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If you are married to a good guy who is a great father why would you want someone else?
Probably because you want a husband, not a father, and from your question I assume he's not so great in that category. You should work on improving this relationship rather than looking outside for whatever is missing.
He maybe a good guy, a great father, but obviously he is missing something when it comes to you. Is he emotionally there for you? Physically there for you?
Most affairs, emotional or physical start because we are not getting something from our boyfriends/girlfriends or spouses. Many time we take for granted what we have. Its so easy to give a coworker, a friend, neighbor, our attention, time, because we dont want to be rude or seem uncaring. Like the saying says, "you hurt the ones you love". We sometimes give strangers, friends more of our time than we do our loved ones. I dont understand it either, but unfortuately we do.
If you value your marriage, seek a counselor. Obviously you are not getting everything you need from your husband.
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Have friends help you through these times. You could use some new inspiration not to "kill" yourself ever day. Keep a lookout and have your friends start conversations t…hat somehow leads to talking about you. That happened to one of my friends once and he ended up saying he hated her. Not cool! She told me to call him a jerk and moved on.
Answer: There's nothing wrong with that. It's best to not doanything. He likes you? Appreciate it, but don't act like a (w)itchabout it unless you want him to pick her. There'…s a time in lifefor exclusive relationships, but you don't have to start out thatway. if a guy likes you and someone else, tell him he has to makeup his mind- he cant go around liking two girls at once, playingwith their minds like that, its just wrong.
After being married 20 years to someone else why would a boyfriend you dated in high school call and want to talk if he's married with a kid?
Answer When we start getting older our minds go down memory lane and perhaps he just wanted to phone and chat. Still, be careful just in case his marriage …isn't working out and he thinks he could have an affair with you. I don't think so though. Sometimes there are Reunions of old classmates or simply a few friends that knew each other in high school getting together. I was invited to get together with 6 of my old girlfriends whom I hadn't seen since high school. We were all turning 50 in that same year. We had a blast. Keep the conversation with him to the point, and hint around that he can ask you and your husband to his place, or perhaps invite him and his wife to yours. The latter is better because if he doesn't want to, then he's up to something. Good luck Marcy Answer I agree that when we get to mid age or around 50 we have a desire to relive or revisit things from our youth. More than likely you are a good memory to him or even the one that got away. Talking with him once probably is not a bad thing. My advise is not to continue the contact. Even if you are in a good marriage you could be tempted by this old love, especially if he was your first love. There seems to be some kind of real power in first love relationships. You never forget that person no matter how old you get. I am in my early 50's and recently spoke with my old boyfriend that I dated for 4 years before marrying my husband of 32 years. It was strange but actually very nice to chat with him. That connection will always be there. You have to be careful because many unwanted affairs have started just this way. My advise is to be very, very, very careful and don't encourage him. Let him know you cannot have ongoing contact. Best Wishes. Grace from the Northeast
Technically, yes. But if she/he's married to someone else, and you are there soul mate, then they have obviously with the wrong person, and only time, will reveal that to th…em.
There are alot of factors that should be considered. If your feelings for someone else is stronger than the feelings you have for the person that you are married to... then ma…ybe you should consider how your life would be without your spouse. Would you be okay emotionally, financially, are you better off being married, than running off on some infatuation or feeling. If you are newly married, like a few days or months... then maybe you should not have gotten married to the person that you are married to and maybe you should break it off. But, if you have kids and your children are with your spouse, I don't think that you should break up their happiness and stability... their home. However, if this is an abusive home or something of that nature maybe the kids would be better off if the home was broken up. If not, and the home is happy and safe and the only problem is you not being happy because you are in love with someone else, then maybe it is time to sit your spouse down and discuss what's been going on inside of you.
you confront them. Ask them if they do, then pop the first thing that goes to your mind...^^ Answer Youth can certainly go through some painful movements and becau…se of their youth the skies the limit when it comes to love and skipping from one mate to the next. It's because the young are riding on high hormones and are not wise enough at this point to want to settle down to a permanent relationship and it's not really expected of them. Don't be in too big a rush to settle in with one person. You will have to accept the fact he doesn't want to be with you. It hurts and most of us have felt that hurt when younger (sometimes more than once) but, there are great things ahead of you and romance is one of them. Keep your head high, chin up and tell him to hit the bricks! Young guys like an independent woman and it actually hurts their feelings when you don't put up a fuss. If your boyfriend has told you that he wants someone else then he's not worth bothering with, If your boyfriend can't appreciate what he has then he doesn't deserve you. Don't try to change yourself just to keep him. On the other hand if you just think he wants someone else, then talk to him about it, explain why you feel like this, but try not to be to accusing or he may feel pressured. Hope this helps=)
No. In the United States you can only be legally married to one person. If you wish to marry another, you must end your marriage via a court decree through a divorce procedure…. If you married a person who was already married your "marriage" would have no legal effect whatsoever. You would remain unmarried.
You either try to get over it or you could see if the other person likes you back. It also depends on how long you've been married to your spouse and how long you've been in l…ove with the other person.
Get a great lawyer!
Well, you need to get the issue sorted out before very much time goes by. Dr. Phil had a show in November regarding this issue. Your husband needs to know that another m…an is the father. This is one of those unpleasant consequences of behavior. If the husband doesn't want to adopt the child, the biological father will owe you child support. You need to get it straightened out now because should you later divorce, it has a good chance of becoming a problem for you and the child.
If you are legally married and have a baby with someone else is the husband considered the stepfather if your still with the father?
It doesn't matter. Step parents have no legal rights anyway. The problem you are going to have is explaining to the child who these men are. If the legal husband wants to be c…alled a stepparent, then all is well. If not, he does not have to be anything to the child.
Answer . \nwhy would you want to have an affair with a guy who has a girlfriend when your married even if you were considering it men don't care when their unhappy or displ…eased with something instead of being honest with themselves and their partners they tend to lie to themselves to suggest what they are doing is right half of the time they don't know what their doing their just in the moment
My guess is that this is caused by ignorance (as opposed to stupidity) that if you work on a relationship, you can usually get what you need. It may seem easier to look to ano…ther person outside of the marriage since no issues have to be dealt with first. Or, it could be stupidity, where he ignores the great things that are part of his marriage and essentially tosses them away. Wants are so different than needs, but that is not recognized by some, because they are focussed on themselves first. That said, there are some things that I would not ever consent to if asked by my partner about them. That is my right as a person. However, the matching concept that going elsewhere for those things is therefore a right is erroneous logic.
You leave him alone to allow his marriage to work. If he's about to marry someone else, he doesn't love you and you need to move on. Stop thinking about him and find som…eone new.
If the mother is not married to the father, he has no rights period, even if living with her. see link below
If I cared about my marriage I would avoid that couple completely.
Marrying off daughters dates back to the days (and today, to the cultures) where women are/were seen as the property of first their fathers and later, of their husbands. A…s property, they were and in some cultures still are used as pawns in cementing family, clan or tribal relations. In some cultures, daughters are a source of income too, because of the bridal gifts with which the groom or his family has to buy the bride. The "marriage as a deal" by the way worked in both directions. A famous exchange from 18th century France has an adult son asking his father if it is true the the family is arranging a marriage for him. To which the father answers by telling the son to mind his own business. On the other hand, in northwestern Europe it was completely normal among the somewhat 'lower' social classes from the Middle Ages on for boys and girls of marriable age to choose partners themselves and marry for love (or convenience), just as today. In many rural communities it was even accepted that a pair married the moment when there was a first child on the way.