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Narcissists are addicted to narcissistic suppy.
Narcissistic Supply (NS) includes attention, fame, notoriety, adulation, fear, applause, approval. It is a mixed bag. If the narcissist gets attention -- positive or negative -- it constitutes NS. If he can manipulate people or influence them -- positively or negatively -- it qualifies as NS.
Even quarrelling with people constitutes NS. Perhaps not the fighting itself -- but the ability to influence other people, to induce feelings in them, to manipulate them emotionally, to make them do something or refrain from doing it.
Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
(c) 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications
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Is there any way to get back an emotionally abusive narcissist who was once in your life but has 'discarded' you from theirs?
Be disrespectful to yourself and shower hm/her with exaggerated respect. Humiliate yourself and worship the narcissist. Be his/her loyal slave. You have the choice to either …respect the narcissist or yourself, because you can't respect both of you at the same time. Choose wisely. Please don't do yourself a disservice by trying to get a narcissist back into your life. You answered your own question...they dicarded you from theirs...just as they will continue to do with either you or others. You are worth much more than that. That person will not respect you or give you the love you deserve. Why would you want to re-introduce an abusive narcissist into your life? Count your blessings for having gotten rid of him!
Childhood sexual abuse may result in mental health problems of various kinds but is not always the case. I was molested several times as a small child. I am not a nar…cissistic but maybe it contributed to me staying with my narcissistilc husband for 25 years before I got out. Mickert I would say narcissism is started by child abuse. Depression is more apt to happen or withdrawal from society. The quicker one can get help once they learn of the sexual abuse the better chance that child will have with the rest of their lives. Being sexually abused will stay with the person the rest of their lives and it's important to openly discuss it when something is bothering you, with a friend, family member or a psychologist or psychiatrist. It's important the person realizes it is not their fault! Pathological narcissism is a complex phenomenon whose etiology is not entirely clear yet.
Not all abusers are narcissists, but all narcissists are abusive. Thats right. Some abusers are BPD. Some are sociopaths. But all abusers have a personality disorder. All are …selfish (to a dangerous degree). All lack empathy (when it gets in the way of their selfish desires..and there are innumerous desires, they are never satisfied).
What type of professional mental health counseling is recommended for victims of narcissistic abuse?
I was in a seventeen-year relationship with an abusive narcissist and was subsequently diagnosed with chronic and severe PTSD. I had the good fortune to be treated by an exce…llent psychotherapist with expertise in trauma. EMDR was used in our sessions and I found it to be remarkably beneficial.
Constant invalidation of your thoughts opinions or Ideas. Little to know empathy. Does not seek to understand others, their ideas, or views. Has a superiority complex. is ma…nipulative. Constantly putting you down. Puts you down in front of others. Has to show you they are 'better' than you.
Yes, you should ignore him or anybody who is abusive. The truth is: nobody is perfect and sometimes we need people to teach us a lesson. Ignoring him is the best thing you cou…ld do for him and for YOU. If he really loves you, he will eventually realize he made a mistake but this would only happen if you ignore him long enough, and this means, ignoring his first attempts to contact you, it is hard but at the end it is worth it. Good luck =)
Narcissist lack empathy lack of feeling heard our feeling sorry for them who are narcissist they feed on pitty the insecurity in relationship drive conversations regarding… trust imagnine living it.
Because they are narcissists and that type of behavior is in their nature. You need to educate yourself about narcissism. The Mayo Clinic website is a good place to begin. Dra…gging someone else down makes them feel like they have power.
Yes they can be both very emotionally abusive and physically abusive. I always tell people if you suspect someone of being a Narcissist run away from them as fast as you… can. They are scary and hurt many, many people to always fulfill their own needs. They do not feel or care about anyone else besides themselves. They can't. These freaks puzzle doctors because somehow they were born to be evil, and are sort of like a sociopath. Some more extreme then others but still will hurt you deeply if you allow them to suck you into their warped world of dream land. No matter what it is it will always be about them and their needs. It will never be about you or your feelings ever! At the first sign RUN as fast as you can or you will spend if you survive it a fortune for a shrink because these people will screw you up badly. They are not worth taking a chance on. Even doctors can't really help them. The worst part is they refuse to ever believe they have a problem. This condition is not curable based on everything I have read and I did survive one barely. It was the scariest thing I have ever dealt with in my life and never would I go there again. Keep reading about it so you know well in advance of the warning signs.
