What would you like to do?
Once you might forgive your husband for cheating, but 2 - 3 - 4 times ... kick him out! You deserve better! When you keep taking him back in he has absolutely no respect for you and certainly no respect for himself. He has it good! He knows he can have the fine life and still come wandering up the path to your open arms. Stop it! There are some great men out there, so get away from this guy and start having the good life you deserve. Ask yourself this, "Do I really love him, or do I just feel I need a man around and support from this man?" Life is grand out there and you don't need him to get it. Good luck Marcy
- Forgive him and understand that he is only being a man. The affairs were physical, no different than completing a marathon or mountain climbing. His emptional connection is real, and it is all that should matter.
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Should you give your boyfriend another chance if you recently found out he cheated on you but you still love him very much?
Answer You know what they say once a cheater always a cheater, but sometimes that is not true so it depends on you if you really love him and trust that he won't do it aga…in then you can, but I would not be too sure about it. You need to let him earn his trust back, don't just give him all you got. It could happen again and if it does then go find another one there are plenty of others out there. Keep your head up!! Answer It depends on the the relationship. How long and how much love has grown. They go hand in hand. If you feel that dumping the relationship will help you ease the pain go for it. If its true love you'll get back together, you'll realize what you did wasn't fixing the problem. Dump him. You don't need or deserve to put up with that nonsense. Once that line has been crossed, there is no going back for me; unless you have kids to consider you can do better. Yes it is going to hurt, but that is life and a risk we take onto ourselves when we get intimately involved with others. Just remember that being single can be tough at first but it can also be fun. Don't let this undeserving pest control another moment of your time, get back out there be the best and show him what he lost.
What should you do if you found out your husband has been cheating on you for 4 years and has a child with her?
Answer approach him and tell him you know, this isn't just a sex relationship, this is him clearly abusing your trust in him. Stand up, tell him you want him out…, and don't take no for an answer. Make sure this "other woman" knows of you too, she has the right to know if he has been lying to her as well. This man is scum, and has no respect for your feelings, be aware that he will probably end up going to her, and cheating on her too! Good luck, and try and be strong, you deserve much better than this.
What should you do when you just found out that your husband has been cheating on you for 4 years and has a child with the other woman?
Answer I am so sorry you are going through this and can imagine what a shock this is for you. I am sure you have been suspicious of your husband a few tim…es in those 4 years, but, I doubt you ever thought he had children you didn't know about. We take our marriage vows and they are there for a reason and it's just not the religious concept "before the eyes of God", but also to each other. Your husband has forgotten about those vows and has deeply hurt you not to mention disrespecting your feelings. You can do one of two things: If he's been good to you, you feel he's made a mistake and was too chicken to own up to cheating and he isn't seeing this woman any longer but hanging around because of the child, then you have the control of forgiving him. However, realize that he should be paying child support and that can put pressure on your finances in your marriage. Or, you can walk right out of the marriage and file for divorce. I wouldn't blame you. As much as it hurts you this man has been cheating for 4 years! Now he has a child. He should have been thinking of the both of you and the working towards a future for the both of you. To cheat on the person you are suppose to love is the lowest and most unforgiveable thing you can do. If people fall out of love or don't get along the honest thing is to at least get a separation to decide if you want a divorce. Sometimes during a separation people mature more and they may get back together. In your case, it's obvious he has broken your heart so how could you ever trust him again. My own opinion is, I would kick his butt out that door! Get a separation and give yourself time to decide if you want a divorce or not (give it at least 6 months) or, if he says he loves this other woman, file for divorce right away. I would see a lawyer first to see what your rights are regarding material things such as a house, furniture and if you should be paid anything (if you aren't working) and custody of any children and of course child support. Good luck hon Marcy Answer It's a personal decision. Some factors to consider: 1. Are you both committed to each other? 2. Can you live with the other woman and the child in your life (even if you don't want to, the child will continue to be part of the mix). 3. He may be obligated to pay child support. How will that financially impact your lives? 4. Your ages. If you are young, starting over is easier (not that any of this is easy), than if you have invested many years in the relationship. 5. Are you willing/ able to go through counseling? 6. Is this the last straw or the first?
Should you stay with your boyfriend if you found out he cheated on you recently but he says he has already cut ties with the other woman and that he loves you and sees you getting married?
