Your husband is having an affair and says it is not about the sex then why is he cheating?

Answer 1

He is the best one to answer this, and he should. If he won't, however, it may be as simple as the other person appeals to his ego by showing him that he is attractive. This is often the case when the girlfriend is younger than the spouse. UPDATED by ConnieU: She is doing things (other than sex) that make him feel good about himself. She compliments him. A lot. Every time she sees him. When was the last time you said he looked nice? She touches him, no not his penis - just on the arm or back - just soft, loving, touches. She acts interested in him. She asks about his job or his hobby. Then, she listens and doesn't interrupt while he's talking. She laughs at his jokes even if she's heard them before. She keeps her house/apartment clean. If she has kids, she makes sure they don't bother her while he's there. Just little stuff that you could be doing. Start complimenting him. Even if he looks like a slob you can say things like: You have such pretty eyes; I really like it when you wear that shirt, it makes you look good; You sure have a sexy butt; You always look so handsome; Just being with you makes me happy; You have such strong hands; if you have kids you can tell him that he's a great father. Think up nice things to say.

I've already told you what she's doing. All you have to do is pretend that you are the other woman. Do all of the stuff she's doing. You can get him to stop having an affair with her. He won't need her if you do the same things for him.