How do you deal with a pathological liar?

Answer 1

There is no way you can do this. A pathological liar is a difficult person to deal with. Once the trust is broken; even if they are telling the truth you will never trust them again.

Pathological liars are just that, and little can be done for them. Psychologists/Psychiatrists seldom have luck with these types of people. Pathological liars have many reasons why they are this way. Perhaps the way they were raised (abuse/fear), they have no self confidence, they don't feel they have gotten as far in life as they should so they lie about what they do or they are hiding something about themselves they don't want anyone else to know.

If you confront this person they will be in constant denial and personally, I've experienced it and I know they will drive you into a frenzy. It is best to either accept this in the person and not count on them for anything too serious in your life (if they are a likeable sort of person) or walk out.

Good luck Marcy

WHY DO WE LIE? LIE THEORY A Belief in being not yourself, not necessary at all!

Why do people lie?? If it was SSID I would have Googled it, but it wasn't.

Observations leads our processess to conclude to a result. But I would try not to conclude the observation so soon in my experience of meeting people who either believe in their lies or others who believe it is their birth right.

When we lie, we are not being ourselves? This is the first step towards living a lie. I don't really believe in the statement above, cause if you notice consumption of alcohol and its reaction to most unspoken minds make them speak the truth. If you read the statement once again it actually means once you lie you do undergo changes both physically and mentally. One definitely won't get an extra limb or couple of inches more but some are so new to it, their eyes make rapid movements and they try so hard to remain casual.

It is a sad fact that it is easier to lie to some people, than it is to tell them the truth. But here's the point of wonder: what would be the difference in lie and deception? Or are they synonymous?

Fear Of Judgement:

The reason that we lie is because we fear the judgment of others. Such judgment may be legal in nature, or moral in nature, but either way our motivation for lying remains a fear of judgment. There is another fear born motivation for lying which is related to the judgment issue, and that is acceptance. We feel that we need to justify our actions or we will not be accepted by others, and often our justification of our actions is a lie. The justification of our actions can be a lie not only to others, but also to ourselves.

The Ultimate Lie: The belief that we are not good enough is a product of the fear based society and seems to have become built into our physical existence. The belief that we are not good enough is a lie in itself, perpetuated by many of our religions, by government, by education, and by the media. The truth is that we are good enough. Comparisons don't have any roles but one cant really live without it too. It gives us more opportunity to improve. The lie that we are not good enough often causes us to attempt to justify ourselves so that we will be good enough to be accepted within the artificial standards of the earth plane, standards which are in themselves lies perpetuated by the fear based existence. The truth is that we are not only good enough for artificial earth plane standards and the related judgment, but we are beyond the artificial temporary existence of the earth plane. The earth plane is an illusion, and the current fear based earth plane existence is built upon a lie. However, the earth plane is necessary for experience, and the truth is available for all to see. The truth has always been available for all to see, if we choose.

The Prison Of Illusion: The lie that we are not good enough to be accepted within the standards of the earth plane, which are in themselves based on a lie causes us to justify ourselves often with another lie, until we find ourselves existing within an illusion built by layer upon layer of lies which are fuelled by fear of judgment. This is how fear has built upon itself. Fear is ever increasing as more and more layers which are no more than illusion are added. We have found ourselves existing within a prison of illusion, and shackled within this prison, by the very lies which are the foundation of the prison.Its got a lot do with acceptance and how you react to the prison. Recognition: The prison keeps us bound and tied. We fear releasing ourselves from the shackles for it means defacating that illusion that has become us. Our reality is no longer a reality unless we have created it. The freedom that we long to have seems like a fantasy; yet inside we know that by releasing ourselves from this prison, we will know true happiness. We fight for the ability to overcome that ultimate lie. We long to recognize our true value as an individual without the shackles but we do not know how; and then we realize, freedom has its price. That price is impossible to quantify, and that moment we recognize that the price cannot be quantified, is the moment of ultimate empowerment. Recovery: As we are empowered we enter the process of recovery. The burtality of recovery is hard as we realize the pain that we have caused others, but even more so, the pain that we have subjected upon ourselves. We have feared judgment so violently, that we have enhanced our fear and distrust in humanity alone. Inside we fight to locate our center of gravity, yet we don�t know what or where that is because of the illusional state of mind that has bound us for so long. And then, we fall to the ground empowered by the ability to see the light. We have been empowered by some gravitational force to move towards recognition, and beyond, if we choose. We do choose, but the road is long and dreary as we learn to love ourselves. The secret stone that we have clung to for so long is slowly broken down into smaller and smaller pieces. We fight for those we have hurt to forgive us, yet ultimately, we long for that ability to forgive ourselves as true freedom cannot be attained until we do so. The problematic arena that we circle around daily in is that which holds us captive; and we know that the lies are tearing us apart, we have recognized, and been empowered by that recognition, but moving beyond - towards true recovery and happiness seems impossible at times. We fight for the ability to stand up and say I am who I am.. take me as I come. Yet, we do not accept ourselves as we are. We fear reality, yet long for reality. And then, we break � collapsing to the ground tired of holding onto that illusional life and we release it. Forgiveness is available, but only to those who can forgive themselves. We have found our value, and we know that it is going to be that much greater. Fear will arise and violence will fall. We will long for that approval and acceptance, but it will be based on our merits alone, and factual merits for that illusional life is just such � an illusion. Love can be found, peace and harmony are available; and true happiness is presented for we have found that child within us and we no longer have to run.

Meh, I don't really, if they're ur family it'll be easy, my brother is a pathological liar, but he JUST WOULDN'T listen to you, if you confronted him, don't confront them, but consider taking them to a pshycologist.

Answer 2

You need to be very sure of your facts before you start. And you need to want to help her, not be angry with her. I would make sure there are no distractions and no escape routes. Sit down with her in a neutral environment when there is no-one else around. Make sure she doesn't need to rush off to pick up the kids or something. Present her with the facts - this is what she lied about, and this is how you know she lied. Be calm. Do not shout. Tell her how you feel - hurt, upset, worried. Ask her for a reason why she lied - there may be something going on you don't know about. And be prepared to listen to what she says. Don't let her storm off. She needs to face up to what she does. Ask her what SHE thinks should be done. Does she want counselling? Is there changes in her life that you can do together? Lastly, be prepared to trust her. If she says that she wont do it again, trust her and give her another go. Remember she is your wife and be prepared to do anything to help. Good luck.

Answer 3

You don't. You though must walk away. They are not inmate trust worthy partners or good friends. A casual friend no telling of secrets or giving them any trust is all you should invest

Answer 4

lol u don't