What is cuckolding?
Without simply copying and pasting another persons answer here, cuckolding is when a married women has sex with one or more men with the husband's knowledge. The husband may not only be aware, but may encourage this and even find it stimulating. In other words, she is screwing other guys and he knows and likely even likes it. He may get off on the "badness" of it, the humilation of it, watching it or simply hearing about it. Some men are aroused at the idea their their mate prefers the other guy especially if he is better endowed. He may want to be made to feel like a women while she gets a "real man". Other topics that may be related to this are: male chastity feminization small penis humilation femdom
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A cuckold is a married man whose wife is sexually active with othermen without his knowledge or consent. So you become one through theaction of others, although your choice of… partner and your behaviorin the marriage might have some impact on it. The word "cuckold" is also used in BDSM fetish to describe arelationship in which one partner gets a masochistic/submissivethrill from having the other partner be sexually active outside thepair. The submissive partner is called a cuckold in the scene(although as consenting partners they are in fact "wittols" in reallife.) If by "become a cuckold" you mean "become a cuckold fetishist,"then the answer has to do with the eroticization of profound fearsof betrayal, emasculation, and measuring-up. These fears may havebecome this profound as a result of trauma, or from the thousandcuts of your upbringing. For any specific individual,psychoanalysis would be needed to uncover the unique roots of theirown kinks. The dynamic however, is the same, the mind eroticizeswhat it fears in order to render it endurable and your libidolearns to play with this as a reliable way to turbo charge eroticstimulation. If by "become a cuckold" you mean "how does someone who has acuckold fetish live out their fantasies," then you merely need awilling partner. Internet matching site and chat forums have madethis much easier. Many specialize in BDSM, fetish, and "alternativelifestyles." Also there are often local gatherings of fetish andkink communities where you can meet and network with folks untilyou find a good match. If a person is already married and hasn't previously discussed thiskink with their partner, then honest, direct communication andsharing of deep intimacies and dark fantasies between the coupleare necessary for exploring this or other sexual variations.(Necessary, but not sufficient. Your partner may say no, but youare still better off for having been honest with them.)
A cuckold is a man whose wife is not sexually exclusive with him. Traditionally, this meant without his knowledge or consent. (Hence, she was "unfaithful," having broken their… marriage vows of fidelity.) A woman whose husband is unfaithful is a "cuckquean." A man who knows and accept his wife's infidelity for whatever reason is termed a "wittol," a word devolved from Old English spellings of "wise" (as in "in the know') and cuckold. Fetish usage Cuckold is also a sexual fetish term. In fetish cuckolding, the cuckold (or "cuck") is the willing male partner of a female who is sexually active with other males. Outside of fetish usage, such a man is properly be termed a wittol if the couple is married. It is important to note that in fetish usage a couple need not be married for the male to be termed a cuckold.
It depends on what you mean. By strict definition a cuckold is a man (traditionally) whose wifesecretly has sex with another. So you should refer to thevoluminous literature… on "how do you know your partner is cheatingon you." If, however, you mean "how do you know if you have a cuckoldfetish," the answer is actually simpler. Do you get turned on bythe thought of you partner choosing sex with someone else over sexwith you? The important elements to consider here: - Do you get a masochistic thrill from it, or is it just that youare a voyeur and like to watch people copulating? Ask yourself ifthe thrill would be the same if one of the people was not a partnerof yours, but two people you didn't know. If they didn't restrictyou to watching, or make fun of you, would it still be so hot? - Is it hotter to imagine it being your spouse or the love of yourlife than just a sex buddy you don't have those "I love you somuch" feelings for? Cuckolds will get a bigger charge out of itbeing someone they are bound to and/or value than someone they(and/or society) expect such behavior from. All kinds of people have non-mongamous relationships - swingers,open, poly, etc. What makes cuckolding distinct is the dimension ofmasochism you feel in being shoved aside or passed over.
Strictly speaking, a cuckold is a man whose wife has illicit sexual affairs. In contemporary usage it is sometimes applied to non-married couples and is sometimes used (incorr…ectly) for women in the analogous situation (who are correctly termed "cuckqueans.") It is also used today to apply to men and women who experience a masochistic sexual excitement at the idea of their committed partner having sex with someone else. This later BDSM fetish usage is the most common today. The fetish is generally referred to as "cuckolding." Linguistically this term is incorrect since cuckolds are by definition deceived and unwilling (willing or accepting cuckolds are technically "wittols,) but the pose of reluctance is integral to the fetish thrill. The term was widely used in medieval European society and literature where fidelity within marriage was strongly propounded by religious leaders and the center of morality tales. In the very patriarchic society of the day, a man who could not dominate his wife at least to the point of sexual exclusivity was seen to have failed on a fundamental level. "Cuckold" enjoyed wide use in Elizabethan and Restoration drama, when the figure and fears of the cuckold was used for both tragic and humorous purposes. The word appears less frequently today outside the fetish usage, although it is still seen in newspapers and legal proceedings as well as artistic criticism and novels.
Cuckquean is the antonym (opposite) of cuckold. Etymology From cuckold +â quean A woman who has an unfaithful husband. quean: (archaic) A woman ; female person, …considered without regard to qualities or position: hence generally in a slighting use.
True in the strict traditional sense. But with the changing definition of marriage and the creation of all sorts of committed relationships that aren't quite marriage, it can …be regarded more broadly today.
