Can a narcissist ever be a lover?

Answer 1

NEVER!!!

Lust, potentially - but that lust is more grounded in the realms of financial, status-related, or intellectual conquest.

Love requires giving of the self in a selfless way - a narcissist is ALWAYS in it for what they can get out of it when it comes to giving. They will condition you or try to pull admiration and appreciation out of you with what they give.

Also, in order to love someone else and accept them for who they are you have to be able to accept yourself! The narcissist only accepts the mask they show the world, not their true self. And they don't even see you as another human - to them, you are just an object to be manipulated.

Answer 2

Answer - August 11, 2012

If I think what I've discovered is correct and my female N is a lesbian (maybe Bi-sexual) woman : Yes ! Cause your sexual identity and on whom persons you look and getting a sexual arausal of : Is a seperate brain-system in your head. So you can have in my opinion Gay N's too ! You can have in my opinion Lesbian N's too ! I am myself a transexual woman who can fall in love with woman, I cannot fall in love with men ! Only barely max. 1% gives me a OOohhhmm feeling for a man, but I know I can play with a man. When I could visit my love for several weeks : I was in shock due what I've searched out when she was away working. I searched about Emotional Blackmailing, What a property relationship was, till something about narciscism popped-up in my head due and old story of a photographer I know . . . Since then I was searching all about N's in all way I could find. Oh yes, it does not matter I am pre-op or post-op as a transsexual woman : I call myself a Hybrid Girl. I hope I give you some answers. Cause I know Hybrid Girls even having Border-Liner syndromes and living as somebody said : as young as 17 - 19 years in their head while her body-lifetime is 30+ something.

Answer 3

Narcissism is a character disorder and general it is believed that character disorders are forever. By definition narcissists do love...they love themselves. They see themselves at the best, the greatest, the center of the universe and when people or events bring that belief doubt they can respond violently.

Answer 4

No. I don't believe so. My own narcissistic sister drove her child away. She treated her terribly. She should never have been a mother. She was too twisted to be trusted with other lives.

Answer 5

Yes, but they love themselves.

Answer 6

Who to?