How can you divorce a man that is still in love with you?

Answer 1

A friend of mine who is a psychologist once told me, 'If any person that is in your life is making you feel sad more often than making you feel happy then it's time to move on.' I believe in that statement. When someone loves you they should be there for you to the best of their ability, respect you and the same goes for yourself. I noticed a change in my husband. He was lethargic, moody (when he is generally a very laid back person, and losing weight) so I decided to make a doctor's appointment for him myself and I went with him. I wanted to be sure there was nothing physically wrong with him before I lowered the boom on him. At first I thought it was his thyroid because he'd had a thyroid operations 10 years ago, but, it turned out he had what they call Celiac Disease which is a problem with wheat gluten. I am so glad I went this route or I could have made a very big mistake. I suggest you try getting your husband to a doctor first to be sure there is no physical problem with him. Men from 40 up also go through what they call 'Andropause' and use to be called 'Mid life crisis). They can have hot flashes, depression, become moody and miserable. Sort of like a woman going through menopause, but not quite as dramatic. If this is the case then your husband should have his testosterone levels checked and a good physical. The doctor may feel that your husband may need to be on short term antidepressants. If you feel the above is not the cause and he is cheating on you or he doesn't love you, then you are going to have to move on no matter how painful it is. I was married before to a man that was mentally/physically abusive and I did love him with all my heart, but he was difficult to live with and also cheated on me. It broke my heart, but I knew if I stayed he would ruin my life and I decided 'I' deserved better. I caught him cheating and I immediately filed for divorce. I kicked him out, found an apartment, got a new job, made new friends and life was wonderful. At first I just got my toes wet and went out with my girlfriends, but then I started to date. Some of the men I dated were losers, but thankfully most were nice guys, but we were more friends than anything (I still have a couple that I am friends with to this day.) I eventually was introduced to a wonderful man by one of my male friends and we've been married now for 35 years. Don't give up your life on someone that can't put their all into your marriage or is disrespecting you. If you can honestly say you gave it your best shot and nothing is working then move out and know that you are independent, strong and will meet the proper mate in the future.

Answer 2

My question to this would be is it that you are leaving her or that she is leaving you?

I'm assuming it's the latter.

Sometimes love doesn't grow or evolve in the same way for both partners. My advice to you as someone who is not a professional in this field, is to seek out a counselor who could help you through this difficult time in your life. Divorce is never easy for either party and as someone who is divorced and the person initiating the divorce, it was hard for me, too.

Best of luck to you and hopefully you and a professional can find a solution to your question together.

Answer 3

if your husband is not good to you then he doesnt deserve to be with you, even if you still love him. your love for him may make it a temptation for you to stay with him but you dont want to leave yourself in a dangerous situation or an unhappy marriage

Answer 4

It only takes one person to break up a relationship. If you marry someone, that means you love them and they love you. Sit down and talk with your husband and tell him nicely that you do not love him anymore. Make sure you are serious about this and make sure that he understands that you are serious about this too. If there is a problem between you two, maybe by sitting down and talking you'll be able to solve this problem and not divorce. If you really just don't love your husband, you have to end the relationship sooner or later.