Is it okay for a sixteen year old female to fall in love with a twenty one year old male?

Answer 1

Definately! You cannot tame love and you will be attracted to many people in your lifetime of which you have no control over. Keep in mind that at your age, love, lust, hormones and obsessions are almost one and the same. You have to look at the bigger picture and realize that you may be attracted to them for one reason only and without the experience of being in relationships just because of your age, no offense, that one reason may not be enough to build a relationship on. Just realize that love is more than attraction, lust, heart-wrenching feelings and all the things that you feel and will call "Love". Many people your age are attracted to older guys because they have so much more to offer than they guys that are your age. Girls mature into women faster than boys to men. Because of this, some girls feel that all the guys they know are dorks and immature. That's because they are. They will not catch up to you until a few years. I'm not sure why nature does this but I think it gives the girls a few years to decide which one of these immature guys are compatible with you as they mature. Keep in mind that the "Love of your life" may just be a passing thing and not a permanent monument in your actual life. Love can make many people narrow minded and all they can see is you and the man of your dreams together forever. They don't take in the fact of all the other things in their life such as education, a job, children, a mortgage, illness and the infinite other things that can come between two people in a relationship. Many people think that a relationship is 50-50. Its not. It takes 100% from both people. If it is meant to be, it will happen between you and him. If it doesn't, learn from your experience and be stronger because of it.