Should a twelve year old keep her baby?
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Keeping Your Baby at 14-years-old This is a very hard decision to make. It depends alot on yourmindset. I was 15 when I got pregnant. I kept the baby. She is now17 and has mov…ed out and gotten her GED. Sometimes I wonder if shewould've succeeded better in school had I not been so young andbeen able to guide her better. There are a lot of things I thoughtI knew at your age that in all reality, only time could teach me.If you think you can give up life as a teenager and devote yourtime and love to the baby, then you should keep the child. A childwill make you feel the best and worst you have ever felt in yourlife. Please put a lot of thought into this; playtime will be overand adult life will be there overnight. Here are more comments, suggestions, and opinions from WikiAnswerscontributors: . Hey well you are probably going through a hard time right knowbut listen up if your family loved you it wouldn't matter what theythought! Just do what is right for you. . I am a 21 year old mother of two, and I would like to say thatif you are old enough to make a baby, you are old enough to takecare of it. I know from experience that it is very hard, even withsomeone to help you, but BELIEVE IT CAN BE DONE! I am proof. I hadmy son 4 days before my 18th birthday. I am currently pregnant withmy second child. I graduated high school and I am currentlyenrolled in college. Mistakes are made daily baby, all you can dois keep your head up, and if you want to keep this child, do thevery best you can to be the best you can for your family. I don'tbelieve in abortion and to be honest, it would be very hard for youto carry a child 9 months and then give it up for adoption. Butultimately the choice is yours. . A fourteen year old should never have to worry about whethershe should keep her baby or not. She shouldn't even have a toworry. It would break my heart if my daughter or niece got pregnantat such a young age, I would feel like I had done a miserable jobas a parent. But I could never turn my back on a child whodesperately needs help, especially my own. But I really don'tbelieve a 14 year old is mature enough to make the decision whetheror not she should keep her baby. Anyone who is not mature enough tothink about using contraceptives, is certainly not mature enough tobe having sex -- no matter how old you are -- let alone matureenough to raise a child. . I think you should keep your baby. I was 16 when I gotpregnant. I did not tell anyone until I was 7 months pregnant. Iwas scared and my boyfriend and i were fighting all the time. Now Iwould not change it for the world. I choose to keep my baby and nowhe is the love of my life. I think you are old enough to make adecision. I also think what you choose will be the right one. Beinga mother is a wonderful experience. I just wish i would havewaited. I would keep the baby if you think that is in the rightinterest for the baby. . Ok..this is a very hard subject. A 14 year old is just that..a14 year old. She can look older, or she can look still like achild, but no matter what..she is still just a 14 year old in themind. That being said, there are exceptions to every rule. Where I comefrom, girls get married really young. Some as young as 13. My veryown cousin was almost 14 when she got married. By the time she hada child, she was 14, she turned 15 2 months before her son's birth.She was, and still is to this day, a very smart, intelligent woman.No one could ever accuse her of not being the best mother on thisplanet. . I think that you should do what you want keep the baby if yourdad and mom dont like it move out and live with your baby'sdad . I am 15 and I thought i was pregnant too so i told my mom andshe was there for me she got me the test and stuck by me but shetold me that i had to give it up but i told her that i wanted tokeep it and well she wasn't a happy camper and i told her that iwanted it she said fine but it turned out that i wasn't pregnant. . If you are, keep it, it could be the only chance you get. Thereis no way I would give up a baby. We girls are so lucky to be ableto have babies so don't ever waste that! . As others have said - I am the mother of teenage girls (one 17& one 14). If one of mine came telling me they were pregnant Iwould gladly help them out Luckily I have done well so far -My 14year old has a 6 month baby My 17 year old has a 5 year old,rightnow she is college bound, wanting to be a doctor! To give the babyup for adoption is a very irresponsible decision, and it isselfish, not thinking of yourself but what is best for the baby. Ababy deserves to be with their mother. For the birth mother keepingthe baby would be the hardest act of selflessness they could have,and the strongest amount of love too. I myself was raised by teenparents.I think they did a wonderful job. I myself had a baby at12, I have also told my daughters, that if they think they are oldenough to dance then they should be old enough to handle theresponsibility on their own. I am not a free ride, so thereforethey better figure up what it would cost to keep the baby &live on their own. I actually did this just for fun estimate onwhat it would take to make it as a teen mother. It was really nottoo much especially if you get financial help from the state. . I cannot argue with your experience, nor