Are you wrong if you want your wife to wear sexy stuff to bed and she won't because she says it is slutty?

You are not wrong but maybe she doesnt feel comfortable wearing it. Ask her to wear something hot but comfortable and when she's ready she will wear it. I am a woman so I will give you my honest point of view. Yes it is wrong for HER as your wife to deny you the sexual pleasure of seeing her wearing something sexy - BUT you have to consider the following: Is she overweight? Does she obsess about her weight? A woman's self body image can totally polarize her behavior sexually. If this could be your problem, build seduction slowly...compliment her, tell you how much you love her, do something unexpectedly kind for her. If she isn't emotionally damaged due to some deep-seeded guilt or molestation, she will respond to you and want to please you.