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What are some signs to look for if you think your spouse is cheating on you?
Signs from the car:
Signs of Money:
Here is some more input and advice from people who have been cheated on:
- They let you do the talking most of the time.
- They are using more gas.
- The mileage in their car is too high. Check the mileage for them to and from work. Is there a lot of unexplained mileage?
- They want you to wait while they clean out their car before you get in it.
- There are two empty cups or containers for food for more than one person in their car.
- The music stations in their car have changed.
Signs of Money:
- Money is unaccounted for (this could also be drugs).
- You find receipts for items you've never seen.
- There are unexplained charges on credit card bills.
Here is some more input and advice from people who have been cheated on:
- If you know that they cheated on people they were with before you, the chances are much higher that they will cheat on you.
- If you're losing sleep over it and become obsessive and angry, don't just shun it away as paranoia. It might be right.
- Unfortunately, the "signs" aren't that obvious nor are they that reliable. If he/she is doing it "right", you won't be able to tell unless you catch him/her in the act. In general, if you're the type of person that tries to keep life interesting for your spouse, you'll minimize the potential, but you can't eliminate the possibility no matter what you do. Some people tend to cheat no matter what their home life is like. Were they cheating on someone else when they met you? If so, it's probably an established behavior pattern. If your spouse is the type of person who can be trusted in other areas of life you might have a good reason to trust him in marriage. After all, marriage is about trust and commitment.
- Note that if your spouse is not cheating and you are constantly being suspicious and questioning everything, you might just drive him/her into being unfaithful.
- If you believe they're different now, then take the time and think of a plan to investigate them on your own.
- If you have a gut instinct that they are cheating, 9 out of 10 times you are right. That feeling is there for a reason and if I were you I would check it out. Be careful though, you don't want it to be your own insecurity and be wrong. That will screw things up because then he will know that you don't trust him.
- The heart knows. Don't let your mind talk you out of it. There are a lot of signs of cheating.
- Be patient. Don't let them know you suspect them. Plan what to do if they really are cheating on you or lying to you. Be prepared to leave them. No matter how ugly, fat, worthless, or horrible lover you think you are in your mind you will always feel that way if you stay there and don't listen to your gut instincts and the hard evidence. Self esteem is how well you trust yourself. If you know something is going on, and deny it is happening you aren't trusting yourself and your self esteem same will be low. Remember somebody will love you no matter what you look like. There is always someone out there who thinks you are a 10.
- A spouse often cheats with someone close to both of you, e.g., a neighbor, friend, or even a family member of yours. Are they especially close to someone of the opposite sex?
- Days without showering at home, but your partner seems to have showered.
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Answer IF SINGLE: Breaking dates Not keeping in touch with you during the week (usually a guy you are dating will ask you out for the weekend) … Always out with his buddies Not interested in what you have to say Doesn't bother to ask what is going on in your life Isn't interested in your friends Is lethargic, moody when with you Doesn't remember your birthday or other special occasions MARRIED: The smell of perfume Check for lipstick on especially his shirts Calls in the evening and the person hangs up Phone #'s your husband has and he doesn't explain whose they are You can always check his emails or any boards he is on online Receipts from hotels or motels Keep an eye on your Visa card for any transactions for jewelry, motels, hotels, rented vehicles, etc. Working more over-time than he use too Forgetting your birthday or anniversary (some men can forget and it doesn't mean they are cheating, but they will make up for it.) Not interested in any aspect of your life such as how your day went, if you want to go out for an evening or have friends over. A lack of interest in you, or having your friends over for a nice evening Never taking you out for dinner or a movie These are but a few, but usually, if most women have a gut instinct follow through on it, but be warned, be sure you have proof and don't be the over-zealous type (or over jealous) and ruin your relationship. Before you jump to conclusions it's type you both brushed up on your communication skills. So sit down one night and have a nice quiet chat and discuss your relationship. Good luck Marcy
ANSWER: This all depends on individual. Marries man has their own habit that their wife knows and notice. If he have a new woman in his life, it will be different as well as m…aking sure that his wife will not notice. From my own personal experience, the man I married was different, I said different because it was obvious that even my first daughter knows. It's all about his appearance and his face is a bit different, always have this smile which I also notice. So if your husband is on that path, just pay attention to his body language and the way he look.
There are many signs that may indicate a cheating spouse. Signs may include coming home later than usual from work, unwillingness to spend private time with one another. Howev…er, it is advised to be cautious and not accuse anybody too quickly.
Yes. Every relationship is different. It depends on the actions of both parties. The outcome will be devastating. Lawyers will be involved. Financial hardships. The charge w…ould be "Alienation Of Affection".
