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Your best strategy is to show him that HE has no merit in your life. Stay calm and appear unaffected. Let your attorney handle the legal responses and just stick to the facts. N's are so arrogant, they think a judge will recognize their superior intellect and side with them. Don't even refer to him by name, he's just a respondent or petitioner. It will make him furious to be considered so "ordinary" and will enforce to the judge that you need relief from this man. Take friends with you to court, not to testify but for emotional support. If he can't get a reaction out of you, you are of no use to him and he'll leave you alone. DON'T FALL APART! You can do this!
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Unfortunately, I have had to deal with two narcissists in the past four years. I have found that they become completely powerless if you do everything that has been mentioned …in the previous answers (mirroring them back, raging back, keeping your comments to outsiders truthful and very short, keeping records of their communications)....plus a few more things: 1. Always remember who you are and what your values are. If you are confident about what the right course of action is for some horrible situation that has arisen due to the narcissist, you will be able to defend yourself better. Sometimes this means taking an evening out just to think about how you feel about things. 2. Be everything that they want and more. If you have to deal with a narcissist long term, it helps tremendously if you: a) look really good b) know exactly what you're talking about c) make sure that your own behavior is above reproach (this is critical) d) perform better than they do (at work or in some sport that they like). All the above can be very difficult to do, and takes time, but will certainly put you in the position of power. 3. Be ready to walk away. Don't forget that whatever effort you put into getting along with these people will never be repaid. They give back a fifth of whatever you give them - money, work effort, affection. Don't be devastated when you discover that you mean little more to them than a fashionable accessory...just take a deep breath, open the door, and walk away. Good luck! ======= Get away from the situation where the narcissist has power over you. For example, if the narcissist is your boss, get another job, even if it pays a little less, is less interesting or the commute is longer. If the narcissist is physically aggressive, do not get intimidated, do not back down. Do what you need for your protection - go to the police or courts as appropriate in the place you are. Be ready to fight back. Narcissists are not exactly brave warriors. If they realize that the person they are abusing can hurt them back (if not physically, then financially or by sending them to jail etc) , they usually slither away. If the narcissist is one or both of your parents and you are too young to live on your own, see if you can manage to go and live with your grandparents (provided they are not narcissistic too). Don't break any laws, because the narcissist might then get a powerful ally on his side - the police. You don't want to help your abuser get the better of you. If the narcissist is taking you to court, get a good lawyer. Disclose to the attorney that the person taking you to court is a narcissist. The lawyer will know if that can help your case. When you finally turn the tables on the narcissist, be aware that she or he will then portray themselves as the victim. Don't bother if that happens. Last but not the least, abandon the narcissist (not if it is a child, of course). A relationship with a narcissist is as beneficial and pleasant as a relationship with a rattlesnake. Deal with them the same way you would deal with the situation if you spotted a rattlesnake a few feet away from you. When you terminate the relationship with the rattlesnake er... narcissist, do not seek "closure" or try to explain to them why you are taking such steps or explain to them you still wish them well etc. A narcissist will merely try to exploit what s/he sees as your weakness when you do such things. If the narcissist suffers because of your steps to move away from her or him, remember, they brought it on themselves. Dispositionally, the narcissist is of most, "Controlling". The need for control is most formidible, in every aspect of their life. Nothing can be compromised at any time, any event, or in any detail. Deceitfullness is utmost, and the edge to further any situation to have as one may is only to be subjected to a petty artifice, or that of a, "grifter". Words are spoken as an illusion of confidence. Despite all. Ignore and move on to that of what you can enjoy. They have free rent in your head. Fill it with some new tenants! That of what or those you enjoy! You may need to start long ago where you left back in you life before the "Wolf came to your door." Keeping the door locked may not be such a bad idea. Negative emotional contagion, and the parasitic symbotic relationships need to end. For every cloud has silver lining. Enjoy Oneself! Be Free! Find something new! Be yourself! Live from this time onward! It can be a, "Newest best day and Life"! You are a, "Miracle"! -- Quit entertaining the Narcissist. *** I've had to deal with one too, and I've found that it helps to turn the tables on her. Besides proving to others that she is legally liable for what she did (she's trying to slither her way out of this one), it sets her into a rage, especially since even she knows that she can't be consistant with her expectations of how I interact with her when compared to how she interacts with me.
