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Just like you would divorce anyone else you didn't like. It's best to see a lawyer and be sure you are protected. Your lawyer can handle things for you. I know it can get expensive, but it's the best way to go. Good luck Marcy Divorce them from as far away as possible. Good Luck. Pat W. Answer Quickly---and safely! Have an alternative place to live, or maybe a couple of them, lined up before you file. Change your hair colour and length/style, wear different clothes, buy a new car. Consider even changing your name, if it is really that dangerous. Might have to let your boss know, or even change jobs, if you think stalking or violence will be a problem. Get a restraining order first and notify the police of all and any concerns you have. Contact a local shelter and friends you trust to make sure you have many safe places to go to in case you need to hide or move quickly. Never ever go back to the situation you were in or be with the person again...they do NOT change. Get counseling and support for yourself and kids if you have them. You don't want to end up in another relationship with another psycho, and you will need to examine your life and choices deeply to discover how you can do better for yourself.
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In a word, YES. Unfortunately, financial, emotional and physical damage are an inevitable part of life with a sociopath. This destruction is the result of the long term erosio…n of your sense of self - something that the sociopath manipulates in order to gain "control" over you. The action is predatory in nature and leads to significant hardship on a multitude of levels. Secure a good lawyer and plan your "escape" long before you let the SP know of your intentions. Then get out, stay out and don't look back. Be prepared for the abuse to escalate in the aftermath, and get a restraining order if necessary, but do NOT give up. It is the only way towards securing good mental, physical and emotional health, as well as financial stability. Good luck.
Profile of the Sociopath This website summarizes some of the common features of descriptions of the behavior of sociopaths. . Glibness and Superficial Charm . Manipu…lative and Conning They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims. . Grandiose Sense of Self Feels entitled to certain things as "their right." . Pathological Lying Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests. . Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way. . Shallow Emotions When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises. . Incapacity for Love . Need for Stimulation Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common. . Callousness/Lack of Empathy Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them. . Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others. . Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc. . Irresponsibility/Unreliability Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed. . Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts. . Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively. . Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life story readily. . Other Related Qualities: . Contemptuous of those who seek to understand them . Does not perceive that anything is wrong with them . Authoritarian . Secretive . Paranoid . Only rarely in difficulty with the law, but seeks out situations where their tyrannical behavior will be tolerated, condoned, or admired . Conventional appearance . Goal of enslavement of their victim(s) . Exercises despotic control over every aspect of the victim's life . Has an emotional need to justify their crimes and therefore needs their victim's affirmation (respect, gratitude and love) . Ultimate goal is the creation of a willing victim . Incapable of real human attachment to another . Unable to feel remorse or guilt . Extreme narcissism and grandiose . May state readily that their goal is to rule the world
Sociopaths can ask themselves if they are one. The fact it they do recognize they are different from others and would like to know if they can put a name on it. The biggest …defining characteristic of one is not feeling guilt. Sociopaths don't connect with the needs of others or their feelings, a sociopath does not feel guilt. Ask yourself that question. Dont get it confused with fear or embarrassment, did you ever feel like what you did was wrong and regret doing it simply for that reason because it was harmful/hurtful/bad for someone else. So, have you felt guilt? Other characteristics are extreme arrogance, high intelligence, manipulative, lack of morales and conscience(derives from lack of connection to others), easily angered by small things, sadistic nature, taking aliases. Sincerely, A sociopath.
