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Amazingly, some boys rise above it and grow up NOT repeating the neglect and abuse, and can maintain solid relationships. However, many boys become resentful, mad, and maladjusted as they grow into young men. They may avoid school, be physically aggressive (fight a lot), and treat people as they have been treated, which leads to a troubled life. Find out if there is a Resource Center at you school that could hook you up with a counselor, or look in the phone book for support groups for neglected kids and young adults....a TRUSTED adult that you feel comfortable talking to could help you find information and help with this situation.

Other boys may play the part of a victim throughout the life, and seek out abusive employers, women, etc.

I'm sorry to say this but from my past experience with a boy without his father who was sometimes emotionally abusive to him was not a good experience. I've found that he has problems with fights and he has problems attaching himself to people. Although if you plan to bring somebody into his life then you had better be planning to keep that person there because even if they don't attach at first a year of being together and he will accept it and will become extremely attached to the person. If you then let that person go your son will be very unhappy and could lash out at others worse than before.

The affect does not have to be everlasting and is contingent upon the depth of denial. Children, regardless of gender, growing up in enmeshed family systems under the mis-care of abusive parents can begin a course of healing by exploring their past and the hidden messages and inter-workings (learned behaviors) within their particular family system. They must gain insight into their past as the foundation for change within their current adult relationships and in order to lead happy healthy adult lives.

In some cases, it just makes the child that much stronger , and that much more determined not to be like their parents, therefore making , one day wonderful people, fathers, and mothers.

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An absent father is a complete different scenario because absence is not creating direct abuse unto the child, ex verbal abuse and physical. When a father puts down a child verbal and physical, both put down a child's immediate and most intimate male relationship. The put downs affect a child's confidence concerning male confidence. It burns it at young. If the child's mother is absent that also comes into play, if not the way the mother "parents" the child. In many cases where a boy experiences lack of approval from the father, the boy has fear of embarrassment around other boys and also lack of confidence to compete in the highly competitive male identity. The mother may coddle and make it worse or she may be a higher disciplinarian and support the boy and his confidence but that still effects the way a boy will relate to woman. At young receiving little fear or negative result from female energy and instant motherly or with no mother instant female attention. females provoke men especially when they start to develop their female "parts" and males then are very distracted and experience the instant female gratifications. lack of male confidence from men especially the father, comfort and acceptance from only the female figure will enable the boys actions to cling to the female energy for security and acceptance, also need of approval and wanting to be needed of his male energy. Unfortunately only focusing on getting secure with female energy keeps him from getting grounded alone as man and farther from facing male identity in a social setting productively, then the females at their will mostly weak because his will be will distract and take advantage of that neediness, thus the boy will fall in cycles of negative relationships. The boys desire to be approved may also make him weak in relationships and he can easily be taken advantage of by woman especially since weak willed woman have the physical temptations to the man's non "chosen" physiological counterparts that fall weak to physical stimuli. There is much more to delineate due to additional factors that can change a situation from the root childhood. There are very few, that are built with the inner convictions to pull through but then we have to add in the external factors as well, school role models, even neighbours, coaches etc.

Hi, I had an abusive father. during his manic phases he was a monster, and one of the things he did, for example,was to rape my step sisters. My healing came from my brothers (2). We somehow rose above him and realized not to take his problems personally. I am 45 now and only in the last few years have i began to put the final touches on putting my father in the past and moving on. The point is that strength can be found from within the family, no matter how shattered and scattered you all may be. by some miracle we came together and helped one another heal......it's a long path, but worth every step. The key though is realizing that HE is the one who is sick and not you. My stepsisters were the ones most impacted to say the least. One has moved on and the other unfortunately lives a compromised life. We do what we can.

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Easy, you grow up feeling and beleiving you're worthless. This is because No one ever believes anything you say about your horrible momster. Even if they see it before their very eyes they just ignore you and allow her to continure the chronic abuse. You are worthless since no one stepped in to protect you or to remove you from that situation. Abusive mothers thrive and will continue to do so as long as society permits the "mother is all loving" and can do no wrong stereotype. there is lots on the internet about battered wives, abusive fathers but precious little on abusive mothers and the effect it has on the children. In general people don't want to think about it.

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Answer 1Well if a mother physical or verbally hurts their daughter then the daughter might be very upset and not want to eat or lock herself in her room or bathroom and cry. If it was a couple of times then she might for give her mother. If it's most of the time then she might have the idea of running away from home or just not really talk to her mother. Also she might think something is wrong with herself and cut herself or try changing her self to make her mother not hate her. What the daughter would think is that her mother hates her. So if a mother did anything like this then I suggest you tell them you're sorry and hold them tight. A mother would have to take her daughter for a day to do fun things all day by themselves to earn her love again.

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Physically and emotionally stressful relationships sometimes set in train a genetic cycle of dysfunctional descendants.

As it is said you follow in your parents footsteps.

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Ok well I am a 14 year old girl and I am answering this question due to past experiences... First thing that comes to mind for me is it will affect the relationship drastically! Why? The answer is simple why would a child like someone who abuses them? hurts their feelings? and makes them feel unwanted?... This is what my mother did to me for all of my life she also physically abused both me and my little brother... He is 8 years of age and he has dealt with this his whole life as well as me ... To the point where he and I hate her... He rips pictures of her up and also calls her a worthless piece of crap and many more names... This is all because of both Emotional and Physical abuse but mostly emotional... the bruises and scrapes and scratches we both had went away but the feeling of being called a "mistake" and "worthless" will never go away...

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It is true sometimes, this father behavior causes men to follow in their father's footsteps but most of the time this is not the case. I would seek counseling from a therapist, just to talk through the abuse concured from the father. All and all, it is about the person, people are not their parents. If someone is becoming abusive they need to get help, then they can stop it.

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