Can you have a lover and stay married to someone else?

it is possible, buts its wrong. if you love your wife or husband you wouldn't want to hurt them, and if they found out you had a lover they would almost certainly be hurt. if you were to go ahead and have a lover on the side you have to ask yourself whether you want to be married to that person. it almost always ends badly and if theres children involved i would definetly advise against it. . . gemma. gsevern_derby_@hotmail.co.uk-if you would like to argue your thoughts x x x