Antisocial Personality Disorder is also known as psychopathy or sociopathy. Individuals with this disorder have little regard for the feeling and welfare of others. As a clini…cal diagnosis it is usually limited to those over age 18. It can be diagnosed in younger people if the they commit isolated antisocial acts and do not show signs of another mental disorder. Antisocial Personality Disorder is chronic, beginning in adolescence and continuing throughout adulthood. There are ten general symptoms:not learning from experienceno sense of responsibilityinability to form meaningful relationshipsinability to control impulseslack of moral sensechronically antisocial behaviorno change in behavior after punishmentemotional immaturitylack of guiltself-centeredness People with this disorder may exhibit criminal behavior. They perhaps do not work. If they do work, they are frequently absent or may quit suddenly. They do not consider other people's wishes, welfare or rights. They can be manipulative and may lie to gain personal pleasure or profit. They may default on loans, fail to provide child support, or fail to care for their dependents adequately. High risk sexual behavior and substance abuse are common. Impulsiveness, failure to plan ahead, aggressiveness, irritability, irresponsibility, and a reckless disregard for their own safety and the safety of others are traits of the antisocial personality. Socioeconomic status, gender, and genetic factors play a role. Males are more likely to be antisocial than females. Those from lower socioeconomic groups are more susceptible. A family history of the disorder puts one at higher risk. There are many theories about the cause of Antisocial Personality Disorder including experiencing neglectful parenting as a child, low levels of certain neurotransmitters in the brain, and belief that antisocial behavior is justified because of difficult circumstances. Psychotherapy, group therapy, and family therapy are common treatments. The effects of medical treatment are inconclusive. Unfortunately, most people with Antisocial Personality Disorder reject treatment. Therefore, recovery rates are low. Here is a very different, minority perspective from someone who believes himself to be a sociopath:"Sociopath" is a misleading word: it implies a disorder, something wrong and unnatural with the person, and this couldn't be further from the truth. We, the people you refer to as sociopaths, have nothing wrong with us. We are necessary for the survival and sucess of the human species. Though we are found disporportionatly in prisons we are found with even greater frequency in your governments, your corporations, your military. Who else but someone devoid of concience could order thousands of soldiers to die, regardless of how noble the cause? Who can fire hundreds of workers to save a company from bankrupcy and then go to sleep that night? Who can so elegantly tell the lies that must be told, to protect the very people to whom the lies are told? It takes one of us to make those calls, the calls that the rest of humanity cannot make. It is no coincidence that our lack of guilt comes with abnormally high intelligence and charisma; we are born to lead, all our traits support this conclusion. We are born knowing it, and the rest of you know it when you see us. Its why you elect us, follow us, and gives your lives by our command. And yet a distressing number of us become the very thing you fear us all to be; criminals and abusers. This creates a cycle of ignorance, as all the "sociopaths" identified by the news are killers or wife-beaters, and so we identify this collection of gifts as evil, as pathological, and thus those of us in our proper roles feel the need to disguise ourselves for fear of being labeled evil. A simmilar cycle of ignorance has kept homosexuals oppressed for decades; homosexualty has been associated with childmolesters and perverts, drug use and desease, and it was called "evil" for this. We are not evil, you simply do not recognise the good ones as the same phenomena. Google "Sociopath" and all you find is ways to recover from contact with a sociopath, information advising you to run from relationsships with sociopaths, and misinformation that will claim that "sociopaths cannot feel love" or that we "cannot think of others as human beings" or that we are "parasitic". It is very distressing to discover, for a child who has always known that he was different, that he is a monster... that he is doomed to live a loveless life and become a criminal, that he will never be able to hold a job or raise a family. Indeed, one must wonder how often one of us discoveres what he is and buys into the paranoid misinformation and simply does what he is expected to do. Your question: "What is a sociopath?" is answered thusly: a sociopath is one of your potential leaders, labeled by the paranoid masses as something sick and evil, and is left no alternative but an evil path. "Sociopath" is a negative label which only serves to further alienate people who simply need to be allowed to embrace their gifts. Getting rid of this misleading term should be the first step towards fully understanding who we are and the role we play in this world. Comment on last answer The notion that all sociopaths are very clever is a myth. Many are failures who make others suffer for their inadequacies. Most sociopaths are profoundly chaotic types.It's a myth that sociopaths are born leaders. Instead of providing leadership, they treat others as their playthings, just as a bully or sadist does.A true leader has emotional maturity and earns respect. Fear isn't respect: the notion that the two are the same is pathetic. One cannot respect people who are incapable accept responsibility for their actions and constantly pretend to be victims when they are perpetrators.
