LACK OF EMPATHY AND AFFECTION.THEY DONT REACT TO THINGS LIKE MOST PEOPLE DO.IF YOU GIVE LOVE YOU EXPECT SOME AFECTION BACK BUT THEY WITHDRAW FROM IT.IS HARD .I BELIEVE TIME CAN SMOOTH OUR FEELINGS AND READING AND GETTING INFORMATION WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER.PEOPLE SAY MOVE ON BUT I DONT THINK IS THAT EASY,I WOULD SAY TRY TO GIVE IT A PLACE AND MOST OF ALL KNOW IT HAS HAPPENNED TO OTHER PEOPLE TO TRY TO REGAIN YOUR SELF ESTEEM AND KEEP IN MIND IS NOT YOU THEY TREAT ANYONE THAT LOVES THEM THAT WAY THEY ARE INCAPABLE OF REAL LOVE. AT THIS MOMENT I AM GOING TROUGH HELL FOR A YEAR NOW SINCE THE PERSON I LOVE YES YOU READ RIGHT DUMPED ME IN A VERY HORRIBLE FASHION AFTER YEARS OF MENTAL ABUSE AND NOW IS TOTALLY NO CONTACT WITH ME AND WHEN HE HAS A NEW SUPPLY HE MANAGES TO LET ME KNOW.BUT I DECIDED I HAD ENOUGH SO I AM FIGHTING TO OVERCOME THIS.I WONT LET HIM STILL CONTROL ME. I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST AND IF PEOPLE SAY YOU GOT TO MOVE ON THEY MEAN GOOD BUT YOU KNOW AND I KNOW IS NOT THAT EASY. SO DONT FEEL BAD BECUSE YOU EXPERIENCE SOME SET BACKS JUST GIVE IT TIME.
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