do I wish to, but Ihave some first hand experience from another point of view that mayalso be of value to some one trying to make such a difficultdecision. I've delivered numerous young teen moms and several ofthem have chosen to give up their baby for adoption. This wasn't aneasy decision, and they had to come to it on their own.Nevertheless, all of those who made this decision, at least in myexperience, were very happy that they did so. They explained it tome as their doing what they felt was in the baby's best interest,putting their feeling at the time aside. I cannot imagine howdifficult this decision must have been, but I guess I wouldn't saythat it is "irresponsible" to make such a choice. It's anindividual's decision that must be made carefully and prayerfully.Should a teem mom choose to keep her child, great! It just meanssome important adjustments must be made for a time, and help mustbe given by others for a time. The bottom line seems to be, is itbest for the baby? This isn't said with lack of consideration forthe mom. But the baby has no say in the matter, so its mother mustmake the best decision for all. God bless all moms! . Just remember it`s your decision. Don`t let your mother tellyou no you can't. You're going to have to carry this child for 9months. Therefore, you, not your mother or father should have thedecision to deny you of that child. This child is yours not anyoneelse's. Ask your parents whether they would agree to help raiseher. You still have to go to school and if you don`t and focus allyour energy on the baby then your future and the child`s will behorrid. If they refuse to help then it is best to give up thechild. Remember fight for your right to be a mother! THIS IS YOURCHILD! NOT YOUR PARENTS! . I'm 33 years old and I have a baby. My husband and I had a veryhard time with adjusting to life with the baby, it's very hard workand exhausting. We are financially secure, educated and matureenough to handle our precious little guy. We don't get much sleep,we don't eat as well as we used to, we are lucky if we can takeshowers. This is a huge responsibility, and we love our son withall our hearts and we are truly blessed to have him. But, it's veryhard work. My 15 year old neice has just announced that she ispregnant and she is keeping it. She does not know who the father isand plans on raising him by herself. She does not have a job, shehas not finished 10th grade, her mother can barely pay the rentevery month, and her dad is not in the picture. I've been feeling sick since the day I found out. I'm not happy forher. I feel sad for the baby. I can't accept the fact that my neiceis going to raise a baby on her own - love is not always enough.You need more than just love. Love doesn't pay the mortgage, or putfood on the table. I don't know how she is going to care for thebaby 24 hours without getting a break. I hope she doesn't end upneglecting the baby. I am fearful she may hurt the baby out offrustration and tiredness. I don't think she can handle goingmonths without normal sleep. I can't help her because I have mybaby and another son. I can't believe she did this to herself. Idon't think she should keep the baby - I don't think it's fair tothe baby to have a mother like this. It's very scary. This is why Ijust stay away. I can't handle watching this happen to an innocentbaby. A child having a baby. These young girls think it's cool tohave a baby of their own. Being in labor is not enjoyable, whatyour body goes through is very painful. Emotionally and physicallyafter giving birth is not a great experience. You're tired and youjust want to sleep - no more sleeping child. Raising a baby is notalways sunshine. It's work. You will worry about this child for therest of your life now.... it's a huge committment. . I'm trying to understand this all myself, even though I was 15when I got pregnant, and 16 when I had my Joseph. I'm 40 now and heis 24 I did not get married to Mike his dad, because he wanted tomarry me only to give the baby his last name. We were the bestfriends before we conceived, but afterwords, he left me. I ended uptelling my parents when I was 7 months along. I didn't know what todo so I just denied it was happening altogether. . Well I got pregnant at 13 and I kept my beautiful baby girl!Her name is Jacinta, I am now 17 almost 18 and let me tell you, Iwould not recommend a young girl like yourself keeping your baby.It has been the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I had to quitschool so now I am 2 years behind and I will not be graduating withmy friends! I suggest putting him/her up for adoption OR a reallygood option if giving "custody" of him/her to a family member whowould like a child and when it is old enough to understand explainto him/her that you are their mother and when you are finished withyour schooling or at least a little older than you can decide whatto do, there is plenty of time to have kids! I have 2 kids andanother on the way and I am happy but not, once I had Jacinta I waskinda of depressed but I loved her and couldn't give her up! Mysecond child's name is Tannor, he is only 8 months old, he isadorable! But I live with my boyfriend/finacee, we have beentogether since I was 12 we are very much in love, I work full timenow! We are getting married soon! If you have no idea who thefather is or if the father wants nothing to do