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Abuse can be one word, or 500 words. Anything said with the intention of hurting your feeings, self esteem, or person.. Although, there are quite a few people who unintentionally hurt others, not knowing they do this behavior. It's a learned behavior, simply because we humans aren't born knowing how to hurt others. There ares several types of abuse.. PHYSICAL ABUSE - any unwanted physical attention - kicking, punching, pushing, pulling, slapping, hitting, shaking - cutting, burning - pulling hair - squeezing hand, twisting arm - choking, smothering - throwing victim, or throwing things at victim - restraining, tying victim up - forced feeding - hitting victim with objects - knifing, shooting - threatening to kill or injure victim - ignoring victim's illness or injury - denying victim needs (eg. food, drink, bathroom, medication etc.) - hiding necessary needs - pressuring or tricking victim into something unwanted - standing too close or using intimidation - making or carrying out threats to hurt victim -making her (victim) afraid by suing looks, gestures or actions - smashing things - abusing pets - display of weapons as a means of intimidation SEXUAL ABUSE - any unwanted sexual contact - forcing her to have sex, harassing her for sex - forcing her to have sex with animals - uttering threats to obtain sex - pinching, slapping, grabbing, poking her breasts or genitals - forcing sex when sick, childbirth or operation - forcing her to have sex with other men or women - forcing her to watch or participate in group sex - knowingly transmitting sexual disease - treating her as a sex object - being "rough" - pressuring her to pose for pornograpahic photos - displaying pornography that makes her uncomfortable - using sex as a basis for an argument - using sex as a solution to an argument - criticising her sexual ability - unwanted fondling in public - accusation of affairs - threatening to have sex with someone else if she doesn't give sex - degrading her body parts - sexual jokes - demanding sex for payment or trade - insisting on checking her body for sexual contact EMOTIONAL ABUSE Also called "Psychological or Verbal Abuse" - false accusations - name calling and finding fault - verbal threats - playing "mind games" - making victim think she/he is stupid, or crazy - humiliating victim - overpowering victim's emotions - disbelieving victim - bringing up past issues - inappropriate expression of jealousy - degrading victim - putting victim down, not defending her - blame the victim for things - turning the situation against the victim - laughing in victim's face - silence, ignoring victim - refusing to do things with or for victim - always getting own way - neglecting victim - pressuring victim - expecting victim to conform to a role - comparing victim to others - suggested involvement with other women or men - making victim feel guilty - using certain mannerisms or behaviour as a means of control (eg. snapping fingers, pointing) - threatening to get drunk or stoned unless.... - manipulation - starting arguments - withholding affection - holding grudges and not really forgiving - lying - threatening to leave or commit suicide - treating victim as a child - having double standards for victim - saying one thing and meaning another - denying or taking away victim's responsibilities - not keeping commitments - insisting on accompanying victim to the doctor's office - deliberately creating a mess for victim to clean - preventing victim from getting or taking a job - threatening her with anything (words, objects) - refusing to deal with issues - minimising or disregarding victim's work or accomplishments - demanding an account of victim's time/routine - taking advantage of victim's fear of something - making her do illegal things DURING PREGNANCY AND CHILBIRTH - forcing her to have an abortion - denying that the child is his - insulting her body - refusing to support her during and after pregnancy - refusing sex because her pregnant body is ugly - demanding or pressuring her for sex after childbirth - blaming her that the baby is the "wrong sex" - refusing to allow her to breastfeed FINANCIAL ABUSE - taking victim's money - withholding money - not allowing victim money - giving victim an allowance - keeping family finances a secret - spending money foolishly - pressuring victim to take full responsibility for finances -not paying fair share of bills - not spending money of special occasions when able (birthdays etc) spending on addictions, gambling, sexual services - not letting victim have access to family income SOCIAL ABUSE - controlling what victim does, who victim sees, talks to, what victim reads and where victim goes - put downs or ignores victim in public - not allowing victim to see or access to family and friends - change of personality when around others (abuser) - being rude to victim's friends or family - dictating victim's dress and behaviour - choosing victim's friends - choosing friends, activities or work rather being with victim - making a "scene" in public - making victim account for themselves - censoring victim's mail - treating victim like a servant - not giving victim space or privacy USING CHILDREN - assaulting victim in front of the children - making victim stay at home with the children - teaching children to abuse victim through name calling, hitting etc - embarrassing victim in front of the children - not sharing responsibility for children - threatening to abduct children, or telling victim they will never get custody - putting down victim's parenting ability DURING SEPARATION/DIVORCE - buying off