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This is such a hard one to deal with.
Most of us can be quite attracted to another person of the opposite sex when married. If smart, just dream about it (your secret) and remain loyal to your spouse if you still love them. Marriage can get mundane, so instead of looking for others, take that energy and try making your marriage more interesting.
If you take time out (mini holiday) with your spouse and really make an effort then you will regain a one-on-one relationship again. Within time you will forget your attraction to the other individual in your life.
Most of the time the grass on the other side of the fence isn't greener and you could very well trade off something wonderful in your wife for a brief encounter with someone you think you are in love with.
It's easy to love someone else, because you gain the magic "of the chase" and all the frills that go with it, but it doesn't last for long.
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If you are married but have fallen in love with another should you tell this other person and your spouse or just ignore the feelings altogether?
This is a tough question without having more information. If you and your husband are getting along fairly well, but have a few problems, then try working them out. It's so ea…sy to complain about each other, pass off blame, and grumble over a marriage rather than to sit down and start learning to communicate. By communicating we often are surprised just how that other person feels. In our fast-paced modern society it can be tough to find time to really sit and listen to your mate. My own opinion ... make the time! As we know while racing around every day life can slip through our fingers. I've been married 33 years to a wonderful man, but, I have to be honest when I say there have been many times when I have thrown up my hands and wanted to walk out that door. It isn't into another man's arms, but I want peace and freedom. Then I get thinking about it all and I feel like slapping myself a good one, because "going wife deaf", not cleaning up after he shaves; gobs of toothpaste left in the bathroom sink; not replacing toilet paper; not putting the toilet seat back down, etc., is hardly room for leaving and I realize now these are some of the things I'd really miss if he should pass away on me. Oh yes, I can still get annoyed, but then I am so lucky to be with such a fine man and I do know I love him. No one said marriage or even a relationship would be easy. If you feel the magic has gone out of your marriage, that he doesn't give you enough attention (no cuddling, etc.) then look at yourself as well. It's just not up to the man/woman to drape all over the other ... both must try. The grass on the other side of the fence isn't always greener! Sit and really think of this and realize, that if you leave your husband for someone else you will more than likely hurt him so deeply you could well lose him for good. Then there is no going back. In every marriage I am sure most of us feel that weak moment when things get us down that we would like to throw up our hands and leave to meet someone new and feel that old excitement we use to feel when we first met our husbands. Unfortunately, it doesn't matter who you end up with, that first part of excitement attached to a new relationship never lasts and something else (if we are willing to see it) the next phase in the relationship can be just as exciting, but more down to earth happens. You don't even know how this other person feels and if they are married, back off! We are all in control of our own lives and we all have responsibilities and the one responsibility I don't often see out in society is caring about someone else's feelings. You are the only one that can decide if you have tried in your marriage, made an effort to communicate your feelings to your husband and both of you have tried to make it work. If he's not willing or the both of you aren't then leave ... but don't drag another into your small world of irresponsibility until you have faced yourself and start to conquer your own short comings. Usually when we want to leave a husband there are obviously some deep rooted problems we haven't dealt with and we have to be brutally honest with ourselves. If your husband is good to you, doesn't abuse you, has made every effort he possibly can then you are one lucky woman. You might not be so lucky the next time. The decision is in your court. Marcy I HAVE BEEN MARRIED 12 YEARS AND HAVE 4 KIDS. THERE IS A CHANCE THAT YOUR HUSBAND IS JUST NOT GIVING YOU A WHOLE LOT OF ATTENTION. YOU MET SOMEONE WHO YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO AND HE MAKES YOU FEEL SPECIAL, YOU FEEL LIKE YOU LOVE HIM ,YOU THINK ABOUT HIM ALOT. DONT TELL YOUR HUSBAND THIS.. TELL YOUR HUSBAND THAT YOU NEED HIM TO MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL AND THAT YOU HAVE BEEN THINKING HE DOESNT LOVE YOU ANYMORE. YOU NEED TO MAKE HIM FEEL YOU SLIPPING SO HE WILL BE THE MAN YOU MARRIED AND BRING YOU DOWN TO REALITY.THINK OF THE OTHER GUY AS A FANTASY NOT ALL FANTASIES ARE MEANT TO COME TRUE.. I HONESTLY KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. BECAREFUL YOU MAY MAKE A MISTAKE. IF YOU LEAVE YOUR HUSBAND FOR THIS GUY HE MAY NOT BE ALL YOU THINK IN A RELATIONSHIP.MEN CHANGE ONCE THEY HAVE YOU......... First off thank you all for your viewpoints. Now a bit of clarification. I am a man. My spouse just ended a 4 month long affair in which she lied, cheated, and stole from our family to be with another man who in the end lied to her. We have been married for over 8 years and we are trying to make it work. But I honestly feel love for both individuals. The love for my wife is riddled with doubt, hurt, and pain but history. The love for another also contains some of the same but is filled with hope. I am truly torn, my heart in two different houses. I don't know about telling your spouse about falling for another. All relationships go through changes, some good some bad. But all relationships go through hard times and easy times. I myself know what your wife went through. I don't know her situation, or how things happened with this other man, but I can tell you having an affair is not easy or a picnic. Im sure she doesnt feel good about herself. And with Lying to you, the family, the money issue, etc, Im sure she is really beating herself up about everything. I think individuals have affairs for many reasons. Maybe she felt ignored, not loved, bored, unattractive, maybe it started out as an emotional affair and turned more. I don't know. Each situation is different. For me, I have been married 24 years. I have 4 great kids who I love and adore and wouldn't want to hurt them for the world. Two years ago, my marriage was following apart, things were tough at home, and I was being accused of having an affair when I wasnt. My husband accused me of talking/seeing an ex boyfriend of mine from high school that I hadnt seen in 22 years. I was sick of