What are some example of the cause of abusive relationships?
The main predictor of abusive relationships is if someone has themselves been abused or has grown up in a family where abuse was present. It is very contagious, particularly when the abusive family has sons, since they will repeat the homelife they grew up in. Girls tend to find someone to marry who is like the abuser. (of course, there are abusers of both sexes--I don't mean to be exclusive)
Common occupations of abusers include being in law enforcement or the military, but they are not exclusive.
As a society, we often blame the victim for not leaving the abuser, or for somehow creating a situation where anger can surface and so on. However, most people can express anger and disappointment without being verbally or physically abusive.
Common occupations of abusers include being in law enforcement or the military, but they are not exclusive.
As a society, we often blame the victim for not leaving the abuser, or for somehow creating a situation where anger can surface and so on. However, most people can express anger and disappointment without being verbally or physically abusive.
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It takes two to tango and an equal number to sustain a long-termabusive relationship. The abuser and the abused form a bond, adynamic, and a dependence. Expressions such as "f…ollies a deux" andthe "Stockholm Syndrome" capture facets two of a myriad of thisdense macabre. It often ends fatally. It is always anexcruciatingly painful affair. Abuse is closely correlated with alcoholism, drug consumption,intimate-partner homicide, teen pregnancy, infant and childmortality, spontaneous abortion, reckless behaviors, suicide, andthe onset of mental health disorders. It doesn't help that societyrefuses to openly and frankly tackle this pernicious phenomenon andthe guilt and shame associated with it. The situation is not always bad; it has good and bad times and itis that slippery slope that keeps people from doing what they knowthey must. A habit of second guessing rather than choosing a pathwith confidence is difficult to overcome. It is not just leaving-itis providing a safe place for yourself and children, getting a job,managing the legalities all at the same time - and it is dauntingfor a good period of time after you have left. People overwhelmingly women remain in an abusive household for avariety of reasons: economic, parental (to protect the children),and psychological. But the objective obstacles facing the batteredspouse cannot be overstated. The abuser treats his spouse as an object, an extension of himself,devoid of a separate existence and denuded of distinct needs. Thus,typically, the couple's assets are on his name from real estate tomedical insurance policies. The victim has no family or friendsbecause her abusive partner or husband frowns on her initialindependence and regards it as a threat. By intimidating, cajoling,charming, and making false promises, the abuser isolates his preyfrom the rest of society and, thus, makes her dependence on himtotal. She is often also denied the option to study and acquiremarketable skills or augment them. Abandoning the abusive spouse frequently leads to a prolongedperiod of destitution and peregrination. Custody is usually deniedto parents without a permanent address, a job, income security,and, therefore, stability. Thus, the victim stands to lose not onlyher mate and nest but also her off-spring. There is the addedmenace of violent retribution by the abuser or his proxies coupledwith emphatic contrition on his part and a protracted andirresistible "charm offensive". Gradually, she is convinced to put up with her spouse's cruelty inorder to avoid this harrowing predicament. But there is more to an abusive dyad than mere pecuniaryconvenience. The abuser stealthily but unfailingly exploits thevulnerabilities in the psychological makeup of his victim. Theabused party may have low self-esteem, a fluctuating sense ofself-worth, primitive defense mechanisms, phobias, mental healthproblems, a disability, a history of failure, or a tendency toblame herself, or to feel inadequate (autoplastic neurosis). Shemay have come from an abusive family or environment whichconditioned her to expect abuse as inevitable and "normal". Inextreme and rare cases the victim is a masochist, possessed of anurge to seek ill-treatment and pain. The abuser may be functional or dysfunctional, a pillar of society,or a peripatetic con-artist, rich or poor, young or old. There isno universally-applicable profile of the "typical abuser". Yet,abusive behavior often indicates serious underlyingpsychopathologies. Absent empathy, the abuser perceives the abusedspouse only dimly and partly, as one would an inanimate source offrustration. The abuser, in his mind, interacts only with himselfand with "introjects" representations of outside objects, such ashis victims. The abused person is emotionally fragile, starving foraffection, security, and affirmation. If the abused person lacks astrong social support system, the abusive relationship, sick as itis, provides some relief from being alone. Some abused partnersavoid being alone at all costs, until they hit rock bottom andcannot live with the abuse any longer. Because in most cases theabused does not realize