Dear John letter

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A"Dear John letter" is a letter written to a husband or boyfriend to inform him their relationship is over, usually because the author has found another man. Dear John Letters are often written out of an inability or unwillingness to inform the man in person. The reverse situation, in which someone writes to their wife or girlfriend to break off the relationship, is referred to as a "Dear Jane letter".

Origins

While the exact origins of the phrase are unknown, it is commonly believed to have been coined by Americans during World War II. Large numbers of American troops were stationed overseas for many months or years, and as time passed many of their wives or girlfriends decided to begin a relationship with a new man rather than wait for their old one to return.

As letters to servicemen from wives or girlfriends back home would typically contain affectionate language, a serviceman receiving a note beginning with a curt "Dear John" (as opposed to the expected "Dear Johnny", "My dearest John", or simply "Darling", for example) would instantly be aware of the letter's purpose.

A writer in the Democrat and Chronicle of Rochester, NY, summed it up in August 1945:

"Dear John," the letter began. "I have found someone else whom I think the world of. I think the only way out is for us to get a divorce," it said. They usually began like that, those letters that told of infidelity on the part of the wives of servicemen... The men called them "Dear Johns".

There are a number of theories on why the name John is used rather than any other. John was a common name in America at the time the term was coined. John is also the name used in many other terms that refer to an anonymous man or men, such as "John Doe" or "John Smith".

"When Johnny comes marching home" was a popular song during the war. Further, there existed prior to World War II a radio program starring Irene Rich which was presented as a letter written by a gossipy female character to her never-identified romantic interest. It was both titled and opened with the words "Dear John", and may have contributed to the genesis of the term.

See also

• Love letter
• Dear John, for two sitcoms involving Dear John letters
• "Dear John", a song by Jean Shepard from 1953
• de:Dear John Letter, a German post-rock band named after these letters
• "Dearjohn", a song by Musiq Soulchild
• "Dear John", a song by Status Quo
• "Dear John", a song by Elton John, from the album Jump up
• A famous TV commercial on the "Dear John" theme. [1]
• 'Dear John', R. M. Duncan, American Speech, Vol. 22, No. 3 (Oct., 1947), p. 187
• "Dear John", a song by Hank Williams
• "Dear John", a book by Nicholas Sparks
• "Dear john", a song by Amerie

External links

• "Origin of the Dear John letter"
• "How to write a Dear John letter"
• "Do-it-yourself form for 'Dear John' letter"
• "Video bye-bye" - on the urban legend of Dear John letters