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What are some signs to look for if you think your spouse is cheating on you?
Signs from the car:
Signs of Money:
Here is some more input and advice from people who have been cheated on:
- They let you do the talking most of the time.
- They are using more gas.
- The mileage in their car is too high. Check the mileage for them to and from work. Is there a lot of unexplained mileage?
- They want you to wait while they clean out their car before you get in it.
- There are two empty cups or containers for food for more than one person in their car.
- The music stations in their car have changed.
Signs of Money:
- Money is unaccounted for (this could also be drugs).
- You find receipts for items you've never seen.
- There are unexplained charges on credit card bills.
Here is some more input and advice from people who have been cheated on:
- If you know that they cheated on people they were with before you, the chances are much higher that they will cheat on you.
- If you're losing sleep over it and become obsessive and angry, don't just shun it away as paranoia. It might be right.
- Unfortunately, the "signs" aren't that obvious nor are they that reliable. If he/she is doing it "right", you won't be able to tell unless you catch him/her in the act. In general, if you're the type of person that tries to keep life interesting for your spouse, you'll minimize the potential, but you can't eliminate the possibility no matter what you do. Some people tend to cheat no matter what their home life is like. Were they cheating on someone else when they met you? If so, it's probably an established behavior pattern. If your spouse is the type of person who can be trusted in other areas of life you might have a good reason to trust him in marriage. After all, marriage is about trust and commitment.
- Note that if your spouse is not cheating and you are constantly being suspicious and questioning everything, you might just drive him/her into being unfaithful.
- If you believe they're different now, then take the time and think of a plan to investigate them on your own.
- If you have a gut instinct that they are cheating, 9 out of 10 times you are right. That feeling is there for a reason and if I were you I would check it out. Be careful though, you don't want it to be your own insecurity and be wrong. That will screw things up because then he will know that you don't trust him.
- The heart knows. Don't let your mind talk you out of it. There are a lot of signs of cheating.
- Be patient. Don't let them know you suspect them. Plan what to do if they really are cheating on you or lying to you. Be prepared to leave them. No matter how ugly, fat, worthless, or horrible lover you think you are in your mind you will always feel that way if you stay there and don't listen to your gut instincts and the hard evidence. Self esteem is how well you trust yourself. If you know something is going on, and deny it is happening you aren't trusting yourself and your self esteem same will be low. Remember somebody will love you no matter what you look like. There is always someone out there who thinks you are a 10.
- A spouse often cheats with someone close to both of you, e.g., a neighbor, friend, or even a family member of yours. Are they especially close to someone of the opposite sex?
- Days without showering at home, but your partner seems to have showered.
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Answer . IF SINGLE:\n. \nBreaking dates\n. \nNot keeping in touch with you during the week (usually a guy you are dating will ask you out for the weekend)\n. \nAlways ou…t with his buddies\n. \nNot interested in what you have to say\n. \nDoesn't bother to ask what is going on in your life\n. \nIsn't interested in your friends\n. \nIs lethargic, moody when with you\n. \nDoesn't remember your birthday or other special occasions\n. \n. \nMARRIED:\n. \nThe smell of perfume\n. \nCheck for lipstick on especially his shirts\n. \nCalls in the evening and the person hangs up\n. \nPhone #'s your husband has and he doesn't explain whose they are\n. \nYou can always check his emails or any boards he is on online\n. \nReceipts from hotels or motels\n. \nKeep an eye on your Visa card for any transactions for jewelry, motels, hotels, rented vehicles, etc.\n. \nWorking more over-time than he use too\n. \nForgetting your birthday or anniversary (some men can forget and it doesn't mean they are cheating, but they will make up for it.)\n. \nNot interested in any aspect of your life such as how your day went, if you want to go out for an evening or have friends over.\n. \nA lack of interest in you, or having your friends over for a nice evening\n. \nNever taking you out for dinner or a movie\n. \nThese are but a few, but usually, if most women have a gut instinct follow through on it, but be warned, be sure you have proof and don't be the over-zealous type (or over jealous) and ruin your relationship.\n. \nBefore you jump to conclusions it's type you both brushed up on your communication skills. So sit down one night and have a nice quiet chat and discuss your relationship.\n. \nGood luck\nMarcy
Is it cheating when you and your spouse go out and you catch him looking at another female but he lies when you ask him if he was looking at her?
