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To a narcissist, I would recommend a functional approach, perhaps along the following lines:

Know and accept thyself. This is what you are. You are highly intelligent. You are very inquisitive. You are a narcissist. These are facts. Narcissism is an adaptive mechanism. It is dysfunctional � but it saved you from a LOT MORE dysfunction or even non-function.

Make a list: what does it mean to be a narcissist in your specific case? What are your typical behaviour patterns? Which types of behaviour are counterproductive, irritating, self-defeating or self-destructive? Which are productive, constructive and should be enhanced DESPITE their pathological origin?

Decide to suppress the first and to promote the latter. Construct lists of self-punishments, negative feedback and negative reinforcements. Impose them upon yourself when you exhibit one of the behaviours in the first list. Make a list of prizes, little indulgences, positive feedbacks and positive reinforcements. Use them to reward yourself when you display a behaviour of the second kind.

Keep doing this with the express intent of conditioning yourself. Be objective, predictable and just in the administration of both punishments and awards, positive reinforcements and feedback and negative ones. Learn to trust your "inner court".

Constrain the sadistic, immature and ideal parts of your personality (known as Superego in psychoanalytic parlance) by the application of a uniform codex, a set of immutable and invariably applied rules.

Once sufficiently conditioned, monitor yourself incessantly. Narcissism is sneaky and it possesses all your resources because it is you. Your disorder is intelligent because you are.

Beware and never lose control. With time this onerous regime will become a second habit and supplant the narcissistic (pathological) superstructure.

You might have noticed that all the above can be amply summed by suggesting to you to become your own parent. This is what parents do and the process is called "education" or "socialisation". If your path to the adoption of this course is a particular therapy � go ahead. As a metaphor, a narrative, no therapeutic approach is better or worse than any other.

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Of course. It is not the denying of one's being narcissistic that makes one narcissistic.

Narcissism is the pattern of traits and behaviors which involve infatuation and obsession with one's self to the exclusion of others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one's gratification, dominance and ambition. In everyday use outside the field of psychology, the word generally refers to people who just are inordinately fond of themselves, without the pathological connotations. You can go to wikipedia for more information.

AnswerYes, but when they do admit it, they won't see it as a "bad" thing. In fact, they might feel glorified in their admitted narcissism.
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The people around a narcissist becomes filled with hatred eventually- Usually after faling into the trap of thinking they are normal, caring individuals and trust them only to find out that they are character assassins, bullies, predators and abusers. Never trust a narcissist with your secrets, your happiness or your soul because they WILL destroy all of them without a second thought.

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NO.. they never change. VERY, VEry rare, after going through narcissitic injuries. Even when seeking therapy they use the knowledge gained to manipulate. The majority get worse with age, because of the gap between the false and real self. Impower yourself with knowledge about this disorder and that will make you more powerful and stronger. You are that which you seek..

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15y ago

NO! They are INCAPABLE of change.

get away from him asap!

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Narcissists can change if they want to, and if they are willing to put in the effort. They will likely need therapy to help them to do this.

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