they are being abuse in the beginning theabuser will use blame shifting. Once the abuser has given you somany reasons that things went wrong because of something that youdid or didn't do, or behaviors, or attitudes that he or she saysthat you should work on "yourself" you begin to feel as if theabuse takes place because you have made mistakes. Some people likemyself tend to be fixers and want to find a solution to all theproblems that have been presented thinking that the problem reallyis you. I hear that a lot -YOU YOU YOU don't care about me, YOUlie, YOU made me do what I did because you....You, and so on and soon. Don't take the blame anymore, don't confuse being an adult andmaking healthy adult decisions to work through things with takingsomeones abusive crap. I FEEL LIKE SUCH AN IDIOT! How I stayed withmy ex for as long as I did is a mystery. The signs came a long timeago, but I thought it was ok. Then came the first incident ofphysical abuse and I swore that was it and I was going to leave.But then he sweet talked me and told me it would never happenagain, and that he would get help. So I believed him because Iloved him and I thought what he was saying was completely true. Iguess I wanted to believe that the mean guy I saw in him wasn'treally him. But he never got the help, and after another month he startedverbally abusing me, lying to me, started using drugs. Again, you'dthink I would have bolted! Well I tried, but again he came to methat he'd get help, it would get better, he loved me. And I stayed!I FEEL LIKE SUCH AN IDIOT. Things were great for a little while,but then again, another incident when I was left with bruises allover my body. I left the house and got a hotel room to stay thatnight. I swore that was it, i left. But again, he came to mebegging and again I went back. Each time I completely believed thatthis time, THIS TIME he really would get help and THIS TIME itwould work. That never happened. I finally have ended it for good, I haven't had contact with himfor 2 days since the s#@$ hit the fan. I'm so angry at myself forstaying in this abusive relationship for so long. I never thought Iwould endanger myself, or be the "stupid girl" that I'd see inmovies. But i did, and it was because I was in love, and was hopingthat he could be the sweet guy he was some of the times, ALL OF THETIME. But that can't happen when there's a monster deep down. Ishould have left when the monster first appeared. I feel like suchan idiot that i didn't. I'm glad I'm finally out. I don't have tobe scared anymore. Thanks for letting me vent. This is a question I used to ask myselfa lot. As a strong feminist I couldn't understand why someone wouldstay in a relationship that was abusive. Then I ended up in anabusive relationship, and saw how difficult it was to disentanglemyself from it. Some things to think about: 1) Abuse often starts gradually and then gets worse over time (likegradually increasing heat until it hits the boiling point, it'ssometimes difficult to see what's happening until you're far alongin the process). 2) Abusive people will often separate you from your friends andfamily, removing your traditional sources of support. After you'vehad to blow off friends and family, or been embarrassed in front ofthem many times, because of the behavior of your partner, it'ssometimes difficult to reach back for help. 3) Abusers will often operate on the mindset that everything isyour fault. Delivery Pizza is burnt? Your fault. Weather bad? Yourfault. When you're used to shouldering the blame for every smallthing that happens in life, the abuse becomes your fault as well.He'll tell you it's your fault, of course, and at some point youstart believing. This may also be a characteristic that you enteredthe relationship with - an over willingness to accept blame; couplethis with a need to shift blame for everything and you have a verybad combination. 4) Abusers can threaten dire consequences (either to themselves orto you) if you leave. In my case, my abuser was fiscally dependenton me. If I left, he would have nowhere to go, and no money to liveon. He used this to make me feel very guilty. If I left he wouldhave nothing, he would harm himself, etc. His lack of financialindependence was, of course, my fault. 5) Living with abuse over a period of time sucks away your energyand self esteem. All of your resources go towards avoiding the nextbig blow up, trying to protect what little peace you have in thehome. Your sense of self worth is continually taken away by yourtreatment at home and you believe that you deserve no better thanwhat you have. 6) It's humiliating to admit that you are living in an abusivesituation. It's humiliating to even admit this to yourself. Beingabused is equated with being weak and unable to defend oneself inour society. There is a general idea that people who are in abusivesituations somehow deserve to be there, as they are not strongenough to have extricated themselves. Denial of what is going oncan be very strong. I was with my ex for 6 years. I should haveleft him when he went to jail, but I didn't...after he got out ofjail, everything was fine. About a year later, we got our own placeis the time the abuse started. I ended up getting pregnant and thatdidn't seem to stop him.. He literally pushed me on the ground andkicked