Top 10: Signs She's Cheating On You Number 10: She detaches herself from your family The fact that she no longer wants …to attend family functions or hang with your friends may be indicative of "cheater's remorse" on her part. She may feel guilty enough about cheating as it is, and having to face your friends and relatives may be just another painful reminder of her sins. Hence, the less she immerses herself in your circles, the less mental anguish she'll have to endure. Number 9: She picks fights about everything Gone are the days when the two of you could communicate with such harmonious precision. Lately, every sentiment you express sets her off, and she finds any excuse to lash out at you. If such an about-face sounds familiar, she may be subconsciously trying to justify her little tryst. Nagging you helps eliminate or at least ease her nagging guilt. So if she habitually begins to point out your every flaw, you may want to get to the bottom of what's really going on. Number 8: She has a new "friend" A telltale sign that your woman is cheating arises when a mysterious friend inches their way into the picture. Whether it's someone she claims is a co-worker, or an old friend from "way back," she keeps this friendship under wraps and is hesitant to share any general details about them, much less introduce you. And it doesn't take a Ph.D. to figure out why. Number 7: She freaks out over simple questions Always be suspicious of anyone who refuses to answer even the simplest and fairest of questions, or answers questions only after repeating them back to you (usually indicates a mind's search for a lie). Be wary of times when, rather than reveal that she got home at midnight, she begrudgingly asks, "Why do you want to know what time I left the coffee shop?" If she gets defensive about disclosing information that she used to volunteer without hesitation, she may be hiding something... or someone. Number 6: She breaks the routine If she is involved in a hot and heavy romance elsewhere, you'll definitely feel a shift in her daily priorities. Suddenly, there are no more implied Sunday dates at the movies, or something always "comes up" on dance lesson Thursdays. There is a tendency for most philanderers to schedule meetings with their new flame as often as they can, resulting in a complete disregard for previous engagements. Number 5: She primps more than ever You may like her just the way she is, but that won't stop her from trying to dazzle her new fling. And just as you tried to impress each other in the beginning of your relationship, so too will she have a sudden urge to improve her style, change her makeup, and alter her physical appearance for the other man. So while her desire to look sexier may be one thing, not caring about your opinion on the matter is quite another. Number 4: She becomes more independent A big sign that something has gone awry comes when she breaks away from a dependent, two-person unit and becomes more autonomous. She doesn't say "we" anymore, but rather "I." Moreover, she does more things on her own, and stops consulting you about future plans. In short, she conducts herself in ways that hint that she no longer needs you to hold her hand. Whether she's hoping you'll leave her , or is simply looking for more time to lead her "double life," it's safe to conclude that she wants you out of the picture but can't build up the nerve to leave you. Number 3: Your sex life changes What started out with the two of you passionately making love at the spur-of-the-moment is now an iffy situation, whereby you're rarely hitting the sheets, and are doing so only if and when she feels like it. On a slightly more ego-bashing note, she may suddenly become bored by your performance, and appear to be thinking about someone besides you when you do make love. Cheating may be wrong, but you can't deny that unlawful sex is usually more exhilarating. So if you can no longer satisfy her sexually, someone else may be rubbing her the right way. Number 2: She's always busy She may claim to no longer have time for any extracurricular activities with you, yet the minute one of her girlfriends calls, she has one foot out the door. Either that, or she's been "going away on business" one too many times. And when she does leave, her whereabouts are sketchy at best, and you are somehow always the last to know. Disclosing her itinerary to you at the last minute and overlooking your plans in the process can mean many things, one of which isn't that she's forgetting, but rather leaving you out. Number 1: She just doesn't care What could be worse than a girlfriend who nags you about absolutely everything? How about one who stops noticing that you're even alive? Just as number nine is one possibility, the opposite could be yet another clue you need to watch out for. All at once, she doesn't care if you don't want to go to the ballet with her; she'll just find somebody else to go with. And whatever opinion you may have, be it about how she looks or how you're feeling, is met with a tepid response. In other words, she doesn't place the same importance on what you think and what you do, especially on things that directly affect the relationship. BE REALISTIC: Don't delude yourself into thinking that your woman would never cheat, and don't rush to judgment either; if she is guilty of committing any signs on the list, perhaps it's indicative that something's awry in the relationship . In any case, this is a great opportunity for you to address problems you may not have noticed before scanning this article. More importantly, don't let what may just be a bad case of jealousy taint your perception of her. Reading her the wrong way or jumping to conclusions can permanently sever a relationship; get all the facts before you confront her.