Antisocial personality disorder (APD or sometimes ASPD) is a personality disorder which is often characterised by antisocial and impulsive behaviour. APD is generally (if cont…roversially) considered to be the same as, or similar to, the disorder that was previously known as psychopathic or sociopathic personality disorder. Approximately 3% of men and 1% of women have some form of antisocial personality disorder. A sociopath is a person who, usually due to a congenital brain disorder, but sometimes due to a trauma to the brain suffered at birth, cannot process emotional information the way other people do. They can understand emotion on a logical level, but they don't feel it themselves. The resulting lack of connection to other people, and the terrible frustration this brings, are the reasons for the behavior of a sociopath.
Warning: only do this if someonme isnt truly dangerous and also not to anatagonize a "normal" personal you just dont like. How to outwit a sociopath: get nasty. We want to ref…rain from it because normal people dont act out this way, or our sense of decency or compassion holds us back. Its that sense of compassion that sociopaths take advantage of and use us to con us and reel us in again and again. Get tough and get nasty. Youre not going to lose your sense of compassion-we naturally understand limits, they dont. Keep your wits about you and chopper sic balls! 1. Realize its only about a power game of one-upmanship/control with them. Its their only source of power/energy. They have none of their own to generate. Dont allow their sweet talk/lies/false apologies to manipulate you. Dont talk to, explain, or try to understand them (except initially). If you do so, let it only be temporary. Whatever you do, catch the behavior in the beginning-and nip it in the bud. On another note--dont EVER blame yourself, Firstly, the sociopath will do enough of that for you--in order to manipulate and maintain control over you, and secondly, they are master manipulators and usually fool everyone, so its not just you. 2. Intially: go overboard with compassion for about 2 weeks to 6 months and give it your all to resolve conflicts to the best of your ability. Be a paragon of patience. Give them 3 chances or so, after that remove all traces of compassion for them or their behavior. This will clear your conscience letting you know you gave it your best shot to reach out to their humanity. In the meantime, collect a papertrail for future legal battles and acquire witnesses all with a sweet, smiling face plastered on the whole time. Jot down every note, episode and times and dates. Contact a lawyer and relay the notes. Especially if anything that smack of illegal takes place--dont be afraid to use it against them or trump up charges--as long as theyre true of course. There are "free" lawyers for the fianacially challeneged. Be firm, as sociopaths are notorius for crossing boundaries, but "legal" and fair. Not nasty as of yet. Gather allies! Make an emergency exit plan if neccessary to cover money, a place to stay and a vehicle. Be prepared for a restraining order if neccessary. 3. Have big balls when you step to the plate and dont back down-you need as much cunning or more to match them. They will connive, manipulate, con and steal, damage property, humiliate, one-up and insult you and throw tantrums and zero in on your every weakness. And do it for long-term. Let them know they have met their match. Dont let anyone-not even your parents or children get in the way (of course shield them from the conflict, dont badmouth in front of them, but dont let them be an excuse for not excercising military discipline and might). Wear a mask of steel. Be as stony cold as they are if you are to win. When the chips fall in the end, everything will come to light and people eventually will understand. Its only temporary and youre not only doing it for your own good or the good of the family, but its actually for their own good too. Sociopaths need to learn boundaries and limitations and the only way for that to happen is through (many) reprecussions. You are also creating a document of their behavior for any future victims to refer to if they investigate their past or file charges of their own. They will need it as a reference. If you can walk away unscathed, do so. If not, mentally prepare for a long battle and to take it all the way to the end. You have to be bigger and badder them them or at least appear to be so. DO NOT SHOW FEAR or hurt for that matter. Let them know youre no one to be trifled with. Bullies only understand bully. Dont bother trying to talk to or explain or get them to understand. Youve already tried that. That time is past. Become hell wheels. Also, as difficult as it sounds, be sure to take time out to relax and enjoy yourself w/out their influence to maintain peace of mind. Above all else, have the confidence and belief in yourself even if no one else does. You may stand alone--for now. All the more reason--you have to match and outdo the sociopaths overinflated sense of confidence. Let your sense of indignance, truth and integrity be your support. Sociopaths like to turn everyone against you and make you feel like your crazy or somethings wrong with you. They never take responsibility and love to BLAME and concoct stories of blame. They also are masters at manipulating public opinion against you so you must have absolute faith in yourself. Dont forget to gather evidence, lawyers, police reports and allies. Document, document, document. Paer trail, paper trail, paper trail. 