with him/her thanthat makes it even worse for your child! Do yourself and your childa favor, if you love your "un"born child then do not keep it, itwill be too hard on you and that will rub off on him/her! It ishard to explain, but you will not be able to handle it at that age,and you need to be available 24/7 for your child, always aware andsuch! Just remember I have been there done that. . I think that you need to look at all factors before deciding onabortion, adoption or parenting. I am a 19 year old college sophomore. I graduated in the top 20% ofmy high school class with a 3.7 GPA. I am getting a degree in ChildPsychology with an emphasis on behavioral analysis and in threeyears, I will be working one on one with children with autism. Irent a nice house and I own my own car. I work 40 hours a week inaddition to being a full time student. I'm also a mother. I had mydaughter Kallyn when I was 14, right at the beginning of myfreshman year of high school. She will be five October 5th of thisyear. She has not hindered my progress one bit...I knew what Iwanted from life and she was simply a bonus, not a drawback. Myfiance is 21 and his daughter just turned three. The four of ushave made a family and while we are not a typical family, we do ourbest and we are fine. Having a baby is not a death sentence, nor isit an excuse to drop out of school, quit your job and live inpoverty. If you are pregnant, I wish you the best of luck. Feelfree to email me if you want to talk. . Well, I'm 15 now and I have a baby girl of only 2 months andlet me tell you its really hard keeping up, but nothing could morewonderful than to see a little piece of you in your arms, but inthe same time you feel like crying when the baby cries, but ifyou're a 14 year old and you think or are pregnant you should keepthe baby because if you think about it its not the babies fault itsonly yours and the daddies fault. So for all you 14 year olds keepyour baby I'm not gonna lie and tell you its an easy job becauseits not, but just try to keep up with the baby and everything willgo smoothly. So good luck to all you 14 year old that think or arepregnant. . I'm 14 and i have a baby boy called Dylan and his 3 months old.He is the love of my life and im glad i didn't give him up foradoption. He is a little angel and i could never live without him.Its hard being young but i have 4 older sisters who all help me outwhen i need it. My parents where very disappointed in me but theygot over it because there was nothing they could do to make it goaway, in the end support me in my decision on keeping him. . I think that the decision is entirely up to you. Personally Iwould never give up my own child for adoption. Just think thatyou'll never see your baby like EVER again and he/she will becalling mommy another woman. That would absolutely break myheart. But on the other hand you're only 14 years old. It's difficultraising a child being an adult married woman, let along being ateenager and alone. So if you want to keep the child keep in mindthat it's though and you'll have to make lots of sacrifices. If youare willing to do that and work really hard to give your baby adecent upbringing I suggest you keep the baby. If you're not maybeyou really should give adoption a serious for your baby's seek.Good luck! And one last thing; talk to an adult you trust and whocan help . I am 14 years old and think I am 6 weeks pregnant. My boyfriendfelt like we were ready to have sex a month and a half ago.My firstsigns of pregnancy was missing my period (of course). Second mybreast started feeling sore and I was having morning sickness.Itold my mom.She bought me some pregnancy tests.They both came outpositive. She was upset at first but she was pretty understanding.Shes upset about being a 32 year old grandma. Yes a 32 year oldgrandma. She got pregnant with my 15 year old sister when she was15. She was taken away and adopted by a nice family. I still needto go to the clinic to know for sure. You know how those "homepregnancy tests" are Through this all I know my mom will be herefor me. If you want your baby you should keep it,but make sure you havesomeone to help you take care of him/her. I am lucky I have my momand my boyfriend who has a job. Whatever you choose I hope it goeswell.Whatever you do don't abort your baby.No matter what anybodysays. . From my own experience, I had a child at the age of 17. I keptmy child but i see that i am still a child myself. I see myselfgoing through stages my mind is not mentally experienced. At theage of 14 is way too young; 18 was way to young. If I were in thissituation and came out pregnant at the age of 14. I would consideradoption there are so many qualified people that would take care ofa child with warm open arms. At such an early age after takingpsychology classes I understand that your brain is not completelydeveloped yet and at the age of 18 you will feel burned out. Itwould be nice to try to take care of a child at that age but no onecan support themselves at this age. . Just because you had a hard time having your baby at 17 doesn'tmean others will. I know many mothers who had their babies at14,15,16 and were very ready for kids now they are older and theylove having them, they aren't burnt out at all. If you want keep your baby keep it. Don't let others change yourmind just because they had a hard time doesn't mean you will.I