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Can a husband really stop being an abuser and with therapy become a better loving kinder family man?

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2005-11-22 10:05:42
2005-11-22 10:05:42

Dream on darlin'. The statistics of abusers are low as far as getting help for their behavior. Firstly, they have built a wall around them that is very strong and they can't get along in life without controlling the situation at least at home. Don't bet your money on this guy. Men often feel there is nothing wrong with them and it's everyone else who is crazy. If you mention he gets help ... duck! He won't take it too well, he'll blame you for everything and he could even become violent. The best thing you can do is take your children and yourself to your local Abused Women's Center or phone Mental Health for their phone #. Leave! Don't look back! You will be given shelter, protection, counselling, and some legal aid. There are good programs for you and your children to take to help you cope better and give you the tools so you don't go back to him or pick another guy that is abusive. Good luck hon Marcy

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