4. Secret: Their weakness is they are a) unusually dependent on a specific person or set or persons for extreme need of security (or sense of control). b) on material comforts of sorts or both. c) their reputation. Go to any means to destroy any of these. Trust me, they would do the same given the chance and will. Luckily this only means revealing the truth to all pertinent peoples, sometimes with a litlle evidence to back you up. Anonymous emails will do fine as well. Find sabotaging ways to disconnect or expose them or deprive them of their security or material comforts--this is especially annoying to them since they are either overly materialistic or bad at procuring their own basic needs-including money, finances, work, food and sex. Withold, stop, sabotage or withdraw any of these. After all thats what they do to you. Antagonize them-with a blow of 1000 cuts. Even small pleasures and discomforts--have the TV disconnected, blow the fuse box to prevent the cable or TV--whatever they rely on for downtime--throw their favorite sneakers or T-shirts, gather evidence of their behavior and "innocently" deny it or reveal their behavior or information to their victims/security figures (although if its a parental figure, be prepared for them to deny or support their behavior, as every narcissist has an enabler behind him). In other words, fight fire with fire. Again, if you can walk away, do so. But if youre stuck with these a**holes, give it all you got! 5. Never let them see you hurt, your confidence shaken or that they "gotten to you" or one-upped you. If they call you crazy, say "Yeah Im crazy-you dont know how crazy I will take this, and if you dont back off Ill f- you up!" When they initiate a one-upmanship game, dont just one up them back--hit them immediately with the extreme. They wont expect it and unless they are truly crazy, they will retreat and come back later for a covert attack or manipulation. Anticipate this. Guard and protect yourself because if they findout or you reveal that youve been gathering intell or evidence on them, be ceratin they will do the same to you. So cover your a**. They will also try to engage you by opening with or asking questions or quietly gathering info on you--never let them in and never let them have the upper hand. 6. If they have broken any laws, or rules quietly gather evidence and then knock them out by bringing charges, complaints. If the police dont believe you or act like your harassing them or wasting their time--privately take the attitude of screw you a-holes, but in person be professional, insistent and firm. Dont lose it. They are there to do a job--to protect you. Dont let them forget that. Dont let them intimidate you either. I say this because they too are often taken in by the sociopaths lies/nature, especially if they are called repeatedly. Dont be shy though. Call them as many times as you need to. Even if its 10 times a day-thats what theyre there for thats their job, thats what their paid to do. Any witnesses, proof, video, audio or documentation will be of great benefit here. And as far as judges, there are appeals and concrete proof doesnt lie. After a crime is commited-there is always proof left behind. You just have to be swift-witted and have the peace of mind to collect it in a timely fashion. If they are abusive, be sure to get photos. If they rape you, get a rape kit done immediately. Otherwise its lost. Thats why its good to "feign" understanding and tolerance for a few months as needed-(even up to a year if need be) to gather and collect concrete evidence. 7. In addition to collecting evidence, alternate feigned ignorance and outlandish responses to the sociopath to outcrazy him. 8. Antagonize or ride him slowly by threatening him, his security and his image/reputation in small doses to the point were he breaks, then call the police to catch his rampage. Two word for you: restraining order. 9. Any of this sound familiar? Thats probably because this is what a sociopath will likely do to you. Catch him in the act, turn it around on him, and use his own tactics against him. You cannot talk to, reason with, use normal boundaries with sociopaths. They count on normal people doing so and thats how they get in, set up camp and "outwit" you. If you truly want to get rid of these jerks, you have to be firm and consistent--ironically the reason why he probably is a sociopath in the first place is that no one--especially parents growing up--were firm or consistent with boundaries or discipline with him. It was probably due to overindulgence, extreme disconnect and neglect, or a combination or alternation of the two. My first recommendation is get out while the going is good and cut your losses, but sometimes that simply isnt possible and your stuck with the person. If thats the case, commit to crazy. 10. Above all else, keep your distance, either emotionally or physically and do whatever it takes to maintain your peace of mind. Dont let this crazy person drive you crazy even if you have to resort to crazy temporaily to get them out of your life. Get out, take care of your health, get caring friends, a counselor, support, go for a run, get you nails done or your hair, read a book-whatever to unwind. Dont let them get the best of you remember--you have the upper hand. They want it, but you HAVE IT ALREADY. Good luck.
