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Can a person with Asperger's Syndrome get married?

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2012-01-06 19:05:36


While Asperger's has only recently been 'discovered' the

syndrome has been in existence probably as long as man has been

around. There are probably tens of thousands of people living now

that meet the diagnostic requirements that have no idea that they

are dealing with Asperger's and that is what causes some of their

idiosyncrasies and difficulties.

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An aspie certainly can marry. Whether or not he/she wants to

marry may be another question. Asperger's is high functioning

autism the operative word being high. They are not freaks or

weirdo's. Aspies have jobs, degrees, owns homes, drive, pay their

own bills, and volunteer. They are not mentally deficient, and the

law says nothing about banning them from marriage.

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Yes, but it can be difficult, since a spouse will normally

expect a certain degree of intimacy and affection. It is important

for the person with AS and their spouse to understand the syndrome.

It is also important for the person with AS to stretch as much as

they can to make their spouse feel loved.

Many people with AS decide that marriage is too much of a burden

because of the above reasons.

I have AS, and marriage can be quite difficult at times, but my

husband understands AS and cuts me some slack, and I try to meet

him halfway.

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They can get married. Some co-workers of mine who both have

Asperger's Syndrome were recently married to each other. They

understand the condition and seem to have fewer relationship

difficulties caused by Asperger's Syndrome than marriages I know

between one person with Asperger's Syndrome and one neuro-typical


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Many married Aspies, I note, choose to ditch many of the

'standard chapters of the rule-book' on marriage written for mainly

typical marriages. They often radically opt for differences as

far-reaching as where precisely they each live, how often they are

together and at what times, how to allow consciously for

'down-time' or 'processing-time' for the AS partner, how to improve

intimacy and yet limit intensity, how to manage a need for

structure and timing, widely exploring visual and other

communication forms, facilitating-with-care exposure to elements of

spontaneity and unruliness (e.g. teen children from 13yo to adult

children up to 25yo or more), etc.

I am an Aspie and have been married for 19 years, to the first

woman I fell in love with when I was 18.

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As many have said, there are absolutely no obstacles to Aspies

marrying. Nor are there necessarily any problems guaranteed to

occur; speaking as an Aspie, I have difficulty with body language

and so on - but am nevertheless in a very comfortable and

affectionate relationship. In other words, the only thing that can

be said to apply to all Aspies is that no two are alike.

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