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If you have a gut feeling that your wife is cheating on you with a coworker is that sufficient evidence of cheating?
No! Put yourself in her place. What if a boss asked you and a female coworker to work late and of course you had to comply. Simply because she is female and you have to work late does that mean your wife should be sure you are cheating?
On the other hand, if she is working too many hours of over-time, never bothers to call and keep in touch with you, is late for dinner, breaks dates and misses important family events then you need to sit down and have a good talk with her. I stress communication in my posts. Without communication there is only imagination and jealousy lurking in our brains. You could be worried over nothing, yet if you really feel this is going on you need to find out now.
Don't attack your wife and put her on the defensive. Simply sit down and ask her why she is out so much. If you don't like the answer then you are just going to have to lay your feelings out for her and go from there.
Check it out, hire a private investigator. It feels sleezy, but it's better to know. I had some evidence for 8 months and sat on it. If your gut says somethings wrong, it probably is. I'm sorry, but I just recently learned to trust my gut instincts.
well my husband had a gut feeling and he was right. i was cheating with a coworker and the things to look out for is what i did, saying that i was just going out with my friends, buying new things for myself and getting dolled up, i was sleeping in another room, i was very distant from my husband and children. I fell in love with this coworker and he dumped me and now i a mess. it was my first time ever cheating on my husband and i wish it never had happend and now i can not take it back. It really sucks!
I am going through it now,my gut is telling me she is cheating on me.She is getting dolled up all the sudden,lies to me to protect me she says,and stays home sometimes at night now.Her mother even tells me she is not that kinda girl to ever cheat and she doesn't need sex. BUT MY GUT SAYS DIFFERENT, and i learned twice now to trust my gut not the girl!
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not sure, but mines cheated with a co worker and he also worked nights and they were on the same shift! If in doubt ring your partner directly not mobile but work number rando…mly, also make sure you turn up and surprise him with lunch or something from time too time, keep your ears open if all of a sudden a female co worker is ringing his mobile, you will know by his reactions if there is something wrong!
Simply because he is a police officer there is no special unlawful or illegal connotation applied to his transgression. However he, and his co-worker COULD be disciplined by t…heir agency for "Conduct Unbecoming." Hardly anyone is prosecuted for adultery these days, and, indeed, many (most?) states have struck it from their statute books.
No - the vagina is a muscular tube so it cannot become looser as aresult of having sex or from anything else, just as your arm cannotbecome longer from working-out. The idea t…hat the vagina can becomeloose is a sexist old-fashioned idea that has no place in modernsociety.
you don't. simple. ANSWER: Do you really wanna go there? If you want so badly the simple way is for you to see and talk to a divorce lawyer. Then move out so that way y…our wife will not have no issue with you and she can avoid drama. Man! you are something else...do you go to church? ANSWER:By thinking about it enough to post this question. You are cheating in your mind already. I'm sorry for your wife.
If you both want to save the marriage, your wife needs to admit to the affair and end it as of this moment. She needs to have no contact with the man she was having the affair… with, even if this means quitting a job. She needs to explain why she had the affair--what were the issues she had in your marriage that made her decide to be with someone else? She should also agree to marital counseling with you, or at the least some counseling with a priest or a pastor. If she has no interest in giving up the affair or going to counseling, there isn't a lot you can do to save the marriage. its almost impossible to please anybody now days and cheaters can go long periods straight but will cheat again .. send her packin and get a hiv test unless your into self punishment then give her another chance First thing you need to do is recognize that there are serious problems in the marriage, and that your "wife" is not the honest, caring, considerate person that she claimed to be. Second thing you must do is immediately talk to a lawyer and find out what your options are, as they vary by state. Third thing you do is objectively evaluate your situation. Are there kids involved ? If you have no kids, then divorce her immediately. Remember women & men are different. Men cheat because of the physical. Women cheat because of the emotional attachment, thus when a woman cheats it is almost always over. If you elect to stay in the marriage it is CRITICAL that you evaluate your financial contributions from this point forward. If you are the primary financial provider, you must, you absolutely must protect your financial interests by declaring a legal separation. Being separated doesn't necessarily mean you are getting a divorce, but what it does mean is that you will not be liable for future financial obligations.Set up separate bank accounts, and make sure she is contributing financially to the household. Have an attorney draw up a QRDO, and immediately divide the 401k. Essentially treat the marriage as a financial partnership, because essentially this is the only way you can possibly save yourself. Next both of you go to counseling and see what happends. Lastly if you even remotely suspect her of continuing the affair, spy on her. Load software on the computer to get her keystrokes. Check the cell phone usage. Chances are if you think she is cheating, then she probably is. Good luck. Keep the faith. First, catch the wife in the act, that way, she doesnt get half of the marital assets nor custody of the kids. Here no matter the reason you go to court for divorce it's a no fault. Though in this state it's on the record that a woman actually served jail time for having sex with another man. Go figure. Unless the couple has a agreement before hand, everything gets split. 