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What should you do if you love your husband but recently found out he has cheated 4 times with 4 different girls?
Once you might forgive your husband for cheating, but 2 - 3 - 4 times ... kick him out! You deserve better! When you keep taking him back in he has absolutely no respect for you and certainly no respect for himself. He has it good! He knows he can have the fine life and still come wandering up the path to your open arms. Stop it! There are some great men out there, so get away from this guy and start having the good life you deserve. Ask yourself this, "Do I really love him, or do I just feel I need a man around and support from this man?" Life is grand out there and you don't need him to get it. Good luck Marcy
- Forgive him and understand that he is only being a man. The affairs were physical, no different than completing a marathon or mountain climbing. His emptional connection is real, and it is all that should matter.
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No it shouldn't. Sounds like there is serious stress on the window framing. First check the foundation below the window to see if there are any cracks in the foundation. …If there are you may have foundation problems. Although normal settling might still be your problem on a new house, the next place that might cause stress is the window framing. To prevent sagging the top of the window frame should have a 2" x 6" board spanning the oppening. This will direct the roof forces to the sides of the window frame without sagging. A 2" x 8" should be used for long window openings. One way you might check the width of the header board above your window(without tearing out the wall) is with a stud finder. This is a $20 small device that you slide along the wall and lights up when there is wood right behind the wall. Slide it (upside down) from the ceiling down to your window and see where it lights up. Should be four or five inches above the window (allow for the amount you can't check because of the molding around the window. There should also be adequate framing below the window to support the window weight withought sagging. This is typically a doubled 2" x 4" lying so the 4" side is vertical. And it should be supported by studs on the sides and in the middle. All of the problems can be fixed, but sometimes its a bear finding out the exact cause. Good luck.
I think the question really is, what is he willing to do with this information? You should expect to go through hoops and counseling to get things back on track--not ever …an easy thing to do. Answer: Does your husband want a reconciliation? Cheating is adultery, the ultimate form of deceit, a violation of a trust, and a horrific defilement of the marriage bed. Adultery wreaks havoc in families and the hurt can be unbearable. Adultery in detestable in God's eyes.
How does one get over feelings of betrayal and stupidity 4 months after a very acrimonious breakup where you found out that your boyfriend cheated on you after saying he loved and wanted to marry you?
You need to see this in a different light. If your boyfriend cheated on you and it truly is over for you two, then you need to see your ex as "not worth your time and sad thou…ghts." If you still have feelings for him and you suspect he does, get with him and talk it out. Really though, you don't get over feelings, you heal. Time is the best answer. In the mean time, keep busy with anything you can. Do NOT allow your thoughts to wander toward your past, they will only make you feel depressed. Death of a relationship is like a person dying. You grieve, you heal. I will tell you speaking from experience its hard but you can do it. My ex used to tell me we were gonna get married have kids, have a great life blah blah. My ex cheated on me and I caught him. He lied to me all the time always accused me of cheating and it was him the whole time. I ended the relationship by walking out and never looking back!! It was so hard to do I cried and cried and at first and thought no one would ever want me but than I thought he is not worth my tears, a man that can make me cry and hurt me so much. He still tells some of our mutual friends to this day to tell me he loves me and he wishes he could have me back. Every relationship he had after me was short and he was unhappy. Honestly I can say I was the best thing that ever happened to him and he ruined it. I did love him with all my heart but I knew I did not deserve that, if we did try again I knew I would never trust him. He was not worth the time! I am currently engaged to a wonderful man, happy, in love, treated better than I ever thought I could be, *and we have been together for four years now ;). Even to this day it is hard 6 years later, to see my ex my first love, but when I do I just say hello and think I am so much better than that!! Best advice surround yourself with positive things and people and you will see you are better than that.
This is strictly a personal observation and personal choice. If one can live with the required happiness having such knowledge, hang in there. However Personal choice is i…f someone does not want only me, they cannot have any of me because they are not worthy of me. What esteem do you hold yourself in? Answer: It is up to you, but consider what a husband who CHEATS is really doing. He is defiling the marriage bed and showing no respect for his marriage mate at all. Adultery is cruel especially if there are children involved. The Bible warns that God will judge those who are adulterers. Hebrews 13:4. Hate adultery the way God does and see it the way he does, it is detestable in his eyes. If you choose to forgive your mate and continue your marriage, both of you will have to work hard to rebuild the bond and trust you once had.
