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Is a violent narcissist always going to be a narcissist or can they change in a new relationship?
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Narcissists are the least likely to go for any type of counseling and it's a rarity they will ever change no matter how good the next relationship is. When narcissists meet with pyschiatrists they resist therapy, they turn the tables and start pyschoanalyzing the pyschiatrist, using pyschology as a weapon against them. Sometimes doing so very successfully, letting a narcissist understand pyschology is like giving a loaded gun to a child to play with, they dont use it good reasons. This is why they are dispised by mental health care workers.
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Does a narcissist every change any behaviors for example stop drinking?
No. A narcissist cannot change. Narcissism is an untreatable personality disorder. It is unrealistic to believe a narcissist can change any behavior. In the world of the narcissist, he or she is center, remorseless, and sees no reason to change. He may manipulate his chosen one into believing he will change as manipulation and omnipotence are core to his insatiable need to control and keep his partner. Losing is not an option for the narcissist. Because of his inability to feel remorse, the narcissist acts out normal responses based purely on observation of others. He may say he will stop drinking to keep the relationship of abuse and chaos intact. Indeed, he cannot perceive a reason not to do exactly as he chooses to do. The narcissist lacks the ability to be accountable to any person or promise. He has no sense of remorse, no need or feelings for others exept to objectify
How do you help a narcissist?
The question is help them how? Refer them to counseling, but they don't want to be fixed, though you may want to fix them to be a 'normal' person so you can keep a relationship with them. If you are a lay person and in a relationship with a narcissist, you cannot help them. Just by the nature of your relationship and the pathology of a narcissist, things will get ugly, it will be at your expense and there will be no change in the narcissist. A good therapist will be the one to help a narcissist, but it takes a great deal of work on the part of the narcissist, a commitment to healing, only they don't see themselves as 'broken' or anything wrong with them, so an honest introspective communication with a therapist is rare. It's so hard to understand. Leaving them is best for you though and isn't that sad that that is also the way to help a narcissist, because they are sucking your goodness from you and using it to buoy themselves. So sad.
Can a narcissist handle rejection?
No because rejection means you know who and what they really are and know all their true self. They think they are god and that one cannot live without them. They believe that you are the one who needs them, when in reality it is the other way around. Once a narcissist always a narcissist. They cannot change
Can a narcissist man leave one relationship in search for another woman and have a different perspective on life to change?
No- a narcissist is a narsiccist- no matter who they choose to victimize. Don't worry, it just takes them alittle while to turn up that heat in the kitchen, but it will get hot!!
How do you change narcissist into a loving person?
You cannot change a narcissist. That's like saying how do you change a snake into a bear. They use other people who are taken in by their performance. Get away while you can still run. If you think you can change a narcissist then you are setting yourself up as the perfect prey. While you are trying to change the unchangeable he will be using you up.
Can a narcissist ever be faithful to one person both the narcissist and the one he's in a relationship with are not married but he continues to try to develop other relationships can he change?
He probably can be physically faithfully but emotionally he is only faithful to one person- Himself. Walk away honey, you deserve better.
Can someone be a narcissist in training so to speak where they definitely have narcissistic traits but not full-blown narcissism and if so can they change?
They can be a developing narcissist. NO. they can NOT change. Sorry. Run while you can!
How do you get a narcissist to stop accusing you of sleeping with her husband?
Either use duct tape or cut contact. The narcissist will not change his/her ways.
Do narcissists or people with PDs try to rekindle relationships even if they've been dumped?
A "true" narcissist will always, without fail, attempt to hang onto any relationship in which the narcissist gains "narcissistic supply." A "true" narcissist will not be deterred! They will do what it takes, say what it takes and follow-up with whatever actions are necessary to hang onto narcissistic supply. They will attempt to rekindle the broken relationship because they do not accept the fact that the relationship is over. If you respond in any manner...ie...phone calls, text messages, letters...etc...the narcissist accepts this as proof that he still holds some interest in your life. He will remain relentless in his attempt to gain any attention whatsoever from his supply...ie...you! You may find it flattering that someone seems so attached to you that they will do anything to keep you around, but just know that you are not a human being in the sense that we are human beings. People, to the "true" narcissist", are simply objects in which to gain the attention they so desperately crave. If you can accept that fact (and it is a fact) feel free to continue a relationship with a narcissist. However, if you ever wish to have a meaningful and intimate relationship, you should search out and find a healthy human being. The narcissist will always be a narcissist and there is nothing in the world that will change that fact. Nothing! It is unfortunate because, generally speaking, narcissists are talented, charming and successful people. They simply do not possess empathy or compassion for any human on the planet. Those emotions are not present in the narcissist nor will they ever become present. The part of the psychological make up found in normal-healthy minds is absolutely missing in the narcissist. EXAMPLE: If a person were born without legs, that person could have artificial legs attached. However, the artificial legs will never "grow" naturally. A person born without empathy or the capacity to love does have the ability to observe the behaviors of others who feel empathy and love. The narcissist can learn to mimick the behaviors of empathy and love. The narcissist will never have the ability to "grow" feelings of empathy or love. That simple!
You left your narcissist but he pretends like he left you Why?
Narcissists have a natural ability to turn any situation in their favor (in their own minds, of course!). If they feel it is important that they are the one who "left" the relationship, then in their minds, they are, in fact, the one who left the relationship. If it were to their benefit that you "left" the relationship, then that is the way it would be (in their own minds, of course!). There is no way to change the mind of the N and the N will so adamantly believe they left the relationship, the belief becomes the truth for them. You do know that it is of no importance who exited the relationship. The important factor is that you are free of the narcissist and if you have any hope of living a peaceful life, you will keep it that way!
Does explaining to a Narcissist how they act and how dysfunctional they are help them to change?
Best guess, it can. There is no other way for a true narcissist to be aware of issues within him or herself.
Can you change a narcassist?
A narcissist would not want help because he or she would not think there was anything wrong. Therefore, you can't help a narcissist; even when a narcissist is court ordered into therapy, there is little a professional can do to help a person change this personality type.
