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You should take his threats very seriously and act to defend yourself and to take all necessary precautions.
Pathological narcissism is a spectrum of disorders. People suffering from the full blown, all-pervasive, personality distorting mental health disorder known as the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) - are, indeed, more prone to violence than others. Actually, the differential diagnosis (=the difference) between NPD and AsPD (Antisocial PD, psychopaths) is very blurred. Most psychopaths have narcissistic traits and many a narcissist are also sadists.
Both types are devoid of empathy, remorseless, ruthless, and relentless in their pursuit of their goals (the narcissist's goal is narcissistic supply or the avoidance of narcissistic injury). Narcissists often use verbal and psychological abuse and violence against those closest to them. Some of them move from abstract aggression (the emotion leading to violence and permeating it) to the physically concrete sphere of violence.
Many narcissists are also paranoid and vindictive. They aim to punish (by tormenting) and destroy the source of their frustration and pain.
Invariably, violent behavior was triggered by frustration, perceived to be a threat to the integrity and veracity of the False Self. In other words, if the narcissist could not achieve gratification, or was criticized, or encountered resistance and disagreement - he tended to turn violent. He felt that his grandiose fantasies were being undermined and that his sense of entitlement due to his uniqueness is challenged. this often happens in prison where the atmosphere is paranoid and every slight, real or imaginary, is magnified to the point of narcissistic injury.
The narcissist has alloplastic defences. He does not accept responsibility for his actions. He accuses others or the world at large for provoking or aggravating his outbursts of violent behaviour. He feels immune to the consequences of his actions by virtue of his inbred superiority and entitlement. Narcissists are also mildly dissociative. They sometimes go through depersonalization and derealization. In other words, some narcissists sort of "watch themselves" and their life from the outside, as one would a movie. Such narcissists do not feel fully and truly responsible for their acts of violence. "I don't know what came over me" - is their frequent refrain.
Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
� 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications
In real, rather than abstract, terms I do not think this question should be related entirely to NPD.
If ANYONE threatens your life convincingly there is only one rule:
Prepare for the worst and hope for the best.
A large proportion of murders are committed by people who never showed any inclination to murder or violence before and never do again. Many are never diagnosed with any all-pervasive disorder (though I suppose a person must be at least "a bit stressed out" to actually take life).
Whenever anybody threatens to kill you there is a chance they will go through with it.
Of course some murderers never threaten. The really serious calculating ones, or the impetuous ones do not threaten.
That he seems to threaten you repeatedly is actually a GOOD sign ... you must have mentioned it to enough people that he could not possibly get away with it. However he could be too far off on his trip to actually REALISE that.
I assume you have made the police aware of his actions and threats. If not, do so.
There is still one factor ... why does he stalk and threaten you?
The answer is very simple, he does this because he gets something out of it.
Whatever he gets out of it will stop if he ever goes through with it, he may be perfectly aware of that.
It may be literally that he would miss you too much if he killed you ... if not in a nice way.
Ultimately it's a control game, he controls your mood by subjecting you to constant fear.
The real answer is to get out from under it, place yourself out of his reach, move.
You cannot know for sure if he would really kill you, unless it happens, but you know he is imposing control on your life.
You do not need that.
In a word ... MOVE, discreetly, with no forwarding address. And tell everyone you know what he is doing. Keep no secrets about this. I hope you have contacted your local abuse shelter, they will be of help. Good luck.
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There is no way to know for certain. In general, it's a good idea to assume that they will, and find some way to get away from them or otherwise protect yourself. … I agree with the above poster. It's one thing to talk , but it's another to do. Narcissists are no different in many ways than plain old abusers, so take this person at their word and watch your back. If they phone you with threats ALWAYS answer your home phone on "speaker phone" and tape the call from the narcissist. This is proof for the police. Once you have to the proof cease to have any contact with the narcissist and don't pick up that phone! It's adviseable you seek legal counsel and also report this to the police (make a copy of that tape.) When someone threatens your life take it very seriously! TIPS: Don't park in under-ground parking. When coming out of a building at night (especially malls) leave with a group of people and go straight to your car. If you are leaving a grocery store in the evening ask someone to help you out with your groceries (they will give this service.) PEPPER SPRAY is legal! Carry it with you and when you are away from home (walking alone or in the dark) snap the trigger on and carry it! If you jog or go for walks go with a friend. If you feel even a little uncomfortable staying in your home, then stay with your parents, relatives or a friend. Listen to your instincts! ALWAYS be aware of your surroundings. Good luck!
