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If you are very much in love with a person other than your spouse how do you get rid of these feelings and remain faithful?
This is such a hard one to deal with.
Most of us can be quite attracted to another person of the opposite sex when married. If smart, just dream about it (your secret) and remain loyal to your spouse if you still love them. Marriage can get mundane, so instead of looking for others, take that energy and try making your marriage more interesting.
If you take time out (mini holiday) with your spouse and really make an effort then you will regain a one-on-one relationship again. Within time you will forget your attraction to the other individual in your life.
Most of the time the grass on the other side of the fence isn't greener and you could very well trade off something wonderful in your wife for a brief encounter with someone you think you are in love with.
It's easy to love someone else, because you gain the magic "of the chase" and all the frills that go with it, but it doesn't last for long.
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Answer Sometimes a marriage counselor can help you work through your problems. ANSWER The marriage counselor is Jesus, not some…times, but always. Put him in the middle of two people and keep him there.
What should a husband or wife do if they find themselves attracted to another person other than their spouse?
Most people have something attractive about them. If you find yourself entertaining sexual and/or intimate feelings towards someone other than your spouse, stop it. Get aw…ay from the lure if possible... they are merely the bait of sin because your mind has given them that quality. If removing yourself from them is not a feasible option, ask yourself if that person means more to you than your word to God and your eternal relationship with him. Answer 2: Think about your vow to your mate before God and others. Grow up and put the brakes on, put your eyes elsewhere. Think about the consequences long and hard of getting involved with someone who is not your mate. The treachery and hurt you could cause to a spouse, children, friends and family. According to the Bible a person who is attracted to someone other than their mate has already committed adultery in their heart. See Matthew 5:27,28 and Matthew 15:19.
Sociopaths don't have feelings for others.
I came home Early and found my wife in bed with someone. It was an empty feeling my perception of trust in her and feeling of intimacy was gone. I always thought I'd go off if… someone would have broken that bond but the Betrayal over rode all feelings trust was gone. We tried to work out with marriage counseling but it happened again. If someone cheats they Have more problems in themselves they need to work on.
What does it mean when you dream about a girl you've never met in real life and in this dream you get on very well and when you wake up you feel in love with this person?
You could be having a precognitive dream about someone coming into your life. It might just be someone you meet in everyday circumstances. Start keeping a dream journal, writi…ng down when you had the dream and as much as you can remember.
Person1=No fool. Person 2=Sometimes you can if you are very closely connected. Person 3=I don't think so. It isn't scientifically possible. Person 4 - Love and all thing…s involved with love are not scientific so I believe anything is possible!
Someone Else's Spouse Yes, and a perfectly logical one. Hormones control sexual urges - sometimes taking over rational logical thought. However, only your mind ca…n bring to the surface the concequences of following through with those urges. Down, tiger.
If you are married but have fallen in love with another should you tell this other person and your spouse or just ignore the feelings altogether?
