Can you ever really be friends with an ex?
Yes, you can be friends with an ex. Whether or not that's a good idea depends on your personality, your ex's personality, the nature of your relationship, and a host of other factors.
For many people, the idea of staying friends is untenable. After all, that's why breaking up is called "ending a relationship." In most cases, the relationship...ends.
Scientists have looked into post-breakup friendships, and some of the research has interesting implications for these types of relationships. In one such study, researchers identified four common reasons behind the behavior: security, practicality, civility, and unresolved romantic desires.
Unsurprisingly, participants in this last group had more negative outcomes-their friendships ended, or they were unhappy in their other relationships. People who stayed friends for security or for practical reasons had more positive outcomes overall, but people who stayed friends for practical or civil reasons were less likely to stay friends in the long term.
In other words, if you're looking for a long-term friendship, you should want the security of the friendship; other factors shouldn't come into play. For instance, if you want to maintain the friendship because you're worried that your mutual friends will choose a side, your friendship with your ex probably won't last very long, even if you are able to sustain it for a short time. More importantly, if you have romantic feelings for your partner, don't expect them to disappear simply because you've changed your relationship status on social media.
There are other reasons to consider a clean break. Another study on post-breakup friendships yielded a surprising result: Men who maintained these relationships were more likely to have "dark personality traits" associated with narcissism and sociopathy. Men were also more likely to rate sexual access and pragmatism as important reasons for continuing the friendship.
Still, "your ex might be a psychopath" isn't a great reason to cut off contact entirely. Plenty of people are able to maintain worthwhile friendships with ex-partners, so there's no hard-and-fast rule.
If you're considering a friendship with an ex, ask yourself why you want to keep part of your relationship intact. Be honest with yourself-if you've got any unresolved feelings whatsoever, it's probably a good idea to cut ties, at least temporarily, until you're both comfortable with other romantic pursuits.
If, however, you feel that your relationship is better as a friendship (and if you're sure that your ex feels the same way), go for it. Good friends are hard to find.
i believe yes. if both the ex girlfriend and the guy mutually broke up and didn't have anything against each other, then they both could still be friends after the break up. Read More
I don't think anybody should be friends with an abusive ex. But you can do what you want i personally wouldn't but it's up to you. Read More
it is defentaly OK to text your ex-girlfriend. if you to have been friends for ever you should still be friends, dont end that friendship just because you two are ex- boyfriend and girlfriend. Read More
If he can put the past aside there is a chance, but that takes time. Read More
not really just dont be werid around her Read More
They can be if you don't get jealous. If someone has offended you by dating your ex, you are free to end your friendship with that person. However, you might also prefer to continue your friendship. Perhaps it doesn't really matter if your friend dates your ex. After all, if you really did not want your ex to date someone else, you could have continued your own relationship, rather than breaking up. Read More
Actually thing is you broke up but your mother has the same relation with your ex. So you can not ask them to just stop talking. Or you should tell your mom that you don't like her talking to your ex. Read More
Your ex is going through a divorce and just broke up with you and wants to be friends what do you do?
if you REALLY REALLY LOVE HIM. sure accept eing friends. but if you don`t.... why waste you time? Read More
its really easy to deal with , as long as you and your ex are still friends. and you are over your ex. Read More
you really cant... what i would do is talk to him.. tell him that you are not very comfortable with him being friends with his exes... if he really likes you then he would understand? Read More
They haven't really ever fought. So they are just not close friends :) Read More
depends on how bad a breakup... an ok one, then sure, a really bad one, no of course you can still be friends with an ex. it doesn't matter how the break up went. if you can still be friends with them, especially after a bad break up, then chances are you will find love agian. besides, being friends with your ex isn't a bad thing. Read More
NEVER EVER! If you hope for that you can be hurt extremely badly and your friendship can become really awkward. Just let life take its course. What happens, happens. Read More
Well it depends, if you are still friends with your ex, it would probably be ok. But enemies I would not. (Unless you really actually love him). Read More
What does it mean when your new ex continuously asks if you have informed your family and friends of the breakup?
Because that would actually confirm to them that you mean it when you wanted to break-up. If your ex has gotten to know your family and friends it's going to be hard on them either to not be around them ever again, or, he/she may pump into them and there's sure to be questions. If you haven't told your family and friends I suggest you do. The least amount of information as to why you… Read More
What if your ex hangs out with this one girl a lot and she tells you they have something going on but he says there just friends and he says shes the chillest person ever?