Answer The newest breakthroughs yield enormous insight into this perplexing and devastating condition that plagues four percent of the population and… causes those persons to plague everyone else! Almost everyone in the world -- except psychopaths (sociopaths) and a few others, such as those with ADD -- has a neatly organized way of storing information in the brain. Your left hemisphere handles such things as speech, logic, and sequential thinking. It helps you keep things in order. Meanwhile, your right hemisphere handles such things as appreciation of (or creation of) art, symbols that evoke emotion, and the way one puts together in the present time all the pieces of the world around him or her as far as it is known. But NOT if you're a sociopath. Studies (see the masterful work "Without Conscience" by Robert D. Hare, PhD.) have now conclusively demonstrated that the way such information is stored in the brain of a sociopath is not at all like the way it is for others. Insead of things being organized into those specific regions in one or other of the brain's two hemispheres depending upon the type of information it is, the sociopath has a brain that operates a little bit like a computer hard drive: it breaks all data down into tiny fragments and stores it all over the place and in both hemispheres. Thus, to retrieve any given segment is formidable and leads to omissions and errors far more often than most people experience: (Patient in an inpatient unit, to an NP who is organizing an outing.) "No, I'm not going out with you guys this time, and I'm going to buy some magazines when I'm there." HUH???? This kind of thing, as Hare demonstrates, happens all the time. Clinicians give numerous (including some erroneus) reasons for not wanting to treat sociopaths, and one of the more surprising ones is that it's very difficult at times to make sense of what the patient is saying. Unlike the jumbled mess of a schizophrenic's speech, the sociopath's speech makes sense within the fragments, but when these parts of speech are strung together, they are often jarringly incompatible. Did the sociopath in the inpatient hospital intend to go out and buy some magazines? Or did she decide to stay in? She seemed to think she could do both at the same time. If the NP who had asked her was astute enough, she might've said, "Miss Smith, if you don't want to go out, why don't you write down what you want us to pick up and give us the money to buy it?" Although that's a realistic way to do both things at the same time, one might wonder why the patient didn't just say so in the first place! When you speak, your brain is going through a staggering feat of juggling and data-organization at a speed that makes broadband look like a snail trail. If your cerebral cortex is storing your vocabulary and the related ideas behind it, as well as all of the other numerous types of information it must handle, in the right places, this isn't so hard; if your brain has to fumble all over the place for tiny fragments of data and try to assemble it fast enough to keep up with your conversation, it is not going to be easy -- and trained professionals will know that something, at least, is awry. So, now scientists know that the seemingly meaningless and frequent lies that the sociopath tells may not all be actual lies. Some are lies, particularly in sociopaths who have broken the law and are trying to charm or bully their way out of trouble. But some -- especially impulsive-sounding bragging or announcements of lofty intent ("I'm gonna get out of this bugbox and write a best-selling novel, climb Mount Everest, and go work for NASA!") -- are not intended to deceive others so much as to tell them "I want to do something with my life!" But, sadly, lacking the means and wherewithal to do this, the sociopath will undoubtedly end up in trouble all over again. Think about it: you know something isn't right, but you can't tell other people, because you have not the slightest idea how to phrase what's wrong. Plus, for some odd reason, everyone keeps getting rubbed the wrong way by you. You try to get ahead in life, but everybody keeps telling you about these strange rules you're supposed to obey, that they all seem to know by heart, but you don't. So you study them and try to memorize them and use them by rote, but keep messing up because you have no mechanism to tell you (from within) that you're stumbling over the line again, and inevitably, you do. Then everyone gets mad at you and among other things tells you that you know perfectly well what the rules are, so why don't you obey them? You start to secretly suspect they're adding new ones or changing the old rules around just to get you to screw up, but actually that isn't true -- however, you have no real way of knowing that, either. As if all this isn't enough, you feel at the very least uncomfortable, and at the worst like a human bomb, most of the time you're awake, which at times can be several days in a row. You notice that the very things that make other people happy have a very opposite effect on you: your head fills with jarring "static," like a radio playing with the tuner caught between two or more stations. Reacting instinctually to this, you try to push people away