children with expensive gifts - not showing up on time for visitation or returning them on time - pumping children for information on victim's partners etc - telling children that victim is responsible for breaking up the family - using children to transport messages - denying victim access to the children USING RELIGION - using scripture to justify or dominance - using church position to pressure for sex or favours - using victim, then demanding forgiveness - interpreting religion or scripture your way - preventing victim from attending church - mocking victim's belief's - requiring sex acts or drugs for religious acts ENVIRONMENTAL ABUSE ABUSE IN THE HOME - locking victim in or out - throwing out or destroying victim's possessions - harming pets - slamming doors - throwing objects - taking phones and denying victim access to the phone ABUSE IN THE VEHICLE - deliberately driving too fast or recklessly to scare victim - driving while intoxicated - forcing victim out of the vehicle (when angry) - pushing victim out of the vehicle when it is in motion - threatening to kill victim by driving toward an oncoming car - chasing or hitting victim with a vehicle - killing victim in a deliberate accident - denying her use of the vehicle by tampering with engine, chaining steering wheel or taking the keys RITUAL ABUSE - mutilation - animal mutilation - forced cannibalism - human sacrifices - suggesting or promoting suicide - forcing victim to participate in rituals or to witness rituals Here are some symptoms of abuse... MISUSE OF POWER AND CONTROL Using Emotional Abuse - putting victim down - making victim feel bad about themselves - calling victim names - making victim think they're crazy - playing mind games - humiliating victim - making victim feel guilty - treating victim like a servant Using Economic Abuse - preventing victim from getting or keeping a job - making victim ask for money - giving victim an allowance - taking victim's money - keeping family income a secret and preventing access to income Using Intimidation - making victim afraid by using looks, gestures or actions - smashing things - abusing pets - displaying weapons in threatening way Using Isolation - controlling every aspect of victim's life - controls who victim sees and talks to and where victim goes - limiting outside enjoyment - using jealousy to justify actions Using Coercion and Threats - making or carrying out threats to hurt victim - threatening to leave or commit suicide - pressuring victim to drop charges - pressuring victim to do illegal things Using Children - making victim feel guilty about the children - using children to relay messages - using visitation to harass victim - threatening to take children away Minimising, Denying, Blaming - making light of the abuse and not taking victim's concerns about it seriously - saying the abuse didn't happen - shifting responsibility for abusive behaviour - saying the victim caused it Answer I would highly suggest staying away from this other person, totally. No relationship with them, no sex, no phone calls, no finding out gossip about them. Cut them out of your life entirely. Quit blaming them for your life. Ignore what they say about you if you hear it from other sources. If you're still unwilling to make that step, accept your share of the responsibility for what goes on. Neither of you is contributing to a healthy relationship by staying together. You're both basically feeding into a continuing cycle on both sides. If you have children together it's especially unfair and abusive to them. Answer I can't believe what I have just read! I have been married for almost 35 years, have known my husband for almost 40 years. If you think we haven't had a word or two said to each other that didn't sit right, then you are sadly mistaken. NO marriage is perfect. The difference is, when you may have a very few falling-outs with your partner (and we are only human) is to cool off, apologize and sit down like to adults and communicate and try to understand why one or the other feels the way they do and come to some resolution. Two people can't be married for years and not butt heads on occasion. As far as what the poster said in their question NO YOU ARE NOT VERBALLY ABUSED! Answer The hallmark of abuse is the ('unauthorized') exercise of POWER by one person over an another. It is generally also HABITUAL. In any family or household, there will be times when basically good people 'snap' and say unkind things and/or yell. If people make their peace soon and don't behave like this habitually - and don't bully and intimidate others, then it isn't abuse. Answer Abuse so depends on what the rest of the words that are used during the marriage. If the silent treatment is part of the package, it is abuse. If the discussion is stonewalled by the unkind words, it is just plain mean. Anything short of listening, affirmation and considered response is not going to further the relationship. We all have to work on improving together. Answer The original question refers mainly to verbal/emotional abuse. There is a common thing in nearly all cases. The abuser will say if asked, that the abused person, should not have been hurt by their words. This is naturally not their decision to make. Then, when the two sit down to discuss the issue, the abuser will talk about the other person's feelings. The abused will talk of their own feelings and will want to hear of the feelings of the other person. This, afterall is the start of reconciliation and beginning of apology. Unfortunately the abuser will not talk of their own heart and feelings in most cases and will be arrivated by the one who does.