meÃ¢ï¿½Â¦luckily, my son was fine... I was stupid and I thoughtI was in love I thought it was my fault and I was getting beat...So, I stayed. Eventually, it got worse....around my son's 1stbirthday, I ended up leaving him. He flipped out he kidnapped myson for 3 days. And I was away from him for about 3 months untilhis sister called me up and said he tried to kill himself, I wasstupid again and took him back. Everything was fine for about amonth and I thought "Well, maybe he changed"...I was wrong. It allstarted again. The first time it started was because I didn't cometo him when he called me. He ended up punching me in my side andbreaking my ribs and he bruised my kidney. I kicked him out of thehouse. He begged me to come back and of course I did. The last timehe hit me it was in my face and he broke my nose. I finally went tothe cops and made a report, but didn't press charges. A domesticviolence lady called me and talked me into putting an order ofprotection against him and make where he only sees our son everyother weekend. I know I was stupid but once abuse starts, you needto get out it just gets worse and he's lying when he says he lovesyou he can't love you if beats you. Sometimes, there is no choiceor at least it feels that way. I am currently in an emotionally andmentally abusive marriage. We've been together for 12 years andmarried for 10 of those. Back before we had kids, I threatened andactually did leave several times. I was a fool, I always thought hereally would change, and was to stupid to realize that he neveronce admitted that he really did have a problem. Now, we have 5kids, 3 of which are triplets, and I feel trapped. I hate the wayhe treats me, always yelling and screaming and calling names, heacts like he's my father rather than my husband most of the time.When I see other couples, I long for that kind of relationship,where both parties respect each other. The only time he's nice iswhen he wants sex and even there, he is disrespectful. He pouts ifI turn him down and accuses me of cheating and he pushes oral sexon me when he knows I am uncomfortable with it. Yet, if I don'tcomply, he throws a tantrum so it's easier just to lay there andlet him do whatever. I started taking classes for nursing lastsemester and if I pass, my interview will be done and working inabout 2.5 years...some days seem to feel like ages away, though. Ieven told him that once I am through with school and am working andmaking good money, his choice will be to shape up or ship out!However, that only causes yet another argument. At the moment, Istay because I don't feel like I have a choice, and there's no wayI'd leave my kids with him so he can make them just like him, butwithout having a job, I have no way to support myself plus 5 kids.Or, I would do it in a heartbeat. The worst part is that some ofhis behaviors have rubbed off on me...I say things to him now thatI would never have said 12 years ago, because I wasn't raised thatway, but when someones' constantly telling you what an idiot youare, it doesn't take long to fall into the pattern of throwing itright back at them. Even worse is that I see it in my kidsespecially my oldest son, who is 8. I feel so helpless that I can'tget them out of this situation. Hello, all. I can't believe I am onthis page. Let me explain. I'm a 27 year old male. I haven't beenin many relationships in my life, only 2 and they combined to spansomething like 13 months. I basically was waiting for the rightperson to come along. 2 months ago I met this older woman who is35. She seemed very interested in me and I gave her my number. Wetalked for hours one night. What she told me was she was not quitefinalized in her divorce from her husband. She told me that she wasmarried for 19 years and she had 2 kids ages 17 and 18. Her husbandwas physically abusive and she wanted to leave so many times butshe didn't because of the kids and the fact that her father was apreacher and he told her if she got a divorce she was going tohell. I listened to this and I evaluated every word she said. Sheexplained that she had been separated from him for 3 years and shehad since dated another guy. This second guy ended up beingverbally and emotionally abusive to her as well and didn't want herkids around. She ended up leaving him and moving back with herparents. Now this is when I met her. The more I talked off and on with her the more I thought this womanwas a sweetheart and it was drawing me in. I knew from what she wassaying that she hadn't ever been in a real relationship. I thoughtthat I could show her everything that she hadn't been able to enjoyin life. I wanted to step up as a man and make this woman happy andtreat her like she deserved to be treated. Everything seemed fine, she finalized her divorce and we were"dating" although not quite physically involved yet. One day shereceived a call from her ex-boyfriend. She told me that he left hera message (because she didn't answer the phone) that statedsomething like "What are you on a hot f****** date!?". She told meshe was going to "take care of this problem". I was a bit weary ofthe situation and she was hinting that she was going to go talkwith him. Deep down inside I knew this was bad for her to do. Shewas giving him an opportunity to snake his way back into her life.She went and talked with him. She