Answer you take it and ignore it you laugh it off and agree sarcasticly.. tell him lines such as "what ever" and "suuuuuuure" if you show it dosent b…other you he or she will drop it eventualy... DO NOT SINK TO THEIR LEVEL Answer Trust yourself because you know who you are and you're one strong person for leaving this narcissist. I call this "shaking the old apple tree" which means those that choose to believe his lies about you were never your friends in the first place and those that stand by your side are your true friends. Consider it a short-cut in life. Good for you! Keep going girl! Answer Someone once told me, "You know who you are. Walk with your head held high - with dignity." The truth 'always' prevails. If not now - later. Try to trust this universal law. Those who know you - those worthy of your friendship and love - will always know the truth. The rest will eventually, even if you are not privy to it. Going against our instincts to defend can be one of the most difficult tasks before us, but silence can speak far louder than our words. If ever in a situation where you are faced with a "fact" about yourself that is untrue, simply find a few powerful, calm, mature words that will get the truth across, while retaining your dignity and composure. Never forget who you are and walk assuredly in that truth. Best wishes & an end to troubles, AlwaysLearning
You cant just leave. U can't deal with a person who has no feelings for others, no concience no remorse no empathy. Its like asking how do u have a conversation with an angry …hungry tiger. You can't. And they will turn the tables on you its like trying to shoot superman. Your the one who will get hurt because you do have feelings.
\n Answer \n. \nIf you have to work closely with them then try to deal with their attitude if possible. If it's affecting your work then it's time to see your Supervis…or or the boss. If you do the latter don't say the person is narcissistic because they have not been clinically deemed so, but just say they are impossible to work with.\n. \nBefore you get too upset and do the above try asking this person out for a drink or a coffee and see if you can get to know them on a work basis a little better. They may have personal problems that comes off that they are narcissistic. Always realize that in a place of work there are always those that like to climb over the bodies of others to reach their goal.\n. \nMarcy
Are there any circumstances in which a business should try to handle legal matters without a lawyer?
Answer . HOW WILL YOU HANDLE CONFIDENTIAL COMPANY MATTERS?
Answer Good question! Probably the most important thing to realize is that narcissists are so self centred that they are incapable of true, deep, feelings for oth…ers. Their definition of 'friend' is likely to be very different from yours. They come first, all the time. You should not take this personally. They can't help it. It's probably best not to expect too much from a narcissist because you will inevitably be disappointed. You will probably need to keep reminding them that you are just as important as they are and that you have the same rights that they do. You will need to stand up for yourself when they talk over the top of you, interrupt, or otherwise treat you badly (which they invariably do). By all means be 'friends' but don't count on them too much. The following links explain more: www.ultimate-self.com/the-narcissist/ www.ultimate-self.com/unnatural-narcissism/
the best thing is speak openly and honestly with him/she
By setting bounderies, and not letting ANYONE, no matter who it is, manipulate, lie, and bully you. You almost always need to "detatch" and "accept" the fact that NPD's …are wired differently. They are only 1% of the population. If you are normal, as you put it, you are NOT going to tolerate the drama NPD's seem to constantly create. Good luck. You really do have a choice in this matter. You always have choices even though sometimes they are hard to follow through on. You can either set up those bounderies and be consistent, or keep setting up lesson after lesson until you become aware of how YOU are allowing this to manifest in your life. You can ONLY change YOU!
It is doubtful a narcissist will even notice a successful woman as they are to engrossed with themselves. If the do notice they will continually point out the woman's flaws. *…NOTE: This is strictly an opinion and should be verified by others with more knowledge of the subject.
Eventually i convinced my sister that since we are all adults now there is no need for the xmas gift giving thing. i don't 'do' xmas anyway, so that also helps. She used… to give me secondhand clothing that smelt, or just stuff that is so completely NOT something that would interest or please me, it was pointless anyway. What sort of gifts does she give you?
I think that you should either sit down with him and have very serious, but calm, talk about it. And if you think it is necessary then go ahead and set up some type of family …counseling, but don't do anything behind anybodies back, because you do not want to create mistrust..... I Hope it works out for you, I am 16, and I would defiantly prefer having two parents of equal strength, rather than one overpowering the other. ..Good Luck..
They won't except it or even listen to you in the first matter, everything is all about them. Even if what you say is very true, a narcissist will take it personal and claim t…he victim role well until you stop "insulting them". They will not believe it one bit and will seek vengeance on others when confronted with the truth because they cant handle critism of any kind. Narcissist are sick in the head and lack empathy for others but expect people to go easy or have empathy for them. Be careful, they just may play tit for tat with you because they're very "extreme" and immature even at an old age. Narcissist want to bring you and others down when theyre exposed and will try all types of tactics to make you and others look bad because you exposed the truth about them, and thats one thing narcissist won't forget! Hateful creatures, wolves in sheep clothing is what they really are. They play sweet infront of some and show their colors infront of others. Be careful!
No because rejection means you know who and what they really are and know all their true self. They think they are god and that one cannot live without them. They believe that… you are the one who needs them, when in reality it is the other way around. Once a narcissist always a narcissist. They cannot change
Expose them for the loosers they are, then laugh at them. If they get violent, punch their lights out using the anger they have created in you through all the lies, cheating, …stealing and scum like behavior. Then move on with a smile on your face and never look back. It worked on Sandra Leske. lol.
You report the theft to the police and press charges. You report the theft to the police and press charges. You report the theft to the police and press charges. You report… the theft to the police and press charges.