There are a very few that might fall through the cracks, but it's rare. Abusers love what they do because they love the control they have. They are basically grown up bullies! So, there is no way they are apt to go for counseling to straighten themselves out, because an abuser doesn't like taking orders from ANYONE! Marcy
go to counciling
Abuse stems from the abuser, not from the relationship - so a change of partner won't in itself change much (or anything). An abuser needs appropriate counselling or therapy to deal with the problem. The first step of course is for him or her to acknowledge that there is a problem and that needs attending to. I hope this is some help. All the best - Joncey
Yes and no it all depends on the person
It is never wrong to abandon an abuser - especially if you find that you can forgive him no longer. It is not wrong to leave an abuser, his statements that he will change, even if he feels he is sincere, most likely are not. chances are any changes he would make would be temporary and it will not ever be like the early days again. you have changed and matured that is why you cannot forgive him. you know you deserve better! Don't ever regret leaving your abuser. How many times before did he say he would "change?" How often have you heard those words. Has he come through yet? It will never be like the early days, because those were days when he put the charm on to lure you in.
not from my experience she just keeps on going.......
In the abusers home, and, or somewhere on their property where the abuser knows they won't get caught and the abuser won't ever stop, sometimes, even after the victim is an adult
Animal Abuser or Animal Cruelty Abuser
yes, if they want to change then they will have to work as hard as they can. Change is hard but still good if you are changing to the good side.
Unfortunately, if they don't think that they are, you won't be able to convince them. Try to reason with them if you can about how their abuse hurts others. Try to tell them that they can change their ways and get help if they want to.
of course. that's why abuse is so horrible. Kids feeling "strangely loyal" to their abuser is like woman not leaving their significant other when they abuse her.
Your best action is to leave him. He's not going to change. Seek legal advice and get away.
Some of them are not aware of their behavior at all. Still some are. If you are a victim of abuse you can share your feelings with your abuser when the abuse subside, but if they feel as though they arn't at fault, they won't change. The abuser would have to want to change their abusive behavior.
Abusers are bad. Period. It is common for someone who has been abused to feel lonely when the abuser becomes absent, but it is because of the stress of change. If you feel yourself running back to your abuser, get help. The situation will only escalate otherwise.
No he is not a child abuser.
Pedophiles are people with a sexual attraction to young children known as pedophilia. As pedophilia is a feeling of sexual attraction and not a behavior, there is no behavior for a pedophilic individual to change unless they are a sexual abuser as well. Experts call such sexual abusers preferential offenders, not pedophiles.
no. i have no idea why you would ask that. that is OBVIOUSLY not ever going to happen. if it does, that person makes me sick.
Love Your Abuser was created on 2007-01-30.
An abuser is someone who attacks people with words, violence, or neglection. An abuser is also some who uses something axcessively or is addicted to something.
Give him time. He will.
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It exist because the person being hurt stays in the relationship thinking the abuser will stop. Face reality this person has issues and they will not just up and change. I would advise anyone who is in an abusive relationship whether physical,emotional or verbal get out while you still can, because the abuser is not going to change magically.
AnswerSome abusers, regardless of age, do change (especially with the benefit of professional help in therapy, anger management classes, and medication).
The love turns to hate because the reality of what the abuser did sets in. Speaking as a victim of abuse, I don't think I could ever love my abuser again even if he said he's "changed" because of the reality of what he did to me, and the claims that he "changed" so many previous times during the abuse.
That dog abuser shouldn't be allowed to ever own another animal in his life. He should be in jail still
The computer in and of itself is not evil, it is an inanimate object. The user is the abuser and it is the abuser who causes the evil.