Why does it matter? He's your ex. Read More
Doubt it... that's why she is an EX If they do it's only for a booty call. Read More
Okay, if you like your best friends ex. you like their ex. There really is no way around your feelings, though I know you may try. Talk to your friend about it, if they are your friend they will understand, and will want to make you happy! Hope I helped! Read More
The percentage is very low, but some do remain friends. I find it's best just to move on with your life. Read More
Yes. They have been friends sense i believe ever sense they were little Read More
I think that it's fine to be friends with your ex unless they did something that you really didn't like at all, and they're different. It may be awkward, but I'm sure it's better then ignoring them always. I personally think it's ok for her to be friends with her ex, because she has the right to be friends with anyone she wants to. But, if it gets serious, it's not ok. Read More
cause you broke up think about it really how stupid do you get? Read More
because they were jealous of you and now they don't really like you Read More
depends really. i mean dionysus is kinda getting used to him. but i dont think they will ever call each other friends. Read More
If you really think you can get what you want, you have to figure out what she wants. Weather it is something you can get her or something you can do for her. use friendship with her friends and ex boy friends to your advantage. If you really really think you can get it, try what you think, use your brain! Thank you. i deserve detention Read More
She's either left you or really does want to be your friend. Read More
whho cares. she slags you off anyway :) Read More
Move on. If he does not want to talk to you then you can't be friends. An Ex is An Ex for a reason Read More
Tell your friend that you like his/her ex and ask if its okay if yes good, if no id probably sneek around, if you really like him/her Read More
You told your ex boyfriend you don't want to hear from him anymore but you really do you just said it because he just wants to be friends and that's the only way you can get over him and be his friend?
Dont do that your going to hurt him more then ever. Just tell him how you really feel. I know its hard. But it will pay off in the long run. Read More
What do you do when your best friend goes out with your ex boyfriend that you still have feelings for and they both know it?
Make new friends and try to move on. -i can't because all of my friends are friends with her too! and i really really like this guy!! and he has admitted to me before that he still has feelings for me some too! Read More
How do you become friends with an ex after a really bad breakup and after four months of no talking?
This new fad of ex boyfriends and ex girlfriend being friends is a fallacy in itself and 'ex' means the relationship is over and both parties should move forward in their own lives and stop trying to be friends. You said that you broke up badly with no talking and that is the way he obviously wants to keep it. It is time for you to walk away from your ex. Read More
That depends on your relationship with your ex boyfriend. If you are friends explain the situation to him and ask him how he feels about it. If he cares about you he should be fine with you dating other people. If you two do not get along, then simply ask him out when your ex is not there. Explain to him that you do not get along with your ex, but that you really want… Read More
What do you do if you like a boy and he likes you back but he's your friends ex and she still likes him?
well i think that if you and your friend are really good friends you should stop talking with the boy or just be friends with him because friends are ireplasable and boy are ok Read More
Believe it or not it is possible to be friends with an ex even if there was sex involved. Its difficult but after time passes you become okay with each other again. Things may never be the same as before you dated but there can be a friendship there. Read More
You could find out through possible mutual friends but really this is your ex and it really is none of your business - I'm not trying to be rude - but you two are not together and what she does or what you do have nothing to do with one another nor is one anothers business. Read More
I don't know ask someone else i really don't care about your problems Read More
Try not to contact him. You will never really be friends with someone you love. Imagine them telling you about their next relationship. I don't think you want to be in that situation. Read More
In that case, let your ex decide. If she/he really loves you, she would explain everything to her/his friend and ask them to accept whoever he/she loves. Read More
You can still be friends with your friend, but just try to remember to not get to close to your ex, and remember that your ex may be trying to make you jealous (it is possible that they aren't though). It is OK to be friends with an ex. Read More
Happy Tree Friends is the greatest show ever. I know its not really 4 kids and I'm only 12 and 1/2 but the show is really really FUN and ADDICTIVE. Bring back my Happy Tree Friends. Read More
yes you morone especially if she likes you back wooooooow! of coarse not! that is crazy what are you doing liking your ex-girlfriends best friend? you have to understand even if you ask her out she will say no! girl code states never date your friends ex! Read More
What does it mean if your ex boyfriend says he hates you and won't even talk to your friends who he was close with?
There is 2 possibilitys to this situation 1 He's still really sad with breaking up with you and your friends remind him of you 2He really does hate and thinks your friends have nothing to do with him in which case FORGET HIM! Read More
yes she has but now is divorce but still good friends with her ex husband Read More
1. You could get another one of your friends that's friends with the one you thinks is friends with your ex-friend and then your friend that's monitering can tell you what they heard or talked about. But make sure it's ok with your friend first before sending them on the "mission". 2. If you're friend is secretly hiding a friendship then you don't want to be friends with this person. Its good that you still… Read More
Is there anything wrong with being friends with someone you dated if you really care for them and love them and don't want to be enemies?
There is nothing wrong with being friends with your ex-boyfriend. In fact, that should make you really happy because he will love you even more ... Read More