didn't call me that night or thenext night like she normally did. I knew something was up. Now,from my perspective, I didn't want to get hurt, but I had developedfeelings for this woman. I spoke with her on the phone andbasically she said she needed time to figure things out. I knewthis was bad. She was so gung-ho about talking to me and planningthings with me and now she totally stopped and didn't know what shewanted. I talked with her for 3 hours about this situation onenight. She said she was confused. She liked me and she told me I would beeverything she could ever ask for in a partner, but she still hadfeelings for this other guy. She said she didn't think it would befair to be with me when she had feelings for him still. I wasdevastated. I explained to her that everyone has those feelingsafter somethings ends and you just need to take a step forward andgrab my hand and stand with me for a while and you'll soon realizethat what you had before was nothing compared to what I couldoffer. This guy was treating her like a yo-yo. He would throw heraway when he didn't want her around, and because she kept thatemotional string tied to him, he could always pull her back up fromthe dirt when he wanted to. It had worked for him before and it wasgoing to work again. I thought to myself that I need to doeverything I can do to help this woman out of this cycle. I neverever felt so emotional over something like this. I am usually apassive person and I will let things that I can't control fall asthey may. I want to save this woman from all of this but I am notsure how. That's how I ended up here. I was researching thissubject to get a better understanding of what was going on with heremotionally. To be honest I couldn't quite understand why she wouldeven think about going back when she had something that was aboutto turn into something she had always wanted. A man to love her andtreat her the way she wanted to be treated, as a best friend and alover. So she said she needed time and space to figure out if she wantedto go back with this guy or be with me. I told her that wasalright, and I expressed all of my concerns to her, and I explainedeverything I felt for her (I have never stepped up and done thiswith anyone in the past) and I told her I would give her all thetime she needed but I also told her that I didn't think there wasany way I could win in this situation. I told her I wasn't going tocall her anymore, and if she wanted to talk to me she could call meanytime. She said she would call but I haven't heard from her in afew days. I've exhausted myself trying to convince her not to goback to something that she knew the outcome was going to be. Ihonestly care for this woman and I don't want her to keep gettinghurt. When she told me about everything that she had been throughin her life between the 2 abusive relationships I wanted to cry.She had been raped, beaten, choked, verbally abused, etc, etc. Shestarted to list all of these things that would be a reason why Iwouldn't want to be with her, she had no money, bad credit, livedwith her parents, was emotionally unstable and suicidal. She wastrying to make it easy for me to let her go so it wouldn't be ashard for her to choose between me or him. She knows I'm the rightone, but it is easier for her not to cut her ties with him and justgo back. She said she had been so depressed, obsessed with this guywanting her back. I tried to the best of my ability to convince herthat this was a mistake to go back but I think I have failed. Shecan't see it with her eyes because she believes that it will bedifferent the next time or he will somehow change. I explained thatI have seen this countless times where some abusive guy will get3,4,5, 20 chances with a girl. The girl just will keep coming backthinking it will be different or better this time. It never is. Ialso explained that there were honest, sincere, caring guys like meout there who often never get a chance at all. It is a severeinjustice, but I don't know where the fault lies. I have expressedall my feelings and concerns to her and I have left it up to her todecide what to do. I know what is going to happen but there seemsto be nothing I can do to help her. I know if I could keep her awayfrom him that I could restore this woman's confidence in life andshow her what real love and devotion is. She is putting herself oncourse for a self-imposed train wreck if she chooses to go back tohim. I know I can't make her choice for her. But I don't want herto keep getting hurt. I know if she chooses to go back, I will haveto walk away because I care too much for her to see her haveeverything crash again and go further down the spiral. It wouldhurt me to see that. I have a very different perspective on this whole subject from thisexperience and from what I have researched. It tears me up to thinkabout all of these women who go through this. I just would like tosay to some of you that not all men are this way. I have givenevery ounce of devotion and love to the people I have been with inthe past. Unfortunately for me, this was taken for granted, but Iknow when the right one comes along it will all ring clear andbecome an asset that makes someone happy for a long time. Wow...this site is amazing. I've seen my story here a hundred times. Ihave been married for two years and