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In the end do narcissists lose their mind and have to go into a mental hospital?
The narcissist ages without mercy and without grace. His withered body and his overwrought mind betray him all at once. He stares with incredulity and rage at cruel mirrors. He refuses to accept his growing fallibility. He rebels against his decrepitude and mediocrity. Accustomed to being awe-inspiring and the recipient of adulation - the narcissist cannot countenance his social isolation and the pathetic figure that he cuts.
As a child prodigy, a sex symbol, a stud, a public intellectual, an actor, an idol - the narcissist was at the centre of attention, the eye of his personal twister, a black hole which sucked people's energy and resources dry and spat out with indifference their mutilated carcasses. No longer. With old age comes disillusionment. Old charms wear thin.
Having been exposed for what he is - a deceitful, treacherous, malignant egotist - the narcissist's old tricks now fail him. People are on their guard, their gullibility reduced. The narcissist - being the rigid, precariously balanced structure that he is - can't change. He reverts to old forms, re-adopts hoary habits, succumbs to erstwhile temptations. He is made a mockery by his accentuated denial of reality, by his obdurate refusal to grow up, an eternal, malformed child in the sagging body of a decaying man.
It is the fable of the grasshopper and the ant revisited.
The narcissist - the grasshopper - having relied on supercilious stratagems throughout his life - is singularly ill-adapted to life's rigors and tribulations. He feels entitled - but fails to elicit narcissistic supply. Wrinkled time makes child prodigies lose their magic, lovers exhaust their potency, philanderers waste their allure, and geniuses miss their touch. The longer the narcissist lives - the more average he becomes. The wider the gulf between his pretensions and his accomplishments - the more he is the object of derision and contempt.
Yet, few narcissists save for rainy days. Few bother to study a trade, or get a degree, pursue a career, maintain a business, keep their jobs, or raise functioning families, nurture their friendships, or broaden their horizons. Narcissists are perennially ill-prepared. Those who succeed in their vocation, end up bitterly alone having squandered the love of spouse, off-spring, and mates. The more gregarious and family-orientated - often flunk at work, leap from one job to another, relocate erratically, forever itinerant and peripatetic.
The contrast between his youth and prime and his dilapidated present constitutes a permanent narcissistic injury. The narcissist retreats deeper into himself to find solace. He withdraws into the penumbral universe of his grandiose fantasies. There - almost psychotic - he salves his wounds and comforts himself with trophies of his past.
A rare minority of narcissists accept their fate with fatalism or good humour. These precious few are healed mysteriously by the deepest offense to their megalomania - old age. They lose their narcissism and confront the outer world with the poise and composure that they lacked when they were captives of their own, distorted, narrative.
Such changed narcissists develop new, more realistic, expectations and hopes - commensurate with their talents, skills, accomplishments and education. Ironically, it is invariably too late. They are avoided and ignored, rendered transparent by their checkered past. They are passed over for promotion, never invited to professional or social gatherings, cold-shouldered by the media. They are snubbed and disregarded. They are never the recipients of perks, benefits, or awards. They are blamed when not blameworthy and rarely praised when deserving. They are being constantly and consistently punished for who they were. It is poetic justice in more than one way. They are being treated narcissistically by their erstwhile victims. They finally are tasting their own medicine, the bitter harvest of their wrath and arrogance.
Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
� 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications
No they don't. They have enough self-control to not "break down", and even when they do go into mental hospital voluntarily, it's always within a narcissistic agenda.
However, some narcissist do get hospitalized for a co-morbidity psychiatric disorders, meaning they get hospitalized not for NPD. Cases shown that they make exceptionally difficult patients to deal with.
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They are well- rehearsed from previous their previous conquests. They know how to turn things around to make you feel you've done something wrong. You search your mind like cr…azy, but you can't quite put your finger on an answer. You can come up with a thousand possibilities; not none seem a logical reason to breakup. Through months of conditioning, he almost instinctively knows the moment you're the most vulnerable. He has a condescending tone, assuring you that you deserve better. It's almost as though he has a remote control and at a push of a button he can drain your soul and zap your energy. He feels a sense of accomplishment that is almost bone-chilling. He knows you will call. He knows you'll text, and he knows the silence will drain you of your sense of self, and you feel totally helpless. He has studied you over months and maybe years, so he thinks you will reach your breaking point long after he is gone. It will not happen. You start to realize that as days pass, something of yourself returns. It's like you were slowly hemorrhaging; but the bleeding stops. You may be far from total recovery; but soon after he disappears, that feeling of dread lifts. You have to force yourself to gasp for air. Just like being underwater until your lungs nearly burst, and you're forced to the surface. He is dragging you deeper and deeper; but you're too strong to drown in his contempt. He doesn't feel love. He doesn't feel remorse. He's hoping that you will pine for him and you're damaged beyond repair. Unable to feel or feel loved. I am recovering. I made it to the surface. I'm taking a deep breath and filling my lungs beyond capacity. He may be on a distant shore, thinking I drowned in self-pity and miserable from the breakup. I am miserable, but I'm healing. I didn't drown. I never lost sight of land on the horizon. Nor should you.