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Mine did. I dumped him and he blocked me from everything because I was so angry and called him names and wouldn't get over my anger. He said I hurt him because I called him a …"coward", "a narcissist", "a jerk", "stupid", etc. so he blocked me completely.
because it is the number of the devil because in life everyone has sinned.
run as fast as you can!!!!!!!!!! run as fast as you can!!!!!!!!!! seriously though, they are dangerous in more ways than one. especially to one's mental and emotion…al well being. The best way if you are married to one or living with one is to move out as soon as you can (do not let them know what you are doing). the narcissist is a charmer and he will only charm you into staying so he can continue abusing you. keep in mind you are the source of his narcissistic supply and they hate to be alone. once you leave, change your cell phone number and keep your address unlisted as well as your landline. avoid any contact with him. if you must talk to him, (regarding custody,taxes, divorce filing,etc) then make sure to stick to the subject and if he starts getting off the subject let him know that unless he is going to discuss the matter at hand you are going to hang up. you must take the upper hand so he does not have the opportunity to do it first. Unfortunately, it may mean you have to change where you shop and even possibly your church home, but avoiding contact altogether is vital. They hate to be ignored, but eventually when he sees you are really going out of your way to avoid him, he will move on to another victim. The best way to get back at a narcissist is to move on and have a happy life because that is something they will never have.
Based on the bare facts given in the question, no, it doesn't sound like it would be.
not easily. however you might want to attempt to brush off all the verbal abuse as mental illness. that the narcissist doesnt mean what hes saying...or have any empathy for it…s damage. be selective in what you think his meaningful behavior is. in other words: when hes nice and needs you: hes mentally stable...and when he devalues and belittles you: he's crazy. diseased..and a poor tlittle hing. catch my drift? you must also remember that you can love and have a very meaningful relationship "to" a narcissist not "with" a narcissist. they can only love your love for them and your meaning to them. not you. you must realize they are having a relationship with themselves only and you are just a participant in that relationship. i do believe its possible to live this way. but...? why...? charity? believe me if you leave you will rapidly be replaced! its just different for them. they are not normal. or anything like the non-narcissist. i hesitate to use the word evil, but ...i suppose i will leave it as ...empty. please don't feel sorry for them...but you can appreciate them...they cant appreciate you. good luck A very good answer, i have been with mine for ten years, and now have realised i wasnt going MAD!! or CRAZY!! i have know over a year now, but at the end of the day WHY should we live like this, this is not normal, so my advise would be to walk away no matter how hard it is, you need to for your own sanity, ive just walked and am srtill walking, but i KNOW i done the right thing all my family and friends said walk, but i walked when i realised i couoldnt live in this messed up world of theirs, of mind games, jealousy, anger, no empathy, that is not normal, and i WANT as normal life as i can get!!!! You can never have control of a relationship involving an N. Normal people understand you can control someone. Ns don't they r control freaks and you will be the one in the end who is being controled. Also, Ns are not capable of love as im sure you've read. So they have control as to whether or not they even want to stay with you they can walk away at anytime and not even flinch.
I think my narcissistic ex is lying to my friends about me to make me look crazy They are dropping out of my life I'm going through hell Help?
Your friends sound fake and shallow. Get back at your ex by dating a new man (nothing makes a man madder than dating his brother). Find better friends by joining a new club or… activity. Good luck. I originally posted the question. These people say they don't like him and then all of a sudden I'm taken off of their friend's list on Facebook and they cut me out. If they don't like him, then why are they cutting me out? That's why I think he's spreading lies about me to make me look "crazy" and "insane". On top of that he sent me an email sending me a job lead and said, "Please don't write back, I'm sending this to you in case you are still looking for a job." Why would someone cut me out unless he's lying? HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS??? It's causing a lot of pain to me. =( =(
No they do something(silent treatement for example argumentative ) so you leave as fast as possible! Nobody never win from them believe me
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If you threaten to hurt somebody, it is assualt. For instance, going up to somebody and saying Im gonna kill you or Im gonna hurt you, that's assualt. Actually hurting them is… battery. Then there is aggravated and simple assualt, but I'm not going to get into that.