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Does the person say things that makes you feel bad and low? Does this person call you names and/or tell you that your no good for anything? Are you ever left in a room cryin…g after your partner has said something so hurtful that you can't help but feel like less than nothing and burst into tears and worst off all they said the same thing to you yesterday and maybe even the day before? If there is a yes to anyone of these questions or you've been though similar events then you are in a mentally, verbally, and emotionally abusive relationship and you should GET OUT NOW!!! If its a parent rather than a partner TELL SOMEONE!!! In either case do whatever you have to in order to assure your safety and that of others (Children, Brothers and Sisters etc) and get away from the abuser. ... Verbal and Mental abuse like physical abuse is consistent. Is it ongoing? Does what he/she says or does to you affect even after they're gone? Have you felt less than yourself? Like your self value is undetermined now, or you feel your not worth anything because you think what's said about you is justified? For example are you beginning to believe any of what the abuser does or says to you is okay because you deserved it? Does what he/she say or do to you not only affect you but affect people around you? Like your mentality has been so impacted by the possible abuse that your actions because of, begin to affect people around you? If you said yes to any of THESE questions no doubt are you being abused, nevertheless seeking professional opinions on the subject should not be completely out ruled. This is a public site, accessible to anybody, and I'll be straight with you that I am not a licensed doctor. In short, all the apples in the world couldn't completely keep the doctor away, it just helps you feel better. Also, if you are just starting out in a relationship with someone who might be an abuser but also they are unaware of the fact they could be one, don't entirely rule their opinion out. Honesty is the best policy and if you feel like you want a good stable relationship with this person, include them in any actions you take for the relationship. If this person wants to be a part of the building process of your relationship then they are certainly worth the effort. If not, it doesn't mean that they aren't but that maybe you should consider other options, that or if your feelings for them are extremely strong, by all means don't give up, but be sure to keep tabs on their temper. Abusers always have tempers, that or too much pride.
Answer Unless you have faced your own ghosts, don't bother the poor guy. People who verbally/physically abuse someone they love need professional help, so if you haven'…t received some sort of counseling for this, it's best to leave well enough alone. If you have, then take the chance and phone him and meet him somewhere (always best to look the person in the eye when you are trying to recoop what you have lost.) He may be a nice guy and forgiving. I hope this time you mean it, because if you aren't he'll leave for good the next time. Answer If you can offer the guy your regrets and apologies without the added agenda of getting him back, then meet with him. Otherwise, send the message in a nice letter do not contact him further. It is so hard to stop acting abusively that even with counseling and behavior modification, you risk doing it to him again.
Answer Women and men can be verbal abusers.: The following recurring thoughts indicate you are being mentally or emotionally abused by your spouse or lover. … "Sandy has no right to do that." "I had better not tell Harry or he will be mad again." "I'd better keep this private to avoid being criticized again." "I can never do anything right with Chris." "I can't stand it when Erin does that to me." "Sometimes I think Natalie is tearing me apart with her mouth." "Bob is always so sarcastic." "When Pat talks to me like that I feel really small." All abuse takes a toll on self-esteem. The abused person starts feeling helpless and possibly even hopeless. In addition, most emotional abusers are adept at convincing the victim that the abuse is his/her fault. Somehow, the victim is responsible for what happened. Emotional abuse can take the form of: * Extramarital affairs * Provocative behavior with opposite sex * Humiliation and put-downs * Hypercriticism * Refusal to communicate * Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice * Unreasonable jealousy * Extreme moodiness * "I love you but..." * "If you don't shape up, I will..." * Domination and control * Withdrawal of affection A common form of emotional abuse is "I love you, but..." That sounds so sweet, yet it is both a disguised criticism and a threat. It indicates, "I love you now, but if you don't stop such-and such, that love is of short duration." It is a constant put-down that works on your self-esteem. And mental abuse often has some threat involved such as, "If you don't shape up, I will..." "If you leave me, I'll go off without a trace. You and the kids will never find me and never get a penny from me." All abuse takes a toll on self-esteem. The abused person starts feeling helpless and possibly even hopeless. In addition, most emotional abusers are adept at convincing the victim that the abuse is his/her fault. Somehow, the victim is responsible for what happened. Mental abuse is a blow of death to your self-esteem. Often the first step in leaving the abuse is obtaining counseling to rebuild that esteem.