50 50. Sorry buddy she gets the billard table you get the shafts I mean sticks. Once a cheater, always a cheater. My Mormon wife cheated on me twice! And she did the same thing to her ex-hubby. If you suspect your wife/spouse/partner/lover is cheating on you, even if it is the most difficult thing for you to do, give her the benefit of the doubt. It's not always right or correct, even as being our first instinct, to point a finger and accuse a woman of cheating. Everyone knows that it is scientifically proven that men are 13x more likely to cheat than women, however, there are the few and far-between women that actually DO cheat. Think of it on a positive note, though: if she cheated on you, it wasn't meant to be, and you can go on with your life after a time of which you feel comfortable, and move on to bigger and much better things in your life. Understand that you now have the answer to whether you wife is the cheating type. Two options: 1) Stay with her; which is showing her that there is no penalty for doing it. Then wait for the next time, which will certainly be in your future. 2) Be hurt,betrayed,and sad that she ruined the relationship built on trust. Talk out you feelings with her to get things out for both of you. Then tell her you understand her explanation, you still care about her, and accept what she did. Then tell her you hope she understands now, just like she said she did when you got married, that you can not be with someone that you cannot trust. If she "learned her lesson" or "mistake", remind her that now she knows the consequences, when she finds someone else. Then offer to help her pack. As a Muslim, this is punishable by death! You see people, God gave us the Ten Commandments so we can live righteoulsy. If we all abide by these, there's no need for counseling, no expensive lawyers to pay, and above all no plague on this world. But man wants to create his own set of rules in life. Not a good idea..because no one can ever beat the Laws of God. It is perfect in every sense. If a wife cheats, she'll burn in hell for all eternity. This is a fact and you must always remember this. How could you enter Paradise if you had cheated on your husband!!! This is insane! Shame on those cheating wives. You had made a lifetime commitment to your husband, and you should never cheat on him. If ever this happens to you, may God forbid... tell her this straight into her eyes; " May God have mercy on you on the Day of Judgement". All shall feel the wrath that awaits those who cheat! May God the Almighty have mercy on your souls. Sins of the flesh. The flesh is weak. SEX is a basic instict in all. Though I personally beleave in a couple mantaining the basics of a relationship won't be shocked when a affair is discussed first. "open" relationships or swingers fear no pain from having sex with others. Watching is fun & builds a closness like nothing else can. In PA. adultery is punishable up to 3 years in prison if proven in court (1997 women servered time-3 months). Death now hmmmm. I am thinking to myself that her life is less than my own. A woman is to be treasured...shared if need be. Depends on the person/people. If you allow yourself such rage & selfishness to want death because your ego your frail feelings are hurt than you can have that 'god'. My GOD forgives & allows mistakes or growth. But in the end if you can't talk to your mate about fantasy or outside relationship sex as a release.. I.E. Roll play her another woman as she's blindfolded. Call her the name aloud. If you can't be honest & state needs... I need to explore sexual more with you. He should help....not push her away. Anyway I see it like this: 56% of American are divorced. Over 70% cheat on their spouse. LIEING about it the entire time. Caught on video & still deny it too. This country will never grow as a strong nation if the families aren't able to stregthen the next generation by using example as a teaching tool. Watch parents rationly solve issues like infidelity or even minor ones like compromising on financial investing. One year use her plan. Next use his. See which is working for the growth of/to wealth. I would not hide the hurt & distane from partner but I wouldn't allow it to KILL a part of myself. Couples that marry are YOKED! You need to talk to her about it. Tell her it has to stop and then suggest going through counseling, together and separate. If she doesn't want to end the affair, you will probably have to leave her, or just deal with the affair. It will be healthier for everyone if you and she separate if she isn't willing to stop though. This is a very tough situation and you need to do what you think is best for you. Tell her you know, and tell him you know, make sure he understands you wont put up with it. Answer Give her an ultimatum: Either immediately fire her secretary, end the affair, and go to marriage counseling with you, or you'll take the kids and leave. If she refuses to stop, pack up and leave. Tell her you won't come back until she stops and agrees to go to counseling. You don't deserve to have to put up with that sort of thing.