The narcissist creates the image that he/she wants the world to see. He/she can only do that when the truth isn't available to the audience. If the narcissist keeps his/her li…fe hidden then 1) he/she can lie about that life and continue grandiose delusions, or 2) avoid taking responsibility because he/she can continue shift-blaming. Moreover, perhaps addiction is a factor. If your ex uses, then secrecy is part of that addict behavior. Whatever the cause, count it as a blessing that you don't have the details, and reciprocate. Any information that the narcissist has about you will be used to manipulate you. Being open and honest is fine... with sane people. Minimal contact if necessary, and no contact if possible.
If you mean 'Why cant I leave the Narcissist's life', in that you cant forget them as you are no longer together etc there are many reasons: 1) You remember how good the ini…tial part of your relationship was, and for reasons unknown to you, they now seem like a distant memory, save for the fact that very occasionally, you still get glimpses of that person being at their best (be it with you or others) but everything you do still doesn't work to get those 'glimpses' more frequent, so you 'must try harder' (which doesn't work, by the way!) 2) The feeling you got from them (initially) made YOU feel whole, happy, lucky to be so idealized by such a wonderful experience, that in your mind NOTHING will EVER compare. 3) you have so lost who you are, that any scrap on offer will do, as long as they aren't hating you (its not hate by the way, it is simply that they havent the energy to tolerate you, and they cant be bothered with working at it as others are easier, ie new supply) What is the overriding almost glaring fact in all cases, is that people think that the Narcissist is truly that special person he was, but has moments of rages, cruelty, selfishness, contempt, has affairs, punishes, verbal & emotional abuse, bullies, reckless behavior etc due to outside stresses that make them behave so badly. Once those outside pressures that are causing it go away, they will be back to how they were, and you will be once again, adored, respected etc. WRONG. Both people (ie the good and the bad person inside the Narcissist) are ONE AND THE SAME. You either accept that. Or you don't. To make it very clear, the person they are is the bad one. The good bits are real to them, but they have to work at it. They get bored easily, so it is inevitable that at the VERY end, you will get who they are ALL the time. Its up to you now how you want it to end - at what point do you walk away; ie your last memories of them are ALL bad or frequently bad, sometimes bad or not bad at all. For the latter one, leave it at the first date!!! 4) finally, there is one other reason (I'm sure there are more!) that I can think of. They don't want you to. Because if they had fully finished with you, and cant get anything else from you, you wont see them for dust.
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They are well- rehearsed from previous their previous conquests. They know how to turn things around to make you feel you've done something wrong. You search your mind like cr…azy, but you can't quite put your finger on an answer. You can come up with a thousand possibilities; not none seem a logical reason to breakup. Through months of conditioning, he almost instinctively knows the moment you're the most vulnerable. He has a condescending tone, assuring you that you deserve better. It's almost as though he has a remote control and at a push of a button he can drain your soul and zap your energy. He feels a sense of accomplishment that is almost bone-chilling. He knows you will call. He knows you'll text, and he knows the silence will drain you of your sense of self, and you feel totally helpless. He has studied you over months and maybe years, so he thinks you will reach your breaking point long after he is gone. It will not happen. You start to realize that as days pass, something of yourself returns. It's like you were slowly hemorrhaging; but the bleeding stops. You may be far from total recovery; but soon after he disappears, that feeling of dread lifts. You have to force yourself to gasp for air. Just like being underwater until your lungs nearly burst, and you're forced to the surface. He is dragging you deeper and deeper; but you're too strong to drown in his contempt. He doesn't feel love. He doesn't feel remorse. He's hoping that you will pine for him and you're damaged beyond repair. Unable to feel or feel loved. I am recovering. I made it to the surface. I'm taking a deep breath and filling my lungs beyond capacity. He may be on a distant shore, thinking I drowned in self-pity and miserable from the breakup. I am miserable, but I'm healing. I didn't drown. I never lost sight of land on the horizon. Nor should you.