Time and a lot of patience. The pain I do not believe ever completely goes away. There is always a sting. But as time goes by it gets less painful and you become more aw…are of future potential Narcissitic people and you learn quickly to avoid them at all costs. I try to assist in here to help others avoid my pitfalls with one nasty Narc. Evil monsters aren't they! But I survived and so will you. Best wishes for you......
Children start to hate, and want to hurt their parents when they do that, but they cant. No one likes to be hurt. It destoys them physically and most important, mentally. They…'re self esteem is demolished, and they tend to grow up as child abusers themselves. If you EVER see sure of signs of child abuse, report to their teacher, principle, or quite frankly the police. Hope this will help.
They are often sexually abusive to different degrees. It's their way of devaluing you and punishing you for basically being a woman. Often male narcissist have unexpressed ang…er toward their mother and are not even conscious of it. They take this out on their 'victims'. Sex is not a loving act for them...it is about power and control. I was in a relationship with a narcissist for a year and a half. Over the course of the relationship, sex became more and more 'abusive'. By this I mean rough and intentionally causing pain. It was almost as if I became a possession of his. At times, he would suggest sex with others. They are never satisfied and do not know how to feel love. If you are wanting a loving relationship, get out now and do NOT have further contact. And I mean at all!! This can be very difficult...believe me, I know. If they do make contact, the best thing you can do is be indifferent. Do not react positively or negatively. Tell them you are done and to go away.
Yes. Well, somewhat. Her narcissism probably bothers you, (or someone else). Narcissism is a nasty disease & does affect others around them. It could be intentionally or unint…entionally putting someone down, and that's somewhat emotional/mental abuse. She may one day lead you, ( or someone else) to think that she's better than you and can do things that you can't. Hope this helps:)
Hackers generally hack for fun of it. But if the person hacks all your mail ids , manipulates the user account details, then its called harassment. If some mails are being sen…d from your mail id to unknown people, you are tired of changing the details. Then person has ulterior motives.
If you are being abused, get away. If you have family or friends that can safely help, then have them come over, help you pack your things, and leave to somewhere safe. If th…at would put you or them in an unsafe environment, then consider getting the aid of the police. If that is not possible, then as carefully as possible leave in the middle of the night and get as far away as you can. There are many women's violence shelters in the US. Search for one in your area, you may also try calling 2-1-1 to find this information. National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE(7233)
This is a very good question, yet a complicated one. Abuse can come in many forms but I think there are 4 really big ones: 1.) Physical abuse - hitting, kicking, b…itting, or any other type of physical assault. 2.) Emotional abuse- this can be verbal abuse, cursing, negative language, degrading, condescending language, etc. 3.) Sexual abuse- sexual exploitation or violation 4.) Un-intentional abuse - this type of abuse is very controversial because of the term itself. For many people "unintentional" can feel like we are letting the abuser off the hook. But in its proper context, unintentional abuse fits well for people who are not intending to harm an individual, but does do harm as a result of poor parenting skills, lack of knowledge, mental health isssues, etc. Abuse is strictly a violation of human life. It is problematic, detrimental, and life-threatening. Children who witness abuse - whether intentional or unintentional- will be affected emotionally and psychologically. The result of abuse can be depression, anxiety, substance abuse, bullying other children in school, aggression, anger, and isolation among many other things. Children who witness frequent abuse and even domestic violence, often experience a host of problelms in their childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. Some kids even go on to become abusers themselves. Any type of abuse MUST stop. If not, there are psychological, emotional, and legal consequences in most cases. If a family does not stop the abuse, the school system or child protective services system will eventually find out. It is important that all individuals involved pursue treatment. If the perpetrator of abuse will not seek help, the children should receive some type of therapy. In addition, some children who observe abuse can experience what is referred to as vicarious trauma. This type of trauma happens when a child views another person's trauma. A child who witnesses abuse and the emotional affects it has on the victim, can also experience the trauma at intense levels. A child who is involved in an abusive household cannot succeeed in many cases. They will themselves suffer the consequences. I wish you well