his accusations, and I did exactly what he thought I was doing, I called the guy. I have never forgot about him, always thought "what if" regarding him. And with all the stress and so on going on in my life I called him. We reconnected, and it was like time stood still. I do love him, but I also love my husband. I don't want to hurt anyone, break up my family, but I do wish my husband would give me what I need in our relationship. Im in this marriage til the end, but don't make it a long death sentence. I want to feel loved, appreciated, told nice things, felt loved, and I want romance. That is one thing I have learned in my adventure down memory lane. My advice to you...if you love her, show her...tell her..if you want it to work with her don't take her for granted.. This is a dilemma that you will have to sort out with lots of thinking. Are you sure this is love. Are you possible not happy with something in your marriage and don't know it. Then you would be looking for outside happyness. If you are completely unhappy in your marriage and want to work it out then do that, if you don't then you do deserve to be happy and should tell your spouse before any feelings come about between you and your new interest. People get married for the wrong reasons sometimes and then realize that it just wasnt what they wanted. Be hones with yourself and other from start to finish and then you would agonize about it later. Be ready though for this to backfire on you too. Do you know if the other person loves you, too. What if you separate or divorce your husband to find out the other person isn't in love with you? Sit down and weigh all the options and do what is best for you with the least amount of hurt to be felt by all. Dont stay in a relationship that you are not happy in, we only live once and you do deserve to be happy. Good luck say something Dont ignore your feelings, they are just as important as everyone else's. Just take the time to sit down and weigh your options. If you are truly unhappy in your marriage and see no way of working it out or wanting to then go to your husband and be extremely honest with him before something goes on with the one you "love". You will feel better about that. There is not a book on how to have a perfect marriage or pick the best partner. Sometimes people just realize after-ward that it wasnt for them. Good luck.
Answer If you love the person who loves you very much, that is the one to keep. The other one may or may not ever come around and unrequited love is not true love.
Is it possible be in love and make love to someone other than your spouse but still love and make love with your spouse for the rest of your life?
Answer Speaking for myself- being IN LOVE means body, mind, Heart and soul. I know it may sound old-fashioned, but if you engage in extra-marital affairs and say …you love your spouse, then you are lying to yourself and there is something wrong in your relationship. What you are doing isn't making love... it's just having sex.
You can't :( I tried. If you don't spend time with them you'll miss them but if you do spend time with them you'll only love them more. The only way is if your shown how… much of an a** they really are. Then you'll snap out of it
Greek: Σ 'αγαπώ πολύ και πάντα θα (Sagapo polli Kai panda tha) Finnish: Rakastan sinua paljon ja tulee aina olemaan Spanish: Te quiero mucho y por siemp…re
ANSWER: Correct me if I'm wrong with all the people in the world, I will say a Priest, especially the Pope who has the power to make thing different.
Either learn to love them or leave them if your sure that's not possible.
Is it possible to have a happy marital life when a girl is elder than the boy by a year only if they love each other very much?
I have met my soulmate She and I are so much more than in love that I find the phrase I love you to be inadequate in expressing what I feel for her Any other suggestions?
I am also in the same love boat you are in. I always try to find different ways to say i love you. different languages, sign language, love letters (remember in high school yo…u got letters from someone) think of and do things that she will love. i tell my girlfriend that i love/adore her so much i am inventing a new word to describe how much i love her... nothing measures up to how i feel about her. also, its not about what you say but how you say it. if you love her then show it every day. Try I appreciate you, you mean so much to me.
Your in love but the other person may not be into you how do you express your feeling in a way that's not to much?
Its always good to tell them straight up. Even if it turns out that they dont like you back, at least they know, and if their an understanding person they wont judge you. It… will be hard to tell them but you will both feel better after its done; And besides, if someone was in love with you, you'd want to know about it, right? Good Luck!!
I'm in love but the other person may not be into you how do you express your feeling in a way that's not to much?
Tell them how you feel and if they respond negatively then just be strong. It works most of the time.
It depends on the circumstances but you are right when it comes to mistresses. When a married men do have the affair, their life do change, exciting moment, different out look…, new surrounding and most a new woman who is not even close to his wife. The mistress gives everything to her married man, especially time and attention. They can talk about everything especially the intimate subject that supposed for man and his wife. The facts of this relationship is his wife is always busy without taking some kind of break. With this scenario, that how and when a married man start having a different feelings for his mistress. And yes in scale of 1-10 8% of the married men did love the mistress more than their wife...
No. The other person didn't commit adultery against you only your spouse did. Your spouse violated your marriage vows.
tell your current love how you feel and be as honest as u can be
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What do you do if your girlfriend has a two personalitys. One loves you very much and the other hates you. The one that loves you wants you. The other wants some other guy?
i would tell your girlfriend to get some serious psychiatric help. otherwise you're just screwed.
Why do some people find it so difficult that a person remains faithful to the one they love no matter what?
it could be a couple things honestly, 1.) it could be the fact that they don't like the person and they cannot see why you do either. 2.) they could not understand the t…rue meaning of love, and are "immature" in that subject of life. or 3.) and probably the most common: they're simply jealous. don't mind these people, they're evrywhere, just stay with the person you're with and love them forever, as i type im sitting next to the love of my life. and i love it =)
If you love someone you will love that person for who they are. If you love that person you will not try to change them.