because their closeness causes the static to get worse, but then you discover a new problem: you seem to need them anyway. You seem to need something from other people, but you don't know why. That hug each other and smile, not a phony smile but a real one, and their eyes light up. They get close and they talk to each other without having to closely study the other's eyes to try to figure out what to do in response. This seems to be a delicious pleasure to them, much better than anything you've ever experienced. But if you try it, and if you are actually lucky enough to persuade one of them to attempt such a relationship and interaction with you, it immediately starts to turn sour on you. Their touch does not warm you; you feel colder and deader than ever. You don't know how to give back, so you end up grasping for words you've heard used by other people and trying to fake your way through it so they won't figure out how you are; you've experienced enough to know by this time that when others figure out your difference, they hate you for it; in fact, you've been told you're "not a real person" and that you "have no soul" (you're not too sure what a soul is, anyway) and that people like you "ought to be lined up and shot"! After trying several times in this new relationship to get the pleasure other people are always basking in, and failing, you start to get angry at all of this -- and the anger builds into a terrible, towering rage that begins to make you feel like a human bomb. "I will actually, physically explode if I don't..." you're thinking, and yet under the rage there is a weird, disconsolate feeling that even your burgeoning hatred is as hollow and empty and starved as you are. You consider taking your life, and certainly you think about taking lives of some of these lucky, smugly superior others. You settle for embezzling money, or something of the sort; you're clever and manipulative and you don't get caught. Triumph! Or not. The things you buy please you for five minutes; a day, tops. Then...flat, meaningless, like everything else in your life. Of course, you don't HAVE a life -- and you never will. That's starting to become increasingly clear. But WHY???? You see "The Others," as you're starting to think of them, studying diligently to help and even to cure other kinds of weird things wrong with people's minds, most of which seem to have to do with the brain. But no one seems to know what's going on in you. It occurs to you that to get some kind of attention from them, you might pretend you have one of those other problems they study, and then once they're paying attention to you, maybe somehow it'll lead somewhere. What have you got to lose? You're about to find out you can still lose more. You go into a clinical situation presenting with carefully-memorized symptoms of the mental illness you have decided would get you the attention you want. But faking whatever it is turns out very quickly to be a lot more complex than you'd thought. In fact, it turns out to be impossible. And, branded a malingerer, you are rejected yet again, told that all that's really wrong with you is that you don't want to try to better yourself. That, and you're "evil," and it's not paranoia on your part to realize that EVERYONE HATES YOU. Once they figure you out. Yes: to know you is to hate you. And you will go to your grave (as gloats Martha Stout of "The Sociopath Next Door" book fame) never knowing the wonders of real human interaction, meaning, and warmth. It might just make you decide to go off the rails and kill everyone you can before turning the weapon on yourself. Except for one thing: the mere fact that some scientists know that much about the brain of a sociopath means that solving the problem is no longer an impossible and obscure wish -- it's moving within the realm of concrete possibility. As soon as large numbers of sociopaths begin to be treated in a way that actually helps them, that corrects as much as possible the chaos of misdirected signals in their confused and disorganized brains, and then a form of therapy that in addition to that, by necessity, teaches them to cope with the resulting maelstrom of emotion and impression that was formerly impossible, so that they can put it in order and start to develop the heretofore dormant and silent segments of their brains and better use those formerly mixed-up areas where no recognizable order ruled, THEN THE OTHERS MAY BEGIN TO NOTICE WHAT IS GOING ON...and they will know at least this much: instead of "the kiss of death," a diagnosis of ASPD (the DSM-IV way of saying sociopathy or psychopathy) will lead someplace; that there will be things done that actually make a difference. Crippled as they are neurologically, sociopaths are yet shrewd, and they're always looking out for themselves in a way similar to that of a loner predator. Seeing others like them actually benefitting from treatment will have to start persuading them that there's something to gain in going for help after all. Not being rejected or met with "We can't help you; you're evil incarnate," or the equivalent thinly disguised in euphemistic psychology jargon; NOT being met with a situation where they'd have to substitute symptoms of an "acceptable" illness in place of