amnot going to lie to you and tell you its easy.But once you get usedto it,its not that bad its actually kind if fun. I am now 18 I hadmy child when I was 15. When I found out I was pregnant I stillwent to school every day to the last month. When one month aftershe was born I went back to school. I took Reyna to a daycare at myschool for women with children. I am now in my senior year. So letsjust get one thing straight, a baby is not a reason to drop out ofhigh school or a reason to let go of your dreams. I'm 16 and I havea lot of friends who have given birth at a young age. I don't thinkits wrong when the child is being treated right but if a mother iscareless about her child then its wrong whether your 14 or 26. Ifyou decide to keep the baby I know a school that will accept youwith your baby while you finish your education. . If I was pregnant I would talk to a person that knew me. It isthe hugest decision you will ever have to make, and it shouldn't bemade by us. Follow your heart, having a baby is a massive sacrificeto your life, but giving it up would be even bigger. . Amanda, I am a 14 year old girl, who got pregnant at the age of13 and on November 2, 2004. I had my baby she as a girl and I namedher Emma May and i did keep my baby. My parents wouldn't let me getabortion they told me if i opened my legs for it Iwas gonna keepher. But to answer your question yes, you should keep your baby ifyou are pregnant. Emma is the best thing that has ever happened tome. . I wish you all could hear what you were saying. I'm 20 yearsold, no kids, but if I were to have kids at 14, one, my mom wouldof been extremely upset with me, yeah, she would help take care ofthe baby, but that shouldn't be her job. She should almost be doneraising her children, she shouldn't have to be a parent all overagain. That would be why she's a grandparent. She should be able tospoil the baby rotten, take him/her out and buy the most annoyingnoise-makers, to send home to his/her parents to drive themnuts! Talk to your parents about it, they really are more understandingthan you think. Yes, they will probably blow up and be veryirrational at first, but you are their child, and no matter whatyou do, they will always love you. Sometimes disappointed in you,but never ashamed. My mom always said we would be six feet under ifwe told her we were pregnant at that age, but she didn't mean it.No parent does. They will love that baby as much as they love theirown. But if you are only 14, you can't get a real job, support yourchild, and be there for your child all the time. It's not fair tohave someone else(parents; babysitters; friends) watch YOUR kid allthe time while you go out and have fun. Children are a gift fromgod when you are ready. You have the rest of your live to getmarried and have kids, but you should enjoy school, extracurricularactivities, sports, dances, boyfriends, movies, and just hangingout with friends doing crazy teenage things that will drive yourown parents up the wall right now. You are all still just a kid...Granted, if you are pregnant, there is nothing really you can do,you basically have three choices, abortion, adoption, and keepingyour baby. They are all personal decisions that shouldn't be takenlightly at this age, let alone any age, but IF and only IF youdon't have the means to support your child or don't want yourchild(which in that case you probably shouldn't have been havingsex), along with no help, there are many women who are happilymarried, financially set, and can't have children. You couldprobably find someone who will raise your child and give them awonderful home, who will still let you be a big part of thatchild's life. Hopefully everything will turn out alright. . I think you should find out for real if you are pregnant. Iknow how it feels to be pregnant I have been there most peoplethink you shouldn't keep the baby. But you need to do what youthink would be best for the baby. Because if you are pregnant youneed to realize its not going to be all about you anymore. You needto worry more about the baby then anything. So that is the onlything I can really tell you but I do wish you luck with whateveryou choose. . I believe in adoption. At 14 I met a lady who had an adoptedson and that experience changed my life! That day was the day Idecided that I would be the mother to kids not born of my womb,though if I ever got pregnant, I'd love the kids the same. I knowwhen I get married, the man I love will have to respect this. Asfor as I know, I'm perfectly healthy and should have no problemconceiving, but there are just so many kids that need a home that Ithink it's a gift to be able to have them call you "mom." Any girlwho is strong enough to put her child up for adoption, I admireyou. Also, I just want to point out that there is such a thing as "openadoption" where the biological parents can see and know the babyand keep in contact with them. . 