Answer 1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy. 2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you.… (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.) 3) He stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you. 4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it. 5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard. 6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program. 7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know. 8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office. 9) He carries condoms, and you are on the pill. 10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID. 11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate. 12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt. 13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?" 14) He buys himself new underwear. 15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car. 16) She stops wearing her wedding ring. 17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry. 18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back. 19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques. 20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you. 21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often. 22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub. 23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house. 24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days. 25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music. 26) Spouse's coworkers are uncomfortable in your presence. 27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance. 28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed. 29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and had to eat the dinner I prepared when he got home. 30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously. 31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband's shirt. 32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off. 33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse. 34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily moved to anger. 35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice. 36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home. 37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right. 38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home. 39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly. 40) She has a "glow" about her. 41) Atypical erratic behavior. 42) He sneaks out of the house. 43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed 44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later. 45) He tells you can get hold of him at a different telephone number. 46) The telltale sign of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.
Unfortunately, I have had some personal experiences with this sort of things... See below for a couple of things to look for: 1. He/She may begin to be suddenly into thin…gs/activities that he/she hasn't been into like salsa dancing, movies, exotic foods/restaurants, etc. 2. He/She may start having more time periods that are not accounted for. Also, what goes with this is he/she may stop answering calls to their mobiles phones. Working late or having to attend some family/friend/semi-work functions or activities may increase as well. My advice is to stay calm, as hard as it is. Don't do anything to make the situation worse. It is human nature for them to run the other way if you try to hold them down or bring them closer emotionally. Your raising hell or generally providing other unpleasant experiences with him/her will usually make the situation worse. Realize the fact that there are many good people out there, and act as if you are really gonna be fine (you must believe this deep inside) without them. If you act like you can't exist without them, they will respect you less and reduce the chances of getting them back. As hard as it is, you have to have a balanced and objective view of what you bring to the table; you must love and respect yourself. Your mileage may vary, but usually there are some good reasons why your partner started looking or got involved with someone else. Have an honest accessment of your relationship and do your best to meet his/her emotional needs. Initially, depending on the situation, you might have to be very tactful and patient, and you may need to pull back on meeting their emotional needs to make them realize that you and what you do for him/her should not be taken for granted. Yes, this contradicts what I said in the previous paragraph, but getting back your spounce is an art and will take a lot of courage, self-restraint, love, and tact.
Sign of a cheating spouse as follows and not in order; 1- he/she rather pay bills, specially the credit card 2- going to work early but never did before 3- always taking… a shower in the morning and at night as soon as she/he get home. 4- she/he always pay the cell phone without showing the statement 5- always stay in his/her office at home till late hours. 6- you never see his/her own cell phone laying around the house and you never hear it ring. 7- always dress up going to work wearing cologne or perfume 8- making excuses that she/he needs to go back in the office 9- having his/her own toiletries inside her/his briefcase 10- she/he stop making conversation to you,except whats going on with the children or plain basic day to day life 11- he/she say you are paranoid if you suspect them 12- he/she make a habit of never identifying their whereabouts 13- he/she not want to let you do their washing 14- he/she no longer enjoy intercourse 15- he/she has new jewelry 16- he/she never talks about long term or future with you 17- she/he mentions doing things that you were not part of
There are no conclusive signs to the fact your boyfriend may be cheating and it is purely second guessing. Some of the signs that your boyfriend may be cheating with his neigh…bor: She is constantly at his home or he is over at her home; if you phone often and hear her in the background; if you phone and cannot reach your boyfriend no matter what time of the day or night you call; if he is not seeing you as much as he use too; if he makes excuses of not wanting to come and see you; forgetting special events such as your birthday; special anniversary re the length of time you have been going together or never taking you anywhere or constantly breaking dates with you. If the female neighbor phones your boyfriend often when he is with you. You would be wise to settle this once and for all by asking your boyfriend to meet you somewhere private (do not tell him why you want to talk to him) and then learn a good rule of communication skills by asking him right out if he is cheating with his neighbor. Some men are just good guys and help other women out when there is a man's job to do around the woman's place and some men have extroverted personalities and he may have simply befriended her and that is all there is to it, but, if it is a great intrusion on your life and you are not getting to see your boyfriend as often as you should then it is a worry that needs to be settled immediately.
When he says something conflicting with what he said. He tries to avoid you.He will say busy.Regular false statements.