This is a tough question without having more information. If you and your husband are getting along fairly well, but have a few problems, then try working them out. It's so ea…sy to complain about each other, pass off blame, and grumble over a marriage rather than to sit down and start learning to communicate. By communicating we often are surprised just how that other person feels. In our fast-paced modern society it can be tough to find time to really sit and listen to your mate. My own opinion ... make the time! As we know while racing around every day life can slip through our fingers. I've been married 33 years to a wonderful man, but, I have to be honest when I say there have been many times when I have thrown up my hands and wanted to walk out that door. It isn't into another man's arms, but I want peace and freedom. Then I get thinking about it all and I feel like slapping myself a good one, because "going wife deaf", not cleaning up after he shaves; gobs of toothpaste left in the bathroom sink; not replacing toilet paper; not putting the toilet seat back down, etc., is hardly room for leaving and I realize now these are some of the things I'd really miss if he should pass away on me. Oh yes, I can still get annoyed, but then I am so lucky to be with such a fine man and I do know I love him. No one said marriage or even a relationship would be easy. If you feel the magic has gone out of your marriage, that he doesn't give you enough attention (no cuddling, etc.) then look at yourself as well. It's just not up to the man/woman to drape all over the other ... both must try. The grass on the other side of the fence isn't always greener! Sit and really think of this and realize, that if you leave your husband for someone else you will more than likely hurt him so deeply you could well lose him for good. Then there is no going back. In every marriage I am sure most of us feel that weak moment when things get us down that we would like to throw up our hands and leave to meet someone new and feel that old excitement we use to feel when we first met our husbands. Unfortunately, it doesn't matter who you end up with, that first part of excitement attached to a new relationship never lasts and something else (if we are willing to see it) the next phase in the relationship can be just as exciting, but more down to earth happens. You don't even know how this other person feels and if they are married, back off! We are all in control of our own lives and we all have responsibilities and the one responsibility I don't often see out in society is caring about someone else's feelings. You are the only one that can decide if you have tried in your marriage, made an effort to communicate your feelings to your husband and both of you have tried to make it work. If he's not willing or the both of you aren't then leave ... but don't drag another into your small world of irresponsibility until you have faced yourself and start to conquer your own short comings. Usually when we want to leave a husband there are obviously some deep rooted problems we haven't dealt with and we have to be brutally honest with ourselves. If your husband is good to you, doesn't abuse you, has made every effort he possibly can then you are one lucky woman. You might not be so lucky the next time. The decision is in your court. Marcy I HAVE BEEN MARRIED 12 YEARS AND HAVE 4 KIDS. THERE IS A CHANCE THAT YOUR HUSBAND IS JUST NOT GIVING YOU A WHOLE LOT OF ATTENTION. YOU MET SOMEONE WHO YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO AND HE MAKES YOU FEEL SPECIAL, YOU FEEL LIKE YOU LOVE HIM ,YOU THINK ABOUT HIM ALOT. DONT TELL YOUR HUSBAND THIS.. TELL YOUR HUSBAND THAT YOU NEED HIM TO MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL AND THAT YOU HAVE BEEN THINKING HE DOESNT LOVE YOU ANYMORE. YOU NEED TO MAKE HIM FEEL YOU SLIPPING SO HE WILL BE THE MAN YOU MARRIED AND BRING YOU DOWN TO REALITY.THINK OF THE OTHER GUY AS A FANTASY NOT ALL FANTASIES ARE MEANT TO COME TRUE.. I HONESTLY KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. BECAREFUL YOU MAY MAKE A MISTAKE. IF YOU LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND FOR THIS GUY HE MAY NOT BE ALL YOU THINK IN A RELATIONSHIP.MEN CHANGE ONCE THEY HAVE YOU......... First off thank you all for your viewpoints. Now a bit of clarification. I am a man. My spouse just ended a 4 month long affair in which she lied, cheated, and stole from our family to be with another man who in the end lied to her. We have been married for over 8 years and we are trying to make it work. But I honestly feel love for both individuals. The love for my wife is riddled with doubt, hurt, and pain but history. The love for another also contains some of the same but is filled with hope. I am truly torn, my heart in two different houses. I don't know about telling your spouse about falling for another. All relationships go through changes, some good some bad. But all relationships go through hard times and easy times. I myself know what your wife went through. I don't know her situation, or how things happened with this other man, but I can tell you having an affair is not easy or a picnic. Im sure she doesnt feel good about herself. And with Lying to you, the family, the money issue, etc, Im sure she is really beating herself up about everything. I think individuals have affairs for many reasons. Maybe she felt ignored, not loved, bored, unattractive, maybe it started out as an emotional affair and turned more. I don't know. Each situation is different. For me, I have been married 24 years. I have 4 great