Yes. They will alter, distort your mental, moral, or emotional character. Run as fast as you can!! Don't wait out the game...you will loose.
he did go to a mental hospital for 6 months and he also went to rehab
I prefer to call them "Psychiatric Facilities" to banish the terrible label of "mental." The word "Mental" or "Mental State" has been kept as a hidden secret for many …years if a family should have one or more of their family in one of these facilities. It was fear of others thinking there was "bad blood" in the family blood-line. Up until the 50s they were terrible places to be in and basically patients were used as human guinea pigs by injecting them with larger doses of insulin to put them into convulsions and also shock treatment. They still give shock treatments today, but it's done under anesthetic and in a humane fashion. Scientists are making great strides in studying the brain (the least studied of the human body until recently.) Psychiatric Facilities (private ones) treat their patients very well (there are a few that take the money and give poor service, but thankfully they are few and far between.) They offer psychological counseling by a Psychiatrist or Psychologist and the Psychiatrist (only one that can prescribe drugs or your family doctor) may prescribe medications depending on what the person's mental state is. Most patients are expected to do some chores, keep their rooms neat and clean, have visitors and those who are not seriously ill can even go shopping (sign out of course and be back at a certain time) or walk the grounds of that facility. Some patients are allowed to go home for visits and return. The Psychiatric Ward in most hospitals are over-run, not enough staff or beds, so it's well known that the more difficult patients are heavily sedated so as not to disrupt the other patients. It's not a nice place to be in, but no one is out to hurt any patient. Psychiatrists or Psychologists in the Psychiatric Wards of general hospitals are also over-loaded with patients so a patient is lucky to see one once a week. If the patient is considered of no harm to themselves or anyone else they are put on medications and released.
He had a nervous breakdown in 1968, while at college in Binghamton, New York. I was his girlfriend at the time. He did not sleep or eat for about five days and became very int…ense and controlling towards his friends. Finally out of concern for his health we took him to a hospital. Unfortunately, two months later his mother killed herself while he and I were spending the weekend together; but his mental health improved throughout that year. Yes, he was in a mental hospital because he had a breakdown, but so much more than that happened-- it was much more complex!
Any disorder that is unamanaged, out of control or undiagnosed. Also any behavior that indicates a danger to self or others.
He went to rehab because he was addicted to sleeping pills.
Is the Crownsville Mental Hospital haunted If so why and where did the people who died in there go.?
Old Answer: Well I'v been inside and weird things have happened. They even flimed a movie in there a horror movie. I do beleave that it is haunted. Well the people who died …probally where traveled through the tunnels to a cematary that i have yet to find. I don't think you have anything to worry about the creature i saw in there ran from me but killed my close friend Micheal. Yes, I do think that the Mental Hospital is huanted weird occurances have happened to me and I'v seen things and npt just me. I took a picture of the hospital and saw a face in the window but that does not make it haunted. Find out for yourself. I have no idea I know there are tunnels underground they could have been carry through there to a cematary. They flim horror movies in there to. My answer: Yes. There is a remote cemetery there that dates back to the 1800s. I won't name the location on the internet to keep people from vandalizing it, but its a cold, creepy place where weird things happen.
Marshall Mathers indeed did go to a mental hospital when he was a child.
It depends what kind of talking. Generally, if you are aware these are your own thoughts (i.e. you don't have a thought disorder and think someone is planting them in your hea…d), you do not have a mental illness. This is actually quite normal, and some people even talk to themselves out loud.
Yes. A dog can "lose his mind". Some dogs can suffer from anxiety and/or neurosis from various reasons. Sometimes boredom or inhumane confinement can effect a dog's mind. Some… breeds may be more prone because of their temperment. It is always wise before getting a new dog to research the personality traits and temperment of different breeds. Don't get a breed of dog that is high-strung or needs a lot of excercie if you don't have the time or patience to deal with him. Knowledge is your best bet. Study different breeds until you find the one that will fit into your family situation.
Original; He killed his sister. Remake; He killed his sister, her boyfriend, his mothers boyfriend and a school bully.