He's broke because all of his cash is going to the other woman.He's been putting you down lately or picking fights with you (this is a tactic they use to ease their guilt).The…y get defensive if you question where they've been or ask about females that he has been spending time with.The first thing he does when he gets home is take a shower.He has all of a sudden been meticulous with keeping his physical appearance up.He doesn't have a lot of time for you, and he may have told you he's "working late" on many occasions.He goes out at night, a lot. He may use the out with "buddies" excuse. When he's out, his phone is off, and goes straight to voice mail.He's been getting a lot of calls/texts lately. He may act like he's in a rush to get off the phone.He puts a password on his phone.He hasn't put a password on his phone and you notice a lot of unknown numbers. (Beware, men will list their other women as businesses or names of men so you won't second-guess the calls).Your sex life is non-existentHe asks you where you are all of the time. You think he's being concerned. The reality is... he's making sure he won't get caught in the act. Different ANSWER: All of the above is true, but that's hardly the case. You will never know if your spouse is having an affair except for some few hint that he do. You know that he will always comes home to you, it might be later at night but still he will come home. All you know is he is working hard and maybe doing some overtime. But what you need to know are this sign; 1- he takes a shower twice a day, one morning and one in the evening as soon as he gets home. 2- Or maybe when your husband gets home he look fresh like he just had a shower. which he did so you will not smell the scent of his mistress or even the smell of making love to someone 3- You will never find his cell phone laying around the house because he kept it where you can't find it and you will never hear it ring. 4- if he hardly dress up going to work, and suddenly he always look good just to go to work, that's also a sign. I could tell you more but I think this is enough to help you. I said this because everything I wrote here was my ex behavior when I didn't know that he was having an affair.
Spouse who cheat will never tell everything they did with their mistress, specially if this married man has to go back to his wife. He will tell some but not the one that you …wanted to know. He might add or take something of to that story he told you so you will not bug him anymore.
No. Cheating is wrong. Another Answer Is cheating such a big deal? Perhaps it is a normal in-built genetic urge to mate with a variety of partners that has led to the …diversity of homo-sapiens. Perhaps this is why we have survived for so long. Are we over reacting? Who said cheating was wrong? What motivated them to say that? Is it not quite unfortunate for someone to go through life and not enjoy the feeling of romance with others? Of course children must be cared for and both parents have obligations there, but if the mother or father at some time feels a need for external company, can we say this is wrong? None of these questions on cheating have even offered a clear definition. For some people, cheating may be as simple as a kiss. What is the difference between touching someone on the arm and touching them on the genitals? These are only body parts. If I believe something it does not mean I should force my belief on someone else. We all should learn to better ourselves rather than strive to curb the activities of others. If your spouse is cheating, I say leave them alone. It's their body and their right to do what they want with it.
When a wife looks at her husband after he cheated on her is she always going to think about what he did?
For a while yes she will, because the pain is hard and deep and she will learn to put a shield around her. She will think how her husband make love to his mistress. She will t…hink if her husband kissed his mistress the way he kiss her. Even if her husband affair is been over, she will always think what his mistress have that she don't have. There will be a lot that will remind her no matter what, especially for the first year of the discovery. It will take time to really forget but when or if she do it will feel like a big thorn on her side is finally lift of. ANSWER: I do agree to everything she had said to you because it really happens in real life and myself included.
stay at home and have alot of sex with him Ask them why they think you are cheating on them. Just come right out and ask them. When someone is jealous, their minds work in s…trange ways. You have to find out if you have done anything that may have given the impression that you may have cheated.
Be honest. Be open. Apologize if you were the cheater. Don't brush it off when she/he say how much you have hurt her/him. Confess, try to earn his/her trust again. Try to …have fun again, give him or her flowers/dinner/movies, or hang out together. If you know you are going to do it again and are not ready to settle down even if you are married, just move on. Do not stay. Own up to your mistakes, ask for forgiveness and go. Cheating is like abuse. You have hurt someone mentally and they will think about it and talk about it until they have completely forgave you . If not that topic will come up again and again and then words will be exchanged and then it gets worst. However not all the time it happens like this because I am sure forgiveness can happen one time, but when cheating is repeated over and over and over again, that's another story. If you can forgive, forgive and make it work. However don't let someone rip you apart because you love them and chose to stay each time. Forgiving is moving on if you want too or staying if you want to and being able to see that person and smile and wave at them bye, bye, bye, bye. Having no hard feelings whatsoever but being the change you want to see. Life is what you make of it. You can stay in a cheating relationship or you can get out of it. Just because you leave does not make you a bad person. It makes you a stronger person who refuse to be treated bad because of someone chose to be unfaithful to you.
If you still love them and want to stay with them then you could present them with a card with 2 crosses drawn on the front. Inside write the message "Three strikes and you're… out. I love you and forgive you for the past, but once more and it's game over." If however you are past reconciliation, then for this anniversary take them to where you first met, and tell them it's over for good.