14 is WAY too young to be having sex. If I were your parents Iwould be SO mad! Good luck trying to raise the baby and having agood life afterwards. I work with kids like you. I see themeveryday. They thought it would be cool to have sex and then theyended up pregnant and are miserable because they are wasting all oftheir time raising a child. this is the stupidest thing anyone canever do! . I think that she should keep her baby just 4 the simple factthat she is the one who layed up and got pregnant so she should beready for what ever the out come is. She made the mistake and sheshould not try to cover it up, and by covering it up is by killingit or putting it up adoption. Just keep the baby please the baby isinnocent and it don't deserve to be killed or given away. I stumbled onto this board by accident, and I am appalled at theattitudes of the majority of the people on here. Although, therehave a few voices of reason, and thank you for being there! Itseems that most of you really have no clue what you're gettinginto. You want to be treated like adults, but you're still thinkinglike children. The overwhelming attitude seems to be that you fullyexpect and feel that you should be rescued. That someone else(mainly the taxpayers) should foot the bill for your mistakes andyour parents/family should spend the next 18 years helping youraise this child. It seems that very few feel any sense ofresponsibility, or any sense of gratitude for the help that youthink you should receive. I've always been a big believer thateveryone makes mistakes and everyone deserves help and a secondchance, but after my brief visit here, I've almost changed my mind. . Is the father still with you? If he is, then I believe you cando it. It will be hard, and it will be a burden, but if you followthrough, it will be the most amazing experience of your life. Youwill be so proud and so in love. Congratulations honey, and goodluck with everything. I hope you stick through it, because you CANdo it! . i believe that is ok for a 14 year old to keep their babyrecently one of my good friends gave birth to a beautiful babygirl.. she is only 14. She has had hard times but her mumcompletely understood as there was really nothing she could do. myfriend hid the secret of her being pregnant for 5 months until hermum felt the baby kick. she loves her child so much. She is tiredand worn out like all mothers though. she has had to leave schoolfor a year 9. i wish anyone out there all the best. . I think the only person who can answer this question is you. Ithink it all depends on the support system. When I was 14 my friendhad a baby. The baby's grandmother actually became the mother. Ifyour parents are supportive of keeping the baby that would bebeneficial. But if you don't have a supportive family or the fatherisn't around, you should think about all of the hopeless coupleswho cannot have a child and would be wonderful parents. The bottomline is this: What kind of life are you willing to allow your childto have? That is the most important question to ask yourself.Giving a child up for adoption isn't a bad thing. Adopted childrenare special in that they are chosen. They deserve a good chance atlife and whatever decision you make, please give that little onethe best chances at life possible. Good luck! . NO! I am the daughter, first born, to a 14 year old and it wasliving Hell. I am totally against abortion but the baby should notbe raised by a 14 year old. A baby can not raise a baby. I moveedcountless times, she had countless boyfriends, she did not andstill does not have a sense of responsibility and as for my 16 yearold father, well let's just say he was and still is no where to befound. Please realize the stress put upon the child not the mother.I am not suggesting that all teen moms are that way, but being thechild of a teenage mother, I am able to say it's not a good thing.There was no love in the home, my brother was born 2 years later,so therefore she had 2 babies and 2 baby daddies. Neither wouldhelp to raise us. We barely had shoes, water, electricity, gas andmoving became a way of our lives. To be sincere I still have thingspacked away for the fear of I may have to move all of a sudden,like we did as children. Sometimes in the middle of the nightbefore the baliff came. . This talk of having a baby at 14 is nonsense. I am 16 and thatthought has not even crossed my mind. no 14 year old should bethink about a baby or even sex for that matter. Yes, I know peoplethat have babies at a young age but they all regret it. Not to saythey don't love there babies but they just wish they would havewaited.I am not saying go and have an abortion (I am totallyagainst it) I just believe that you are not mature enough and havebetter things to do than take care of a baby for the rest of youryoung life.The people writing are only giving you the positive sideof pregnancy. They are not telling about the times when you want togo out and can't because you can not find a baby sitter or thetimes when you are at home taking care of your baby and your "babydaddy" is running around with some other girl. These are things tothink about. I also think that if you thought you were grown enoughto lay down you are grown enough to take care of the baby. If youare stable and have supporting parents that's good but if you haveyour baby be responsible. This is for the ones reading this:thinkabout the facts that i mention earlier and just don't put yourselfin this dilemma. . I think you should keep your baby even if you think your notready you can learn. i should know i am 14 and had a set of twinstwo beautiful baby boys with precious green eyes and i would nevergive them away. but it is hard but i am learning to cope with itevery day they teach me something new and every day I learnsomething even more about mothering. See being 14 and having 