Answer . No...not yet. Men are always going to look at other women and most will deny it to their wives or dates. It is usually harmless.
He's broke because all of his cash is going to the other woman. . He's been putting you down lately or picking fights with you (this is a tactic they use to ease their guilt)…. . They get defensive if you question where they've been or ask about females that he has been spending time with. . The first thing he does when he gets home is take a shower. . He has all of a sudden been meticulous with keeping his physical appearance up. . He doesn't have a lot of time for you, and he may have told you he's "working late" on many occasions. . He goes out at night, a lot. He may use the out with "buddies" excuse. When he's out, his phone is off, and goes straight to voice mail. . He's been getting a lot of calls/texts lately. He may act like he's in a rush to get off the phone. . He puts a password on his phone. . He hasn't put a password on his phone and you notice a lot of unknown numbers. (Beware, men will list their other women as businesses or names of men so you won't second-guess the calls). . Your sex life is non-existent . He asks you where you are all of the time. You think he's being concerned. The reality is... he's making sure he won't get caught in the act. Different ANSWER: All of the above is true, but that's hardly the case. You will never know if your spouse is having an affair except for some few hint that he do. You know that he will always comes home to you, it might be later at night but still he will come home. All you know is he is working hard and maybe doing some overtime. But what you need to know are this sign; 1- he takes a shower twice a day, one morning and one in the evening as soon as he gets home. 2- Or maybe when your husband gets home he look fresh like he just had a shower. which he did so you will not smell the scent of his mistress or even the smell of making love to someone 3- You will never find his cell phone laying around the house because he kept it where you can't find it and you will never hear it ring. 4- if he hardly dress up going to work, and suddenly he always look good just to go to work, that's also a sign. I could tell you more but I think this is enough to help you. I said this because everything I wrote here was my ex behavior when I didn't know that he was having an affair.
If you know the person, you'll feel it right away. But here are a few more hints: - doesn't answer the phone, leaves it off - sharp rise in excuses for not answering, not …meeting - decline in sexual activities - constant criticism on you, high propension to argue - if she already has somebody in mind, talks about the person a little too often. -Always says staying at a friends house. - Late Home alot. -Say's going out to dinner almost every night but never invites you.
Sign of a cheating spouse as follows and not in order; 1- he/she rather pay bills, specially the credit card 2- going to work early but never did before 3- always taking… a shower in the morning and at night as soon as she/he get home. 4- she/he always pay the cell phone without showing the statement 5- always stay in his/her office at home till late hours. 6- you never see his/her own cell phone laying around the house and you never hear it ring. 7- always dress up going to work wearing cologne or perfume 8- making excuses that she/he needs to go back in the office 9- having his/her own toiletries inside her/his briefcase 10- she/he stop making conversation to you,except whats going on with the children or plain basic day to day life 11- he/she say you are paranoid if you suspect them 12- he/she make a habit of never identifying their whereabouts 13- he/she not want to let you do their washing 14- he/she no longer enjoy intercourse 15- he/she has new jewelry 16- he/she never talks about long term or future with you 17- she/he mentions doing things that you were not part of
From experience, my ex-boyfriend would act overly affectionate towards me. Constantly telling me that he loves me, kissing me, holding me, touching me. Always telling me how m…uch I mean to him. When I would confront him on the topic of cheating or when I actually started to claw my way through evidence he would tell me that I was all wrong and that he loved me and I got fed a whole bunch of excuses that I chose to accept at the time. Looking back I realize it wasn't the best idea I could have had but for sure my ex would just be more affectionate and showing that he actually cared about me more verbally than sexual as it had always been. ANSWER: Most married men can show something that us wives might, (not sure ) noticed. But if you want to know how a man could act or show if he feels guilty, your the one that can only tell because you know your husband. Mostly when they are doing their thing behind your back or our back, there's no such things as feeling guilty not bad. As soon as he is with this other woman, if he really feels guilty, he might say that he can't do it because of you, his wife. But with all the books and articles and from my own experience, there's no such things as feeling guilty. They might feel awkward during the first time of intercourse, but for them not to feel guilty or bad the only way they can solve it, is by having another intercourse with the woman he is having the affair with. so please try not to over look to what he is trying to do or maybe say..