That depends on what you want to do. It is in reality not unusual for couple to go astray on the odd occasion and for that matter it is also not unheard of that the other part…ner has simply ignored the fact that it has happened in the first place. The fact that some one has had a sexual relationship with someone else does not necessarily change the way they feel about each other. ANSWER: What you need to do if your wife is cheating is tell her that she needs to move out. Tell her that you won't allow another man sharing with him.
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First of all, my sympathies. Your wife has injured, maybe even destroyed, your ability to trust her. Trust is one of the most valuable parts of a relationship. You have a ch…oice to make: end the marriage, or try to fix it. Hopefully, your wife wants the same thing. If she doesn't, you have no healthy choice but to divorce. If you choose to end the marriage, try to do it firmly but fairly. Honor the love you once had, but get a lawyer. If you choose to try to fix it (and I hope you do, frankly), the two of you are probably going to need counseling. Meet with a couples counselor and see if you can work with him or her. (Reputable therapists will "give you" that meeting, and only charge for it if you decide to use their services.) It really helps to shop around a bit -- try to interview three therapists, then choose the one the two of you feel most comfortable with. The pain of this may be with you for a long time. But if the two of you come through it, your marriage may actually emerge stronger. Good luck! I read an article by John Gray. He said that cheating is in a way...good! Now! listen!!! What he means is this! That cheating can be used as a barometer to see what is missing! There is where you need to look at/for! Yes! cheating is not good. But! it is something worth looking into!
Its like how it feels if you think your husband is having an affair. There's no difference when it comes to man and woman. Follow your instinct and never doubt what that littl…e voice is telling you. But the good answer that you can really trust on is talk to your wife. Ask her questions that she might have problems with you. Some wives will only go to that direction if their husband is not paying attention to them. This is up to you, talk, talk and never stop talking, if not you will end up alone...
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wat u do is get very pritty lady and ask her on very nice d8 den mke sweet luv
Really awful. She should just try to forget about it. If you can't try to find a new person to hang out with like some of your friends. If you don't have friends well to bad c…ause I have none. ANSWER: From my own personal experience, my whole world cave in on me without warning. I had ignored what I was seeing towards my husband when he was having the affair. I thought everything was fine, except our sex life. Don't get me wrong from the time I met him and we got married, he wasn't really a man that loves and can seduce a woman in bed, but because I loved him, it was okay if he doesn't know how to seduce his wife. The reason why we were having a problem, after 20 odd years I finally complained to him that he never made me feel good as a woman, and he never made time for me, always gone, and always busy. Because of these, he told me that I was rejecting him. So I didn't know he joined a dating site to look for someone that will understand him and talk to him. In short the man I marry was hungry to find women friends on a dating site. From there that's when things started with the special woman he met.
Fear of losing her relationship/marriage. Try counseling. Sometimes cheating is just a manifestation of an underlying problem. When she decides the thrill is outweighed by …the bother-which will inevitably follow.
I found out my wife cheated on me by looking in her e-mails. I know this was wrong but I had a gut feeling and it was true. How can I get her to admit it without telling her I saw the emails?
Why are you worried she will be upset if you looked, tell her you saw it, she is the one that has all the explaining to do.Its her fault for cheating, don't feel guilty …for checking up on her,then set down and start talking, there must be something lacking in your marriage that made her cheat. listen to her, then tell her what you feel, Don't yell
Then in the unlikely event that he leaves her for you, he will one day cheat on you with another. You should move on, now. He's not worth it, and it's not fair to the wife who… has done you no wrong.
What do you do if you have a strong gut feeling that your soon to be wife fiance is cheating on you?
humans are given power of gut feeling by god, if you feel that you have suspicion on a person with whom you are supposed to spend your entire life, my earnest advise is not to… go for the wedding, after all its about a lifetime commitment. not a agony aunt yet another advise is to confront your fiance with your doubts, sort out the differences and get married.