have recently come to theconclusion that my husband is an alcoholic and abusive. It startedwithin a few months of marriage, when he got really angry (whiledrunk) for no rational reason. He knocked over furniture. He threwthings at me, called me names, pulled my hair, and tried to chokeme. This happened a few times during the next year, although henever actually hurt me physically, other than coughing while he waschoking me. I mean he never hit me or left bruises or other marks.We were getting ready to move and I kept thinking things would bebetter after we moved. They were for a few months, but then he didthe same thing again (names, pulling hair, choking me). He went outof town for a couple weeks and I realized that I was able to drivehome from work and not worry about what I would find when I gotthere. He is retired, so he can starting drinking whenever he wantsto. I found this site a couple weeks ago and decided to takeaction. I tried to talk to him about it, but he really had nothingto say other than that he loves me and he doesn't want to hurt me.But when he's drunk, it's another story altogether. I realized thatthe things I talked about when he was sober would come back tohaunt me when he was drinking and after he had time to dwell on itfor a couple days. We talked about the abuse again and he admittedchoking me a couple years ago, but basically denied everything elseand even told me I was fabricating it all. He says he gets madbecause I argue too much. I have seen a counselor at the shelterand was convinced I needed to file for divorce. I started workingon a plan. I have a place to go if I need to leave and a bag in mycar with essentials. I have a separate bank account and my owncredit cards. I am a strong willed woman with a militarybackground, a graduate degree, and an excellent career. I havealways said if anyone ever hurt me, I would be gone beforedaybreak... yet here I am... thinking about all the good times wehave had and wondering if we will ever have them back again. Ichange from angry and strong to hurt and weak on a daily basis. Ican't believe I didn't see this coming... he proposed to me 6 weeksafter we started dating, but there were no other warning signs. Hehas a comment for everything I say, implying I am stupid orinferior in some other way. If I make a mistake, I get crucified...but if he makes a mistake, it's no big deal... "it can happen toanyone". He drinks every evening and I walk around on eggshells,never knowing when he will explode into another rage. I havepurchased a couple books on abuse and alcoholism, and hope to getsome insight from them and build some inner strength. I'm sure Ihave to divorce him. I don't really believe he wants to change, andtherefore he won't. I love him but I have trouble believing hereally loves me... how can you do such things to someone you love?Sometimes people stay because of threats to their family that theybelieve the abuser will carry out. I too have seen my story here in bits and pieces. I have thought Iwas alone. I left my abusive husband after 15 years and 2 kids Isat for months after calling myself the some of the names he calledme - idiot, stupid, dummy asking over and over why did I stay? Whydidn't I call the police? I was married and had 2 kids before I was25, my ex-husband first hit me when I was pregnant with my firstand I was devastated I was 20 years old I had no family and nomoney I was not even allowed to drive a car. After each time hewould apologize profusely and tell me if I would just not make himso mad he would not have to hit me. He would also say that no onewould believe me that he hit me and he denies it even though I havepictures of the bruises. Each time I forgave him and would try notto misbehave so he would not "have" to hit me but it was alwayssomething. He would tell me that if I left he would kill me and cutme up in pieces and he would hurt my mother. My parents were notallowed in the house I was not allowed to have friends in the houseor go anywhere with friends and if I did I was a "wh*re" he told mykids that I was a drug addict and an alcoholic when I rarely drinkand never took drugs in my life. I finally had enough when heyanked me down a flight of steps by my hair and slammed my headinto a wood desk and when I went to run he grabbed my arms so hardhe broke all the blood vessels where he grabbed. To top it off whenI was getting ready to leave he threw me down by kneeing me in theback bruising my backside flipped me over and bit me and choked methen threw a chair on top of me - my kids saw this I needed out itwas leave or die. Now, in the divorce, he is trying to take mykids. I am fighting, and it has cost me everything money my job andall the "professionals" say that my ex "presents himself well" andas I read this page, I see many abusers do WHY don't the courts seethis? On top of all of it, I am the one being persecuted the mostbecause if I was abused, why did I stay? That's what they keepasking me - I was even told that if I stayed - I deserved it. To bea victim of abuse is devastating I still have nightmares that hewill hurt me. I have to talk to him because the courts make me andno one wants to acknowledge his abuse. My whole world was tornapart I left with nothing and I left everything behind that I spenta lifetime working for (except my kids) and