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You DO have somewhere to turn. As soon as he is away from you, get to a phone and call 911. They will send the police to help you. Tell the police that you are scared for your life, and you need to get away, they WILL HELP you, I promise. Take your kids, if you have any, and get away, before he kills you. It seems hard, but I PROMISE you, you can do it, just get away, the rest will work out. You can email me any time and I will do what I can to help you realize that it is ok, and getting out of the relationship is the best thing to do.
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You can get away! Part of it is physical, getting away from your abuser...and the other part is mental. Are you convinced it is now time to go? Sometimes, we fear making the descision and escaping but if you are scared for your life (and for your children if you have any) then you MUST go. There are places to hide (women's shelters, churches, police).... You'd be surprised how people will respond....Someone will help you. Please leave NOW.
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When you get out of an abusive relationship is it good to talk about your experience or move on with your life?
Answer It is good to talk about it so that you can move on. If you just hold it all inside then you never really let it go. Talk with someone that you reall…y trust.
When an abusive girl walks away from a relationship will she regret and miss you as much as you miss her and is she as hurt as you are?
Answer WELL IT THINK IT DEPENDS ON WHY SHE LEFT BUT GENERALLY SPEAKING I THINK SO THERE WAS SOMETHING THAT MADE HER STAY AS LONG AS SHE DID AND IF YOU NEEDS TO AB…USE SOMEONE OR SOMETHING AND SHE FOUND THAT SHE COULD DO THAT WITH YOU THEN WHEN THE URGE SRIKES THEY WILL BE BACK..IF NOT THEN SHE WILL MOVE ON TO A WEAKER PERSON TO ABUSE... WHICH MAY BE A GOOD THING FOR YOU.
When a abusive girl with baggage walks away from a relationship will she regret it and miss you as much as you miss her?
Answer Probably not. Depends on the girl.
What can you do if your relationship with an abused woman turns into an abusive one and you become abusive too because she pushes you but you want things to change?
Answer . I admire you for realizing there is a problem and that you have taken partial blame and that's one darn good start.\n. \nThere is only one road you can walk down …... right to a psychiatrist ... BOTH OF YOU! Life is truly so intricate and all of us pack some garabage behind our butts (some worse than others.) Most of us do the best we can, but a smart person, if the problem is a serious one, will seek professional help. Both of you are out of control now and it's only going to get worse. Seek the help and if she isn't willing to join you for counseling then it's time to move on.\n. \nGood luck\nMarcy
Answer Kids don't need anything extraordinary to do in order to have fun, try taking them to a park in the area. Getting out into some fresh air is g…ood for all of you. Some more ideas: Get season tickets to an aquarium and go once per month or more, they normally aren't that expensive and are cheap for a family pass - the one in Seattle (nationally renowned) is only $60 for a family no matter the size. Other aquariums are probably the same or less $ Get into a mall walkers program and take the kids for a walk, you will get exercise and teach the kids the importance of staying fit at the same time Have lunch outside on a blanket ('picnic' if you prefer the term), kids love doing routine things in a different way If you live in farm country, take them for a hike or find some trails nearby. Ask a local farmer to teach the kids about farming and show them the tractors (lots of fun for the kids and you will learn news things too). Take the kids on career field trips (fire station, police station, etc) and ask ahead of time for a person to teach your kids something new. Getting out is easy if you are willing to be creative, it may sound like you will never get your head to stop spinning with 3 kids (the hardest number in my opinion), but hang in there and make yourself leave the house when you need to. Also, set a day out of each week where you can get out by yourself. If there is nowhere to go because you live somewhere rural, just drive to some secluded spot and watch the stars or read if it is daytime. Do whatever you want. GO TO YOUR WOMEN'S ABUSE CENTER IN YOUR AREA I live in British Columbia, Canada and volunteer for Women's Abuse at a Center. There is always someone there to help; many counselors, and some women working there that have been abused and have conquered their fears and gotten on with their life. You can take your children and someone will watch them while you talk to the counselor and the counselors have Kleenex on their desk for a reason, so feel free to have a good cry! Then you will be taken to a "safe house" or "Transition House." You will be expected to take the programs they offer and do some tasks in the "safe house" as far as cleaning. They will also help with legal counsel. HOW TO PLAN TO LEAVE: When your spouse is at work or out of the house, grabjust a few things for you and the children and put them in a GARBAGE BAG, NOT A SUIT CASE and throw in the closet. NEVER phone the Women's Center from your home. If you have a trusted family member (NO ONE IN HIS FAMILY) or a good friend then ask them to phone for you. If there is no one then phone from the center from a drug store, or pay phone. Erase any information off the computer so your spouse can't find out what you are doing and that means all personal messages!!! DO NOT USE A CELL PHONE IF YOU HAVE ONE! Tell NO ONE with the exception of another family member or good and loyal friend what you are doing or where you are going. The next time your spouse is out of the house to go to work or just out then pack that garbage bag, take your 3 children and yourself directly to the Women's Abuse Center. It will be sometime before you can enter back into your home and if there are things there you need the police will escort you when the time is right. Good luck hon! You are stronger than you think! * Assuming the question refers to an abusive situation: The person can contact the National Domestic Violence and Abuse Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, http://ndvh.org; or the National Council on Child Abuse and Family Violence at 1-800-422-4453, http://www.nccafv.org for information and assistance.
Is it supposed to hurt walking away from an abusive relationship when you are not in love but care for the person?