Should You Stay With Your Boyfriend If You Found Out He Was Cheating Even Though He Said He Has Stopped Seeing Her & Loves You and See In The Future The Two Of You Ma…rried? * Marriage is built on trust, honesty, communication, and respect of one another. He broke one of the golden rules TRUST! He's been cheating on you for quite sometime and didn't see fit to tell you. Women/men of any age should have zero tolerance for this behavior. Cheating on you is certainly not a good basis for a good marriage. He may have discussed marriage with you and got cold feet, but he should have been man enough to split-up and date other women and then, if he came back and realized he loved you and wanted to marry you the trust issue is still there. Don't believe him! YOU ARE IN CONTROL!!!! If you love him and aren't quite sure put the leash around his neck and give it a jerk every so often. That means go out on a few dates with him, but act nonchalant and date other guys. Make him work for your attention! * Tell him that if he ever wants to get married then he should set things straight with you so you know all about him.
if she cheats you should.... If you love her you will want to try to work it out. Talk to her find out why she cheated on you...when in the relationship..….was it with a person you know? Does she love you? If so and she is willing to comit herself only to you and you to her you can work it out. If you do forget about the past and move on....really move on like it never happened...never bring it up again..NEVER Find a good Church and seek God together that is the best advice I can give it has worked for me for 27yrs now Answer It depends on what you and her share. The more you share, like a house or children, the more complicated it gets. Perhaps something is missing in the relationship that made her seek out someone else. Or maybe you're dealing with a girl that doesn't have thesame feelings for you as you for her. Talk to her and find out why she did what she did.
yes, there could be big health risks if you did not, for you and him
I have heard he has cheated on me with 8 different girls and 4 of them told me themselves is this just a coincidence?
People could be causing problems and playing games with you. Some people unfortunately can be cruel and it is unfortunate. You have to really see how you feel go with yo…ur gut instinct and decide if you think there may be a pattern such as are all these 8 girls friends or know one another and are these the type of people to try and cause problems for others for their amusement. Listening to or participating in gossip is just plain wrong as it only causes problems so your best bet would be to ask your boyfriend what is really going on. Unfortunately if he did cheat with these other girls chances are he will only lie to you - so in the end it is really for you to decide. Do you really want to be treated like this and are you going to put up with it.
Your husband cheat at you and found the women in your house but you love him what could i do about it?
You dump his ass! He cheated! He chosr to do somting bad!!!! DUMP HIS ASS!!! You move on!!! get a better guy who WONT cheat! If you can afford the house, throw the…m both out. If you can't, then you leave and get a divorce. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Your boyfriend and you just broke up question though you recently found out he was cheating on you with 4 girls and you are not over him yet what do you do?
You GET OUT, seriously, this guy is not worth sitting around for. Get out, get over, and do NOT get back.
What if your boyfriend and you just broke up question though you recently found out he was cheating on you with 4 girls and you are not over him yet what do you do?
Be over him
If you found them under a momma bird in a nest, leave them alone. If not, toss them in the garbage - they're not going to hatch anyway.
How should one deal with a cheating wife who cheated her husband for 30 years but recently husband came to know all about her cheating?
Slow down - take a deep breath - find a quiet spot to think. Take a pad of paper and a pen and make two columns headed up as follows: (1) Good things about the last… 30 years (2) Bad things about the last 30 years If the good things far outweigh the bad things, then you have to determine if your wife has terminated her affair, and is sorry and wants to continue a relationship with you. You will have some decisions to make. If your wife is not sorry and is continuing the cheating then you have no alternative, but to terminate the relationship. This is really a tough one because if the past 30 years have been really good, do you want to throw it all away.
Look at it objectively. Social status, family,kids' future, love vs self respect,independence. see that your cheat husband doesn't pledge his money to the other woman or… marry her, if you plan to stick to him. get the financials clear.
Would you divorce your husband if this was his first time cheating on you and told you he did it 3 or 4 times?
Yes. Unless he is really committed and really wants to get help for his cheating, like through marriage counseling, then you should stay. But otherwise divorce him. Cuz he wil…l still continue to cheat.
If a husband told his wife he cheated 3 or 4 times on her when you know it was about 20 times should you tell his wife?
No, because if you tell the wife then she will go to the husband and tell him that you said that he cheated 20 times and then they both will come right back to you like you th…e bad person and they will curse you out and stuff like that . So , if a couple is having a problem then don't tell the wife that the husband cheated 20 times.
Would a wife believe her husband if he said he only cheated 3 or 4 time but cheating is cheating no matter how many times?
A wife probably would be over protective on their marriage. She probably will believe the husband. But she can also have mixed feelings whether to believe you or not. It d…epends on the woman.
I've fallin in love with a girl and we've been together 4 years she cheated on me 3 times and I forgave her but now something tells me to move on but I still love her what do I do?
talk to her then move on, if she cheated on you 3 tymes then that shows she's not trustworthy.