What can you do if you're afraid to leave an abusive household?

Answer 1

You haven't said if you are a man, woman or teenager. So, I'll have to divide it up here. Women who are abused are in a lesser position. They usually have children to raise and because the abusive spouse likes total control they seldom allow their victim to work, so it's tough for her to leave and make a living to raise her kids or even for herself. Believe it or not there are many men out there that are abused by their spouses and these is a very difficult situation for them because men are suppose to be strong, in control and not take "crap" from anyone. However, good men are taught by their mothers that they should never hit a woman. I've seen women hit, slap, throw things, kick and bite their partner and the look of confusion and astonishment on the male's face is sad. How do you control a woman that is doing this? The best thing to do is to just leave this woman and don't look back. Get a divorce. Children who are in abusive relationships with a partent(s) can actually go to Child Welfare for help and they will come and look over the situation and in most cases will remove that child from the home and place them either with grandparents or other relatives and sometimes foster care. The bottom line is, adult male, female or kids should never have to tolerate abusive behavior. There is "Abused Women's Centers" in your area or phone your "Mental Health" and they will lead you in the right direction. There is also help for men that are abused and it's best for men to go to Mental Health to find the right groups to join. All get good counseling and protection with legal counsel and also for the women help in placing them in jobs so they can live on their own or with their children. Women must realize once you leave you can't ever go back. If you do, things will become much worse and the noose around your life will become much tighter and life will be unbearable. So, pack what you can, hide it, find a trusted friend (or do it on your own) and get to that Women's Abuse Center. They will put you up in a "Safe House" and not even staff knows where you will be. Good luck God Bless Marcy Contact any of the following organizations pertaining to your personal situation for guidance and assistance. National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233; National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-392-3738; National Youth Crisis Hotline 1-800-448-4663; Certified Crisis Center 1-800-784-2433; National Elderly Abuse Hotline 1-800-392-0210. At one stage you have to make up your mind. Will you stay and put up with it or will you organize carefully a way to get out there. It is up to you you make the decision when you feel you can do it. I have been there, it is such a relief when you made the decision and run away. Make sure you go to a safe place. Contact womenshelter in your area or phone befriending service who can give you lots of good and useful information. God bless you.

Answer 2

This is a very important question. Safety is the number one priority. Keep your plans secret from your husband if you feel he is a danger to you. Get professional help at a womans shelter or crisis hotline. Many can be found on the web if you Google domestic violence. Depending on your danger level there are options for identitiy shielding placements. All of this is complicated with children involved. If you are in danger at any time, you should always call 911 but be prepared to protect yourself legally and be willing to leave right away if the threats get worse and you feel your safety more in doubt. Remember that restraining orders are not very effective against someone who is obsessed and doesn't care about consequences. Help is there, be careful and good luck.

Answer 3

Save up as much money as you can and hide it in a safe place. Try to have a bag packed with clothes and things you will need (if you can hide this also, so that they don't know you are leaving - otherwise just grab what you can on your way out. Look up the phone number of the local shelter and call them. They will help you get a ride, or will come and get you. Call the Domestic Abuse Hotline number, which should be inside the front cover of your local phone book, or at least in the first few pages. If you can't find the number for the one in your state, and don't want to call information for it (for fear of the directory assistance call showing up on the phone bill) then you can call the one in my state (1-888-411-1333) and they will give you the correct phone number, as well as another information or advice you need. This is a toll free call, which will not show up on the phone bill. Also, any agency you contact will keep your call and information confidential, so you don't have to worry about your abusers finding out about the call. But please, don't just pack a bag and run away without first planning a safe and responsible destination ; there are far too many dangers in doing so.

Answer 4

You may be hooked on your own image or fantasy of what the relationship should be, and on the first stages of it, or the honeymoon period of a relationship. Abusers can be especially charming in the beginning, to hook you emotionally. You need to assess the relationship for what it's become, not what you wish it could be or was in the beginning.

Answer 5

Yes, you can get a high-speed internet connection that doesn't require a standard phone line.