the number one sign is your gut feeling. always trust your feelingsin anything you do. if something doesn't feel right chances are itsnot right
Unfortunately, I have had some personal experiences with this sort of things... See below for a couple of things to look for:. 1. He/She may begin to be suddenly into things/…activities that he/she hasn't been into like salsa dancing, movies, exotic foods/restaurants, etc.. 2. He/She may start having more time periods that are not accounted for. Also, what goes with this is he/she may stop answering calls to their mobiles phones. Working late or having to attend some family/friend/semi-work functions or activities may increase as well.. My advice is to stay calm, as hard as it is. Don't do anything to make the situation worse. It is human nature for them to run the other way if you try to hold them down or bring them closer emotionally. Your raising hell or generally providing other unpleasant experiences with him/her will usually make the situation worse.. Realize the fact that there are many good people out there, and act as if you are really gonna be fine (you must believe this deep inside) without them. If you act like you can't exist without them, they will respect you less and reduce the chances of getting them back. As hard as it is, you have to have a balanced and objective view of what you bring to the table; you must love and respect yourself.. Your mileage may vary, but usually there are some good reasons why your partner started looking or got involved with someone else. Have an honest accessment of your relationship and do your best to meet his/her emotional needs. Initially, depending on the situation, you might have to be very tactful and patient, and you may need to pull back on meeting their emotional needs to make them realize that you and what you do for him/her should not be taken for granted.. Yes, this contradicts what I said in the previous paragraph, but getting back your spounce is an art and will take a lot of courage, self-restraint, love, and tact.
Answer Taking extra time dressing, or going to work especially well-dressed. the guy will be afraid to show you his butt. it will smell funnier. when a guy doesn't like… to tell you where he was, or when you ask him something and he's like why do you want to know. when (basically) he doesn't want to tell you things or he lies. also if he's cheated before chances are he'll do it again. another sign of cheating is when he does extra things, however it could be hard to tell, like suspicious extra gifts. hope it helps! from one that's been cheated on.. hopefully this can help you to catch him! lol
Depends.. Make sure they do not catch you in the act, and do not leave any evidence behind to show you have been there. Otherwise this can be used against you in the future.
See if he has got any perfume smells on him and when he is in shower, turn over his undies and the next day when he goes to shower again, see if his undies are turned over. If… it is turned over then he is cheating.
stay at home and have alot of sex with him Ask them why they think you are cheating on them. Just come right out and ask them. When someone is jealous, their minds wor…k in strange ways. You have to find out if you have done anything that may have given the impression that you may have cheated.
If a spouse wants clues to check them out financially checking credit cards to see if the cheating spouse is staying in motels or hotels; check phone records; bank statements …or how much money the cheating spouse is taking out of the bank from a joint account.
Three things: They haven't got the money or courage to get up and live. For their children's sakes. They know no better. If you get cheated on, move and start again, you can… do better. You don't need the stress of some geezer not seeing what's good for him!
Why some spouses think that making out with another woman friend is not a physical affair or cheating?
Marriage is a sanctity of being honest; loyal and respectful of your spouse, but some people that are married find their sex life dull and go for what is called 'an open marri…age' which means both spouses will have other partners sexually involved with them which are called threesomes or foursomes. No matter how much the married couple tries to defend what they do it is wrong, but each to their own.
Why some spouses think that making out with another woman friend is not physical affairs nor cheating?
Because some people think cheating is exclusive to having sexual intercourse, and that so long as it doesn't go that far, anything before and not beyond it isn't cheating. How…ever, many view this differently and believe even giving yourself over to someone, who is your spouse, emotionally is cheating. Some think because sex can bring in other outcomes such as children or sexual diseases, and such, things like kissing, which doesn't bring that in, shouldn't be viewed as cheating.
If you still love them and want to stay with them then you could present them with a card with 2 crosses drawn on the front. Inside write the message "Three strikes and you're… out. I love you and forgive you for the past, but once more and it's game over."If however you are past reconciliation, then for this anniversary take them to where you first met, and tell them it's over for good.