Answer WELL IF YOUR AFRAID KNOW ONE WILL BELIVE YOU GET A LITTLE CAMRA HIDE IT SOMEWHERE AND IF HE STARTS BEATING YOU UP YOU WILL HAVE PROOF THEN TAKE IT TO THE COPS AN…D HE WILL GO TO JAIL AND YOU MOVE SOMEWHERE FAR AWAY AND START A NEW LIFE. Answer Verbal abuse can be as harmful as physical abuse and should not be tolerated by anyone, especially someone who represents law enforcement. But you know that already. The question is, would you stay with him if he weren't abusive? If you love him and want the relationship to get better, perhaps you could think about couples counseling.
It's hard for a woman to get over a verbally abusive man because the abuse was directed at her self-esteem and self-confidence rather than her physically. People look at a wom…an who's been physically abused and they can obviously see the injuries caused by the abuse, but with verbal abuse it's different because no one can see that you've been continuously that you're ugly, stupid, not worth the time of day, no one will ever love you and that the abuser is all you deserve. You believe it. You end up feeling so degraded that you can hardly function because it's all you've been told by someone who says they love you. To heal from verbal abuse a woman has to first get away from the abuser which is hard, then seek counseling where she can gain her self-esteem and self-confidence back. Then she must realize what was it that made her susceptible to an abuser in the first place. It takes years for a woman who has been abused to fully heal, but more so with psychological and verbal abuse because they are directed at the woman's mind and she begins to doubt herself. Only about 1 out of 2000 women abused are abused in just one form.
When my 14 yr old grandaughter states her opinion her father is verbally and mentally abusive and she wants to leave home?
Answer The father simply MUST control his rage. He should seriously think about a course in anger management or seek other help. It sounds as if at the moment his… lack of control is doing a lot of harm.
Answer if you partner calls you bad names or puts you down in any way.
Can a 16-year-old female in Illinois legally live with a friend if there is verbal and mental abuse at home?
Answer There should be no problem as long as all the adults in the picture agree for you to do this. Continue to go to school and work and you will do well.
How do abusers hide their verbally and mentally abusive side so well from their friends who perceive them to be a great guy?
I was in a relationship with a verbally/mentally abusive guy and to everyone he hungout with he was a cool, fun to be around, all around great guy. Or at least this is what th…ey thought. He had an amazing way of hiding how he treated me around his friends. Abusive guys are VERY manipulative and have the ability to manipulate everyone around them if given the opening. Most "friends" don't look to deep into things and don't like to get involved in their friends relationships. Even if they see him put you down or humiliate you in front of them he will always have an explaination and some "reason" why he had to treat you this way. He will tell lies about you in order for his friends to believe you are a horrible girlfriend or in some way have done something to make him treat you poorly. He breaks down your self esteem to make you feel like you are actually doing something to make him call you names, hurt your feelings in front of people, and make you feel worthless 24/7. His friends may not see it, but he is the master manipulator, they may never see it. Get out now!!!!! Please don't go back either...it just makes it harder to leave in the end.
How can an emotionally mentally and verbally abused man get his kids back away from controling dangers mom?
Kill her! I repeat, kill her! Any questions? None? kill Her!
Yes. -- It is known as cyber bullying and is just as serious as any other type of bullying.
It may depend on how often you receive the abuse and how harsh it is.
abused mentally can leads to many problems but the most important problem is. A person starts to get depressed and writing ur thoughts on paper can be a very good remady for d…epression.
Verbal abuse is when adverse comments are used against the sufferer or about the sufferer; it can cause nervous and intellectual upset. In Florida the verbal abuse law sta…tes, a premeditated attack of words on any other person paired with the probability to act upon it that it strikes anxiety in another human being that assault is imminent.
Anyone and everyone that gets verbally abused and gender makes no difference.
How can an 18 year get custody of her younger siblings when the parents are mentally verbally and physically abused?
There are no guarantees they will give you custody but if the children are in a abusive home you have to report this to the Child Protective Service. If they after investigati…ng find your parents unfit the court will remove your parents parental rights and then they end up in foster care and you can petition for custody or being their foster care parent. But like I said, there are no guarantees the judge will find you suitable at this young age.
Immediately. Reach out to a close friend or relative for help, and leave as soon as you can.