Overweening, smothering, spoiling, overvaluing, and idolizing the child - are all forms of parental abuse. This is because, as Horney pointed out, the child is dehumanized an…d instrumentalized. His parents love him not for what he really is - but for what they wish and imagine him to be: the fulfilment of their dreams and frustrated wishes. The child is taught to ignore reality and to occupy the parental fantastic space. Such an unfortunate child feels omnipotent and omniscient, perfect and brilliant, worthy of adoration and entitled to special treatment. The faculties that are honed by constantly brushing against bruising reality - empathy, compassion, a realistic assessment of one's abilities and limitations, realistic expectations of oneself and of others, personal boundaries, team work, social skills, perseverance and goal-orientation, not to mention the ability to postpone gratification and to work hard to achieve it - are all lacking or missing altogether. The child turned adult sees no reason to invest in his skills and education, convinced that his inherent genius should suffice. He feels entitled for merely being, rather than for actually doing (rather as the nobility in days gone by felt entitled not by virtue of its merit but as the inevitable, foreordained outcome of its birth right). In other words, he is not meritocratic - but aristocratic. In short: a narcissist is born. The narcissist has a complicated relationship with his parents (mainly with his mother, but, at times, with his father). As Primary Objects, the narcissist's parents are often a source of frustration which leads to repressed or to self-directed aggression. They traumatise the narcissist during his infancy and childhood and thwart his healthy development well into his late adolescence. Often, they are narcissists themselves. Always, they behave capriciously, reward and punish the narcissist arbitrarily, abandon him or smother him with ill-regulated emotions. They instil in him a demanding, rigid, idealistic and sadistic Superego. Their voices continue to echo in him as an adult and to adjudicate, convict and punish him in a myriad ways. Thus, in most important respects, the narcissist's parents never die. They live on to torment him, to persecute and prosecute him. Their criticism, verbal and other forms of abuse and berating live on long after their physical demise. Their objectification of the narcissist lasts longer than any corporeal reality. Naturally, the narcissist has a mixed reaction to the passing away of his parents. It is composed of elation and a sense of overwhelming freedom mixed with grief. The narcissist is attached to his parents in much the same way as a hostage gets "attached" to his captors (the Stockholm syndrome), the tormented to his tormentors, the prisoner to his wardens. When the bondage ceases or crumbles, the narcissist feels both lost and released, saddened and euphoric, empowered and drained. Additionally, the narcissist's parents are Secondary Narcissistic Supply Sources (SNSSs). They fulfil the triple role of "accumulating" the narcissist's past, evidencing the narcissist's grand moments ("live history") and providing him with Narcissistic Supply on a regular and reliable basis (Regulation of Narcissistic Supply). Their death represents the loss of the best available Narcissistic Supply Source and, therefore, constitutes a devastating blow to the narcissist's mental composure. But beneath these evident losses lies a more disturbing reality. The narcissist has unfinished business with his parents. All of us do - but his is more fundamental. Unresolved conflicts, traumas, fears and hurts seethe and the resulting pressure deforms the narcissist's personality. The death of his parents seals inability to come to terms with the very sources of his invalidity, with the very poisonous roots of his disorder. These are grave and disconcerting news, indeed. Moreover, the death of his parents virtually secures a continuation of the debate which rages between the narcissist's Superego and the other structures of his personality. Unable to contrast the ideal parents with the real (less than ideal) ones, unable to communicate with them, unable to defend himself, to accuse, to pity � the narcissist finds himself trapped in a time capsule, forever reliving his childhood and its injustice and abandonment, denied the closure he so craves and needs. The narcissist needs his parents alive mostly in order to get back at them, to accuse and punish them for what they have done to him. This attempt at reciprocity ("settling the scores") represents to him justice and order, it introduces sense and logic into an otherwise totally confused landscape. It is a triumph of right over wrong, weak over strong, law and order over chaos and capriciousness. The demise of his parents is perceived by him to be a cosmic joke at his expense. He feels "stuck" for the rest of his life with the consequences of events and behaviour not of his own doing or fault. The villains evade responsibility by leaving the stage, ignoring the script and the director's (=the narcissist's) orders. The narcissist goes through a final big cycle of helpless rage when his parents die. He then feels, once again, ashamed and guilty, worthy of condemnation and punishment (for being angry as well as elated at their death). It is when his parents pass away that the narcissist becomes a child again. And, as it was during the first time round, it is not a pleasant or savoury experience. Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" (c) 2003 Lidija Rangelovska Narcissus Publications
What is going on in the mind of a narcissist when he has just deleted a source of supply from his list?
The narcissist, in my own experience, has deleted this source because he believes that a "better" one has come along. This does not mean that the new one is superior in intell…igence, looks, love, etc. It means that they are more convenient. However, the N may be making a fatal mistake, for which he will pay dearly down the line. My own N needed me for many things: My looks, passion, intellect, relative youth, money, connections, education, prestige. I was dumped when someone geographically closer, with less of these qualities, appeared. Also, the new supply was less inclined to "call" him on things. Deep inside, the N knows he has taken a risk. But years of chameleon-like shifting and changing has led him astray: He picks short term gain over long term higher gain. There is a deep insecurity and anxiety to this shifting. It is a deadly game, which the N can neither acknowledge or overcome. The N is operating within a structure diametrically opposed to his genuine self-interests. That is a very good answer my ex N did exactly the same thing same situation. And told me in a text I quote...."I think I am doing the right thing, I hope I am"
If the clinically diagnosed narcissist has cancer and doesn't go to the hospital when they should just to make you nervous how do you help?
They're an adult. It's NOT YOUR PROBLEM. Get away from them ASAP.