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* A spouse who has cheated on their mate has lost the bond of trust and your partner may never trust you again. Hopefully, in time they will learn to trust you, but it will take a long while for that trust to grow again. The old saying, 'Once a cheater always a cheater' is not always true. People are just human and can make one big mistake, but never do it again. Communicate your feelings to your spouse and let them know that you've made a complete fool of yourself and why you think you have and then try to convince them to give you another chance. If financially possible this is a good time to go on a trip somewhere so you can have some time together and a good change of scenery. If you can't afford this then perhaps a weekend away together would be good for both of you.
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∙ 15y ago
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∙ 12y agoThis is one of the toughest decisions to take in an ongoing relationship, after the trust has been broken. The feelings of betrayal and hurt overwhelm you and such feelings are natural. Unfortunately, there can never be a third person who can advise you on this delicate matter. You might have to take some hard decisions, and predictably, the prospect of continuing the relationship with the same person who took advantage of your trust might seem impossible for some time.
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∙ 13y ago- If you have proof positive your spouse is cheating then confront them and stop enabling their behavior. Let them know they are either going to try to save the marriage by seeing a Marriage Counselor and making an effort to improve upon the marriage or they are out the door! If they are in denial and continue to cheat then you are going to have to make some heartbreaking decisions and follow through on your threat; perhaps get a separation for the time being and this may well shock the spouse that is cheating into wanting to earn your trust back and stop their cheating. Although cheating is extremely hurtful to the other spouse and there are no excuses for cheating there are several reasons a person may cheat: the spouse may have grown up in an environment where one or both parents cheated; they may have had relationships in the past or possibly even a marriage where their mate cheated; it is also possible that the cheating spouse may constantly need to know they are attractive and virile to the opposite sex; some cheating spouses feel unloved and try to find love; others are addicted to sex and seek further relationships while others simply like sex and the danger of being caught cheating (a thrill.) Good communication skills and either a Marriage Counsel or a psychologist is the only way a marriage in this amount of trouble may be saved, but it takes the two spouses to agree to get the help.
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∙ 13y ago- An individual that has to overcome infidelity should seek psychological counseling because there is something causing the person to feel they cannot settle down to one woman or man. There are many causes for infidelity by one of the spouses: someone has cheated on them in the past and hurt them deeply; one or both of their parents have cheated on the other or each other; the environment in which one grew up may make the individual of infidelity feel they cannot trust anyone and often the individual having problems with infidelity is looking for either a mother or father figure and someone to take care of them or they don't feel truly feel loved by their mate.
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∙ 13y agoIf you really love then yes you can, but it will never be the same no matter what. There will always be that distrust between the two of you.
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∙ 14y agoYou don't.
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How can you restore your trust again after your spouse cheated the second time?
don't trust because if its the second time the chance has gone and so is the trust
Why i Had affair got divorced?
If you had an affair, your spouse must have had a very broken heart, and can not love you again, or trust you. what you do for pleasure with someone other than your spouse causes your spouse a great deal of pain, that's why it is usually frowned upon.
Will a marriage survive after a spouse cheated?
It is possible, but it will take time for trust to be rebuilt.
Is making an apology from your spouse affair enough to believe him?
When your husband has an affair and apologizes this is not good enough to fully trust him because he decided on his own to break that bond of trust you both once had for each other by having the affair. Make him earn your trust back and if he really loves you and is not a man that has had more than one affair then seek marriage counseling to help give you the tools to make your marriage stronger.
After your spouse affair is there any help to save your marriage?
When a spouse has had an affair and broken that bond of trust it is difficult to earn back. Going to marriage counseling may help the situation and explain to the spouse that marriage counseling is not about blaming one of the spouses, but giving them tools to learn to communicate in their marriage and know how to rectify any future problems in their marriage. Many couples may have experienced one spouse having an affair and it is not uncommon for both couples to have an affair, but, they do manage to save their marriage. It is entirely up to the couple.
How do you not put your kids in the middle after your spouse has an affair?
It is extremely important that the couple are mature enough to realize that the children simply see their 'mom and dad' and love them both and often do not understand problems their parents have in their lives. Therefore, if you must discuss the affair send the children to the grandparents; another relative in the family or go on a mini vacation where you can have two or three days to discuss the affair and what both of you are going to do about it. Since the spouse that had the affair has broken that strong bond of trust with their spouse it will take time for them to earn that trust back. Meanwhile, put your hurts and anger aside when around the children and seek marriage counseling where the counselor will give the spouses tools to not only deal with why one spouse feels the need to have had an affair, but also how to deal with the children.
Can you love your spouse again unconditionally after his affair?
I'm not sure if a person can love someone unconditionally after his affair because first of all, you are disappointed at him. To build up trust and reliability, it could take a long time. however, if he truly apologizes and understands what he has done, and you forgive him for it, then you should at least try to love him. after all, he is your spouse.
Do you have emotional confusion resulting from your spouse affair?
Yes, when a spouse has been cheated on they are emotionally confused; deeply hurt; lose of trust and anger. To have another affair with someone else breaks the bond of trust that was in the marriage vows and most married couples try to make an effort to be honest with each other, but, unfortunately this idea of honesty seems to be fading quickly by the high statistics of cheating spouses, but a small percentage do make it through a long marriage without either having an affair.
How do you repair a marriage after an affair?
How? it will be very hard because the trust between man and his wife was broken. There are some couple that end up divorce because their life isn't the same anymore. And some will take very long time because the betrayed spouse will be afraid and wonder what if? could it? husband might do it again. It will be hard for the betrayed spouse to trust again especially if the guilty spouse was emotionally connected with his ex mistress. Repairing your marriage after the affair might happen but it will take you a long time.
How do you repair marriage after an affair?
How? it will be very hard because the trust between man and his wife was broken. There are some couple that end up divorce because their life isn't the same anymore. And some will take very long time because the betrayed spouse will be afraid and wonder what if? could it? husband might do it again. It will be hard for the betrayed spouse to trust again especially if the guilty spouse was emotionally connected with his ex mistress. Repairing your marriage after the affair might happen but it will take you a long time.
How to respond to your spouses affair?
The only response to a spouse have an affair on you is one of hurt; deceitfulness and the breaking of that bond of trust you thought you both had as well as taking your self respect away. Too many women are romantics or fear striking out on their own so they stick with a boyfriend or spouse because of it. and men often do the same thing. You are in charge of your life and destiny so sit down with your spouse and spell it out loud and clear you are not putting up with their affair and either they go to marriage counseling with you; make an effort to repair your relationship and they have to earn your trust back again or you will file for divorce. This should get the cheaters attention.
Will your marriage ever be the same after your spouse affair?
People are only human and make mistakes so if this is the first time your spouse has cheated on you and they are willing to go to marriage counseling to learn tools to deal with problems in the marriage then yes, there are marriages that survive an affair and end up being stronger for it.