2 3month old sons is hard work especially when u have 2 to care aboutbut my mom helps me some and so does my best friend who had a babywhen she was 14 she is 15 now and love s her little girl same as ilove my little boys. but even though the decision is all yours istill think you should keep it but good luck and hope you make achoice that is right for you. . Hey. I Just turned 15 years old I'm expecting a baby boy. Atfirst i thought about what I should do my family is really hard onthe whole topic of "abortion". But I changed my mined I thoughtabout how hard it would be for me to kill a baby .My boyfriend justturned sixteen we've been going through hell since i got pregnant.We are planing on getting married soon. I really do care about himmy opinion on this is. Listen i am no one to judge you or anythingbut i think you should keep the baby because if you thought youwere old enough to have sex.You should be able to handle yourresponsibilities one thing that is real important is that youshould not worry about everything that everyone is going to try tosay about you cause you are the one that is going to take care ofyour baby. So keep your head up cause all baby is a miracle and noone can tell you different. . The abortion procedure is done with a saline acidic solutioninjected into the womb of the mother. the solution than rises thetemperature of the fluids inside of the mothers womb and heats upthe babies body. as this takes place, it also burns the baby whileit is still alive. as the baby inhales the hot womb water pollutedby the saline acid, the baby's innards are burned causing the heartto stop. 1 in every 300 abortion attempts fail, and the baby isprematurely born and burned. alive with it through out your life. Make your decision on what youbelieve is right for you. People will have strong feelings aboutteenage mums but they will either have to accept it or they don'tif you know what I mean. I chose to keep my baby when everyone wastelling me not to.My mum was going on at me saying do the rightthing, but I knew the right thing for me was not the right thingfor her. Even my long term bf (have been with him a year and ahalf) wanted me to kill my own baby! But I trusted my owninstincts. Everything has turned out well. My mother and boyfriendare really excited and mother bought my baby's first present.
Absolutely consider adoption! A 14 year old is not only too young to give a baby a good life, but she has her whole life ahead of her. She needs to finish school, go to colleg…e, and do what she needs to do to achieve her dreams. If the girl keeps the baby, chances of her using public assistance are very high. Think about the couple who would get this baby in an adoption. Chances are they wanted children of their own and just couldn't for whatever reason. A baby would be the best gift a couple could have and the 14 year old girl can choose to make it an open adoption so she can have contact over the years to see how the baby is doing. Answer There is a strong temptation for a young mother to keep her child. The simple reality is, the maternal instinct is strong. Recognize that the feeling is an emotional response to a problem that should be dealt with at an intellectual level. First, when a child is adopted he/she is only put in a home that has the resources to adequately care for the child. Second, the child will do far better having both a mother AND a father as roll models. Children learn how to be adults by watching the parents. Often a young man learns how to be an adult male by watching how his father handles issues. How did he treat his wife? How did he provide for his family? Was he violent? Was he there for the family? In the absence of a roll model for these traits, the young man will learn from other young men who have no idea of what the real world is like. Third, the MOTHERï¿½S life will be negatively affected if she keeps the child. It pretty much limits her future options. Any man who would be able to provide for her wouldnï¿½t want to raise someone elseï¿½s child. Her only option will be to accept the attention of the young men who have nothing to offer. She will be stuck with a looser and any FUTURE children will learn from HIM. We all make mistakes in life, the question becomes, did we learn anything in the process? If we donï¿½t learn, we are little more than the animals which live almost entirely by instinct. If we donï¿½t solve our problems from an intellectual level, what use is our brain. After all, the only thing that really distinguishes us from the animals is our intellect. Teen Pregnancy Answer Of couse not, you don't want your baby to suffer. Your baby might love their adopted parents but it makes them think a lot. They want to know who they are and what you are like and why you put them up for adoption. I was adopted in 1992, in an adoption agency called LDS Social service. I am 13 and I love at least my mom and older sister but every day I ask myself, whats my birthmothers name, is she pretty, what is she like, does she remember me, does she hate me does she think of me? And there are a lot more questions then that my friend!! So, do what ever but you might regret it, even if you are 14 years old. ANSWER I am an adoptee that was given up in 1973, I have since found my birth mother but am searching for my birth father. The question of whether or not to give a child up is a