My exboyfriend is a narcissist but he doesnt know can I suggest he read your article?

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If he is has a true NPD then keep away. Nothing you say or do will change him EVER, only you and YOUR mental health will be affected. Harsh as it may sound- Consider yourself to have had a lucky escape, narcissists don't love anyone. They just feed off you to make themselves feel powerful. Keep away. You could but in my experience (and I know I am not uncommon) Narcissists will rarely accept they have a problem or appreciate you for bringing this kind of thing to their attention - as the whole problem is that they blame everyone else for everything! As the relationship has ended and presumably your main priority is not to get along with your boyfriend you could gently steer him towards a link or article on Narcissism and say you thought he might find it interesting. In the event that he did take anything onboard you would know you had done your best for the mental sanity of his future girlfriends. But be aware that he may completely ignore it at best or actively attack you for suggesting he may have such a condition at worst. My ex N partner instantly turned it all around and told me that he had read the article I asked him to read and thought it actually applied far more to me than him and that I was the one with a personality disorder in his opinion...which is of course the whole problem, that they will turn everything around and make you feel like you are the one with the issue, even if you are genuinely trying to help. So be careful if you still need to get on with this person. Best of luck!