As a Martial artist what does it mean to be respectful?

Answer 1

The term "respect" is often misunderstood, and frequently inaccurately defined. Common usage can dictate a variety of meaning, but the etymology of the term is the key to its meaning. Coming from the Latin "respectus," (past participle of respicere), it means to "regard," or "look back at." It is related to the Latin word "specere" ("look at"). When we look at something, we are regarding, or considering the nature, quality, function, or value of it. If it is a person, the we "respect" or "value" their worth. We can "look back at" past deeds, and accomplishments (education, degrees, honors, awards, and actions) to decide if we value what they have done.

Respect is our choice based on our own assessment of the person or object's value. Respect is not "given" but it's existence is shown or conveyed to others. You can not force respect by "demand," and respect is also never "owed" as some people mistakenly say. Philosophically, a person should not have to "earn" respect since that implies a cause and effect with a duty to pay a debt (i.e.: work > earn a wage > get paid). However, respect can be determined as a direct result of someone's actions, but the decision of respect is up to each person. Such as in the saying "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." Respect is in the mind of the observer. What one person values or respects might differ from another person. The Martial Artist is taught to respect and value life, knowledge and education, and relationships with others. Value is placed on virtuous and honorable conduct, therefore the Martial Artist respects those who live according to high moral and ethical standards, and presents a positive role model to others.

Many people erroneously state that "respect is a two-way street." This is a false notion as it implies that one person's respect for another is contingent upon the other person respecting the first person in return. That would be like a parent saying to their child, "I will love you, but only if you love me back." A parent should love their child unconditionally. True love is affection for the person because of who they are, not because they love you, otherwise you are not "feeling" love for them, but "deciding" your feeling based on a reciprocating condition." A Martial Artist should be taught to respect someone first and foremost because they are a human being, and increase the degree of respect based on their individual virtues and character - regardless of how they feel about you, or if they respect you or not. If your character and behavior worthy of respect is a separate issue. Respect is from the start, but can be diminished considerably for unfavorable conduct, but we should always look for the good in everyone, regardless of how deep it might be buried under a troubled and distorted sense of right and wrong.