How do you get your confidence back after being in a 4 year relationship of mental and emotional abuse?

Answer 1

first off im going to keep it simple, do not move on to a rebound too quickly allow some time for you to go out with your your girls :D let love come to you and know that your special just that person wasn't right for you, however that doesn't mean that you wont find love. it will all happen in time. talk to friends for reassurance and advice. remember you can't love unless you love yourself.

Answer 2:

I applaud you for getting out of a toxic, unhealthy relationship. You are strong for not shutting your eyes to the truth. Almighty God Jehovah is outraged when someone uses power to humiliate, intimidate or oppress others. Read Ecclesiastes 4:1 which says in part... " I saw the tears of the oppressed." You need to grasp thst you do not deserve to be mistreated. You are very precious in God's eyes.

Work on developing healthy self respect. Talk to someone about it even if it means getting professional help. Keep busy by engaging in reading, exercise, sports or hobbies. See Awake article.

Answer 2

You might try therapy. Something like that can affect you mentally, and emotionally. It would probably be a very good idea to get all that stuff out. You might be surprised how something like that can affect you. It affects your self esteem, it does a lot of things to you. Not just physical abuse either. Mental abuse, verbal abuse, or emotional abuse can all f*** you up. And remember that what he/she did is just that... abuse. You don't deserve it. And don't let it affect you negatively. And don't stuff, and don't go into denial. :) trust me, I know how the littlest thing can affect you for a long time, depending on what exactly it does to you inside.