kids who I love and adore and wouldn't want to hurt them for the world. Two years ago, my marriage was following apart, things were tough at home, and I was being accused of having an affair when I wasnt. My husband accused me of talking/seeing an ex boyfriend of mine from high school that I hadnt seen in 22 years. I was sick of his accusations, and I did exactly what he thought I was doing, I called the guy. I have never forgot about him, always thought "what if" regarding him. And with all the stress and so on going on in my life I called him. We reconnected, and it was like time stood still. I do love him, but I also love my husband. I don't want to hurt anyone, break up my family, but I do wish my husband would give me what I need in our relationship. Im in this marriage til the end, but don't make it a long death sentence. I want to feel loved, appreciated, told nice things, felt loved, and I want romance. That is one thing I have learned in my adventure down memory lane. My advice to you...if you love her, show her...tell her..if you want it to work with her don't take her for granted.. This is a dilemma that you will have to sort out with lots of thinking. Are you sure this is love. Are you possible not happy with something in your marriage and don't know it. Then you would be looking for outside happyness. If you are completely unhappy in your marriage and want to work it out then do that, if you don't then you do deserve to be happy and should tell your spouse before any feelings come about between you and your new interest. People get married for the wrong reasons sometimes and then realize that it just wasnt what they wanted. Be hones with yourself and other from start to finish and then you would agonize about it later. Be ready though for this to backfire on you too. Do you know if the other person loves you, too. What if you separate or divorce your husband to find out the other person isn't in love with you? Sit down and weigh all the options and do what is best for you with the least amount of hurt to be felt by all. Dont stay in a relationship that you are not happy in, we only live once and you do deserve to be happy. Good luck say something Dont ignore your feelings, they are just as important as everyone else's. Just take the time to sit down and weigh your options. If you are truly unhappy in your marriage and see no way of working it out or wanting to then go to your husband and be extremely honest with him before something goes on with the one you "love". You will feel better about that. There is not a book on how to have a perfect marriage or pick the best partner. Sometimes people just realize after-ward that it wasnt for them. Good luck.
HATRED. When once it occupies the mind everything including Love seems to be trash.
well son........when a man and a woman love each other the have sex like wild animals and there u get a baby.........dirty dirty sex for example 8=D (|) t…hen u get a baby
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When should you tell your spouse that your are having an affair with someone else and you are in love with this person and you feel that your lover can and will fulfill your life with happiness?
Well first I just gotta say that you should have discussed the problems in your relationship with your spouse and maybe got some counseling, but seeing as you didnt and …you have moved on you should tell your spouse now, there is never a good time to tell the person that you promised to be faithful and honest with til death do you part that you have cheated on them and no longer wish to be with them. It is unfair of you to keep dragging your spouse on, and let them live the lie you would call marriage. Answer I'd forget about telling him just now, and take the rose-colored glasses off and reread the marriage vows you made to your spouse when you believed THEY were the one who would fulfill your life and bring you happiness. Truth is that no one person will do this and it is unfair to expect anyone to...certainly working at happiness is a two way road, and cheating is not one of the roads that lead to it. I'd try to realize the pain this will cause all around. Although you will need to tell him at some point, preferably talk with a counselor who would work to preserve the marriage and even to restore it. Yes, it is possible even if it doesn't seem like a very exciting way. The counselor may be able to advise the best way to break the news. This is, after all, news that is going to tear another person's heart out and great care needs to be taken. The worst thing to do now would be to let things continue in deception as mentioned by the first answerer. I'd fix the underlying problems or they will recur in the future.
Why don't those involved in an emotional affair get divorced from their spouses so they can be with the other person if they really love that person?
Because they don't love that person. They only "Love" themself.
you love someone very much because in that relationship you see trust, loyalty, honesty, love and respect
Firstly, If your spouse fell in love with another woman ,make sure its true. Secondly tell him to be honest with you. Thirdly if he is move on.
well you obviously have never been in love or have been hurt from it. You have to truly be in head over heals love to actually want to care for this person enough to love them…. If you dont want to be with them every second of everyday you dont love them. So dont tell anyone you love them if dont because it hurts them later down the road.
its was great sorrow to be lied by the person who love me .