all I can say monthsand months later is THANK GOD I did - there is no materialpossession that replaces the happiness I am learning to get out oflife even though he still has to be part of it I am learning tocope and I strongly suggest if you leave an abusive relationshipseek therapy from a therapist trained in dealing with batteredwomen - they need that training I did and I am healing and I amfind myself for the first time in 15 years - Happy. Even with allthe difficulties in starting over it is so worth it. If someone iscalling you names, putting you down, isolating you from yournetwork, hitting you and in any way, is unwelcome physically, actsaggressive towards you, threatens you in any way - Don't thinkabout what comes after - RUN - RUN HARD AND FAST ASK FOR HELP -call a domestic hotline. Things tend to fall into place somehow,but don't stay in misery! Get out, and find happiness. I've been there, so I have experience in this matter. Most peopleremain in an abusive relationship because they don't think they cando any better and convince themselves that they love this personand that things will improve. The individual needs to come to therealization that they can do better and they are better off notbeing in a relationship of this nature.
Abusive relationships should NEVER be tolerated or "Coped" with. The father of my 1st son was extremely abusive, He broke my arm, tried to light me on fire by first pouring li…ghter fluid on me and then flicking matches at me from across the room and other assorted cruelties. The first thing to do is for YOU to realize that he is not going to change. No matter how much you try to love him or try to get him not to hurt you, he in NOT going to change! All abusive men or young men are the same, they hit you or hurt you and then they cry on their knees and BEG you to stay and SWEAR that they will never hurt you again! You know that this new behavior only lasts for about a week and then he's back to his old ways. That's because this is who he is and he will not change, no matter what. If you fall for his lies over and over again and stay in the relationship, you are silently giving him permission to keep on hurting you. If you have kids, think of what he is teaching them when he hurts you...He is showing them that it is OK, for a man to be abusive to a woman! If you have a little boy and you stay with this guy, your son will most likely grow up to abuse his girlfriends, wife, children, etc..., If you have a little girl, she will think it is NORMAL to be hit and hurt by a man and will grow up and get into abusive relationships! If you don't have kids yet, Thank your lucky stars and then ask yourself why you stay with such a mean person. He does NOT LOVE you,my guess is that you grew up around abuse yourself, right? There are shelters who will take battered women alone or with children, you need to get out while you can. If he has made threats like: "If you ever leave me, I'll find you and Kill you" (most of them make this threat), get an Order of Protection from Abuse so he cannot come near you! Remember, even though you feel like there is no way out, there is! You are worth it! Don't wait one minute longer, get out NOW, there is a whole new world waiting out there for you. Also do yourself a favor and seek counseling to help you get over what happened during the relationship and to help to build some self-esteem. Most battered women have very little if any self-esteem. Here is proof, If you had any self-esteem, you wouldn't be where you are right now! You would never accept what this ***hole is dishing out! It is not your fault, he most likely tells you that you are nothing and that no one else but him would take you! He most likely puts you down constantly. Perhaps you were abused as a child yourself...I know I was! One of the reasons women stay in abusive relationships is because even though they are horrible, at least they know what to expect. The unknown can be very scary. What can be scarier than a man who flies off the handle for no apparent reason and physically and mentally abuses you! This is real life baby! Just get out and work on yourself and when the time is right, you'll meet a man who will treat you like a princess. But that time will not come until you GET OUT of this abusive relationship and work on yourself, you must LOVE yourself before you can truly LOVE another. I speak from experience here. I left my abusive boyfriend right after I had my baby, and I thank God that I did, my boy grew up healthy and happy, he is not abusive and never will be! I successfully broke the chain of abuse for my future generations, and so can you! Make some phone calls, get that order of protection and GET OUT NOW!! MY man now is a real man who would NEVER lay a finger on me to hurt me. He Loves me and treats me like gold. He respects me, he listens to what I have to say and really cares about my thoughts and opinions. We work on the relationship together as a team to keep it healthy and when we do have an argument, we work through it. He cooks for me, brings me coffee in the morning and tells me all day long how much he loves me and how beautiful I am. You can have this too some time in your future, but do what you NEED to do now, Before it is too late, PLEASE!! God Bless you Girl! One last thing: Get Out NOW!!!!!!