those they bear in secret -- that would almost certainly, if gradually, have an effect: if a sociopath can clearly see a benefit coming from admitting his or her real situation, there's nothing to stop him or her from doing just that. It's already started to happen, if in a tiny, barely perceptible trickle. Right now, all science has at the ready for them is to use various types of preexisting medication given in attempts to counteract the chaotic way the brain of a sociopath functions. That and types of talk therapy carefully altered to avoid the pitfalls that have in the past caused regular therapies to make sociopaths worse instead of better. But the more that scientists such as Robert Hare and his colleagues delve into and experiment with the new types of brain scans and learning what makes sociopaths tick like human bombs, the more likely that it becomes with each passing year that a means will soon be isolated to defuse those bombs. The primary source of a sociopath's infamous rage is frustration, of a sort so alien and so extreme that almost no one else can understand what it means. Once they start getting taken seriously, that frustration, and the wild rage it provokes, will lessen, and since it is a primary source of the constant distrust that makes regular therapy fail sociopaths, the defusing of that rage and its maddening causes will be a huge step in the right direction. In her book, Martha Stout expresses the hope that people in general will stop excluding groups of other people as less than human -- ethnic, racial, the disabled, and even the mentally ill -- except for one group among the latter. It's apparently perfectly okay to dismiss one group alone of people as less than human, and she does: the sociopaths. And many other people do, too. And sociopaths know that. And people whose messed-up brain circuitry makes it almost impossible for them to trust others certainly aren't ever going to try again after getting hit with THAT. Sociopaths don't always behave as though they're invulnerable. Some have said, "You don't know this, but it hurts to be me." People sneeringly say to this, "Another of your miserable lies!" But it is in fact a miserable truth. Being angry at them is understandable, but why do people insist on justifying their anger by dehumanizing the object of their rage? Sociopaths may seem like aliens, but they aren't. Perhaps what really galls the others is that when they look at sociopaths, in certain tiny ways they see aspects of themselves, for everyone has some antisocial thoughts. Also, sociopaths hurt a lot of people. What seems to hurt most is the idea that the sociopath is breezing happily through life having a blast whie a trail of wounded victims struggle to put their shattered lives back together. No sociopath breezes through life. They just know how to make it look like they do. It's part of the sick game they play because they can't do much of anything else, as they are. If sociopathy is treated instead of ignored and shunned, this won't have to happen. Those who would have been hurt by sociopaths might not be able to fully appreciate that they escaped harm because neuroscience finally found a way to treat these people who would otherwise have hurt them, but the thing that makes the most difference is that, in the final analysis, they wouldn't have to know. Just as science understands that epilepsy is not demonic possession, that people with dissociative conditions are not harboring ghosts or devils in their bodies, and that depression is not a "deadly sin," it would and will be able to prove that sociopathy happens for a reason and that it can be dealt with. Sociopaths do very bad things. But branding them all "pure evil" isn't going to help anyone. It's just more hate. I have commented elsewhere that the human brain is the greatest new frontier in many ways. (Although I certainly have no lack of interest in space.) Sociopaths, along with other "hopeless cases" like people with Alzheimer's disease, Down's syndrome, Asperger's, ADD, ADHD, autism, and the schizophrenias, along with more common disorders such as depression and addiction, and so on, are a mystery, but scientists have a way of hammering away at mysteries until they unravel them, and they are well on their way to the core of this one. If one says that sociopaths aren't worth helping, one rather misses the point, after all. The price the world pays for not being able to help these people is incalculable. Euthanasia isn't the answer. There are people (whose consciences I really must wonder about) who suggest that all the sociopaths that can be located and diagnosed by the authorities should be gathered up whether or not they've done anything wrong yet, and killed en masse (shades of World War Two, but with a different group of people). This is appalling, for reasons I hope I don't really need to explain! But it also shows the hopelessness that sociopaths and their behavior make many people feel. To counter that hopelessness, please know these two incontrovertible points: (1) no, the sociopath who hurt you isn't happy; (2) yes, the massive population of sociopaths the world over will be able to be treated before long, and possibly the first threads of that are already starting now.