very personal one & only you can answer that for yourself. If you strongly feel you cannot care for a child & be the best possible mother for that child then you may want to consider adoption. However if you want to always know that your child is OK & be able to communicate with your child if they so choose then you may want to consider an open adoption, in which you will meet the birth parents & they will meet you & you can stay in touch with them & get updates about your child. But it is true, that as an adoptee you always wonder who had you, where you came from, was that her that just passed me on the sidewalk, do I look like anyone, why wasn't I loved, why did she hate me so much that she gave me away, and so on and so on. I had the absolute best adoptive parents but it never stopped those feelings from seeping in....there is an inborn fear of abandonment in all adoptees. And now that I know my birth mom I know it was best that she gave me up, she was 16 & could not have rasied me as well as my parents have, nor would I have had all of the opportunities that I have had in life, I am grateful that she loved me enough to want the best for me & give me up so I could have it. Even though I was a closed adoption I was able to find her & I am glad that I did, she has been in my life now for 14 years! my personal answer is I believe if you are having sex at any age you should keep the baby it would be wrong to give your baby up if you know you could take care of it,you play you pay as simple as that
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yes i think 12 year olds can date as long as they keep it appropriate Yes...Only By Supervision..But Really i Think Yhu Should WAIT At Least Till Yhur A Teenager ..Tha…t Way Your Learinqq To Be Mature About Different Situations
keep the baby so it will have a real mother and father not a foster
It depends on what you mean by dating. I believe that girls should always have a working relationship with boys. Attempts at trained male-aversion are dangerous for the emot…ional development of girls. They should be wary of strangers that attempt to lead them away of course, but telling a girl that all boys are dangerous and icky is bad parenting.. Answer. This does not just apply to girls. Dating does not have to mean sexual activity, but these days parents should be prepared for such a thing to happen. It may be best for 12 year olds - boys and girls - to social date. This means to go with a particular person but always in a group. There are many, myself included, who believe that kids are losing their childhood because of the media pushing them to behave like grown ups. Kids should be kids.
If she wants to, she should go into it without half-hearted feelings. She should know and be fully aware of the responsibility that keeping her baby would require. She should …know this isn't just something she can give up on halfway through- raising a child is for a lifetime. It's not a game, and it isn't fun. But if she truly, deeply, actually understands that and still wants to, then I think she could keep the baby.
It is possible for an 12-year old to have an baby as long as she has started her menstrual cycle and has become sexually active with a male that has also hit purberty. She may… not be developed mentally and emotionally, but physically it is possible for her to produce life once matured and developed physically (reproductive system) . For personal experience there is an young lady who conceived at the age or nine-years old; so yes it is possible for an 12-year old to reproduce. ~Chenara Dredden Camden, NJ 08105
It all depends on when they start puberty. If their body has developed to the point of having eggs that can be fertilised, then yes they can.
It depends on the test. Most IQ tests given in schools are normalized for age, so the average score for a 12-year-old is 100, though gender, ethnicity, and class can affect sc…ores. Children scoring below 80 or above 120 may qualify as special needs.
The awnswer is debatable. If one is concerened for the safety of the twelve year old incase of emergencies then yes. People are often concerened with phone bills, but it can b…e avoided with restrictions. A cell phone is a handy tool but not nessesarily needed for developmental growth of the child.
i don't want want to put any bad ideas in ur head but yes sheshould so they can grow up with their real mother!
In Teen Dating
spend a ton of time with her, do things she wants, be ready and able to have LONG phone talks with her.
In Child Health
You are ten years old and you are pregnant you want to keep the baby but your boyfriend dont should i keep the baby?
At the age of ten, the health and well being of the baby should be up most in your mind. Secondly there is the matter of child abuse and wither the boyfriend committed rape o…r not. The baby should be put up for adoption and placed with a couple that could give that child the love and care the child will need.
A twelve year old should not have a Facebook! Nobody even needs a Facebook! Why don't you just go and meet people in person!
If that is what she feels is right, yes. Most teen parents are great parents but of course they often need support. Forcing the child away from her would be cruel and she woul…d suffer from it for the rest of her life. What a teen feels for her child is no difference from what an adult feels.