Physical abuse is caused by al;ot of different reasons. If a kid grew up around a father that is abusive to women then he will be more likely to grow up and do the same. Also,… if a child has alot of bottled up anger and don't have the right way to let it out then the child will act out in bad ways and tend to get into trouble because people won't take the actons to talk to the child so he can take about the feelings in the proper way.
Jealousy is the most common cause, because it leads to obsesiveness, which leads to the abuse.
Yes, depression and/or anxiety issues can cause abusive relationships, although there are many other reasons why abuse is caused, such as lack of intimacy, jealousy and many o…ther things.
Animal abuse includes things like neglect, putting the animal inharm's way (cockfighting, dog fighting), physically hurting theanimal (beating, mutilating, throwing, stabbing,… running over witha car, etc.), and hoarding (overcrowded, insanitary, unhealthyconditions).
we'll I couldn't really tell you because i havent ever been in one, however, I can tell you if you are the one in it you need to get out, abusiveness comes from i believe like… a controling reltionship, ya know like if you don't do what he says i suppose you get hit that is not cool at all and although you may be in love don't be stupid cus if cared about chu and loved you he would'NT abuse you, so I say leave him or get rid of him the rest is up to you
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If your boy friend starts not respecting you than you should be ready to break up or get broken up.
A cause and effect relationship simply mean that the effect or outcome happend due to the cause. "I told my boyfriend i thought he was mean, therefore he broke up with me" be…cause i told my boyfriend he was mean,he broke up with me cause- I sadi he was mean effect-he broke up with me
The desire to dominate, and frustration when it doesn't work, is the immediate cause of most abuse. The underlying causes are emotional problems that will only get worse if un…treated. Either get the abuser into an effective program, or get out of there.
because it may be all the know, they may love their spouse, or may be afraid to leave. It could be a variety of reasons
Treating a patient without consent when consent was possible, revealing medical informatino to outsiders, not providing privacy during invasive procedures...
In Abusive Relationships and Domestic Violence
Examples of emotional abuse include some of the following: -name calling -ignoring -being called ugly -being called fat -changes of behavior around certain people su…ch as friends...
You mean some examples of affects of alcohol abuse: When you drink too much alcohol, it goes to your brain and does some weird, crazy thing with the senses and the cells. Lik…e when you see a drunk person, they're falling because their vision might be blurry, or they're dizzy, and so on. Also, it makes some people very violent. They will come home and possibly hurt their family all because some substance is triggering their brain senses to do so. Another thing it does, is it can make you completely black out so you don't remember ANYTHING that happened during the entire time you were drunk. There are even more, but you can go on Google.com and type in alcohol abuse affects, and find more information.
Most certainly yes. Anxiety > frustration > aggression > abuse.
the reasons could be because the boyfriend gets all pressured to have s*xand forces his girlfriend to have s*x and when she doesn't want to, he gets mad and whip/slap/hit her.… im just saying what abusive boyfriends would react. but im not saying that all guys are real jerks. So be aware is you suspect your boyfriend or your friends boyfriend are abusive because its gonna really suck soo yaaa just be aware(;