I have been a cuckold for come 15 years now, so I think I can answer this, at least from the POV of a male cuckold. First, listen to her and make sure that whatever happens …is what she wants and isn't you topping from below by driving her to sex she is only doing for your benefit. Second, be at all times reassuring and supportive regarding her affairs. The topsy turvy emotions you get a thrill from can be very uncomfortable and stress inducing for her. You need to make sure she knows that you are planted and will never leave her over this. That she is free and their are no consequences from you in terms of recriminations or resentments. Third, always be on her side. She may have some issues with the other men, or with friends. You need to be the one friend who is always on her side and just wants her to be happy. Fourth, always remember it is about her needs. She loves you, so she'll attend to you desires a bit if you clearly communicate them (no whining - just loving info sharing.) But don't make it about you getting off. Don't insist on things like you watching or her giving you blow-by-blows afterwards, etc. You can let her know you like that or want to try it, but leave it to her. You are satisfied just with her enjoying it and being happy. If you think about it, you aren't making her happy by insisting she attend to your orgasm when she has come home spent and tired. Keep her first at all times and it will rebound to your benefit over time. I can say from my own life that if you do these things, you are much more likely to be cuckolded and to maintain that relationship for a long time.
If you mean in the fetish sense: First, be in a committedrelationship. Second, be honest with your partner about yourdesires. Then, if they are willing, you'll need to find a …willingthird. If you mean in the classic/legal sense, just drive your partner toit out of desperation.
Fetish is the eroticization of fears. If you are afraid of something so much that the emotion overwhelms your rational circuitry, one strategy you brain uses is to eroticize t…he thing so that you are flooded with feel-good hormones to cool you off. It is like a nuclear reactor being flooded with water to prevent melt-down. The fetish is like the radioactive vapor that the reactor releases - a byproduct of the emergency action with significantly complicated potential after-effects. Fetishes are sometimes the result of a big trauma, sometimes the result of repeated absorption of a small message, sometime the result of a small something that just hit you in the right way (as hard rocks or gems can shatter if hit at precisely the right point under precisely the right conditions.) From there, the process becomes pavlovian. Because you are getting a libidinous reward for engaging with this fear, you do so more often and in increasing doses and facing it begins to dull the fear reaction itself. Eventually you have mastered the fear and it no longer threatens to shut down your brain. But a consequence is that you now associate that activity with sexual stimulation. This is a fetish. In the case of a cuckold fetish, the fears you are eroticizing are of being rejected or found wanting in the search for mates and love. This may mean being rejected by people you are attracted to, or betrayed by people you have feelings for, or a generalized sense of inadequacy in the gender role society expects from you. With a fetish, you can use the erotic thrill therapeutically to manage your fears. But you need to be careful because it is easy to dig the fetish deeper and start a cycle where you need ever more extreme fantasies or realities to satiate yourself. Fetishes are also notoriously hard to deprogram, so it is usually best to find a way to manage them so that they do not interfere with the other desires of your life.
A cuckold party can refer to two things: (A) A gathering of couples who engage in cuckold fetishism, often with other, unattached individuals to join the dominant partners in… humiliating the submissive (cuckolded) partners. (B) The same with just a single cuckold couple and a group of unattached guests who have sex with the dominant partner in front of the cuckolded partner. In fetish usage, the submissive "cuckolds" is almost always (but need not be) a male. Similar activity with a submissive female is less commonly referred to as "cuckolding." The dominant partner is usually female, but can be either sex and same-sex fetish cuckolding is practiced. It is conventional for the submissive partner to be denied sex with their dominant or orgasmic release during these sessions although they are sometimes required to participate by servicing the guests or by participating in their partners sexual activities in a secondary role. (For instance, inserting the organs of guests into their dominant or licking up ejaculate after the fact, etc.) It is usual for the submissive to be verbally humiliated and denigrated by the dominant and guests. For the majority male submissives this most commonly takes the form of verbal emasculating; for females submissives comments usually revolve around their putative sexual voraciousness and promiscuity.
That is very much debated. In non-human species, breed parasitismis a strategy sometimes used to enhance the reproductive odds.Among humans, there has been research that sugge…sts that thejealousy generated by non-monogamy increases male libido andtherefore the quantity and force of male ejaculation. The theory isthat this sperm competition leads to an arms race that enhances theprospects of breeding. The theory is respectable among scholars,but recent and controversial. In psychology, fetishes of all kinds are considered completelynatural responses to developmental experiences and stimuli. Issuesonly arise if they prevent healthy functioning of the individual.
Data on sexual practices is notoriously unreliable. But accordingto most U.S. research a solid majority of Americans have hadextramarital or extra-relationship sex. Other rese…arch suggeststhat it is a common fantasy for both sexes. So in that sense, youwould have to say yes. More complicated is the issue of cuckolding as a fetish. It is anot uncommon fantasy, according to surveys, and according to recentbig data analysis of web searches, much more prevalent thenpreviously assumed (or admitted to by survey takers). But thenumber of people actualizing it as fetish play experience isprobably quite small as a fraction of the population.
Plural of 'cuckold." A cuckold is, strictly speaking, a man whosewife has sexually relations with other men without his knowledgeand/or to his chagrin. In the fetish sense, it… can mean a person(male or female) who gets sexual satisfaction from watching theirintimate relationship partner have sex with other people.
A cuckold is a husband whose wife is having sexual relations withanother man. He is said to have been 'cuckolded'.
Whatever they like. They are just people like everyone else.
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