Maybe. Well also not that much. Trust him for the thing you think you can trust him for. You don`t need to trust him for everything , because he cheated. So trust hi…m for what you think you can trust him for! Maybe that will help. Answer 2: One time, can you really be sure just one time? Adultery is actually a sin against God. You need to think deeply about what adultery will do to your marriage mate and your life; consider the deceit, the hurt and broken trust.
Answer This is a tough one because I always go by "honesty is the best policy." This is something you have to decide within yourself. By doing so your husband… would certainly be hurt, but he'd be able to trust you more in the future (should he decide to stay in the marriage), but it's possible he may walk away from the marriage. Cheating is the worse thing you can do to your mate. It's not only cheating, but it involves lying, deceit and you've basically made a fool of him. That would hurt anyone. You did the cheating, you should be honest! Instead of just blurting out you cheated, take a few days and go over why you cheated. Although I don't believe there is any excuse for cheating (the person just wants their cake and eat it too) to others they may feel alone, that their husband has forgotten them by working all the time or out with his friends and not including you. There could be many more reasons. Express yourself to him and then tell him you've learned from this and that you should have communicated your feelings to him instead of cheating and realize you didn't give him a chance for the both of you to communicate and that people make mistakes and you did make a big mistake. If you don't love him (grown apart) then I wouldn't even bother to tell him you cheated, but do the right thing and at least ask for a separation (this gives you both time to lick your wounds, think about your relationship and be sure that divorce is what you want.)
Yes, definitely. If you don't tell, you are covering an immoral act and thus make yourself guilty. However report the facts only as you have wittnessed them and not your inter…pretation of what happened. If you only know this from someone else then don't tell without checking the credibility of the source first.
This might work. Most people aren't good liars. Even I think I can lie my way out of anything, but I feel the obligation to be honest so this would nail me if i ever cheated…. Look at your husband's face and when he's looking back at you, ask him if he's cheating on you. If he hesitates at all, I'd say he's cheating. Or you can simply catch him in a lie. If he's lying, he's most likely covering something up... but it could be a surprise for your birthday or something, so don't let me make you think too pessimistically. ;- ) Good Luck!
one is enough , twice is better, thrice is good then four times is excellent.
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if you know for sure ask him why and tell him its better to be honest that you should tell each other everything and have an open relationship with honesty and trust and tell …each other how you feel you find that with an open relationship you will not be cheating on each other because you will both tell each other everything and you both will be closer and happy
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If your husband cheats on you and he is in love with his most recent affair why would he want to stay with you?
in my opinion he is probably co-dependant on you and keeps you around for security. you need to put your foot down, if he thinks youll always be there, things will never chang…e. besides, im sure there is someone out there that would give you the respect you deserve. you only live once, don't spend you life with someone wh makes you question yourself. he probably doesnt even deserve you. just remember to make yourself happy. good luck i hope things get better for you. Why would you want to stay with him? Maybe it's a fear thing on his part. Right now he's got him cake and eating it too. I'd say, close the kitchen and let him know that you deserve better! Do you have kids? Have you been married a long time? Has he cheated on you before? Maybe he is committed to you out of duty and habit and doesn't want to be the one to end the marriage. Maybe he is weak. Has he been truthful to you? Has he shown you THAT much respect? Do YOU want HIM? Everyone deserves to be loved deeply. That includes you. I have the perfect thing for you to read. It is called his needs her needs by Farley(sorry don't have the book in front of me Don't remember first name) he answers that very question but if you love your husband and want your marriage then hang on baby but he must stay away and have no contact. PLEASE read that book I just reread your question the key words are MOST RECENT AFFAIR!
What should you do if you found out your husband has been cheating on you for 4 years and has a child with her?
Answer approach him and tell him you know, this isn't just a sex relationship, this is him clearly abusing your trust in him. Stand up, tell him you want him out…, and don't take no for an answer. Make sure this "other woman" knows of you too, she has the right to know if he has been lying to her as well. This man is scum, and has no respect for your feelings, be aware that he will probably end up going to her, and cheating on her too! Good luck, and try and be strong, you deserve much better than this.