Depends on their criminal history....If they have committed a felony, they may be put in prison, unless they have been deemed to be not guilty by reason of insanity. In …that case, they would be hospitalized in either a prison mental ward, or a maximum security hospital. It is highly unlikely that a sociopath has a clean record, but even in that case, not all of them can be institutionalized. Medications have been found to be ineffective in curing the "disease" as has psychotherapy.
20 years of brutal negotiation. You cannot give a sociopath an inch.
Tell him safely over the phone that you want nothing to do with him. Dont offer anything else, dont explain why, just end the call. Then completely ignore him. Dont go any…where he does. Dont give him one inch. You owe him nothing. First of all it would be useful to know exactly what a Sciopath is. Sounds more like you might have someone who is obssessed with you? That doesn't mean they're a sociopath. True sociopaths have a list of certain traits. These traits are often found in people you would never think of as being 'sociopathic'. IE High achievers/leaders etc. It's when a person exihibits more than just a few of these traits, that you are dealing with a true sociopath on the highest scale. Traits include self centredness, risk taking, no empathy for others, blaming others for their own behaviour & sadistic tendencies. These are just a few. Most people often show signs of these traits at certain times.
you may want to rephrase this question a bit more clearly... What exactly are you asking>
Before you decide on divorce take time out for yourself (go on a weekend trip) and be sure this is what you want. If you are still considering divorce and if you own you have …children (will have to come to a custody agreement); own your own home; vehicles or other properties you would be wise to see a divorce lawyer.
Fortunately, he does not have to agree nor consent to the divorce. You can file for divorce on your own. However, planning for the eventuality that he will not be happy would …be wise. You should make certain you hire a good lawyer who specializes in family law in your area. You should brief him on your husband's behavior but stick to the helpful facts, don't dwell on it and don't whine about it. Just get your divorce and the best separation agreement possible. Following are some suggestions about how to deal with a narcissist. Perhaps they will help you in your future dealings with him. First, you should read up on the disorder. There are dozens of good websites sponsored by well known hospitals and other respected institutions that sponsor web pages devoted to narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissistic behavior is predictable. If you have a good understanding of narcissism you will have the tools to deal with it more constructively. Here are a few pointers: Keep your distance- don't get too close and do not let them into your personal life. Do not share any personal information to the extent possible.Be practical about the disorder- you won't change them so step back whenever their narcissistic behavior rises to the surface.Avoid conflict generally, butDefine some limits- in some cases by not responding to inappropriate behavior you reinforce it- for example: if you must have continued exposure to the narcissist do not allow him/her to "tell you off", raise their voice at you, or treat you with disrespect.Do not try to argue or reason with them- your winning or convincing is counter to their world view- they will not allow it.Gain more understanding to enable you to work as constructively as possible.Maintain your own social contacts so that you can minimize the time you have to spend with the narcissist. See related links.
I don't think so unless you remove all normal thought from yourself when dealing with them and how can you do that if you normal how can someone really think like they do and …see things the way they do without being like them i wouldn't want to try you would become an empty shell like they are in the end
Go to Family Court requesting protection. If he has custody, you should petition the courts to have it taken away from him, and request that any visits with him and the childr…en be supervised. If he is doing it without legal access, get a restraining order.
Combing through the Attorney section of the Yellow Pages is one option for finding a divorce lawyer in Orange County. However, FindLaw provides a search interface on their web…site which makes this task even easier. You can narrow your search down by city and then easily see contact information and the website for each lawyer.
The sociopath remarries because he/she don't know any better and are sometimes lonely