Answer An abuser is about control and brain-washing occurs. The abuser makes you think that you can't get along without them. You are so use to the way you hav…e been treated you actually think you like the person, but in reality you haven't even entered the anger stage yet and it's coming! No one likes to be abused and it's not normal. Love is about treating that person with patience, kindness and understanding, loyalty and being friends first and then lovers. You are hurting because you are one smart person and got out of a bad relationship. At first you will feel lonely and almost tempted to patch things up with the abusive person. Don't! Move on. Make friends and go out and have some much needed fun and learn to laugh again. Give yourself a chance to realize how independent you really are and how much inner strength you have. When you realize you don't need a man in your life to exist, that is when you future relationship with a partner will work out better. There is someone very special out there for you that will treat you the way you should be treated. I was married to an abusive husband and didn't even realize how abused I was (I was young at the time.) It finally hit me 3 1/2 years later and I left him, filed for divorce and found an apartment of my very own (freedom and independence) and also quit my old job and got a much better one. I made new friends and started dating again until I met my second husband. Of course I was lonely for a little and cried myself to sleep many nights, but I held on and I'm so glad I did. I've been happily married to a wonderful guy for 34 years and still going. Good luck Marcy
What can you do to get your daughter out of a verbally abusive relationship because you all know she is scared to leave him?
Answer You can't do much of anything for your daughter, but you know there's an old saying that "People will only do to you, what you allow them to do" so until …your daughter realizes that this is an unhealthy relationship you can talk to her to your blue in your face if she doesn't want to leave she's not going to it may drive her closer to him so my advice is this pray about it and turn it over to your higher power and let him figure it out he'll know exactly what to do and when he says it's finish, it's finish
well y do u fink u idiot cuz there not gona get hit and be happy r they ffs!!
It is important to have support - friends, family or members of the community. In the US, there should be a near-by shelter for women and their children who are trying t…o leave abusive relationships. The most important thing to consider is your safety and the safety of your children. Please consider that when a child witnesses abuse of their mother, this can be more harmful then them receiving the abuse themselves. Call your local police department and they can give you numbers of local shelters. Some shelters are quite nice and set up just like private homes with roommates. Good blessings to you. I hope you find a light at the end of the tunnel.
It just wouldn't work out. I speak'm too good of English. Some one once told me, that you have to choose what you win or loose. They said 'you cant have everyth…ing' and told me not to love in vain, because love doesnt set you free. If you dont take chances you never have to loose... Do you know what that taught me? To live in fear. I lived my life for two years like that and all it brought me was the pain I was trying to prevent. You can stand on the sidelines and watch your life pass you by, so safe, but feeling more lonely than ever before... But one day you have to get up and realize, so what if it hurts me? So what if I break down? In life there's so many turns you can't see, but all we want is to be happy. I had to realize that I dont care about all the pain in front of me, because I just want to be happy. Dont let fear stop you from living. Look hun, pain is a part of life. The key is to understand and learn from your mistakes. So that at the end of the day you're not lonely; you've just made it easier to be happy in the furture.
The answer is quite simple as your taught it every time you go into a grade. Like school. But to state it simply. It is because other planets like Mercury,mars,venus,and s…aturn are filled with toxic gases. Uranus,Neptune,Plute, etc are to cold and have gases too. Earth has life because it has oxygen and Co2, trees and plants which put off oxygen.
most likely yes
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Sometimes you are able to. It all depends on the relationship. I know you and your partner are deeply in love and you probably can not see yourself with out him or her. You ne…ed to sit down with your partner and decide if you both want to put in the effort, and counseling to fix your relationship. If it does not work, then no you can not fix an abusive relationship because it just is not meant to be. When you think about it, you should not try to isolate, control, or limit the one you love because that is not true love. If you have the thoughts of leaving your partner, then you should because if you were truly happy then you would not be having these thoughts. Moving on is a very hard thing, but with great friends to keep your mind off of him/her, it is possible. I experience this myself.
That is a very traumatic point of the child's life. They cannot stop it, and most important things that happen in a child's life is remembered. When the child looks back at th…eir past, they think of the bad things that happened first. So if your parent brutally beat you that's what you're going to remember the most. And it hurts alot to think of such things like that. It's the same as if a child's mother died when they were 9 or so they would remember that and they wouldn't ever forget that moment and what happened. Or if a child had a NDE(near death experience), they would remember that when they looked back on that particular moment. I'm a 14 year old child and I was abused, so when I came up to this question, I had to answer it.
It depends on the circumstances. If you were the abuser or the victim you need to think about your future very clearly. If you were abused often but not daily by someone who w…ould not seek help you need to consider if your relationship should be terminated completely if they are still unwilling. If you are an abuser you need to pinpoint when and why you started such behavior and most likely involve yourself in some sort of therapy. If radically abusive or abused you need to seek intense therapy. If you stood around and took terrible abuse for a long period of time you probably are in need of therapy as badly as the abuser. Just decide if you need to seek therapy or simply continue your life. You'll find happiness in being single if you were abused for a long period of time, and if you run into a new abusive partner or get together with the same partner and he stays abusive then you need to cancel that relationship and remind yourself it is not your fault. Good luck, I know that emotional and physical abuse can be taxing and dealing with it is difficult.
YouÊ may not be able to put your abuser away for life.Ê You do need to protecct yourself and file the appropiate police reports, to be sure that charges are being filed and …he or she can face prosecution for the acts of abuse.